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Internet Blasts Mom For Making Daughter Freeze At Night And Refusing To Adjust Temps
Internet Blasts Mom For Making Daughter Freeze At Night And Refusing To Adjust Temps
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Internet Blasts Mom For Making Daughter Freeze At Night And Refusing To Adjust Temps

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As temperatures drop, the cooler months are getting increasingly more difficult to bear, encouraging people to start playing with their thermostats.

This young woman was not given access to the thermostat in her home, though. Her parents asked the AITA community if they were in the wrong for not letting their daughter turn up the heating as she was the only one feeling cold, and the internet said yes. Scroll down for the full story.

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    The colder months of the year require more effort to keep comfortable, be it turning up the heating or layering up

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    This woman suggested that her daughter put on more layers if she’s cold and refused to give her access to the thermostat

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    Staying warm through the colder months might require taking a hit to the wallet

    The cold months are not easy to bear, neither physically nor financially. It’s unclear whether money was the reason the parents in the story were hesitant to turn the heating up, but for quite a few people, heating prices are a strong encouraging factor to layer up instead of touching the thermostat.

    The Office for National Statistics pointed out that the UK has experienced a substantial increase in heating prices in 2022. It suggested that because of the rising price cap set by the Office of Gas and Electricity Markets, the average annual bill for households rose by roughly £3000, from £1,277 to £4,279. However, because of the government-provided support, the average costs for households were estimated to remain at £2,500 per year, at least until April 2023.

    Such prices have understandably made people worried about facing the colder time of the year. The Office for National Statistics reported that roughly six in ten adults were concerned about keeping their home warm over the winter, and nearly one in four said they weren’t able to keep theirs warm over the last two weeks leading up to the survey (carried out in December, 2022).

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    According to 2023 data, most UK households—roughly 78% of them—use gas central heating to keep their homes nice and warm over the winter. This option is far in the lead, followed by electric and oil central heating both used by roughly 5% of households. No matter the method, increasing prices have affected quite a few people, as surveys reveal that nearly half of adults in Great Britain had to minimize using gas and electricity in their homes because of rising costs of living.

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    Some people feel more hot or cold than others even when affected by the same temperature

    Whether the house is comfortably warm or not, some people might feel more hot or cold than others even while in the same environment. That depends on the intricate processes of thermoregulation of each individual’s body, the issues with which can result in them being heat or cold intolerant.

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    Take cold intolerance, for instance—extreme sensitivity to low temperatures. According to Medical News Today, it is a disruption in the body’s process of temperature regulation. The process itself starts with the hypothalamus—a part of the brain that works like an inbuilt thermostat—sending messages around the body in order to heat or cool it.

    The messages are received by the thyroid gland, responsible for one’s metabolism, which is informed of the need to increase the consumption of calories. When a person consumes those calories, they can generate energy and warm up. The circulatory system then spreads the heat around the body; but if there’s a disruption anywhere in the process, the person might not feel warm enough.

    In the case of heat intolerance—when a person feels extra sensitive to high temperatures—the body also listens to the signals from the hypothalamus, but it reacts in a different way. Upon receiving the signals, the nerves on the skin increase sweat production, which then evaporates and cools down the body.

    The OP didn’t detail whether her daughter was cold intolerant, or the temperature at home was simply too low for her to feel comfortable. Be that as it may, the woman’s position on not letting the daughter control the thermostat seemingly split the internet community into camps; while some seemed somewhat appalled by her views, others could see where she was coming from.

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    The OP shared more details in the comments

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    Quite a few people believed the parents are in the wrong here

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    Some redditors sided with the mom and dad

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    Miglė Miliūtė

    Miglė Miliūtė

    Writer, Community member

    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Dorothy Kernaghan-Baez
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not that they won't turn up the heat...they won't allow this girl even an electric blanket! They refuse to let her do anything to keep herself warm *while at the same time* refusing to adjust the heat.

    No No
    Community Member
    2 years ago

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    Probably cuz she's old enough to get her own place and probably should.and they probably won't buy her the heat or the blanket or something want her to get it herself I guarantee that's the reason why they won't get it.

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    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The lady asks if she's TA, but on every single comment she's answered, she says she still doesn't believe she's TA and won't do anything for the older child feeling cold.

    Lorraine
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, she didn't get the answer she wanted so she just goes "whatever, I'm doing what I want".

