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Pushy Vegan Gets Reality Check When Lady Refuses To Change Steakhouse Venue To Suit Her Preferences
Celebrating big moments with family members and friends is wonderful because it shows how much people love and care about you. However, in a few instances, jealous loved ones may try to make the moment all about themselves.
This is what happened to a woman who wanted to celebrate a promotion that she got by having a dinner party. Her vegan cousin couldn’t stand her getting all the attention and threw a fuss about it being at a steakhouse. She expected the event venue to be changed just for her and was shocked when it wasn’t.
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Sometimes people are so entitled that they disregard other people’s wants and needs, and never seem to realize their mistake
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The poster shared that she had received a promotion at work and wanted to celebrate it by inviting her family members to a steakhouse for dinner
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When her vegan, gluten-free cousin found out where the party was going to be held, she demanded it be changed due to the risk of cross-contamination
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The poster knew that the steakhouse provided vegan and gluten-free options, so she didn’t want to give in to her cousin’s demands, as she had thrown tantrums like that before
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The author’s refusal to change her event venue angered her cousin, who complained to everyone about how inconsiderate she was being
The OP mentioned that her elder cousin always seemed to get her way, and that at previous birthday parties she had called the shots about where it should be held. This left the poster with a sour taste in her mouth, and she knew that she didn’t want to change her event venue for her cousin this time.
When it comes to toxic family members like this, it can be difficult to know how to handle their manipulative behavior. Their main goal is to often get their own way, and they don’t mind hurting or stressing out their loved ones in the process. This can cause a lot of family tension over time and bring up conflicts.
Even though the poster had made it clear to her vegan, gluten-free cousin that she had chosen a steakhouse that could cater to her needs, the other woman wasn’t open to the compromise. She expected to get her own way and tried to manipulate the OP by saying that she wouldn’t show up if the party was still going to be held at the steakhouse.
According to experts, when people give ultimatums like this, it’s often a tactic to control the other person’s behavior. This is an indicator of an unhealthy relationship dynamic, and it shows that the person is trying to be manipulative. It’s clear that the older cousin was always used to getting her way and didn’t know how else to control the poster’s choices.
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It’s great that the OP decided to stay strong and challenge her cousin’s ultimatum. She was tired of always having to compromise on her special events to please her pushy family member. She had done her best to accommodate the other woman’s needs, and she didn’t want to keep going out of her way to do it.
Usually, people with dietary restrictions try their best not to inconvenience their host. They may call ahead at restaurants to see what is safe to eat or pack food that they can nibble on. They would never demand special treatment or expect someone to bend over backwards to fulfill their needs.
When the woman’s cousin didn’t get her way, she became aggressive and started complaining about the OP to other people. Even though she had been acting in an entitled way, she told others that the poster was being inconsiderate to her.
It might be really difficult to stand up to rude or demanding family members like this, but it’s all worth it if it means that you’ll get to have peace of mind. Hopefully, the OP was able to enjoy her promotion celebration dinner with the people who actually care about her, rather than those who were too selfish to make an effort.
How would you have dealt with an entitled person like this? Feel free to share your most unhinged ideas in the comments.
People were annoyed with the cousin and told the poster to stop inviting her to such events
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Dirk Daring 6 months ago
"If I didn't pick another restaurant, she wouldn't attend, and hung up." If it were me, that would have been the end of the fncking story. Don't come.
Papa 6 months ago
Exactly. That sounds like a "Don't threaten me with a good time" situation.
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Petra Peitsch 6 months ago (edited)
Yeah, she has "allergies" ... sure, and I'm Snow White. Attention seeking brat. Cut her and all siding with her out from your life. Your BS-drama-level will drop to near 0.
keyboardtek 6 months ago
The vegans I know are not obnoxious and do not promote their diet unless someone inquires. They know how to select vegetables from the menu at any restaurant.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
God ur bloody luck all the ones I’ve met here in uk are ligit like this entitled inhuman , demanding a holes totally their way or no way lol
Load More Replies... Italian-Swiss Panda 6 months ago
The entitlement is strong with this one. I'm vegan, I have allergies (I always carry an Epipen) and I absolutely appreciate it when a friend or family invite me to a restaurant and they make sure that there is something to eat for me, even "only" a salad or veggies. I would also chew on a piece of bread if a friend wants to have their celebration at a steak house, it's the company that counts! Plus, as a person with severe food allergies I hate it when people bring it up as an obvious excuse. I didn't chose it, I didn't chose to be hyper-careful no matter where I eat and ask a gazillion of questions before I feel safe enough to order. Hence the bread chewing haha :-) I hope they enjoyed their steak!!
Lee Gilliland 6 months ago
I'm willing to bet she has "allergies" and physical problems that must be catered for as well.
nut nibbler 6 months ago
As a vegetarian I'm annoyed by those who demand places change to a vegan version and by companies who replace the vegetarian version WITH a vegan version. If you want to be vegan, fine just don't push it on to me just like I wouldn't push being a veggie on to others.
Mark Childers 6 months ago
I'm so glad she's not willing to change her mind. Her cousin is a manipulator. I have a cousin like that, and she's a nightmare. I'm a vegetarian and have been for 30 years. My choice is never anyone else's problem. I can go to any restaurant and find a salad or a veggie side. I love salads, so it's never a problem for me, and most of the time I choose a salad anyway. Even if there was nothing I could eat, I'd still go, and either eat before or after. It's a celebration. It shouldn't be that hard. The cousin sucks, and her behavior is definitely intentional.
person (i think) 6 months ago
Tell the cousin she can chose the restaurant if the cousin agrees, in writing, to ay for everyone’s meal
Bobbie McMasters 6 months ago
What happened to good manners? It is possible to just graciously decline an invitation.
