Neighbors Keep Harassing This Couple About Using Their Pool Until They Finally Lose Their Patience
Just like family, we don’t get to choose our neighbors. If we are lucky enough, we will be blessed with incredible people living close by and may even strike up wonderful and long-lasting friendships. But when that’s not the case, the thrill of moving into a new home can quickly get clouded by folks who set out to infringe on our right to enjoy peace.
When it comes to the latter, No_Material_4161 knows it from personal experience. This Redditor took to the AITA community to share how they bought a new house just a few months back. The couple enjoyed their property by hosting cookouts and inviting people to pool parties in the backyard. But as it soon turned out, they were not the only ones hoping to take a swim.
Apparently, the previous owners had an agreement with three other families to give them unlimited entry to the pool in return for paying for its maintenance. “We told them that we’re fairly private people and enjoy our privacy and don’t see ourselves letting neighbors having access to our backyard whenever they want,” they wrote in the story. Unfortunately, these families live in their own delusional world and will not take “no” for an answer.
After being cornered by them many times, the user finally lost their patience. So they asked people on the internet to help them make sense of this neighborly dispute they found themselves in. Scroll down to dive into the whole story and be sure to weigh in on the situation in the comments!
Recently, a homeowner opened up about being cornered by entitled neighbors who keep expecting to get access to their pool
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Feeling frustrated by their behavior, they asked Redditors to evaluate the situation
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In just a few days, the story amassed nearly 13k upvotes and caused quite the stir in the AITA community. Redditors quickly sided with the user and determined the couple had every right to lose their patience with the families who showed little shame in their actions.
To better understand their motivations and learn how to find our way out of neighborly disputes, we reached out to licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jesse Matthews. According to him, people often mistake privileges for entitlements. “They get used to having or being able to do something, and it comes to feel as though this is how it should always be,” he told Bored Panda.
“For example, in the United States (at least in Pennsylvania, where I live), having a driver’s license is a well-known privilege, yet people get angry all of the time when they lose their license due to drunk driving, too many speeding tickets, or other infractions. Since many were driving since they were 16 and nearly everyone else drives, they come to see it as an entitlement.”
Speaking of this particular incident, Dr. Matthews explained that since the three surrounding families have been able to use the pool in the past, they began feeling entitled to it. “The lines or boundaries become blurred, and people may believe so strongly that they have a right to something that they may not be willing to take no for an answer,” he added.
“In this case of using the pool, most people would agree that the agreement ended with the sale of the house. However, the neighbors assumed it would continue or refused to accept that it hasn’t.” The psychologist noted that their behavior likely flows from the fact that they were providing something in return — funds for pool maintenance. Unfortunately, these arrangements are rarely in writing, so the neighbors may start to believe they can convince (or bully) the new owners into continuing it.
“From their perspective, they have been able to use this pool (possibly for years), and now someone is taking it away. They may feel this is quite unfair and may be adamant that the new owners see it their way. And if there are multiple neighbors feeling the same way, this could certainly add to this sense of entitlement or idea that they are right and the new owners are wrong,” Dr. Matthews said.
We will all encounter people who want to take advantage of us, he added, so it’s important to notice these patterns and act accordingly. “If someone seems to only want to be with you because you own a pool, take them places, let them borrow money, or because you get invited to the parties they want to go to, then that isn’t someone you want to keep associating with.”
These neighbors are creating an unequal relationship and clearly show they lack care and respect for the new homeowners. The psychologist explained there are several ways to deal with similar instances: bring the issue to their attention and allow changing their behavior, back away from the relationship, or set healthy boundaries.
“In this case, you are unlikely to move and don’t want conflict with the neighbors, so you definitely need to set firm boundaries,” he continued. “Don’t over explain, but let the neighbors know, ‘Maybe you and the former owners had this agreement, but that is not something we’re comfortable with’. You might even say, ‘Maybe we’ll have you all over to swim sometime’. If this isn’t enough for them, then too bad.” Dr. Matthews wants you to remember that no one else is entitled to use your property, and you have every right to keep people out.
