Guy Divorced 3 Years Ago Drops Off 3 Y.O. With His Ex-Wife Completely Out Of The Blue
Despite strong ties formed with an ex through shared experience, after a break-up, a person has to adjust to the new boundaries, especially when they were the ones to break their partner’s trust, a relationship, or simply are the ones who wish to use their ex without their consent. Unfortunately, it may become even more challenging when it involves some critical situations or children.
At least such was this Redditor’s issue with her ex-husband of 6 years, whom she no longer keeps contact with, simply dropping off his kid at her place without her consent and making her force him out of the delivery room.
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A woman divorced and cut ties with her husband due to him cheating on her, yet was recently left with his kid
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The man and the woman he cheated with have a 3-year-old son and were expecting their second child
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Recently, the man’s girlfriend was giving birth and due to complications, the man needed to get to the delivery room
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The man left his son at his ex’s place before she could protest and the woman ended up calling the police
A woman brought her story to the Reddit AITA community online asking if she was a jerk to call the police after her ex-husband dropped off his kid at her place without her consent.
The woman explained that she had been married to her husband for 6 years before they divorced at the end of 2020 due to him cheating with “Kate”. After the divorce, the man moved out of her house and they haven’t spoken since.
However, the man and the woman he cheated with have a 3-year-old son, and the man recently dropped the boy off at her place without any warning. The man only quickly told her that “Kate” was giving birth to their second child and needed him in the delivery room due to complications.
The man left before the woman could protest and didn’t reply to her calls and texts. The woman had plans and ended up calling the police and explaining the situation.
The police took the man’s child and the woman only later received a call from her ex calling her a jerk, as the police forced him out of the delivery room. This meant the man missed the birth of his second child in addition to his girlfriend being in intensive care due to complications.
The woman insisted the man should have planned where to leave his kid ahead of time, yet her family and friends were divided about whether she was a jerk in this situation.
The man was forced out of the delivery room and missed the birth of his kid while his girlfriend ended up in intensive care
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The woman later received a call from her ex calling her a jerk while her friends and family were divided
Signs that may indicate a person is being taken advantage of were listed by Verywell Mind and these included a person asking for favors without considering another person’s availability or preferences, and appearing disinterested in another person after their needs have been met.
Red flags also included being affectionate only at times when it is convenient for them or until the person gets what they want. Finally, they brought up a person not being there for one close to them in their time of need.
Verywell Mind emphasized that being taken advantage of can lead to significant mental health problems, which may manifest symptoms associated with anxiety, depression, and trauma, possibly causing difficulty trusting others and forming new relationships.
Finally, they advised in such situations to set boundaries, work on self-esteem, build self-compassion, recognize one’s value, and seek guidance from a health professional or someone one looks up to.
Coming back to the original story, the woman’s post gathered 11.9k upvotes and people judged she was not the jerk in this situation, commenting that it was the father’s responsibility to plan ahead and refrain from including “dump boy on ex with no notice” in this plan.
What’s your take on the situation? Please, share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Redditors shared their takes on the situation
What, is his new wife a rodent? If shes a human, shes been pregnant for months. They had time to make arrangements.
Good thing she called the cops. If she'd looked after the kid, the baby being born would eventually have become her "responsibility" whenever those two want date night or whatnot, too. Looks like her ex and his "boo" see her as the passive sucker that they can gaslight whenever they wish, to their advantage. THIS IS REAL, FOLKS! There are people who live at the mercy of Narcissists everywhere - and they have enabling "friends" telling them it's okay to be used and abused.
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I'm so glad somebody actually called the police when a child was dumped on them! I hate reading these posts where people just accept looking after a kid after the child just being pushed on them. I think it's very dumb of the OP's ex for trying to rely on her. It sounds like they haven't spoken much in 6 years. At least there's now a record of the ex being irrresponsible!
Its such a risk! What if (God forbid) something happens to the child either because of an accident or because he has a medical issue you dont know about? People this crazy can just make up a story.
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Complications or not, ex husband and Kate should have thought in advance of someone to babysit the boy when she goes to the hospital. I just feel bad for the little boy who has barely any understanding of the situation.
Exactly! She was going to have that baby at some stage, who was organised to mind that child? That was a complete stranger to that 3 year old. Did he have any food allergies? What if he’d been injured at her place? Then what? The father is a disgrace! How dare anyone tell her she did the wrong thing. She should not feel guilty for 1 minute.
Load More Replies... What, is his new wife a rodent? If shes a human, shes been pregnant for months. They had time to make arrangements.
Good thing she called the cops. If she'd looked after the kid, the baby being born would eventually have become her "responsibility" whenever those two want date night or whatnot, too. Looks like her ex and his "boo" see her as the passive sucker that they can gaslight whenever they wish, to their advantage. THIS IS REAL, FOLKS! There are people who live at the mercy of Narcissists everywhere - and they have enabling "friends" telling them it's okay to be used and abused.
Load More Replies... I'm so glad somebody actually called the police when a child was dumped on them! I hate reading these posts where people just accept looking after a kid after the child just being pushed on them. I think it's very dumb of the OP's ex for trying to rely on her. It sounds like they haven't spoken much in 6 years. At least there's now a record of the ex being irrresponsible!
Its such a risk! What if (God forbid) something happens to the child either because of an accident or because he has a medical issue you dont know about? People this crazy can just make up a story.
Load More Replies... Complications or not, ex husband and Kate should have thought in advance of someone to babysit the boy when she goes to the hospital. I just feel bad for the little boy who has barely any understanding of the situation.
Exactly! She was going to have that baby at some stage, who was organised to mind that child? That was a complete stranger to that 3 year old. Did he have any food allergies? What if he’d been injured at her place? Then what? The father is a disgrace! How dare anyone tell her she did the wrong thing. She should not feel guilty for 1 minute.
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