Kim Gatlin 6 months ago
That 16th b-day story is awful. Life threatening allergies are one thing, but not being the center of attention is another. I would have told them to have fun without me. When I was 16 I had a job. Some of my friends would have gone with me to the restaurant I wanted. But my dad would have told miss crappy pants she could choose when it was her birthday.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
That tantrum it brat is the reason no one likes vegans !!, they are so bloody obnoxious and think we should all do as they say !! Not happening , no more invites to that biatch ! she can f right off , op NTA , uninvited her and also same with anyone as tells you to give in to the entitled princess brat , n go have fun with decent people xx n congrats on the promotion blessed be x
Inservio Smurf 6 months ago
Never EVER capitulate to people like this. Make things as painful awkward and punishing as they have to get, but NEVER give an inch. It's the same with children. You give them an inch, they take you for a ride.
Mary 6 months ago
I'm a celiac and on strict gluten free diet - which I didn't choose. If anyone invites me to a place I never expect them to accommodate my dietary restrictions. If they do, I really appreciate the effort, if not I find my own way. This lady needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her ...
Nancy Lloyd 6 months ago
The OP is not the AH. She wanted to celebrate her promotion-she chose the steakhouse, so what? She is not obligated to accommodate her cousin. It's the OP's promotion, not hers. NJL
Marie Polifrone 6 months ago
NTA…do NOT change the venue. I am plant based and hate when I read about these snowflakes imposing their choices on everyone else. It’s your celebration..not hers. Even if there were no vegan options, I’d eat a salad, baked potato with salt & pepper and ask if they could make me a veg with no butter. Yummy!
Dirk Daring 6 months ago
"If I didn't pick another restaurant, she wouldn't attend, and hung up." If it were me, that would have been the end of the fncking story. Don't come.
Papa 6 months ago
Exactly. That sounds like a "Don't threaten me with a good time" situation.
Load More Replies... Petra Peitsch 6 months ago (edited)
Yeah, she has "allergies" ... sure, and I'm Snow White. Attention seeking brat. Cut her and all siding with her out from your life. Your BS-drama-level will drop to near 0.
keyboardtek 6 months ago
The vegans I know are not obnoxious and do not promote their diet unless someone inquires. They know how to select vegetables from the menu at any restaurant.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
God ur bloody luck all the ones I’ve met here in uk are ligit like this entitled inhuman , demanding a holes totally their way or no way lol
Load More Replies... Italian-Swiss Panda 6 months ago
The entitlement is strong with this one. I'm vegan, I have allergies (I always carry an Epipen) and I absolutely appreciate it when a friend or family invite me to a restaurant and they make sure that there is something to eat for me, even "only" a salad or veggies. I would also chew on a piece of bread if a friend wants to have their celebration at a steak house, it's the company that counts! Plus, as a person with severe food allergies I hate it when people bring it up as an obvious excuse. I didn't chose it, I didn't chose to be hyper-careful no matter where I eat and ask a gazillion of questions before I feel safe enough to order. Hence the bread chewing haha :-) I hope they enjoyed their steak!!
Lee Gilliland 6 months ago
I'm willing to bet she has "allergies" and physical problems that must be catered for as well.
nut nibbler 6 months ago
As a vegetarian I'm annoyed by those who demand places change to a vegan version and by companies who replace the vegetarian version WITH a vegan version. If you want to be vegan, fine just don't push it on to me just like I wouldn't push being a veggie on to others.
Mark Childers 6 months ago
I'm so glad she's not willing to change her mind. Her cousin is a manipulator. I have a cousin like that, and she's a nightmare. I'm a vegetarian and have been for 30 years. My choice is never anyone else's problem. I can go to any restaurant and find a salad or a veggie side. I love salads, so it's never a problem for me, and most of the time I choose a salad anyway. Even if there was nothing I could eat, I'd still go, and either eat before or after. It's a celebration. It shouldn't be that hard. The cousin sucks, and her behavior is definitely intentional.
person (i think) 6 months ago
Tell the cousin she can chose the restaurant if the cousin agrees, in writing, to ay for everyone’s meal
Bobbie McMasters 6 months ago
What happened to good manners? It is possible to just graciously decline an invitation.
Kim Gatlin 6 months ago
That 16th b-day story is awful. Life threatening allergies are one thing, but not being the center of attention is another. I would have told them to have fun without me. When I was 16 I had a job. Some of my friends would have gone with me to the restaurant I wanted. But my dad would have told miss crappy pants she could choose when it was her birthday.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
That tantrum it brat is the reason no one likes vegans !!, they are so bloody obnoxious and think we should all do as they say !! Not happening , no more invites to that biatch ! she can f right off , op NTA , uninvited her and also same with anyone as tells you to give in to the entitled princess brat , n go have fun with decent people xx n congrats on the promotion blessed be x
Inservio Smurf 6 months ago
Never EVER capitulate to people like this. Make things as painful awkward and punishing as they have to get, but NEVER give an inch. It's the same with children. You give them an inch, they take you for a ride.
Mary 6 months ago
I'm a celiac and on strict gluten free diet - which I didn't choose. If anyone invites me to a place I never expect them to accommodate my dietary restrictions. If they do, I really appreciate the effort, if not I find my own way. This lady needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her ...
Nancy Lloyd 6 months ago
The OP is not the AH. She wanted to celebrate her promotion-she chose the steakhouse, so what? She is not obligated to accommodate her cousin. It's the OP's promotion, not hers. NJL
Marie Polifrone 6 months ago
NTA…do NOT change the venue. I am plant based and hate when I read about these snowflakes imposing their choices on everyone else. It’s your celebration..not hers. Even if there were no vegan options, I’d eat a salad, baked potato with salt & pepper and ask if they could make me a veg with no butter. Yummy!
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