Later on, the user clarified a few details in the comments
Conflicts between neighbors often emerge because someone violates our ability to enjoy our lifestyle. “Typical conflicts relate to people making noise, say late at night, while neighbors are trying to sleep; one household keeping up with their house or lawn and neighbors not; or one household being social and having people over frequently and neighbors not liking it, either due to the noise, traffic on their street, and so on,” Dr. Matthews explained that the actions of one household often affect others.
“Beyond that, however, there are neighbors who are jealous of others, who don’t like people for various reasons, or some other things they are doing might bother them,” he continued. “It could be a matter of them not minding their own business, which we see a lot of these days with so many ‘Karen’ videos online.”
When we find ourselves in the middle of neighborly arguments, we need to learn how to navigate these situations as well as we can. “It’s important to be respectful of your neighbors so everyone can live peacefully, but you also need to distinguish between what are valid complaints and what is just someone not minding their own business.”
“If a conflict arises, you should always try to be tactful and respectful, trying your best to keep any problems to a minimum. But you may also need to be assertive and set or hold boundaries with neighbors. If you believe they are asking too much or concerning themselves with something they shouldn’t, don’t be afraid to let them know. And the more you can resolve conflicts on your own the better. I would make calling the police the last resort, though it is an option if someone repeatedly violates your boundaries or rights,” Dr. Matthews concluded.
People unanimously sided with the user, here’s what they had to say
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Well, swimming pools are nice. A place to cool off on a hot day, kids love to play in them, and unless you have access to one, it's something you don't get to do everyday. What's nice about using your neighbors pool is that you get to swim, but you don't (usually) have to deal with maintaining it. Unless you can afford a maintance service or have an automatic set-up, they cost time and money. Vacuuming, chemical testing, pump and filter maintance, and electricity for it. Neighbors don't have to deal with the time suck that is a pool.
Load More Replies...My friend went through this same thing, with the only difference being, she put a pool in and had neighbors assuming they were welcome anytime she was in it. I cannot imagine being so bold as to presume I could just invite myself to someone else’s home, much less their pool. Liability is also an issue.
Who would assume that though? And aren't there locks in the house, in the yard, etc. Just lock it, no one can come it then. If they ask, they can be let in or not, depending on the mood. That's it. Fcking simple.
Load More Replies...I wonder if this is the reason why the previous owners left. The previous owners maybe let the neighbour’s kids swim a couple times and the neighbours then completely took over and didn’t understand boundaries. I doubt there was ever an arrangement like the neighbours claim.
Excellent point. More than once, I thought I was just saying a pleasant good morning to a neighbor, and ended up in a weeks-long "relationship" where they wanted me to become their elder caregiver, or would send their kids over to hang out all day every day, and "didn't see why [I] couldn't just help them out a little!" (And all of the "it's not my responsibility" facts aside, I also just don't want to. No, lady, I don't want to give up my entire afternoon where I need to be working to watch your kids for you, and yes, it IS a big deal, even if YOU don't see it as such.) When it's something like a pool, which can result in kids drowning and the pool owners being held liable, it's even more essential to have boundaries and say no.
Load More Replies...Do any of them own a nice TV? A large couch? Spacious kitchen? Demand access to it. Tell them to leave the door unlocked so you can have friends over and use their TV for a movie night/cookout … See how they like that.
"she asked nicely...." This line remind me of a teenager girl at the bus stop. When I arrived a man twice her age was trying to get her phone number. He deserved it because he "asked nicely". I was about to step in but the girl just rocked it with " I like your shirt ! Can I blow my nose in it? But you can't Say no! I asked nicely !" Queen.
Love this answer. Am going to share it with my students.
Load More Replies...Usually good fences make good neighbors. Not always, though. Of course you are NTA. ETA: Get involved with Amway (or any other MLM scheme), and require that they listen to a pitch every time they come over to use your pool.
The irony there is Amway is actually listed as one (if not the only) *legal* pyramid scheme, since you actually receive legitimate value for your money. (Here in Canada, the RCMP uses the Amway model as the only legal way to run a pyramid.)
