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“Just Kind Of Weirding Me Out”: Woman Runs From Christmas Celebration After Family Tradition Is Revealed
Many people have unique Christmas traditions to make their celebrations more festive. Some do it for cultural reasons, while others have simply found a way to add eccentricity to their Yultide practices.
A woman discovered this peculiarity with her fiancé when she celebrated Christmas with his family. It was her first time spending the holidays with her future in-laws, who welcomed her with a rather odd ritual that she had a difficult time making sense of.
She was so befuddled that she ended up leaving the party, which brought tension to a supposedly festive evening.
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Christmas is supposed to be a festive time spent with loved ones
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But for this woman, her Yuletide celebration with her fiancé became a weird and tension-filled evening
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High-conflict personalities are a common source of stress during festive times
Based on the woman’s account, her boyfriend immediately created tension with his reaction to her discomfort about his family’s Christmas tradition. He seemed to have disregarded her feelings and instead grew more annoyed as she expressed uneasiness.
His behavior may indicate a high-conflict personality. According to therapist, lawyer, and High Conflict Institute co-founder Bill Eddy, one red flag is having an “all-or-nothing thinking.”
“High-conflict people often speak in all-or-nothing terms. They tend to see people as all-good or all-bad,” he wrote. “Rather than excuse such extremes, take them seriously in looking at overall personality patterns of behavior.”
No one wants tension during a supposedly festive season. However, it can be unavoidable, especially with a high-conflict personality around. The best way to avoid drama from erupting is to manage these people.
According to psychotherapist Dr. Tracy Hutchinson, it begins with reframing expectations. She noted that the focus should be on having a nice, conflict-free time together rather than trying to fix the past.
Humor can also help diffuse heated situations by sharing positive, funny memories to lighten the mood. Dr. Hutchinson even advises using photo albums or videos for visual recollection.
But if all else fails, detachment could bail you out.
“If pulled into a conflict with a high-conflict person, mentally repeating the words ‘detach, detach, detach’ can help remove yourself mentally and avoid reacting emotionally,” Dr. Hutchinson wrote.
Such strategies may help the woman deal with future tense situations with her husband. However, if it becomes a recurring theme to the point of toxicity, she may need to consider professional help or even rethink the relationship.
The author provided more information about her story
Some commenters thought her reaction was warranted
However, one person called her out for ‘being a prude’
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Boo 3 weeks ago
Pardon my French....but who the fùck does this????? And to throw in the knickers that you're wearing that day? Do you just strip down in the living room and throw them in a basket? Jfc...can't blame the woman for leaving!
Zoe Vokes 3 weeks ago
And fiancé didn’t warn her so she wasn’t expecting it. Her public reaction was his fault for not telling her in advance that it would happen. If she had wanted to join in then she could have worn her most acceptable pair of underwear and not a s**y lace thong for instance. Or so that she could put a spare pair in her pocket if she kind of wanted to join in. Or had time to prepare saying no. But all could have been solved by cooking more food or someone plating dishes equally.
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ispeak catanese 3 weeks ago
The minute he'd said the parents don't make enough food was the time to decide what extra food they'd be bringing. Sandwiches, a salad, a tray of something. Super ridiculous.
Shark Lady 3 weeks ago
Oh hèll no, I could see it being a funny game if it was clean or brand new underwear, but putting used in is so unhygienic not to mention creepy. Plus, what if someone was on their period or was dealing with an UTI or thrush etc. Bleugh
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago
Ikr like what the hell, I’d have noped it outta there instantly to . Then told him to do one with his disgusting perverted lunatic parents ,and yes exactly like that to cos there are no other words for this level of WHAT THE F K are there 😱🤮
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Alexandra 3 weeks ago
What I particularly don't like is the fiance calling OP's not being comfortable with this odd custom being 'too good for his family tradition." That is just plain manipulation on his part. Also, why should she make herself 'more agreeable to his family'? Why can't she just be herself and why can't her fiance's family respect her as she is? This does not bode well for a marriage, so if I were OP I wouldn't bother.
