Teachers have it tough. Underpaid, resourced and appreciated, these guardians of the next generation do an amazing job ensuring that our kids get an education, doing their best to deliver results in trying circumstances.
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But they need help from parents. Many kids don’t enjoy going to school at the best of times – and it makes a teacher’s job even harder if they are required to act as a psychological and emotional mentor as well.
This anonymous teacher asks just one favor – send your kids to school in a positive mood. It makes those difficult early years of learning, socializing and just life, in general, a hell of a lot easier when kids know that their parents have their backs at home!
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Here’s what people had to say about the emotional letter
my mom screamed at me that my friends hated me before i got on the bus. I was crying surrounded by people I knew but wasn't friends with. It's awful. There's NEVER an excuse.
That is a terrible thing to say to a child. Reminded me of when my mother said 'don't talk to me, I'm not your friend'. Never really forgave her for that one.
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Whilst I do agree I also want to point out that sometimes the school/teachers/others students etc are what’s making the kids miserable and sad, so is bastard a correct terminology we parents can use for you too? If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander.
true I had a great home life. but the school was a nightmare.
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i always say to my son: i dont wanna fight .. not right before bed nor in the morning before leaving. we never know what happens... when i break my "rule" and i am angry and yell at him, i always! swallow my pride and my anger and apologise and say i love him.
That’s smart. Yelling happens, but it is something you should apologize for and set an example that apologizing is a good thing for anyone to do if they are in the wrong. This is quality parenting.
Load More Replies... Unless the teacher knows factual details about individual kids backgrounds then she should refrain from making sweeping generalizations about all her students parents. Good intentions are not enough to justify insulting a whole group of people.
Oblivious you had a stellar childhood I wish someone would have told my s****y parents something like this. It's not everyone's story but it's enough. you might want to get off your high horse and see others.
Load More Replies... sometimes, maybe the kid is sad because Mommy or Daddy yelled at them to get their GODDAMNED shoes on, because the previous 12 times of sweet sing song "please get your shoes on." didn't do it and now they are going to be late for work.
While I agree that yelling at your kids usually doesn't serve any useful purpose (except, for example, for "LOOK OUT! CAR!", you can't compare your kids to your boss or your spouse. Your boss and your spouse are hopefully adults.
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As many issues as I had in school, I never once had a teacher ask me what was wrong, why was I upset, etc. Is this a new social norm that wasn't around in the 90s?
Must be. Had a row with my father that gave me my first migraine and I failed a maths test (unsuprising with the migraine). Teachers never seemed interested.
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Some very sensitive souls here today being angry with the teacher for making a very valid point. I've said below that as a teacher and as a parent I think the message is spot on.
Before this teacher says anything, I would like to know if they have kids. If they dont, then they really dont get the right to be such a prick. If they do, they still dont get the right to be such a prick.
It sure sounds to me like this hits too close to home for comfort for you -- yell at your kids a lot, do you?
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While this teacher didn't use good implementation... the general idea is a good one and doesn't just apply to children. I think as people we should work harder on being nicer to each other, and realize that how we talk and behave affects those around us. A bad start to the morning just gets worse when we unload on those around us. A positivity mindfulness can go a long way - for everyone everywhere
I never had a lunch made for me, let alone a note or a kind word as a kid. I just tried to remain invisible and made my own lunch from age 6 and up. Would have been nice to have a parent that cared or a kind word.
That's so sad. I really hope you have people in your life that care about you now.
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Little bit of irony with her promoting positivity and also calling parents bastards..
Not ironic at all. The teacher is angry at seeing how much harm is being caused to the children in their care. It's a fairly bastardy thing to do - shout at children and leave them not knowing how mum or dad are going to be with them at the end of the school day. I speak from personal experience. It's horrible having that sick feeling with you all day. Parents are (usually) the most important people in a child's life and to go for several hours knowing that they feel negatively about you is awful.
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Bullied at home, bullied at school.... This is why I don't talk to my parents anymore.
