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“I Didn’t Want Her Getting Sick”: Woman Loses Appetite After Seeing How Her MIL Prepares Chicken
How someone operates the own kitchen is their choice, but it can be pretty frustrating when they bring their own disfunction to your home. Everyone has their own preferences, but that doesn’t change basic biology and food safety rules. At the same time, it can be rather hard to communicate this to folks who are in your family.
A woman asked the internet if she went too far when she decided that both she and her one year old would not eat her mother-in-law’s dinner after seeing an entire raw chicken just sitting in a sink. We reached out to the daughter-in-law who made the post and will update the article when she gets back to us.
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Raw chicken shouldn’t just be left around everywhere
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So one woman refused to eat at her MIL’s house when she saw what was in the sink
She clarified some details later
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There is some evidence that raw chicken can be a risk if just left around
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The kitchen sink is often seen as a place of cleansing. It is where dirty dishes go to be redeemed and where vegetables are rinsed of their earthy past. However, in this story, the kitchen sink became the setting for a biological horror scene that would make a health inspector weep. A mother-in-law decided that the best place to prep raw, defrosted chicken was directly on the stainless steel surface of the sink. No bowl. No plate. Just naked poultry lounging near a baby’s bottle for an hour.
The poster, a young mother, was horrified. Her mother-in-law and boyfriend, however, accused her of overreacting. They claimed she was just trying to start drama. Let us put aside the family dynamics for a moment and look at this through the lens of food safety science. Was she overreacting? The short answer is absolutely not. The kitchen sink is essentially a bacterial nightclub. It is wet, often has food particles, and is rarely sanitized as thoroughly as we think. When you introduce raw chicken directly to this environment, you are creating a perfect storm for cross-contamination.
The CDC explicitly advises against washing raw chicken or rinsing it in the sink. This is because the splash radius of bacteria can reach up to three feet. That means the invisible mist of Salmonella and Campylobacter is coating everything nearby. In this story, the chicken was not just being washed. It was sitting there. This creates a direct transfer of pathogens to the sink surface. If baby bottles or pacifiers are sitting in that same sink, they are now potential carriers of Salmonella. This is not a minor “oops” moment. It is a legitimate health hazard.
The poster mentioned the chicken sat there for about an hour. Food safety standards define the “Danger Zone” as temperatures between 40°F and 140°F (4°C to 60°C respectively). Bacteria can double in number in as little as 20 minutes within this range. While one hour is technically within the two-hour safety window for leaving food out, the context matters. The real danger here is not just the time. It is the surface. Bacteria can form biofilms on sink surfaces. These are sticky layers of microorganisms that are resistant to standard rinsing. If the mother-in-law just rinsed the sink with water afterwards, those pathogens would likely remain. The poster was 100% correct to scrub it with boiling water and soap.
Just because it worked “for you” doesn’t mean it’s a universal rule
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The most critical aspect of this story is the baby. The immune systems of infants and children under five are still developing. They are not miniature adults. They are significantly more susceptible to foodborne illnesses. For a healthy adult, Salmonella might mean a few miserable days near the toilet. For an infant, it can be life-threatening. It can lead to bacteremia (bacteria in the blood) or even meningitis. The poster was protecting her child from a very real threat. The fact that the baby’s dishes were in the splash zone makes the mother-in-law’s casual approach even more egregious.
The boyfriend and mother-in-law relied on the classic “we have always done it this way and we are fine” argument. This is known as survivor bias. Just because you drove without a seatbelt in the 80s and survived does not mean it is safe. The mother-in-law’s offense at the poster refusing to eat the food is a common social friction point. However, food safety is not a matter of etiquette. It is a matter of biology. You cannot negotiate with bacteria. You cannot guilt-trip E. coli into being less infectious.
