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Family Drama Ensues As This Woman Decides Not To Attend Her Sister’s Wedding, Not Willing To Comply With The Strict Dress Code She Dislikes
Family Drama Ensues As This Woman Decides Not To Attend Her Sister’s Wedding, Not Willing To Comply With The Strict Dress Code She Dislikes
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Family Drama Ensues As This Woman Decides Not To Attend Her Sister’s Wedding, Not Willing To Comply With The Strict Dress Code She Dislikes

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Who doesn’t love a good wedding? They’re fun; you get to have champagne and celebrate love! However, nothing’s perfect, and the thing about weddings is that sometimes it makes people go a little cray-cray.

It’s normal to want your big day to be “picture perfect,” but sometimes folks get so absorbed by this whole idea that they become intolerably demanding. The author of today’s story, for instance, had to refuse an invitation from her own sibling because she didn’t want to impose some slight changes to her dress code.

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    18-year-old tries to negotiate sister’s wedding dress code

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    She requested that her sister consider letting her wear long gloves or a sleeved dress so she could cover up her scars

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    Image credits: Nicky Rowbottom (not the actual photo)

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    AITA for not attending my sister’s wedding because of her dress code?” – this internet user took to one of Reddit’s favorite communities, asking its members if it was indeed a jerk move to refuse to attend her sibling’s wedding because she didn’t let her cover her scars. The post managed to garner 7.6K upvotes as well as 1.6K comments discussing the situation. 

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    There has been a whole debate around marriage and its necessity for what seems like forever; some think it’s an old-fashioned belief that does nothing but strip your wallet, while others still view it as this sacred symbol of eternal commitment to their partner. 

    Either way, folks are entitled to their own opinion – however, I think many will agree that it is, in fact, expensive. For instance, this online publisher has estimated that the average cost of a wedding in the US is $28,000 – $35,000! Insane, but still somewhat understandable, as at the end of the day, weddings are not just your ordinary parties. 

    But! Other than these whopping costs, there’s also a slight nuance – planning. 

    Many, if not all, people who decide to tie the knot want the day to go as smoothly and as perfectly as possible, but the stress that ensues can expose the cracks in even the most seemingly stable bonds. Your partner, in-laws, parents, siblings, cousins, friends, aunts, and uncles – nobody is safe. 

    It just so happens that people tend to get so lost in their own idea of wants and needs that instead of focusing on celebrating their love, they turn the event into some wicked variant of The Hunger Games. 

    There’re heaps of stories online with demands ranging from unreasonable to plain wicked – and chances are you’re also familiar with the good old case of ‘Bridezilla.’ The author of today’s tale also encountered one – however, what’s worse is that it’s her own sister.

    Instead, she was called “difficult” for not wanting to obey the rules on attire

    Image credits: Ray Dumas (not the actual photo)

    So, let’s see what’s all the fuss is about! 

    u/cheesyfrie’s sister already has her big day planned out. Cake, venue, the dress, bridesmaids’ dresses, flower arrangements – you name it. 

    However, here’s the catch – she also wants all the girls on her side of the family to be dressed up in certain things. The bride-to-be, of course, sat everyone down and showed her family members the said dresses, and while they were “cute” and “flowy” pink gowns, the OP had a slight problem.

    The dresses were short-sleeved, and the author has scars down her arms; she had no plans on exposing them in front of all the guests, so she pulled her sister aside and politely asked if she could get a long-sleeve dress or wear gloves instead. The woman refused, saying that she wanted everyone to look the same (since when has making a cult out of your big day become a thing, eh?) and instead proposed that she apply some makeup. 

    That wasn’t an option for the 18-year-old either because she has keloid scars – which, if you don’t know, come from the overgrowth of scar tissue, meaning that it’s impossible to conceal them – so the sister found nothing better to say than blast her for the lack of cooperation and basically disinvite her from the wedding. The bride also told on her to their family and accused her sister of trying to be “different,” prompting the OP to not confirm her attendance upon getting an invite in the mail.

    What is your take on this story? What would you do if you were in the bride’s shoes? 

    Fellow online community members shared their thoughts and opinions on the situation

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    zak
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister sounds insufferable. Long sleeves or gloves on one person are going to "ruin" her wedding? What a ridiculous person.

    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Umm... dress codes are like "white tie, black tie, business casual..." you don't get to pick your wedding guests' outfits. What a pill.

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    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And everyone else in the family is okay with this BS? Not the OP not going, I don't even care what they think about that, that they are okay being told *as guests, not the bridal party* what they are to wear? Holy f--- bucket on wheels, this is a contender for Princess Bridezilla. Bridezillas, sigma males, Karens and Kyle's and AH abound - society is screwed

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baby pink matching dresses for all the women? No disrespect to her mother, but she will look ridiculous in a dress that suits an 18 year old. No disrespect to younger female relative who may look like they are playing dress up by wearing something suited to older women. Basically, everyone is going to look absurd.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its the “look at my home, everything is beige” influencer esthetic, except it’s with humans. “Look it’s my wedding, everyone one is all the same.” This edges on creepy, on top of being weirdly controlling.