Load More Replies...I fully understand why the majority of these posts are about weddings closely followed by finance issues. But how the heck is the third most common one neighbors wanting to use your pool?!?
Either they don't have the money (which is not the poster's problem), or they don't want to spend their own money for it (which is not the poster's problem).
Load More Replies...It sounds like it’s time for a letter from one of 2 sources. Attorney (cease and desist) Local law enforcement with quotes from the trespassing code
I was at the beach and ran into an old friend (old because of stuff like this). She said she and her family were staying at their neighbour’s new holiday house they had just bought, for free. The new owners hadn’t even stayed there yet and this person told them she’d “warm it up for them”. I can imagine the pressure she put on them. Can’t believe some people!
It got so bad for a friend of mine, that he filled in the pool and now has a wonderful swamp garden
If they want access to a pool, let them build their own pool. You're not required to allow anyone access to your property. Not to mention, letting others use your property sharply increases the likelihood of injury, and the liability would be 100% yours. Also, you're entitled to enjoyment of your privacy without being harassed on the daily.
OP isn't the a-hole. I don't know about anyone else, but I applaud OP's willpower for not throwing a gardening tool at the neighbors. Not necessarily hitting them with it, but throwing it so that they'd take the hint and not pïss OP off
Surely the law requires that the gate be locked to prevent accidental child drowning. The neighbours would be the first to sue if an accident happened.
introduce a topic of your own: "Never mind the pool, have I told you about chichuahua's/Bored Panda/nft's/the Depp Heard trial??"
Politeness should have gone out the window a long time ago. After the second time being told no, then I would start yelling at them and threatening to call the police and charge them with harassment. When it comes to what is mine, no means NO and you will accept that or face the consequences. Neighbors have ZERO rights to anyone else's property.
Let them know your homeowners insurance would not cover any accidents. You can't take the risk.
former owners left the pool unlocked? I cant even imagine! They are so lucky none of the neighbor kids drowned in the pool! When we had a pool I literally had nightmares about it and would double and triple check the pool lock
Whenever people complain that neighbors and neighborhoods "aren't as friendly" as they used to be back in those fabled "good old days"? This. This is why.
True... But for me personally, I was missing the chatting on a walk by or while gardening or having a smoke-just the nondrama plant and pet talk ☺️ thankfully I have that now in my lovely little community <3
Load More Replies...What a terribly annoying situation to be in. I’d want to move and that’s a shame. I’m so glad I live in the country now where I have tall trees on either side of my property so I don’t see or hear neighbours. Though I do like them…
This is kind of along the same lines. Our neighborhood has a pool area fixed for neighborhood residents only. The bathrooms for the guys and gals are heated and cooled. Tiled floor to ceiling. And have benches to sit in to get changed. The outside has a fireplace that use to have gas logs but some dingus left the gas on and emptied the large tank. Now it's just for looks until the gas logs are removed. The covered area as well as around the pool have chairs and lounges. It's just a nice place to chill after a long week. Well the neighboring neighborhood that isn't part of ours has their own pool but it isn't kept up and they just decided one day that our pool was their pool too. I've ran off tons of people and kids from the other neighborhood before I was informed by one of them that someone in our neighborhood said it was ok for them to use it. That has since been changed and now I'm the d******d because of it. People need to know boundaries and respect them 100%.
Cannot even comprehend approaching a neighbor I'm not even friends with and informing her I'll be using HER pool. Tequila breakfast. Sure thing, crazy. First, I'll need a $250,000 insurance bond for every person entering my property and each of you will need to sign a strict liability waiver that says you assume all risk under any circumstance. And for me personally, I'm going to need a guaranteed payout to clean my property when one of your gross crew inevitably drowns, gets paralyzed or does some other irreparable harm courtesy of garbage parenting and imaginary entitlement.
That's so crazy to me. Imagine if you were to ask someone to use their kitchen or dining room the way people ask for pool access. "Can I just use your kitchen, I'll pay for my own food. Please, I asked nicely. and it's not like you use it all the time." People are weird.