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    Powerful Katrinka
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP: Asks for advice. Also OP: All of your advice is wrong.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter asked me for X. Should I give her X. No. You are wrong. I will not give her X. Well, then, you are being inconsiderate and thoughtless. No. I thought a lot about it. And the answer is no.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are they asking for advice cause they sure aren't taking it! "I am right, I am right, I am right" is all they say in response. This poor girl. Being cold is SUFFERING. When I was sick and only weighed 82 pounds, going into the grocery store was absolutely UNBEARABLE. She can say she isn't favoring one kid over the other, but she is. 3 people are "fine" one is immensely miserable. She needs to move in with her grandparents this is wrong and abusive on so many levels

    No No
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're clearly a moron if you think this is abusive.

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    Tracy Wallick
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    16C= 60F, that is VERY cold to keep a house. Plus, as women we're more prone to iron deficiency (blood lost during menstrual cycles), and a common symptom of that is being more sensitive to cold. Parents are definitely the @ssholes.

    Bryn
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No kidding and I'm sure the 5 year old is just saying she's fine to please mummy. 60F is absolutely ridiculous for when you're home.

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    Tyke
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's in the UK, so am I. She can get a system like Tado where you can control the temperature by room, so this "don't want the whole house at 21" is ridiculous and there is an energy efficient way around it. Her daughter is wearing multiple layers, she's showing she's tried on her part. Not everyone has the same constitution. Yes the parents are absolutely TA in my opinion. And as for the comment about loving the 5 year old more, which she seems confused about, she puts the heating on higher 5-7am so that daughter doesn't get cold, does she not see that's her considering one daughter's needs not the other. **UPDATE** Seems she realised she is TA: Hello everyone and thank you for all your feedback. I did not realise there were so many reasons as to why my daughter potentially could be cold and that layering may not work in those cases. We reached a compromise with our daughter: she can have a small heater for her room with a timer so I am 100% sure it is not left on overnight for my own peace of mind. We are also going to buy her a heavier duvet and thicker mattress topper to prevent cold from underneath the bed. Thank you all.

    Tracy Wallick
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good. I remember my bedroom being absolutely FREEZING at night, since all the heat rose to the top of my high ceiling where I couldn't feel any of it. My room was easily 10 degrees colder than the rest of the house.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she wants advice, but then ignores all of it and refuses to compromise? D**k.

    Marika
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's frustrating that some people don't understand that different people have different thermal perception. I don't get cold easily, but 16°C is really low and my SO would freeze to death, even with blankets. It's really unreasonable for the mom to only care about whether she and her husband can handle the temperatures. And asking a 5 year old if the temperature is ok sounds ridiculous. Maybe some kids are sensitive to heat or cold, but I know many little ones who want to go out in the snow with a t-shirt and bare feet. That the mother is completely disregarding her oldest daughter's feelings makes me sad and angry.

    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is so true about kids running outside in t-shirts. I can picture the mother "it's not cold in here, are you cold sweetie?" And the 5 year old saying "no." My daughter got hot and cold mixed up until she was 8 and still does sometimes. (Don't know why...she is really smart just mixes that one thing up) so I really don't think the 5 year old should have a vote. The parents are responsible for their environment and everyone here says that is TOO COLD. We keep our heat at 68. And put a space heater downstairs on freezing nights for our dog because it gets too hot upstairs but stays cold downstairs. This mother seems really unfeeling..maybe if she raised the thermostat, it would unfreeze her heart

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    Tiff Day
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you are an a*****e and instead of using the internet to check, you should take your frozen child to a doctor

    Shadow
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So I'm like OP in that I like my living space cooler, 18°C in the living space is comfortable for me. Because I have basebord electric heat every room has its own thermostat and the bedrooms heat is left off. That being said if anyone living with me complained that they were cold constantly the heat would go up to 20°C and they'd have the ability to turn on the heat in their bedroom. Everyone has the right to be comfortable in the place that they live.

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    Dorothy Kernaghan-Baez
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not that they won't turn up the heat...they won't allow this girl even an electric blanket! They refuse to let her do anything to keep herself warm *while at the same time* refusing to adjust the heat.

    No No
    Community Member
    2 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Probably cuz she's old enough to get her own place and probably should.and they probably won't buy her the heat or the blanket or something want her to get it herself I guarantee that's the reason why they won't get it.

