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Woman Tweets About All The Times Men Didn’t Rape Her To Teach A Lesson On Consent
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Woman Tweets About All The Times Men Didn’t Rape Her To Teach A Lesson On Consent

This past year the #MeToo movement inspired women around the globe to share their stories of sexual assault and this past week was no different. A new spark reignited the dialogue, led by Dr. Christine Blasey-Ford and her testimony against Supreme Court Nominee Brett Kavanaugh, who allegedly attempted to rape her in high school.

With most accusations of rape come a large dose of victim-blaming; What was she wearing? How many drinks had she had? Was she behaving flirtatiously? Well, one woman decided to counter these responses with 7 powerful stories, not of sexual assault, but of the times she wasn’t assaulted. Comedian Mara Quint recounts how in all of these situations she fit the criteria of a potential victim, large quantities of alcohol and flirtation but that there was one defining factor – men who knew what consent was.

Scroll down below to read the powerful tweets that shut down the idea behind the “she was asking for it” dialogue and share your comments!

In light of the sexual assault debates surrounding Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh,  Mara Quint took to Twitter to explain sexual consent

Woman Tweets About All The Times Men Didn't Rape Her To Teach A Lesson On Consent

Image credits: Maura Quint

But instead of telling stories about being sexually assaulted, she decided to share different ones:

Other women started sharing their experiences

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Hans
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Refreshing to read a rather positive view of things. There are many responsible people in this world. These are typically _not_ those who raise their voices or even get loud. (Particulartly not at a public hearing when being proposed for the position in a country that requires the highest level of objectivity. Sorry, could not resist...)

Daria B
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with you here. One more good thing to point out about this article is that all this time we"ve been telling people what not to do. Finally we're telling them what to so instead. That's informative, I think, for all the genuinely confused and scared guys out there.

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Snowmonkey
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I finished work one night (at a bar, so I was completely sober) and a friend and I were walking to our cars. A new security guard walked us, proceeded to attack one of us. A random drunk guy came and saved the day. It's so good to see that even when drunk as a skunk he thought nothing about putting himself in danger. Not all guys are bad news :)

diane a
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It serves as a reminder that 99.9% of men are good and decent. Many years ago I was taken advantage of by a man I knew slightly (didnt even particularly like) when I got myself into a complete drunken state at a party (don't know, but suspect my drink may have been spiked). I still blame myself to this day and feel guilt and shame whenever I remember it. Try to remind myself that the inability to say "NO" does not equal "yes" and that I was NOT actually the one who knew exactly what they were doing

diane a
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4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only upside is that I have absolute zero memory about it and have never spoken about this before - but the #metoo issue gets you remembering stuff you buried for a long time

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Hans
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Refreshing to read a rather positive view of things. There are many responsible people in this world. These are typically _not_ those who raise their voices or even get loud. (Particulartly not at a public hearing when being proposed for the position in a country that requires the highest level of objectivity. Sorry, could not resist...)

Daria B
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with you here. One more good thing to point out about this article is that all this time we"ve been telling people what not to do. Finally we're telling them what to so instead. That's informative, I think, for all the genuinely confused and scared guys out there.

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Snowmonkey
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I finished work one night (at a bar, so I was completely sober) and a friend and I were walking to our cars. A new security guard walked us, proceeded to attack one of us. A random drunk guy came and saved the day. It's so good to see that even when drunk as a skunk he thought nothing about putting himself in danger. Not all guys are bad news :)

diane a
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It serves as a reminder that 99.9% of men are good and decent. Many years ago I was taken advantage of by a man I knew slightly (didnt even particularly like) when I got myself into a complete drunken state at a party (don't know, but suspect my drink may have been spiked). I still blame myself to this day and feel guilt and shame whenever I remember it. Try to remind myself that the inability to say "NO" does not equal "yes" and that I was NOT actually the one who knew exactly what they were doing

diane a
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only upside is that I have absolute zero memory about it and have never spoken about this before - but the #metoo issue gets you remembering stuff you buried for a long time

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