    MichelleDonut
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bride must have noticed that OP never wears short sleeves in public, and probably knows exactly why. So, unless she is completely oblivious, she knew this was going to be a problem before she even picked the dresses. She just thought her sister's embarrassment was less important than perfect pictures. For f@#k's sake, she's making all the guests buy an outfit in gray or pink just to attend! I bet she gets a lot of "No" answers to her invitations.

    Bunzilla
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not just add optional bolero jackets to the outfits, and that way, anybody who might feel chilly or might not feel comfortable having bare arms would be covered. And that way, they still match, and OP is comfortable to come to her own sister's wedding. Still, the sister is being super unreasonable and is missing the point. She's not 'trying to be special', she just doesn't feel comfortable showing her arms. I feel like keloid scars would stand out far more than a bolero jacket or sleeves.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP addressed that her sister already told everyone, “no jackets!” even if it’s raining. She’s certifiable.

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    ERIKA H.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Dreaming of her wedding her whole life" I kinda chuckled since she's only 21

    Pan Narrans
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She starts young so she can have a few in her life.

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    Severus S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At a wedding I attended one of the cousins has scoliosis and was very conscious of her back curving, she did not feel comfortable in the dresses chosen for bridesmaids as she felt it made her back more noticable, so the bride said to pick any dress she felt comfortable in as long as it was a shade of dark green as that was the colour code, not wanting her to feel the odd one out in a different dress to the other 3 she told all the bridesmaids to find a green dress they felt beautiful in. I thought that was a really nice gesture, all 4 had lovely green dresses and the wedding photos looked really nice with them all in the same colours but different and matching their personality, one of them was quite punk and found green doc martins!.

    Cat Chat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's great that the sister isn't embarrassed by her sister's scars. However, she isn't the one bearing them and should care enough for her sister's feelings about them. I have huge scars on my thighs due to multiple hip surgeries growing up. I always feel self conscious wearing swimwear because of them. Luckily, skirted swimwear cover most of them up, but even the little bit left showing makes it so I try avoiding going out in public swimming. People stare and wonder.

    marianne eliza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're involved with someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far, run fast.

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    zak
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her sister sounds insufferable. Long sleeves or gloves on one person are going to "ruin" her wedding? What a ridiculous person.

    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Umm... dress codes are like "white tie, black tie, business casual..." you don't get to pick your wedding guests' outfits. What a pill.

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    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And everyone else in the family is okay with this BS? Not the OP not going, I don't even care what they think about that, that they are okay being told *as guests, not the bridal party* what they are to wear? Holy f--- bucket on wheels, this is a contender for Princess Bridezilla. Bridezillas, sigma males, Karens and Kyle's and AH abound - society is screwed

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baby pink matching dresses for all the women? No disrespect to her mother, but she will look ridiculous in a dress that suits an 18 year old. No disrespect to younger female relative who may look like they are playing dress up by wearing something suited to older women. Basically, everyone is going to look absurd.

    Load More Replies...
    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its the “look at my home, everything is beige” influencer esthetic, except it’s with humans. “Look it’s my wedding, everyone one is all the same.” This edges on creepy, on top of being weirdly controlling.

    MichelleDonut
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bride must have noticed that OP never wears short sleeves in public, and probably knows exactly why. So, unless she is completely oblivious, she knew this was going to be a problem before she even picked the dresses. She just thought her sister's embarrassment was less important than perfect pictures. For f@#k's sake, she's making all the guests buy an outfit in gray or pink just to attend! I bet she gets a lot of "No" answers to her invitations.

    Bunzilla
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not just add optional bolero jackets to the outfits, and that way, anybody who might feel chilly or might not feel comfortable having bare arms would be covered. And that way, they still match, and OP is comfortable to come to her own sister's wedding. Still, the sister is being super unreasonable and is missing the point. She's not 'trying to be special', she just doesn't feel comfortable showing her arms. I feel like keloid scars would stand out far more than a bolero jacket or sleeves.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP addressed that her sister already told everyone, “no jackets!” even if it’s raining. She’s certifiable.

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    ERIKA H.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Dreaming of her wedding her whole life" I kinda chuckled since she's only 21

    Pan Narrans
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She starts young so she can have a few in her life.

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    Severus S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At a wedding I attended one of the cousins has scoliosis and was very conscious of her back curving, she did not feel comfortable in the dresses chosen for bridesmaids as she felt it made her back more noticable, so the bride said to pick any dress she felt comfortable in as long as it was a shade of dark green as that was the colour code, not wanting her to feel the odd one out in a different dress to the other 3 she told all the bridesmaids to find a green dress they felt beautiful in. I thought that was a really nice gesture, all 4 had lovely green dresses and the wedding photos looked really nice with them all in the same colours but different and matching their personality, one of them was quite punk and found green doc martins!.

    Cat Chat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's great that the sister isn't embarrassed by her sister's scars. However, she isn't the one bearing them and should care enough for her sister's feelings about them. I have huge scars on my thighs due to multiple hip surgeries growing up. I always feel self conscious wearing swimwear because of them. Luckily, skirted swimwear cover most of them up, but even the little bit left showing makes it so I try avoiding going out in public swimming. People stare and wonder.

    marianne eliza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're involved with someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run. Run far, run fast.

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