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38 Times People Wanted To Offend The LGBTQ+ Community But Ended Up Accidentally Supporting Them
As our world seems to be taking steps back from progressive ideals, the LGBTQ+ community needs allies more than ever. As of 2024, nearly one in 10 Americans identified as LGBTQ+, yet according to a 2025 Pew survey, 39% of Americans think that homosexuality is "morally wrong."
Many bigoted and hateful people voice their opinions loud and proud without shame, but some fail spectacularly. In fact, their hatred sometimes has the opposite effect: whether they misidentify a trans person, get lost in queer terminology, or just generally don't know what they're talking about.
Then they end up being accidental allies and maybe even get featured in the "Accidental Ally" community on Reddit. Check out these posts about the times hatred against the LGBTQ+ community backfired and bigots ended up showing support.
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#1
Trans Affirming Misogyny
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#2
Congratulations On Coming Out Though
#3
The Dept Of ~~defense~~ War Is An Ally, They Just Didn't Know It Yet!
Drema 1 day ago
As much as I hate this administration, this one doesn't bother me. It was called The Department of War for over 150 years before it was changed to The Department of Defense in the late 1940's. That being said, this whole administration can all go f**k themselves with a barbed wire d***o. 🤷♀️
"Those queers didn't exist back in my day!" That's a phrase you would probably hear from many of these accidental allies. But the truth is that LGBTQ+ people have always existed; they just had to hide their identities out of fear. Today, luckily, more and more queer people aren't afraid to show the world who they are, thanks to decades of hard work by activists on LGBTQ+ visibility.
It's true that an unprecedented share of young people can proudly say that they're part of the LGBTQ+ community. As of 2024, almost 30% of Gen Z Americans claimed they identify as LGBTQ+. In comparison, 16% of Millennials, 7% of Generation X, 4% of baby boomers, and 4% of the Silent Generation identified as LGBTQ+.
#5
He Really Tried His Best
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
And yet bigots think it is a modern phase and that all societies and cultures only ever recognised two genders.
#6
You Are Correct, Thank You
What do you envision when you think about an LGBTQ+ person coming out? Is it a conversation they have with their parents, friends, perhaps sometimes coworkers? Do they change the way they dress and talk in order to live their most authentic lives? Do they post a video or an essay on social media to tell their story?
The truth is that "coming out" can look wildly different to each person. According to a 2025 Pew Research Center survey, most LGBTQ+ individuals have come out to their friends. 18% say they're not out to siblings and 23% haven't come out to their parents. Extended family members are the least likely to find out if an individual is LGBTQ+, as 32% of Americans don't come out to them. They also don't bother coming out to coworkers, as one in four LGBTQ+ Americans said they haven't.
#7
Whoops
#8
Yes Teach Your Daughters Important Skills Too!
Michael Largey 1 day ago
The difference is that women will learn those things if they need to but so many men won't.
#9
The Model Is Hunter Schafer, A Transgender Woman
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago (edited)
Can you not be beautiful and woke at the same time? Hunter does look beautiful here, I do not think I have seen her in anything though.
Each queer person's journey can also be very different. Today, young people feel more comfortable coming out and may do so at an earlier age, whereas some queer individuals in the past waited until they were older. Most LGBTQ+ Americans (58%) know their orientation before the age of 14, yet many do not come out at that time. Many wait until they are older, with the largest group coming out between the ages of 18 and 24.
There's also an interesting disparity between younger and older LGBTQ+ individuals. A higher proportion of younger individuals (49%) come out before they're 18, and only 24% of those currently aged 50 or older did so.
#10
The Classic One
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
Yes, well done. If only one particular bigot on here realised this.
#11
He's Not Wrong 🤷🏼♀️
Strides have been made in LGBTQ+ visibility, yet not all members of the community can boast equal rights and the same level of social acceptance. In fact, while the majority of gay, lesbian, and bisexual individuals feel accepted in society, nonbinary and transgender people can't say the same. 44% of American nonbinary individuals don't feel accepted, and a whopping 52% of transgender individuals also say the same.
#13
Bathrooms Are For How You Identify
#14
Trans Men Are Not Women
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago (edited)
It is almost as if bigots do not do any research before they decide to illogicaly hate on someone.
#15
Gender Affirming Hate Comment Left On My Video
Representation in media and politics would increase LGBTQ+ visibility, according to the community members themselves. Americans believe that religious leaders expressing support for the community would do the most to help the community feel accepted.
If more politicians, singers, celebrities, actors, and other public figures came out as LGBTQ+, that would increase the community's visibility. The same goes for characters in TV shows, movies, and books. The LGBTQ+ community also believes that companies should do more to increase their visibility.
#16
The Devil Is So Nice Y'all!!!
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
Soooo you are saying the devil is in actual fact the good guy? Cool! I'll follow him then.
#17
I'm Non-Binary
#18
💯💯💯
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
Given what I think he mean by this, if he is abandoning his child then he deserves a special place in hell.
Have you ever known a person who was an accidental ally, Pandas? Let us know in the comments! The world certainly would be a much better place if more folks would swap hatred and bigotry for acceptance, love, and support. If you're in the mood, check out this story about how a pastor humiliated a Karen by defending his gay daughter and this list of parents showing unconditional support for their LGBTQ+ kids!
#19
Jk Rowling Accidentally Affirms Pre-Transition Trans People
#21
Blessed Typo
#22
What A Trailblazer
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
Nathaniel not like pronoun ideology. Nathaniel not use pronoun ideology 20 years ago, Nathaniel not use pronouns now. And I stand by that statement.