The poster did not overreact. She reacted appropriately to a high-risk situation. Refusing to eat the “sink chicken” was a rational choice. Sanitizing the sink was a necessary chore. Her only mistake might have been thinking she could explain germ theory to people who think the kitchen sink is a marinade bowl. In the end, the young mother wins this round of logic. It is better to have an offended mother-in-law than a hospitalized infant. And perhaps, as a peace offering, she can buy her mother-in-law a very nice, very large mixing bowl.
Some readers had questions
Many thought her reaction was warranted
A few thought she was overreacting
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Andy 8 hours ago
The lack of understanding of basic hygiene and food prep in some of the comments is scary. Even at the most basic level, once the chicken is placed in the sink, how is she then washing her hands? The issue is not just that the sink may not be clean enough for the chicken, it's that she is handling raw chicken, then potentially spreading bacteria over the rest of the kitchen.
Antoinette the Red 3 hours ago
Where is she washing her hands? Maybe a bathroom sink?
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KatSaidThat 7 hours ago
I will take a lot of chances with meat, chicken is the one I will absolutely not dice with when it comes to hygiene. It shouldn't be just chilling out in the sink.
Beth Wheeler 5 hours ago
I wouldn't eat there either. The only way I would have any raw meat in my sister k is if it was scrubbed with my antibacterial Dawn immediately before and after along with the faucet & countertop. Some of these are horrifying!
Geoffrey Scott 6 hours ago
My SIL invited us over on a hot, humid day (midwest). She was serving chicken breast and some other meat. The thawed chicken sat out on the counter , in a bowl, for about 3 hours. As my BIL was firing up the grill, I took my wife aside and whispered "Don't eat the chicken".."Why?".."Trust me". On the way home I explained why, she seemed unconcerned, until my SIL called later and asked if we were ok. "Seems we had a couple people get sick for some reason". She has since improved her sanitation practices, but we watch.
ChugChug 6 hours ago
It only means it wasnt cooked properly, or the cooked meat was cross contaminated with raw meat. In those 3 hours bacteria might be growing on the chicken, but with enough heat treatment its absolutely safe. If it goes bad beyond you will feel the smell of a rotten meat and you wont be able to eat it anyway.
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Zig Zag Wanderer 7 hours ago (edited)
If I have ever touched raw meat, any kind, or fish, I've washed my hands afterwards, even if it was an accidental touch. I certainly wouldn't leave raw chicken in a sink, but in a separate bowl or dish. I thought this was normal. Then again, I was brought up by a nurse, and she had seen the consequences of poor hygiene.
Woodsie 7 hours ago (edited)
No just no, do not eat that chicken, very unsanitary. Also you shouldn't wash chicken, just past it dry, washing it is how germs are spread. I'm also concerned about her cooking dinner at lunchtime then leaving it out on the stove until dinner time, another breading ground for germs and salmonella. I wouldn't be eating anything she prepared. I always prepare my chicken last, if the recipe needs it earlier then I wash my chopping board, knife and hands if I need to cut up anything after it. You have to be very careful with chicken and cooked rice too.
AlithenewMC 4 hours ago
I hate sinks, I think they're so dirty, even when just bleached. When I see people use the sink as a bath for their babies, it makes me squirm. And raw chicken is one of the most disgusting foods in the kitchen. Put the 2 together and...ugh.
Crystalwitch60 5 hours ago (edited)
IM NOT going to one the mil,s house to eat , or them lunatic YTA trolls 🤮 Holy hell fire , leaving a raw chicken in the bloody sink not on a plate , NO , and for a bloody hour , also hell no. your meant to leave raw meat out at room temp for half an hour , so it comes to room temp before cooking. This stops the meat from shrinking up and being dry. I learnt this from my gran I grew up with from a very young age ffs decades n decades ago ,clearly mil never learned basic food hygiene at all🤮im totally with op , not overreacting at all , hell feeding her 1 yr old that could potentially k**l the child ffs , ,when cooking meat ,you handle the meat do what u gotta do with it .YOU WASH HANDS BOARD WORK TOP etc before you prep veg,s salad n the like ,you clean them again ! I don’t use bleach tho , dealthy allergic to it but I use dettol anti bac stuff no bleach , and HOT water , but in the bloody sink eugh , n I m cooking chicken in a min lol op NTA
Andy 8 hours ago
The lack of understanding of basic hygiene and food prep in some of the comments is scary. Even at the most basic level, once the chicken is placed in the sink, how is she then washing her hands? The issue is not just that the sink may not be clean enough for the chicken, it's that she is handling raw chicken, then potentially spreading bacteria over the rest of the kitchen.
