Woman Refuses To Host Sister-In-Law Who Demanded A Vegan, Peanut-Free Home

People with strict dietary requirements live a complicated life. Their enjoyment of food comes with limitations, and as someone from the outside looking in, it’s only proper to empathize with them. 

However, they’re never entitled to make things difficult for the people around them. It’s a problem this woman had to deal with when her peanut-allergic and vegan sister-in-law began making unreasonable demands for staying over. 

She refuses to accommodate the unrealistic requests, but wonders if she was too harsh to treat a family member this way. 

A woman has been having trouble dealing with her sister-in-law, who is vegan and allergic to peanuts

Highly sensitive sister-in-law hesitates at the door as her high demands cause tension during a family gathering.

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Her SIL is planning to stay over and made unrealistic demands to accommodate her dietary restrictions

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But given her busy schedule, she refuses to accommodate them

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People with food allergies carry mental burdens

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People who are forced to follow a restricted diet also carry the mental burdens brought on by their situation. According to the Food Allergy Research & Education (FARE) Patient Registry, 62% of people experience anxiety about living with food allergies and food avoidance. 

At the same time, 54% of people who experienced an allergic reaction reported going through a period of anxiety, while 32% were in panic mode. 

But it’s not only those suffering who go through these mental struggles. According to FARE, their caregivers also fear for their safety, and many have sought professional help to cope with the worry. 

Given these burdens, living with dietary restrictions affects relationships. As Medical News notes, families with allergic children end up limiting their social interactions, which can cause a strain within their dynamic. 

In the story’s case, the sister-in-law’s food allergies began to cause resentment in the author, which can worsen if they don’t deal with their situation properly. 

It all comes down to compromise. If she intends to cook, the author must understand food safety preparation. As the University of Michigan community educator Nancy Swenderis, MS, RN, emphasizes, trace amounts of an allergen are enough to trigger a reaction for many people. 

She must clean surfaces and kitchen utensils thoroughly to ensure contamination-free conditions. If necessary, she may need to use separate tools for every meal. While it is a bit of a hassle, it is part of her obligations as a host. 

However, the sister-in-law could also make things easier by purchasing her premade dishes. The people around her may be too busy to accommodate her requests, and she can do her part to avoid causing tension. No one wants family drama, let alone a rift caused by food preparation methods. 

Most commenters sided with the author, with some blaming her husband for not taking the initiative to accommodate his sister

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But there were a few who called her out

Comment from user Jacintaleishman advising that the brother should host his highly sensitive sister to avoid conflict.

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