Apatheist 3 weeks ago
Probably suggested by a pervy relative some time in the past. These things often need someone from outside to point out that not everyone does these things.
Tabitha 3 weeks ago (edited)
Then fiancé tried to say all his friends’ families did it too. W*F kind of pervy cult did he grow up in, where you have to eat dinner commando under your clothes? In front of his family? And have your underwear on display for all to see? Please don’t tell me what “games” they have planned for after dinner, or what you have to do to get your underwear back. That kind of s**t should never happen, I don’t care how long you’ve been a member of the family. I sure hope this is creative writing or AI, and not real.
Load More Replies... Miriam Insidecor 3 weeks ago
I almost heaved reading this. I hope she dumped him. That is not a family you want to join.
Roman Arendt 3 weeks ago
Welcome to another round of "Things that never happened but wouldn't it be fun to pretend so to get some attention on Reddit". 🙄
FluffyDreg 3 weeks ago
Out of curiosity, why? Do you think no one in this world is insane or inappropriate?
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Otto Katz 3 weeks ago
Sorry, there is no way on God's green earth this is happening in real life. No way.
Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Nope. I 'very been on this Earth 75 going on 75 years, most in science fiction, and this wielded me out.
KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
This is creepy AF. Just cook enough food or ask others to bring. Don't drop some weird cult s**t on them. And no, nobody else does this.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
How do you know “nobody else does this”? This family and friends (my guess is their hillbillies) do it, so obviously other people do this. We’re just lucky none of us knows any of them!
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 3 weeks ago
His family is really weird, it sounds like they have an underwear f****h and there is no way that I would ever participate in it. Are they seriously taking off their underwear instead of using clean ones? Either way its disgusting!!!
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
I’m relieved at least someone else has an idea what’s going on here. No one else can imagine it, and that caused a buncha people to proclaim with 100% certainty that “This never happens anywhere in the world!”
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Janelle Collard 3 weeks ago
So they're using the underwear *they have on* and make people touch it??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 OP did the best thing by leaving. Hope she dumped her fiancé also. Would *you* want those people as in-laws???
Toothless Feline 3 weeks ago
Okay, so this sort of thing is why I detest “family traditions”. And traditions. And families. Fück no with a capital NO.
roddy 3 weeks ago
This has got to be trolling. Nobody would think it normal to ask a stranger to remove their underwear and display it.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago (edited)
Not even frat boys? Wow. How many years of research did it take you to arrive at that conclusion? We already saw a post about men at work having to bring in their wives’ underwear so they could guess which panties belong to whose wife, but NOBODY, not even hillbillies, would think to do this? Where can we read your research paper?
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Chantal Mazur 3 weeks ago
Ahahaa! OK so I laughed through this whole story. This has GOT to be fake, right?
AlithenewMC 3 weeks ago
I'm stuck on the fact that this is her fiancé, and the issue is only coming up now. Have they only known each other for 6 months? Has she never spent time with his family before?
weatherwitch 3 weeks ago (edited)
Gross. Disgusting. Píss dribbles. Discharge. Period stains, dry and old or wet and fresh. Anål leakage stains. Outright skid marks. Not enough food?? Ask those attending to chip in financially or bring something to eat. Not handle each others underwear.. There's Tradition and there's qualifying for a straightjacket....
Ronja Oksanen 3 weeks ago
Everything about this is nuts! Make enough food, if there isn't then share equally, give a warning about weird traditions that no one else definitely aren't doing! And sorting out used undies w*f?! Sounds like there is very inappropriate stuff happening in that family.
Peeka_Mimi 3 weeks ago
Yeah that's beyond freaky. Just make more food or ask people to bring some food. I would not participate and be so weirded out I'd consider leaving the fiance.
Kate Johnson 3 weeks ago
Just nope. Nope to the tradition, nope to the family and nope to him.
Randomosity 3 weeks ago
Why don't they just cook more food?! Why do undergarments have to be involved? Did their drunk grandpa come up with this?
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
Maybe if they could afford it, they’d make more. They’re certainly not clever enough to ask people to bring stuff (though it’s possible OP was the only one who attended who wasn’t immediate family).