I wouldn't allow my neighbours access to my backyard while I'm not there and they're not invited either. If the laws in my country allowed it I would put up a 3 metre high fence around my property.
My ex-wife was an idiot. We once lived in an apartment complex full of unsupervised children. We had two cats and one day a kid asked if he could come in to play with them. My ex said yes and soon we lost all privacy as random kids at all hours of the day knocked on our door to want to come in. Once they came in they wanted food and snacks...one kid even asked for a ride to a friend's house. My ex would end up crying and hiding in the bedroom just so she wouldn't have to play the villain and turn them away.
If a pool is like a classic car that exchanged owners, the new owner of said car would never feel obligated to let friends of previous owner to borrow the vehicle. Tell them to f*ck off. Set up *hidden* cameras, install a fence and a lock. Be prepared for acts of vandalism.
They have no right to access your personal property. It is a massive liability for the homewowners if someone was injured or even died while on their property. If they want a community pool so bad, them they should get together and make their own.
When we moved into our first house, we found out that the previous owner would leave his door open and let the neighborhood kids come and go as they pleased. Our kid was not happy with that and there was multiple standoffs between our kid who want the house to herself and the neighbor kids who wanted in. Not most of the above is true. But to be 100% true, replace kids and kid with cats and cat.
Of course you're NTA. These neighbours are being highly intrusive and can not get over the fact that you, the new owners of the house, are not interested in continuing the deal in place by the OLD homeowners. If you were having an indoor party would these yobs expect an invite?? Your backyard; your decision on who gets to use the pool. These neighbours can go pound sand and go to a public pool if using a pool is so important to them. The entitlement is off the charts!!!!
My neighbor has a pool. We've been neighbors for more than 25 years. I've never been in his pool. He has pool parties 2 or 3 times a year for his family. I would never presume to ask for an invite. I don't pay his water bill or anything like that. We're friendly but not friends. And that's ok.
Tell them that they don't get to use the pool, simple as that, and if they ever ask again, you're going to film their whining and post it on YouTube, and also report them to the police for harassment.
I believe that in the U.S., a person who owns a pool is legally liable for anyone who swims in it and gets hurt or worse. Pools are called "attractive nuisances" by attorneys here. OP is probably following the law by not giving access to the pool.
Paying for maintenance is one thing, good that these neighbours had that organized with the former house owners. But the responsibility for use of the pool lies with the owner. If someone used the pool (owner present or not) and got hurt or even drowned the owner would be responsible.
Uhhhhh..... are we going to glaze over that last comment.... why is some stranger asking your kids to convince you to let them Comes swim? I'd be very weary of that person. That sound hella sus to me. If someone was begging my kids to come to their home dressed in swimsuits I'd literally call the cops. Wtf?
I can understand that it is a bit disappointing to have access to a pool and then not anymore, but, Jesus Christ, No means No! What unbelievable impudence!
If one of their kids gets hurt, they will sue you. I would never let neighbors use my pool. Maybe if they signed liability wavers and paid for up keep, but otherwise no.
Now really? I mean, in which country feel people entitled enough to trespassing someone's private property?
So you are not from the states where a sense of entitlement runs rampant?
Load More Replies...I'm guessing that the requirements for a license to practice psychology in Pennsylvania are pretty low. Judging by that ridiculous analogy that equates the entitlement felt by the neighbors in this story to that of someone driving drunk. Who in the Hell actually thinks that anyone feels "entitled" to drink and drive? Or that it is their right to do so? Jesus wept, that's the dumbest thing I've heard all day, and I've even read Something Jay's comments on here, so that's saying something. 🤯
Step sister had a pool and loved showing off and inviting people over. She had a "friend " in her home school group who demanded an invite forgot to tell her that her daughter would get so excited to go swimming she would throw up...in the pool. Did it several times. Sis tried to suggest not eating but kid would demand food right before swimming and wouldn't wait. Yuk.
Tell them that they are not using the pool, simple, and the next time they ask, you'll film their whining and post it on YouTube for the whole world to laugh at.