Antoinette the Red 3 hours ago
Where is she washing her hands? Maybe a bathroom sink?
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 7 hours ago
I will take a lot of chances with meat, chicken is the one I will absolutely not dice with when it comes to hygiene. It shouldn't be just chilling out in the sink.
Beth Wheeler 5 hours ago
I wouldn't eat there either. The only way I would have any raw meat in my sister k is if it was scrubbed with my antibacterial Dawn immediately before and after along with the faucet & countertop. Some of these are horrifying!
Geoffrey Scott 6 hours ago
My SIL invited us over on a hot, humid day (midwest). She was serving chicken breast and some other meat. The thawed chicken sat out on the counter , in a bowl, for about 3 hours. As my BIL was firing up the grill, I took my wife aside and whispered "Don't eat the chicken".."Why?".."Trust me". On the way home I explained why, she seemed unconcerned, until my SIL called later and asked if we were ok. "Seems we had a couple people get sick for some reason". She has since improved her sanitation practices, but we watch.
ChugChug 6 hours ago
It only means it wasnt cooked properly, or the cooked meat was cross contaminated with raw meat. In those 3 hours bacteria might be growing on the chicken, but with enough heat treatment its absolutely safe. If it goes bad beyond you will feel the smell of a rotten meat and you wont be able to eat it anyway.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 7 hours ago (edited)
If I have ever touched raw meat, any kind, or fish, I've washed my hands afterwards, even if it was an accidental touch. I certainly wouldn't leave raw chicken in a sink, but in a separate bowl or dish. I thought this was normal. Then again, I was brought up by a nurse, and she had seen the consequences of poor hygiene.
Woodsie 7 hours ago (edited)
No just no, do not eat that chicken, very unsanitary. Also you shouldn't wash chicken, just past it dry, washing it is how germs are spread. I'm also concerned about her cooking dinner at lunchtime then leaving it out on the stove until dinner time, another breading ground for germs and salmonella. I wouldn't be eating anything she prepared. I always prepare my chicken last, if the recipe needs it earlier then I wash my chopping board, knife and hands if I need to cut up anything after it. You have to be very careful with chicken and cooked rice too.
AlithenewMC 4 hours ago
I hate sinks, I think they're so dirty, even when just bleached. When I see people use the sink as a bath for their babies, it makes me squirm. And raw chicken is one of the most disgusting foods in the kitchen. Put the 2 together and...ugh.
Crystalwitch60 5 hours ago (edited)
IM NOT going to one the mil,s house to eat , or them lunatic YTA trolls 🤮 Holy hell fire , leaving a raw chicken in the bloody sink not on a plate , NO , and for a bloody hour , also hell no. your meant to leave raw meat out at room temp for half an hour , so it comes to room temp before cooking. This stops the meat from shrinking up and being dry. I learnt this from my gran I grew up with from a very young age ffs decades n decades ago ,clearly mil never learned basic food hygiene at all🤮im totally with op , not overreacting at all , hell feeding her 1 yr old that could potentially k**l the child ffs , ,when cooking meat ,you handle the meat do what u gotta do with it .YOU WASH HANDS BOARD WORK TOP etc before you prep veg,s salad n the like ,you clean them again ! I don’t use bleach tho , dealthy allergic to it but I use dettol anti bac stuff no bleach , and HOT water , but in the bloody sink eugh , n I m cooking chicken in a min lol op NTA
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