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Nikki Sevven 3 weeks ago
This is manipulative af. "We're stingy and never make enough food so we created this utterly cringeworthy and unhygienic tradition to ensure the meager meal stretches to everyone except the unlucky." This is not remotely normal, and I would've left too.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
Nikki, perhaps you might consider “poor” instead of “stingy.” After all, don’t you imagine they’d all LOVE to eat?
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sweet emotion 3 weeks ago
They were punking her. I hope she considers herself lucky to have failed the test......and I hope she gave back the ring, too.
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago (edited)
WHAT THE FRESH HELL IS THIS SHITE what did I just read 😱 erm now this is just a thought but how about the family MAKE LOTS OF FOOD like the rest of us sane people do 🤷♀️JUST A THOUGHT 😂,op I would dump that man fast , his family are NUTTERS , in fact I’d go as far as saying , that f kin careless asylum has lost an entire ward of lunatics this time. ,oh they just called n would like em back please ! just disgusting ,and the one YTA must be one of his family 😂😂😂😂😂
KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
Crystal casually dropping the inappropriate remarks again.
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Boo 3 weeks ago
Pardon my French....but who the fùck does this????? And to throw in the knickers that you're wearing that day? Do you just strip down in the living room and throw them in a basket? Jfc...can't blame the woman for leaving!
Zoe Vokes 3 weeks ago
And fiancé didn’t warn her so she wasn’t expecting it. Her public reaction was his fault for not telling her in advance that it would happen. If she had wanted to join in then she could have worn her most acceptable pair of underwear and not a s**y lace thong for instance. Or so that she could put a spare pair in her pocket if she kind of wanted to join in. Or had time to prepare saying no. But all could have been solved by cooking more food or someone plating dishes equally.
Load More Replies... ispeak catanese 3 weeks ago
The minute he'd said the parents don't make enough food was the time to decide what extra food they'd be bringing. Sandwiches, a salad, a tray of something. Super ridiculous.
Shark Lady 3 weeks ago
Oh hèll no, I could see it being a funny game if it was clean or brand new underwear, but putting used in is so unhygienic not to mention creepy. Plus, what if someone was on their period or was dealing with an UTI or thrush etc. Bleugh
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago
Ikr like what the hell, I’d have noped it outta there instantly to . Then told him to do one with his disgusting perverted lunatic parents ,and yes exactly like that to cos there are no other words for this level of WHAT THE F K are there 😱🤮
Load More Replies... Alexandra 3 weeks ago
What I particularly don't like is the fiance calling OP's not being comfortable with this odd custom being 'too good for his family tradition." That is just plain manipulation on his part. Also, why should she make herself 'more agreeable to his family'? Why can't she just be herself and why can't her fiance's family respect her as she is? This does not bode well for a marriage, so if I were OP I wouldn't bother.
Apatheist 3 weeks ago
Probably suggested by a pervy relative some time in the past. These things often need someone from outside to point out that not everyone does these things.
Tabitha 3 weeks ago (edited)
Then fiancé tried to say all his friends’ families did it too. W*F kind of pervy cult did he grow up in, where you have to eat dinner commando under your clothes? In front of his family? And have your underwear on display for all to see? Please don’t tell me what “games” they have planned for after dinner, or what you have to do to get your underwear back. That kind of s**t should never happen, I don’t care how long you’ve been a member of the family. I sure hope this is creative writing or AI, and not real.
Load More Replies... Miriam Insidecor 3 weeks ago
I almost heaved reading this. I hope she dumped him. That is not a family you want to join.
Roman Arendt 3 weeks ago
Welcome to another round of "Things that never happened but wouldn't it be fun to pretend so to get some attention on Reddit". 🙄
FluffyDreg 3 weeks ago
Out of curiosity, why? Do you think no one in this world is insane or inappropriate?
Load More Replies... Otto Katz 3 weeks ago
Sorry, there is no way on God's green earth this is happening in real life. No way.
Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Nope. I 'very been on this Earth 75 going on 75 years, most in science fiction, and this wielded me out.
KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
This is creepy AF. Just cook enough food or ask others to bring. Don't drop some weird cult s**t on them. And no, nobody else does this.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
How do you know “nobody else does this”? This family and friends (my guess is their hillbillies) do it, so obviously other people do this. We’re just lucky none of us knows any of them!
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 3 weeks ago
His family is really weird, it sounds like they have an underwear f****h and there is no way that I would ever participate in it. Are they seriously taking off their underwear instead of using clean ones? Either way its disgusting!!!
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
I’m relieved at least someone else has an idea what’s going on here. No one else can imagine it, and that caused a buncha people to proclaim with 100% certainty that “This never happens anywhere in the world!”
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 3 weeks ago
So they're using the underwear *they have on* and make people touch it??? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 OP did the best thing by leaving. Hope she dumped her fiancé also. Would *you* want those people as in-laws???
Toothless Feline 3 weeks ago
Okay, so this sort of thing is why I detest “family traditions”. And traditions. And families. Fück no with a capital NO.
roddy 3 weeks ago
This has got to be trolling. Nobody would think it normal to ask a stranger to remove their underwear and display it.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago (edited)
Not even frat boys? Wow. How many years of research did it take you to arrive at that conclusion? We already saw a post about men at work having to bring in their wives’ underwear so they could guess which panties belong to whose wife, but NOBODY, not even hillbillies, would think to do this? Where can we read your research paper?
Load More Replies... Chantal Mazur 3 weeks ago
Ahahaa! OK so I laughed through this whole story. This has GOT to be fake, right?
AlithenewMC 3 weeks ago
I'm stuck on the fact that this is her fiancé, and the issue is only coming up now. Have they only known each other for 6 months? Has she never spent time with his family before?
weatherwitch 3 weeks ago (edited)
Gross. Disgusting. Píss dribbles. Discharge. Period stains, dry and old or wet and fresh. Anål leakage stains. Outright skid marks. Not enough food?? Ask those attending to chip in financially or bring something to eat. Not handle each others underwear.. There's Tradition and there's qualifying for a straightjacket....
Ronja Oksanen 3 weeks ago
Everything about this is nuts! Make enough food, if there isn't then share equally, give a warning about weird traditions that no one else definitely aren't doing! And sorting out used undies w*f?! Sounds like there is very inappropriate stuff happening in that family.
Peeka_Mimi 3 weeks ago
Yeah that's beyond freaky. Just make more food or ask people to bring some food. I would not participate and be so weirded out I'd consider leaving the fiance.
Kate Johnson 3 weeks ago
Just nope. Nope to the tradition, nope to the family and nope to him.
Randomosity 3 weeks ago
Why don't they just cook more food?! Why do undergarments have to be involved? Did their drunk grandpa come up with this?
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
Maybe if they could afford it, they’d make more. They’re certainly not clever enough to ask people to bring stuff (though it’s possible OP was the only one who attended who wasn’t immediate family).
Load More Replies... Nikki Sevven 3 weeks ago
This is manipulative af. "We're stingy and never make enough food so we created this utterly cringeworthy and unhygienic tradition to ensure the meager meal stretches to everyone except the unlucky." This is not remotely normal, and I would've left too.
Binky Melnik 3 weeks ago
Nikki, perhaps you might consider “poor” instead of “stingy.” After all, don’t you imagine they’d all LOVE to eat?
Load More Replies... sweet emotion 3 weeks ago
They were punking her. I hope she considers herself lucky to have failed the test......and I hope she gave back the ring, too.
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago (edited)
WHAT THE FRESH HELL IS THIS SHITE what did I just read 😱 erm now this is just a thought but how about the family MAKE LOTS OF FOOD like the rest of us sane people do 🤷♀️JUST A THOUGHT 😂,op I would dump that man fast , his family are NUTTERS , in fact I’d go as far as saying , that f kin careless asylum has lost an entire ward of lunatics this time. ,oh they just called n would like em back please ! just disgusting ,and the one YTA must be one of his family 😂😂😂😂😂
KatSaidThat 3 weeks ago
Crystal casually dropping the inappropriate remarks again.
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