    Load More Replies...
    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The lady asks if she's TA, but on every single comment she's answered, she says she still doesn't believe she's TA and won't do anything for the older child feeling cold.

    Lorraine
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, she didn't get the answer she wanted so she just goes "whatever, I'm doing what I want".

    Load More Replies...
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    Powerful Katrinka
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP: Asks for advice. Also OP: All of your advice is wrong.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter asked me for X. Should I give her X. No. You are wrong. I will not give her X. Well, then, you are being inconsiderate and thoughtless. No. I thought a lot about it. And the answer is no.

    Load More Replies...
    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are they asking for advice cause they sure aren't taking it! "I am right, I am right, I am right" is all they say in response. This poor girl. Being cold is SUFFERING. When I was sick and only weighed 82 pounds, going into the grocery store was absolutely UNBEARABLE. She can say she isn't favoring one kid over the other, but she is. 3 people are "fine" one is immensely miserable. She needs to move in with her grandparents this is wrong and abusive on so many levels

    No No
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're clearly a moron if you think this is abusive.

    Load More Replies...
    Tracy Wallick
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    16C= 60F, that is VERY cold to keep a house. Plus, as women we're more prone to iron deficiency (blood lost during menstrual cycles), and a common symptom of that is being more sensitive to cold. Parents are definitely the @ssholes.

    Bryn
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No kidding and I'm sure the 5 year old is just saying she's fine to please mummy. 60F is absolutely ridiculous for when you're home.

    Load More Replies...
    Tyke
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's in the UK, so am I. She can get a system like Tado where you can control the temperature by room, so this "don't want the whole house at 21" is ridiculous and there is an energy efficient way around it. Her daughter is wearing multiple layers, she's showing she's tried on her part. Not everyone has the same constitution. Yes the parents are absolutely TA in my opinion. And as for the comment about loving the 5 year old more, which she seems confused about, she puts the heating on higher 5-7am so that daughter doesn't get cold, does she not see that's her considering one daughter's needs not the other. **UPDATE** Seems she realised she is TA: Hello everyone and thank you for all your feedback. I did not realise there were so many reasons as to why my daughter potentially could be cold and that layering may not work in those cases. We reached a compromise with our daughter: she can have a small heater for her room with a timer so I am 100% sure it is not left on overnight for my own peace of mind. We are also going to buy her a heavier duvet and thicker mattress topper to prevent cold from underneath the bed. Thank you all.

    Tracy Wallick
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good. I remember my bedroom being absolutely FREEZING at night, since all the heat rose to the top of my high ceiling where I couldn't feel any of it. My room was easily 10 degrees colder than the rest of the house.

    Load More Replies...
    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she wants advice, but then ignores all of it and refuses to compromise? D**k.

    Marika
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's frustrating that some people don't understand that different people have different thermal perception. I don't get cold easily, but 16°C is really low and my SO would freeze to death, even with blankets. It's really unreasonable for the mom to only care about whether she and her husband can handle the temperatures. And asking a 5 year old if the temperature is ok sounds ridiculous. Maybe some kids are sensitive to heat or cold, but I know many little ones who want to go out in the snow with a t-shirt and bare feet. That the mother is completely disregarding her oldest daughter's feelings makes me sad and angry.

    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is so true about kids running outside in t-shirts. I can picture the mother "it's not cold in here, are you cold sweetie?" And the 5 year old saying "no." My daughter got hot and cold mixed up until she was 8 and still does sometimes. (Don't know why...she is really smart just mixes that one thing up) so I really don't think the 5 year old should have a vote. The parents are responsible for their environment and everyone here says that is TOO COLD. We keep our heat at 68. And put a space heater downstairs on freezing nights for our dog because it gets too hot upstairs but stays cold downstairs. This mother seems really unfeeling..maybe if she raised the thermostat, it would unfreeze her heart

    Load More Replies...
    Tiff Day
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you are an a*****e and instead of using the internet to check, you should take your frozen child to a doctor

    Shadow
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So I'm like OP in that I like my living space cooler, 18°C in the living space is comfortable for me. Because I have basebord electric heat every room has its own thermostat and the bedrooms heat is left off. That being said if anyone living with me complained that they were cold constantly the heat would go up to 20°C and they'd have the ability to turn on the heat in their bedroom. Everyone has the right to be comfortable in the place that they live.

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