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Woman Explains Why You Should Respect Your Child’s Privacy In An Eye-Opening Message
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Woman Explains Why You Should Respect Your Child’s Privacy In An Eye-Opening Message

Being a parent is hard as it is – you want the best for your child but sometimes good intentions can be a cause for toxic actions. For example, some parents are over-protective of their children, therefore, they are having a hard time trusting them. One Tumblr user told a story about participating in a panel of Girl Scouts event, where a question was asked: “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?” Seemingly, the older and the younger generation had very conflicting opinions about it.

Other users sided with OP by sharing their own thoughts on children’s privacy

One teenager offered their own experiences to support the idea that over-protective parents harm their relationship with children

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Andrea Jones
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who has depression and anxiety since a young a child, I used to write poetry in a book and hid it under my mattress, I once came home to my uncle reading it, when he saw me he said "that's F***ing depressing" I was mortified. I felt I had nobody to talk to, I didn't have friends and I was 10 years old. I always felt that nobody took me seriously, I would feel like there was a black hole inside I could not fill and adults told me to get over of it. As an adult it took me a long time to come to terms with it all, but I had a wonderful friend who supported me and gave me perspective. Finally I gained some insight and it is this: Different generations are taught, raised differently, and have a tool box... sometimes they don't have the right tools. If i could give advice. Listen to your child, try to understand or at least take their feelings seriously because feelings are real; regardless of whether they are warranted.

In too many fandoms
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so sorry for you, it must have been horrible… I’m glad you’re better!

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sugarcoolness
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can tell you for a fact this is true. My parents read all my texts put trackers on my phone and even took the door off my bedroom. I had nothing that was mine, it felt like my thoughts were the only thing I had. I lost respect for them, and eventually lied constantly. They tracked my phone so I would leave my phone in the mailbox, they read my texts I'd stop texting anything Important to me. The only thing I wanted was to get away from them. To this day now that I'm out of the house my brother is now going through the same problems. Our parents may have thought they knew everything about me, but in reality they pushed me away. Strict parents create rebellious kids, kids who know how to get around them.

bob
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow your parents are f*cked up... Should be totally illegal what they did to you.

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Lazy Panda
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was young my parents got a divorce and it hit me hard. I struggled a lot and only ever spoke to my mom out of fear my dad would get mad at me so I spent a lot of time texting my mom. He got angry at me over that and installed a nanny app on my phone (monitors screen time, apps used, displays texts, etc.). Once that was there I didn’t text anyone and closed myself off. Those were the loneliest years of my life, I still suffer from it. Had my father let me be my own person and not gotten angry that I didn’t open up to him I might have talked more. Seriously, parents, spying on your kids is damn near the worst thing you can do.

Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate it when a divorce gets ugly enough between spouses that the kids get dragged into the crossfire. A friend of mine had a father that didn't deal with loss very well. When her little brother died, he destroyed every picture of him so he wouldn't have to remember him. When her mother died years later from cancer, she hid pictures of her mother. He found most of them. When I met her..she only had three left because he'd found the rest and destroyed them. Her father became a raging alcoholic and was very severe in his punishments (making them stand in the corner and hold a dictionary with outstretched arms for an hour.) She eventually moved in with an older brother and went wild child from all the new found freedom.

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Andrea Jones
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who has depression and anxiety since a young a child, I used to write poetry in a book and hid it under my mattress, I once came home to my uncle reading it, when he saw me he said "that's F***ing depressing" I was mortified. I felt I had nobody to talk to, I didn't have friends and I was 10 years old. I always felt that nobody took me seriously, I would feel like there was a black hole inside I could not fill and adults told me to get over of it. As an adult it took me a long time to come to terms with it all, but I had a wonderful friend who supported me and gave me perspective. Finally I gained some insight and it is this: Different generations are taught, raised differently, and have a tool box... sometimes they don't have the right tools. If i could give advice. Listen to your child, try to understand or at least take their feelings seriously because feelings are real; regardless of whether they are warranted.

In too many fandoms
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so sorry for you, it must have been horrible… I’m glad you’re better!

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sugarcoolness
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can tell you for a fact this is true. My parents read all my texts put trackers on my phone and even took the door off my bedroom. I had nothing that was mine, it felt like my thoughts were the only thing I had. I lost respect for them, and eventually lied constantly. They tracked my phone so I would leave my phone in the mailbox, they read my texts I'd stop texting anything Important to me. The only thing I wanted was to get away from them. To this day now that I'm out of the house my brother is now going through the same problems. Our parents may have thought they knew everything about me, but in reality they pushed me away. Strict parents create rebellious kids, kids who know how to get around them.

bob
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow your parents are f*cked up... Should be totally illegal what they did to you.

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Lazy Panda
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was young my parents got a divorce and it hit me hard. I struggled a lot and only ever spoke to my mom out of fear my dad would get mad at me so I spent a lot of time texting my mom. He got angry at me over that and installed a nanny app on my phone (monitors screen time, apps used, displays texts, etc.). Once that was there I didn’t text anyone and closed myself off. Those were the loneliest years of my life, I still suffer from it. Had my father let me be my own person and not gotten angry that I didn’t open up to him I might have talked more. Seriously, parents, spying on your kids is damn near the worst thing you can do.

Carol Emory
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate it when a divorce gets ugly enough between spouses that the kids get dragged into the crossfire. A friend of mine had a father that didn't deal with loss very well. When her little brother died, he destroyed every picture of him so he wouldn't have to remember him. When her mother died years later from cancer, she hid pictures of her mother. He found most of them. When I met her..she only had three left because he'd found the rest and destroyed them. Her father became a raging alcoholic and was very severe in his punishments (making them stand in the corner and hold a dictionary with outstretched arms for an hour.) She eventually moved in with an older brother and went wild child from all the new found freedom.

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