On one hand, at least they were offering to pay for maintenance and stuff. On the other hand, you just don't badger people about things, especially people you don't even know. And from the "well, we asked nicely and are offering to pay/help, so why aren't you saying yes?" it sounds like they're also in the "has never been told no" camp.
What a bunch of entitled a*****e neighbors! More guts than brains.
Lots fatal accident happen in pools. A kid drowned for a minute can be 3 years visit in court room. That is why all pools always had life guard
Jay, there is plenty of content to choose from on Bored Panda. If you don't like the AITAH posts, then move on. The same goes if you don't like any of the content, for that matter.
Load More Replies...What is it about pools and neighbours ? We get one of these stories every two weeks or so.
Well, swimming pools are nice. A place to cool off on a hot day, kids love to play in them, and unless you have access to one, it's something you don't get to do everyday. What's nice about using your neighbors pool is that you get to swim, but you don't (usually) have to deal with maintaining it. Unless you can afford a maintance service or have an automatic set-up, they cost time and money. Vacuuming, chemical testing, pump and filter maintance, and electricity for it. Neighbors don't have to deal with the time suck that is a pool.
Load More Replies...My friend went through this same thing, with the only difference being, she put a pool in and had neighbors assuming they were welcome anytime she was in it. I cannot imagine being so bold as to presume I could just invite myself to someone else’s home, much less their pool. Liability is also an issue.
Who would assume that though? And aren't there locks in the house, in the yard, etc. Just lock it, no one can come it then. If they ask, they can be let in or not, depending on the mood. That's it. Fcking simple.
Load More Replies...I wonder if this is the reason why the previous owners left. The previous owners maybe let the neighbour’s kids swim a couple times and the neighbours then completely took over and didn’t understand boundaries. I doubt there was ever an arrangement like the neighbours claim.
Excellent point. More than once, I thought I was just saying a pleasant good morning to a neighbor, and ended up in a weeks-long "relationship" where they wanted me to become their elder caregiver, or would send their kids over to hang out all day every day, and "didn't see why [I] couldn't just help them out a little!" (And all of the "it's not my responsibility" facts aside, I also just don't want to. No, lady, I don't want to give up my entire afternoon where I need to be working to watch your kids for you, and yes, it IS a big deal, even if YOU don't see it as such.) When it's something like a pool, which can result in kids drowning and the pool owners being held liable, it's even more essential to have boundaries and say no.
Load More Replies...Do any of them own a nice TV? A large couch? Spacious kitchen? Demand access to it. Tell them to leave the door unlocked so you can have friends over and use their TV for a movie night/cookout … See how they like that.
"she asked nicely...." This line remind me of a teenager girl at the bus stop. When I arrived a man twice her age was trying to get her phone number. He deserved it because he "asked nicely". I was about to step in but the girl just rocked it with " I like your shirt ! Can I blow my nose in it? But you can't Say no! I asked nicely !" Queen.
Love this answer. Am going to share it with my students.
Load More Replies...Usually good fences make good neighbors. Not always, though. Of course you are NTA. ETA: Get involved with Amway (or any other MLM scheme), and require that they listen to a pitch every time they come over to use your pool.
The irony there is Amway is actually listed as one (if not the only) *legal* pyramid scheme, since you actually receive legitimate value for your money. (Here in Canada, the RCMP uses the Amway model as the only legal way to run a pyramid.)
Load More Replies...I fully understand why the majority of these posts are about weddings closely followed by finance issues. But how the heck is the third most common one neighbors wanting to use your pool?!?
Either they don't have the money (which is not the poster's problem), or they don't want to spend their own money for it (which is not the poster's problem).
Load More Replies...It sounds like it’s time for a letter from one of 2 sources. Attorney (cease and desist) Local law enforcement with quotes from the trespassing code
I was at the beach and ran into an old friend (old because of stuff like this). She said she and her family were staying at their neighbour’s new holiday house they had just bought, for free. The new owners hadn’t even stayed there yet and this person told them she’d “warm it up for them”. I can imagine the pressure she put on them. Can’t believe some people!