I remember being so relieved as a kid when my mom decided I was old enough to get ready for school without her. Was even more relieved years later when her job changed and I got 1-2 hours after school to just relax in the house by myself. To this day I still struggle to do anything at home unless I’m home alone because it makes me so stressed. Sadly, people like my mom would just scream at this teacher because how DARE she try to tell my mom how to parent her own kid
I get yelled at every morning and have cried and my mom just tells me to wipe my tears and get mad
my mom says I look like a witch ad after i brushed my hair. she asks whatś taking so long, i say I was brushing my hair good. she said ¨ well why if you end up looking like a witch anyway??¨
This makes total and complete sense. Especially since the bus crowd is usually rough...
Just want to say, this goes for your SO/partner too. A little kiss, a little smile, a genuine "I love you" before you or they walk out the door--it can help make leaving for work just a little more bearable.
Spoken like a teacher who doesn't have kids at home. Wait until you can't get your kid to get up out of bed (no matter how early you make them go to sleep the night before), or when the refuse to brush their teeth or do their hair...or how about insisting on wearing something that violates dress code...what am I suppose to do? Send them anyway so I can get a call an hour later telling me they need to change? Then have to get a lecture from the administration about my parenting responsibilities? GET. REAL.LADY. You stay in your lane, and I'll stay in mine.
Teachers should stop blaming parents when the public schools are such a mess. Public schools do not teach anything about modern life: how to look for a job, how to apply for a loan, they don't even teach how to do well in school. They only blame parents for not knowing how to be parents and students for not knowing how to be students.
Seems like your point of view is the odd one out here. Schools are just buildings. YOU are your children's main educators....so how about you guys start doing your jobs. Let's start with the simple things, like manners, respect, discipline. Or is that a teachers job as well?
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HAHAHAHA... is this teacher for real??? Sorry - just when I was in school (from single digits up to graduating highschool) - the TEACHERS would bully ME... so I'd get crapped on at home AND at school (near perfect attendance, A average student, btw - so not your typical 'problem kid')! Sooo.. HEY teachers - remember to not just stand up for the kids you "think are cute/cool" the ugly/nerdy ones are human too!
Yes, some teachers can be awful people too. We all know that. That's not what this post is about.
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When you know how to make a baby and choose to keep it, then own up to it and be a f'n responsible parent/adult. Your children didn't choose to be alive, you chose them. And again, there is no shame or even weakness in admitting your own limitations. Acknowledging your own shortcomings is a huge part of being responsible.
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my mom screamed at me that my friends hated me before i got on the bus. I was crying surrounded by people I knew but wasn't friends with. It's awful. There's NEVER an excuse.
That is a terrible thing to say to a child. Reminded me of when my mother said 'don't talk to me, I'm not your friend'. Never really forgave her for that one.
Load More Replies... Whilst I do agree I also want to point out that sometimes the school/teachers/others students etc are what’s making the kids miserable and sad, so is bastard a correct terminology we parents can use for you too? If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander.
true I had a great home life. but the school was a nightmare.
Load More Replies... i always say to my son: i dont wanna fight .. not right before bed nor in the morning before leaving. we never know what happens... when i break my "rule" and i am angry and yell at him, i always! swallow my pride and my anger and apologise and say i love him.
That’s smart. Yelling happens, but it is something you should apologize for and set an example that apologizing is a good thing for anyone to do if they are in the wrong. This is quality parenting.
Load More Replies... Unless the teacher knows factual details about individual kids backgrounds then she should refrain from making sweeping generalizations about all her students parents. Good intentions are not enough to justify insulting a whole group of people.
Oblivious you had a stellar childhood I wish someone would have told my s****y parents something like this. It's not everyone's story but it's enough. you might want to get off your high horse and see others.
Load More Replies... sometimes, maybe the kid is sad because Mommy or Daddy yelled at them to get their GODDAMNED shoes on, because the previous 12 times of sweet sing song "please get your shoes on." didn't do it and now they are going to be late for work.
While I agree that yelling at your kids usually doesn't serve any useful purpose (except, for example, for "LOOK OUT! CAR!", you can't compare your kids to your boss or your spouse. Your boss and your spouse are hopefully adults.
Load More Replies... As many issues as I had in school, I never once had a teacher ask me what was wrong, why was I upset, etc. Is this a new social norm that wasn't around in the 90s?
