“My Bank Account And My Therapist Are Still Recovering”: 47 People Share Red Flags That Made Them End Things

Good. I really don’t understand how people treat pets as if they were disposable.

That's an active a****t*on. Not an excuse ever, but most certainly needs addressing

OP really should have paid more attention. There are two options 1) new husband is not a good guy and his parents know it or 2) parents scapegoat new husband and he can’t do anything right. Either way, it is in fact a huge red flag.

The dynamics here on all levels is 🤯

Oh hell no!

Women do this too

Someone characterizing their being handed a car as "success" is a much bigger red flag.

My mom did this constantly. Narcissist.

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Why make a reservation for a first date?

When someone says “Oh we never argue…” you know something is very wrong in that relationship.

Emotional vampires

That's some escalation.

I so want to dance and sing but cant around anyone whose opinion might effect me

I never understood the free meal thing. I would rather eat mr.noodle every night then sit across from someone I do not like just to get a restaurant meal. I mean the food may be good but you have to make conversation and be fake the entire time. Why ? Is it worth it ?

Cheating is generally a way of life, not a one-off mistake.

Your mom needs a new boyfriend.

Her withholding the information from you but you found out anyway might be a red flag.

I don’t know you. You don’t get to INSIST on anything.

My husband and I have always been very competitive. Thing is, no matter who wins, the other is always happy for them.

But why would you want to?

Ick.

The room screams single man but that's fine...he was a single man before he got together with her by the look of it. God forbid a couple meet at one stage in their lives and grow together into the next stage...

Statistically, it is the standard of living of women and children that goes down more significantly after a divorce. So when men say they don’t want to be screwed in the divorce, what they’re really saying is if we get divorced, I don’t want to give you your fair share.

Cowardice is not pretty. That was callous. Just own whatever is going on and don't hurt people

Why??????????????????

"I married my first wife extremely quickly". 'nuff said...

Not a red flag, that's a Chinese convention center full of red flags

First of all, stop checking Instagram in the middle of the night. If you haven’t screwed up your sleep yet, it’s just a matter of time. Second, anyone who jumps to conclusions without discussion or evidence is not someone you want in your life.

I can understand finding children irritating and not knowing how to relate to them. But HATING kids? That I can't even begin to understand.

I’m not disinterested, but I cannot engage in news and politics every day due to my mental disorders. With my double depression and anxiety, watching the news is enough to send me into a nervous breakdown.

I'd need to know what they meant by loyalty.

If you’re always alone, why bother to be in a relationship.

Why the f*ck would you ever feel the need to prove to anybody that you’re not wearing makeup?

He was keeping you isolated, just for him to do for him,

Ick.

At least that's what they *say* they're doing when most of the time they just want to be a contrarian. I know the type; they're as exhausting as they are self-righteous.

A red flag whether he's lying or telling the truth.

So his aggression and violence are not because of anger but because he is choosing to be aggressive and violent? I don’t think that’s the flex he thinks it is.

No, you’re not wrong. I had the same therapist for 20 years. Started seeing her when my Dad was dying. Stopped seeing her when I had processed his d***h. When I ran into issues, I’d go back. If you are in therapy as a way of life, then you either need a better therapist or you should really seek inpatient treatment.