It got so bad for a friend of mine, that he filled in the pool and now has a wonderful swamp garden
If they want access to a pool, let them build their own pool. You're not required to allow anyone access to your property. Not to mention, letting others use your property sharply increases the likelihood of injury, and the liability would be 100% yours. Also, you're entitled to enjoyment of your privacy without being harassed on the daily.
OP isn't the a-hole. I don't know about anyone else, but I applaud OP's willpower for not throwing a gardening tool at the neighbors. Not necessarily hitting them with it, but throwing it so that they'd take the hint and not pïss OP off
Surely the law requires that the gate be locked to prevent accidental child drowning. The neighbours would be the first to sue if an accident happened.
introduce a topic of your own: "Never mind the pool, have I told you about chichuahua's/Bored Panda/nft's/the Depp Heard trial??"
Politeness should have gone out the window a long time ago. After the second time being told no, then I would start yelling at them and threatening to call the police and charge them with harassment. When it comes to what is mine, no means NO and you will accept that or face the consequences. Neighbors have ZERO rights to anyone else's property.
Let them know your homeowners insurance would not cover any accidents. You can't take the risk.
former owners left the pool unlocked? I cant even imagine! They are so lucky none of the neighbor kids drowned in the pool! When we had a pool I literally had nightmares about it and would double and triple check the pool lock
Whenever people complain that neighbors and neighborhoods "aren't as friendly" as they used to be back in those fabled "good old days"? This. This is why.
True... But for me personally, I was missing the chatting on a walk by or while gardening or having a smoke-just the nondrama plant and pet talk ☺️ thankfully I have that now in my lovely little community <3
Load More Replies...What a terribly annoying situation to be in. I’d want to move and that’s a shame. I’m so glad I live in the country now where I have tall trees on either side of my property so I don’t see or hear neighbours. Though I do like them…
This is kind of along the same lines. Our neighborhood has a pool area fixed for neighborhood residents only. The bathrooms for the guys and gals are heated and cooled. Tiled floor to ceiling. And have benches to sit in to get changed. The outside has a fireplace that use to have gas logs but some dingus left the gas on and emptied the large tank. Now it's just for looks until the gas logs are removed. The covered area as well as around the pool have chairs and lounges. It's just a nice place to chill after a long week. Well the neighboring neighborhood that isn't part of ours has their own pool but it isn't kept up and they just decided one day that our pool was their pool too. I've ran off tons of people and kids from the other neighborhood before I was informed by one of them that someone in our neighborhood said it was ok for them to use it. That has since been changed and now I'm the d******d because of it. People need to know boundaries and respect them 100%.
Cannot even comprehend approaching a neighbor I'm not even friends with and informing her I'll be using HER pool. Tequila breakfast. Sure thing, crazy. First, I'll need a $250,000 insurance bond for every person entering my property and each of you will need to sign a strict liability waiver that says you assume all risk under any circumstance. And for me personally, I'm going to need a guaranteed payout to clean my property when one of your gross crew inevitably drowns, gets paralyzed or does some other irreparable harm courtesy of garbage parenting and imaginary entitlement.
That's so crazy to me. Imagine if you were to ask someone to use their kitchen or dining room the way people ask for pool access. "Can I just use your kitchen, I'll pay for my own food. Please, I asked nicely. and it's not like you use it all the time." People are weird.
I wouldn't allow my neighbours access to my backyard while I'm not there and they're not invited either. If the laws in my country allowed it I would put up a 3 metre high fence around my property.
My ex-wife was an idiot. We once lived in an apartment complex full of unsupervised children. We had two cats and one day a kid asked if he could come in to play with them. My ex said yes and soon we lost all privacy as random kids at all hours of the day knocked on our door to want to come in. Once they came in they wanted food and snacks...one kid even asked for a ride to a friend's house. My ex would end up crying and hiding in the bedroom just so she wouldn't have to play the villain and turn them away.
