When dropping their kids at daycare, parents have a million things to worry about. Their diapers, for example. Or formula. Or a change of clothes. Whether or not their child is wearing gender-specific clothing, however, shouldn’t be one of them. But some Danish daycare teachers, however, think otherwise.

Recently, Steve Rold turned to reddit to share this experience that caught him and his wife Jessica completely off-guard.

A few of the older teachers at the daycare made suggestions to his wife that they should think about dressing their girl in more dresses or putting bows in her hair so that the other kids would know that she was a girl.

“As a parent, you really have to pick what your priorities are and where you’re dedicating your energy and resources to,” Steve told Bored Panda. “If you have the time, money, and inclination to dress your daughter or son in ribbons and bows and that makes you and them happy by all means go for it. It’s just not on our radar at this exact moment.”

“We didn’t bother to find out the genders of our children ahead of time so most of what my daughter wears at the moment are hand-downs we bought before we knew our son was even going to be a boy, all pretty gender neutral.”

“Whether it’s a cultural or a generational thing, we completely understand that they were just trying to be helpful,” the man added. “Maybe they thought that it hadn’t crossed our minds to dress our daughter any differently or perhaps they just didn’t want to answer a million questions from the other kids at the daycare as to why our baby isn’t dressed in pink and flowers. The suggestion was actually pretty mild but it was piled onto a hundred other similar ones that I’m sure all parents get so my wife just felt the need to push back a tiny bit.”


This incident in mind, Steve gave the facility an overall score of 12/10. “It’s an absolutely amazing daycare. They focus on early education and outdoor play. We both feel like we’re extremely lucky to have our kid in that kind of place.” Steve and his wife don’t think that this particular situation is as dramatic as the internet thinks, however, he understands that similar things happen to other parents, only in much worse scenarios. “My wife was just trying to expose the humor inherent in the situation.” Scroll down to check out what Jessica’s response was and let us know what you think about it in the comments!

Meet Steve and Jessica Rold

Recently, the staff at their children’s daycare facility voiced their concerns that one of their kids isn’t dressed ‘girly’ enough

So they responded in the best possible way

Someone immediately explained why “color marketing” is ridiculous


And other parents shared their own similar experiences


Someone even pointed out the amazing drawing skills


The parents were in awe of the many heartwarming responses they received