Must be. Had a row with my father that gave me my first migraine and I failed a maths test (unsuprising with the migraine). Teachers never seemed interested.
Load More Replies... Some very sensitive souls here today being angry with the teacher for making a very valid point. I've said below that as a teacher and as a parent I think the message is spot on.
Before this teacher says anything, I would like to know if they have kids. If they dont, then they really dont get the right to be such a prick. If they do, they still dont get the right to be such a prick.
It sure sounds to me like this hits too close to home for comfort for you -- yell at your kids a lot, do you?
Load More Replies... While this teacher didn't use good implementation... the general idea is a good one and doesn't just apply to children. I think as people we should work harder on being nicer to each other, and realize that how we talk and behave affects those around us. A bad start to the morning just gets worse when we unload on those around us. A positivity mindfulness can go a long way - for everyone everywhere
I never had a lunch made for me, let alone a note or a kind word as a kid. I just tried to remain invisible and made my own lunch from age 6 and up. Would have been nice to have a parent that cared or a kind word.
That's so sad. I really hope you have people in your life that care about you now.
Load More Replies... Little bit of irony with her promoting positivity and also calling parents bastards..
Not ironic at all. The teacher is angry at seeing how much harm is being caused to the children in their care. It's a fairly bastardy thing to do - shout at children and leave them not knowing how mum or dad are going to be with them at the end of the school day. I speak from personal experience. It's horrible having that sick feeling with you all day. Parents are (usually) the most important people in a child's life and to go for several hours knowing that they feel negatively about you is awful.
Load More Replies... Bullied at home, bullied at school.... This is why I don't talk to my parents anymore.
I remember being so relieved as a kid when my mom decided I was old enough to get ready for school without her. Was even more relieved years later when her job changed and I got 1-2 hours after school to just relax in the house by myself. To this day I still struggle to do anything at home unless I’m home alone because it makes me so stressed. Sadly, people like my mom would just scream at this teacher because how DARE she try to tell my mom how to parent her own kid
I get yelled at every morning and have cried and my mom just tells me to wipe my tears and get mad
my mom says I look like a witch ad after i brushed my hair. she asks whatś taking so long, i say I was brushing my hair good. she said ¨ well why if you end up looking like a witch anyway??¨
This makes total and complete sense. Especially since the bus crowd is usually rough...
Just want to say, this goes for your SO/partner too. A little kiss, a little smile, a genuine "I love you" before you or they walk out the door--it can help make leaving for work just a little more bearable.
Spoken like a teacher who doesn't have kids at home. Wait until you can't get your kid to get up out of bed (no matter how early you make them go to sleep the night before), or when the refuse to brush their teeth or do their hair...or how about insisting on wearing something that violates dress code...what am I suppose to do? Send them anyway so I can get a call an hour later telling me they need to change? Then have to get a lecture from the administration about my parenting responsibilities? GET. REAL.LADY. You stay in your lane, and I'll stay in mine.
Teachers should stop blaming parents when the public schools are such a mess. Public schools do not teach anything about modern life: how to look for a job, how to apply for a loan, they don't even teach how to do well in school. They only blame parents for not knowing how to be parents and students for not knowing how to be students.
Seems like your point of view is the odd one out here. Schools are just buildings. YOU are your children's main educators....so how about you guys start doing your jobs. Let's start with the simple things, like manners, respect, discipline. Or is that a teachers job as well?
Load More Replies... HAHAHAHA... is this teacher for real??? Sorry - just when I was in school (from single digits up to graduating highschool) - the TEACHERS would bully ME... so I'd get crapped on at home AND at school (near perfect attendance, A average student, btw - so not your typical 'problem kid')! Sooo.. HEY teachers - remember to not just stand up for the kids you "think are cute/cool" the ugly/nerdy ones are human too!
Yes, some teachers can be awful people too. We all know that. That's not what this post is about.
Load More Replies... When you know how to make a baby and choose to keep it, then own up to it and be a f'n responsible parent/adult. Your children didn't choose to be alive, you chose them. And again, there is no shame or even weakness in admitting your own limitations. Acknowledging your own shortcomings is a huge part of being responsible.
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