#23
Bigot Calls Trans Woman A Woman
#24
Hungary Banned Gender
Jerome Lenovo 1 day ago
viktor orban, pedonald the 1st and adolf putin going crazy right now xD
#25
Oustanding Job
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
You're right, because dogs and cats are separate species XD A trans man and a trans woman are both human beings, and are both valid human beings :)
#26
Dad Got Me Accidentally Trans Sweater
#27
Elon Musk Didn’t Give Birth To His Daughter Guys…
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
And the bigots think the rest of us do not understand biology.
#28
Technically Correct?
Ye Olde Dirty Grumpy 1 day ago
Jeffery Catherine Jones. Stunning art but had mental problems and a difficult life. Started to transition, dithered, stopped. Died of lonliness and a broken heart
#29
Yes, I Am “Literally A Guy”
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
"As a guy you shouldn't have any opinions on feminism." I'm a guy. I have an opinion on feminism . Men and women are equal in society.
#30
They’re Cisvestigating Now
#31
Not Sure If This Is An Accidental Allyship But It Felt Like It Was
Out of chocolate 1 day ago
You know how in elementary school you learn that you can’t subtract a larger number from a smaller number, but you learn later that you can? Or how you learned simplified, age appropriate lessons in chemistry and history and learn much later about nuanced these things are? @victor stopped at fifth grade science. He learned about xy chromosomes and thought “well now I’m an expert at biology, no need to learn anything new about the nuances of gender expression, biological and chemical differences in trans people’s physiology, lived social experience, empathy, other expressions such as xxx or xxy, intersex individuals, or anything else.” Good news is that all of that research and data is available and he can further educate himself at any time. I hope he chooses to.
#32
Even When It's Spelled Out For Them, They Still Don't Get It
#33
Step 1: Post This In Your Transphobic Circle Of Choice. And Wait For Them To Concur🎣 Step 2: Congratulate Them Agreeing Trans Women Are Women And Trans Men, Men!🏳️⚧️
Ye Olde Dirty Grumpy 1 day ago
Just require all NEW construction to have single stall toilets. Even Walmarts and Sams have "family" single stall toilets allowing for a 3rd option.
#34
Accidental Enby 🥰
Ange Marsden 1 day ago
The number of people who don't know the difference between s*x and gender is frustrating
#35
Transgender For Everybody!
#36
Woah I Did Not Know That Nancy Mace Is Trans
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
I'm not a pregnant person, a chest-feeder, or a birthing person either, because I've never been pregnant nor given birth. Does that somehow make me not a "real" female, then? I've always been curious in this matter XD
#37
Trans Men Are Men, It's Indisputable 🔥
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
It's so hilarious when another person thinks they have the "last word" on defining what another person's gender is (or isn't) XD
#38
What A Bummer
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
Trans people aren't like Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. They are real, and not imaginary. They're not going away just because you dislike their existence. Being trans is not a "mental illness" or a "mental deficiency" or a "mental health issue". Trans women are women and trans men are men. Gender-neutral and genderfluid people also exist and are valid, real, and valuable people. And conversely, if the gender you were assigned at birth matches the gender you currently identify as, that does not make you "superior" or "special" or "better" than anyone else. We are all just human.
BeesEelsAndPups 1 day ago
Wrong. I've met both Santa and the Easter Bunny at the mall. Ergo, they are just as real as you or me. The rest of what you said is fine.
Load More Replies... Witch with a B 1 day ago
My son is trans. His boyfriend's parents have no idea. They have been living together for two years. If he were to follow the law in some states and used the ladies bathroom, he would have the cops called on him. He IS my son. I do not have a daughter.
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 1 day ago
You sound like a wonderful parent. My parents are learning, but I wish they were as supportive as you. Hopefully things get better for people like your son and I in the future.
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Lukas (he/him, it/its) 1 day ago
I love sitting here cuddling with my cat while people debate whether or not I exist. Like, I'm sitting here, I exist, because I posted this comment, so therefore trans people exist. And we're just trying to live our lives just like anybody else.
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
I see you, I hear you, I sit alongside you as an ally
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
Trans people aren't like Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. They are real, and not imaginary. They're not going away just because you dislike their existence. Being trans is not a "mental illness" or a "mental deficiency" or a "mental health issue". Trans women are women and trans men are men. Gender-neutral and genderfluid people also exist and are valid, real, and valuable people. And conversely, if the gender you were assigned at birth matches the gender you currently identify as, that does not make you "superior" or "special" or "better" than anyone else. We are all just human.
BeesEelsAndPups 1 day ago
Wrong. I've met both Santa and the Easter Bunny at the mall. Ergo, they are just as real as you or me. The rest of what you said is fine.
Load More Replies... Witch with a B 1 day ago
My son is trans. His boyfriend's parents have no idea. They have been living together for two years. If he were to follow the law in some states and used the ladies bathroom, he would have the cops called on him. He IS my son. I do not have a daughter.
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 1 day ago
You sound like a wonderful parent. My parents are learning, but I wish they were as supportive as you. Hopefully things get better for people like your son and I in the future.
Load More Replies... Lukas (he/him, it/its) 1 day ago
I love sitting here cuddling with my cat while people debate whether or not I exist. Like, I'm sitting here, I exist, because I posted this comment, so therefore trans people exist. And we're just trying to live our lives just like anybody else.
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 day ago
I see you, I hear you, I sit alongside you as an ally
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