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Nosy Neighbor Shames Couple For Owning Big Home With No Kids, The Heartbreaking Reply Silences Her
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Words can often be real weapons, wounding people even more than swords, sabers, or knives. This life truth has been known for ages, yet we still continue to hurt others with our words – even if unconsciously. Small talk – small wounds, but no less painful.
In fact, the author of our story today, the user u/ThisIsMyMommyAccount, never expected that what promised to be a completely harmless meeting with new neighbors would suddenly turn out to be so traumatizing and painful for her. However, let’s not get ahead of ourselves and just read on.
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The author and her husband bought a big house 3 years ago – and the woman got pregnant soon after moving there
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However, it all ended in a miscarriage for her and they were both incredibly upset
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The couple went to a neighborhood event soon after, to get acquainted with the neighbors
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Some lady started jokingly “shaming” the author about her “empty big house” – and got severe backlash for those words
The Original Poster (OP) and her husband have a large house. It’s in a good neighborhood, bought at a good price, and has many rooms. When they bought it a couple of years ago, it was just the two of them, without kids, and they thought it was too big for them – but it was too good a deal to pass up.
A couple of weeks later, the author became pregnant, but then, alas, had a miscarriage. It was an incredibly painful experience, but life goes on, and the couple went to a neighborhood event to socialize a bit and put some faces to names.
So, during a conversation with one of the neighbors, a mom of several kids, the convo turned to the size of the OP’s house, and the woman said that she and her husband should definitely have children so that so many rooms wouldn’t be empty. This triggered painful memories for our heroine, but she tried to calm down and just changed the subject.
That would’ve been the end of it, but as the couple were leaving, the same neighbor again “joked” that such a large house was a great place for a family with kids to live. This time, the author couldn’t stand it. She approached that lady and told to her face that she and her husband would still wait until her health recovered from the recent miscarriage.
“She froze,” the author recalls. That woman’s husband also muttered something in her defense, but the OP didn’t listen and simply walked away. Well, they haven’t spoken in the three years since then – but a baby has recently appeared in the couple’s big house!
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“Many people have very low social sensitivity and are unable to realize that their jokes, puns or innuendos could be actually extremely painful for their interlocutors,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist whom Bored Panda contacted for a comment on this situation. “On the other hand, it’s quite possible that the problem was that the women weren’t previously acquainted with each other.”
The expert likely believes that if the neighbor had known the original poster better, she might have realized that her chosen topic of conversation and jokes were causing her obvious discomfort. But that’s how it turned out. Be that as it may, even the way the neighbor couched her innuendo comes across as simply envious.
“Ultimately, questioning why people you barely know need so much living space is completely unethical and just inappropriate,” Irina sums up. “Of course, the backlash was quite harsh, but when you’re hurt, and so deeply at that, tact is definitely out of the question…”
People in the comments on the original post 100% agreed with the author and also tried to express sympathy for what she had to go through. As for the damaged relationship with the neighbor – well, after all, not all contacts are truly worth continuing. So what do you, our dear readers, actually think about this story?
Most commenters. however, supported the author, and gave their sympathy for what she had to go through
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Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago
If they are old and mature enough to ask when people are having kids, they are old and mature enough to hear the answers "we lost a baby" or "ovarian cancer". They chose to ask inappropriate questions, they can hear the answers.
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
Threw two stones, got a boulder back through the glasshouse. Hope nosy cuntneighbour still feels horrible. IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS IF/WHEN PEOPLE HAVE CHILDREN. I know people who have also had to shut this conversation down when pushed on it, myself included. And they push until you finally give the most horrendous response they didn't think might be the actual reason then victimise themselves.
PeakyBlinder 1 month ago
It is none of their Business no matter the circumstances - if i want to live alone in a house that could accomodate 5 Familien it still concerns nobody else - why dont people just mind their own Business and shut the f**k up
Michael Largey 1 month ago
"We're reluctant to have children because of what it's done to people like you."
TCW Sam Vimes 1 month ago
As a couple who had to try 10 years and every medical option possible, congrats on the baby. I know how hurtful those comments can be, good on yer to clap back with a big bomb. It was none of their f*****g business
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
She was a grasping, greedy, b***h and deserved to be shamed. It's unfortunate that people this stupid have children at all.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 month ago
If people are going to comment or ask about you having kids or not, they are not worth hanging out with. But i will say. I am child free, live with my partner in a house where we each have an office and two entertaining rooms and no one has ever even hinted at our family size being through topic of conversation. I assume because it's weird to think about other people like that. But certainly it being incredibly rude must come into it. Anyone who thinks it's their business how big your family is, should be avoided
Romy Rösli 1 month ago
Wow, I can’t believe people are this rude in real life. Why can’t everybody just mind their own d*mn business?
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 month ago
I'll say this those, the hapless husband mumbling that wasn't necessary? Well guess what, IT WAS indeed necessary to put nosy-numbskull neigh-bums like you and your equally lousy half in your place. I'm happy that OP and family finally had a beautiful blessing after all and with the added bonus of never having to deal with those neigh-bums ever again. SMH!!! -_-"
Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago
If they are old and mature enough to ask when people are having kids, they are old and mature enough to hear the answers "we lost a baby" or "ovarian cancer". They chose to ask inappropriate questions, they can hear the answers.
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
Threw two stones, got a boulder back through the glasshouse. Hope nosy cuntneighbour still feels horrible. IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS IF/WHEN PEOPLE HAVE CHILDREN. I know people who have also had to shut this conversation down when pushed on it, myself included. And they push until you finally give the most horrendous response they didn't think might be the actual reason then victimise themselves.
PeakyBlinder 1 month ago
It is none of their Business no matter the circumstances - if i want to live alone in a house that could accomodate 5 Familien it still concerns nobody else - why dont people just mind their own Business and shut the f**k up
Michael Largey 1 month ago
"We're reluctant to have children because of what it's done to people like you."
TCW Sam Vimes 1 month ago
As a couple who had to try 10 years and every medical option possible, congrats on the baby. I know how hurtful those comments can be, good on yer to clap back with a big bomb. It was none of their f*****g business
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
She was a grasping, greedy, b***h and deserved to be shamed. It's unfortunate that people this stupid have children at all.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 month ago
If people are going to comment or ask about you having kids or not, they are not worth hanging out with. But i will say. I am child free, live with my partner in a house where we each have an office and two entertaining rooms and no one has ever even hinted at our family size being through topic of conversation. I assume because it's weird to think about other people like that. But certainly it being incredibly rude must come into it. Anyone who thinks it's their business how big your family is, should be avoided
Romy Rösli 1 month ago
Wow, I can’t believe people are this rude in real life. Why can’t everybody just mind their own d*mn business?
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 month ago
I'll say this those, the hapless husband mumbling that wasn't necessary? Well guess what, IT WAS indeed necessary to put nosy-numbskull neigh-bums like you and your equally lousy half in your place. I'm happy that OP and family finally had a beautiful blessing after all and with the added bonus of never having to deal with those neigh-bums ever again. SMH!!! -_-"
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