“I Wasn’t Pretty Enough To Deserve Him”: Man Exposes Fiancée’s BFF, Hits Her Where It Hurts
One of the many ways that friends make us happy is they celebrate our victories. However, when Reddit user Creepystuffthrow got engaged to the man she was dating, her bestie wasn’t stoked about it. On the contrary.
Taking to the ‘Am I the [Jerk?]‘ community, the woman expressed her sorrow about the unexpected turn of events that followed the joyous occasion.
Bitter and jealous, the lady not only told the fiancé that Creepystuffthrow was too unattractive for him, but also had the nerve to suggest herself as a potential partner instead.
Your best friend is supposed to be a pillar of trust and support
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But recently, this woman learned that her bestie tried to steal her fiancé
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Is all really fair in love and war?
I think we all can agree that trying to steal another person’s partner is one of the worst indiscretions in romance.
But why do Julie and other people do it? A 2022 study published in the Journal of Sex Research looked at 187 heterosexual married couples to find an answer to that question.
First, each participant rated their and their partner’s personalities and summarized their own poaching experiences. The researchers then evaluated each person according to the Big Five and Dark Triad personality traits. (The Big Five traits are extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and openness to new experiences; the Dark Triad includes narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism.)
The researchers discovered that men with low levels of conscientiousness and high levels of Machiavellianism were most likely to attempt to poach someone’s partner, but men who had the most success with this had high levels of psychopathy and low agreeableness.
“Higher psychopathy and Machiavellianism … proved to be the most important predictors of poaching experiences in both men and women,” the study said.
Machiavellianism is characterized by interpersonal manipulation, deceit, cynicism, and lack of morality, while psychopathy is defined as having a deficiency in emotional responses, a lack of empathy, and poor behavior controls.
On the other hand, the women most successful at poaching showed high extraversion, openness, and psychopathy.
However, according to David Tzall, PsyD, a licensed psychologist based in Brooklyn, personality traits aren’t the only factors that cause poaching. Confidence can also play a part.
“An individual might also poach because they do not think highly of themselves,” he told Best Life. “By befriending another and lying in wait, you do not have to be vulnerable from the get-go and lay the groundwork for a relationship.”
So Julie’s attempt to undermine her best friend’s relationship reflects not just jealousy, but also a lack of moral and emotional integrity.
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I fail to see how OP didn't "take the high road" (which I guess just means being a total f*cking doormat and letting others walk over you.) OP's comment was extremely tame and fair considering that Julie said awful things about OP's appearance and health conditions and tried to steal OP's fiancé. OP could've said things with a bunch more profanity or gone the extra petty route and showed Julie's texts in public to all their friends on a PowerPoint but she didn't. Julie does have an ugly personality and she made it clear that she doesn't care for OP at all. Or rather, only likes it when OP is worse off than her because Julie thinks OP doesn't deserve nice things because of her appearance and health conditions. Plenty of people get cheated on and don't respond to that by making a pass at their friend's significant other.
Besides that, OP's statement was completely true. There's a difference between being condescending and wrongfully hurtful and constantly reminding people who have done nothing to you of their flaws, which is what Julie was doing to OP. Or telling people they have an ugly personality after being at the receiving end of their nasty behaviour and cruelty like OP did. But sadly people love to make excuses for bullies while instantly shaming their victims for merely fighting back and defending themselves. This society truly hates innocent victims. They want to believe that bad things only happen to bad people, so they twist every bullying situation so that the victims should be grateful they're not the poor bullies. Because accepting that innocent people could fall victim to bad people needs accepting it can happen to anyone.
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Julie fully deserved to be pushed into a river of s**t which she can drown in. The only reason to take the high road would be to make her fall further.
It really stinks that her friend turned on her like this, but I have a feeling she and her fiancé are going to be happy together for a very long time.
I fail to see how OP didn't "take the high road" (which I guess just means being a total f*cking doormat and letting others walk over you.) OP's comment was extremely tame and fair considering that Julie said awful things about OP's appearance and health conditions and tried to steal OP's fiancé. OP could've said things with a bunch more profanity or gone the extra petty route and showed Julie's texts in public to all their friends on a PowerPoint but she didn't. Julie does have an ugly personality and she made it clear that she doesn't care for OP at all. Or rather, only likes it when OP is worse off than her because Julie thinks OP doesn't deserve nice things because of her appearance and health conditions. Plenty of people get cheated on and don't respond to that by making a pass at their friend's significant other.
Besides that, OP's statement was completely true. There's a difference between being condescending and wrongfully hurtful and constantly reminding people who have done nothing to you of their flaws, which is what Julie was doing to OP. Or telling people they have an ugly personality after being at the receiving end of their nasty behaviour and cruelty like OP did. But sadly people love to make excuses for bullies while instantly shaming their victims for merely fighting back and defending themselves. This society truly hates innocent victims. They want to believe that bad things only happen to bad people, so they twist every bullying situation so that the victims should be grateful they're not the poor bullies. Because accepting that innocent people could fall victim to bad people needs accepting it can happen to anyone.
Load More Replies... Julie fully deserved to be pushed into a river of s**t which she can drown in. The only reason to take the high road would be to make her fall further.
It really stinks that her friend turned on her like this, but I have a feeling she and her fiancé are going to be happy together for a very long time.
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