If a pool is like a classic car that exchanged owners, the new owner of said car would never feel obligated to let friends of previous owner to borrow the vehicle. Tell them to f*ck off. Set up *hidden* cameras, install a fence and a lock. Be prepared for acts of vandalism.
They have no right to access your personal property. It is a massive liability for the homewowners if someone was injured or even died while on their property. If they want a community pool so bad, them they should get together and make their own.
When we moved into our first house, we found out that the previous owner would leave his door open and let the neighborhood kids come and go as they pleased. Our kid was not happy with that and there was multiple standoffs between our kid who want the house to herself and the neighbor kids who wanted in. Not most of the above is true. But to be 100% true, replace kids and kid with cats and cat.
Of course you're NTA. These neighbours are being highly intrusive and can not get over the fact that you, the new owners of the house, are not interested in continuing the deal in place by the OLD homeowners. If you were having an indoor party would these yobs expect an invite?? Your backyard; your decision on who gets to use the pool. These neighbours can go pound sand and go to a public pool if using a pool is so important to them. The entitlement is off the charts!!!!
My neighbor has a pool. We've been neighbors for more than 25 years. I've never been in his pool. He has pool parties 2 or 3 times a year for his family. I would never presume to ask for an invite. I don't pay his water bill or anything like that. We're friendly but not friends. And that's ok.
Tell them that they don't get to use the pool, simple as that, and if they ever ask again, you're going to film their whining and post it on YouTube, and also report them to the police for harassment.
I believe that in the U.S., a person who owns a pool is legally liable for anyone who swims in it and gets hurt or worse. Pools are called "attractive nuisances" by attorneys here. OP is probably following the law by not giving access to the pool.
Paying for maintenance is one thing, good that these neighbours had that organized with the former house owners. But the responsibility for use of the pool lies with the owner. If someone used the pool (owner present or not) and got hurt or even drowned the owner would be responsible.
Uhhhhh..... are we going to glaze over that last comment.... why is some stranger asking your kids to convince you to let them Comes swim? I'd be very weary of that person. That sound hella sus to me. If someone was begging my kids to come to their home dressed in swimsuits I'd literally call the cops. Wtf?
I can understand that it is a bit disappointing to have access to a pool and then not anymore, but, Jesus Christ, No means No! What unbelievable impudence!
If one of their kids gets hurt, they will sue you. I would never let neighbors use my pool. Maybe if they signed liability wavers and paid for up keep, but otherwise no.
Now really? I mean, in which country feel people entitled enough to trespassing someone's private property?
So you are not from the states where a sense of entitlement runs rampant?
Load More Replies...I'm guessing that the requirements for a license to practice psychology in Pennsylvania are pretty low. Judging by that ridiculous analogy that equates the entitlement felt by the neighbors in this story to that of someone driving drunk. Who in the Hell actually thinks that anyone feels "entitled" to drink and drive? Or that it is their right to do so? Jesus wept, that's the dumbest thing I've heard all day, and I've even read Something Jay's comments on here, so that's saying something. 🤯
Step sister had a pool and loved showing off and inviting people over. She had a "friend " in her home school group who demanded an invite forgot to tell her that her daughter would get so excited to go swimming she would throw up...in the pool. Did it several times. Sis tried to suggest not eating but kid would demand food right before swimming and wouldn't wait. Yuk.
Tell them that they are not using the pool, simple, and the next time they ask, you'll film their whining and post it on YouTube for the whole world to laugh at.
On one hand, at least they were offering to pay for maintenance and stuff. On the other hand, you just don't badger people about things, especially people you don't even know. And from the "well, we asked nicely and are offering to pay/help, so why aren't you saying yes?" it sounds like they're also in the "has never been told no" camp.
What a bunch of entitled a*****e neighbors! More guts than brains.
Lots fatal accident happen in pools. A kid drowned for a minute can be 3 years visit in court room. That is why all pools always had life guard
Jay, there is plenty of content to choose from on Bored Panda. If you don't like the AITAH posts, then move on. The same goes if you don't like any of the content, for that matter.
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