Anyone who has ever attended a wedding knows that shopping for a white dress is not a bright idea unless you want guests to give you the side-eye and rightfully accuse you of trying to upstage the bride. Still, that’s exactly what this mother-of-the-groom did at her son’s nuptials.
In the age of social media, the side-eye extends to thousands of netizens judging your disregard for the newlywed’s special moment.
Recently, New.com.au’s Kidspot shared a group photo posted in a wedding-shaming Facebook group that caught people’s attention.
The photograph showed the groom posing between two women wearing white.
On his left stood the bride, donning an off-the-shoulder wedding gown and clutching a bouquet. To his right stood his mother, wearing a long white gown paired with a cream hat and a corsage.
A photo shared on a wedding-shaming Facebook group shows a groom standing between his bride and his mother, with both women dressed in white
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People were taken aback by the mother’s outfit choice, writing, “I wouldn’t have been calm at all, and she would have had to change. I’d make sure of it somehow.”
“To be honest, this is just humiliating for the mother of the groom,” said another person.
“The cape, the gown, the fascinator… oh my God. It would have been over the top, but fine if in any other color. I hope to be as patient as this bride one day,” a separate member of the group added.
Others were imagining how they would’ve helped out the bride. “No one had a glass of red wine? Call me. I got you.”
People judged the mother-in-law’s white gown as an attempt to steal the bride’s spotlight
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Another group speculated about the wedding having a theme that allowed guests to wear the color typically associated with the bride or a similar shade.
“It’s a very pale champagne. My guess is this was the bride’s theme or requested color. I can’t shame this without knowing for sure this was not something the bride authorized.”
“I only hate this if the bride wasn’t consulted.”
“To be honest, this is just humiliating for the mother of the groom,” someone said
Image credits: Freepik
However, most were skeptical about this theory, noting that the mother-of-the-groom’s gown looked whiter than the bride’s in the picture.
“I’m 99% sure this wasn’t bride-approved as it’s white and the bride’s dress is ever so slightly off-white,” a Facebook user penned.
The tradition of brides wearing white for their big day traces back to Queen Victoria’s 1840 wedding to Prince Albert. The queen opted for that color to show off the detailed Honiton lace produced by the British lace industry, which was floundering at the time.
The long wedding gown has since become synonymous with a nuptial ceremony in Western societies, given the color’s association with purity and innocence.
Before the queen’s marriage to her cousin, brides used to wear different colors for their big day for practical reasons. For instance, they thought it convenient to buy a wedding dress that could be worn again. Or they simply wore the best dress they already owned, no matter the shade.
“Now where did I put that bottle of red wine?” a Facebook user quipped
A white dress, if the bride approves, is just fine. A full wedding dress, whether the bride approves or not, just projects a Jocasta complex.
I wish I could give you a second upvote for actually knowing what a Jocasta complex is!
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If an MIL did that to me, I would have to ask my husband why he doesn't say something to her, like, "Mom, you can't wear that dress. Either change it or leave." If he still allowed it to happen, I'd hand the ring back and announce that there will be no wedding. He and his mother can live happily ever after.
Or, I'd call the OHN Bureau, as in "Oh, HELL NO!" Armed with glasses of red wine and cranberry juice (for àssholes who show up in white dresses), air horns (for those who make and take phone calls during the ceremony), and pocket spotlights (for those who try to cut in on the wedding pictures), they're ready for action.
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Yeah, this is going to be one of THOSE MILs. Not only did she try to upstage the Bride by making her dress 100% white (the top part of the Bride's dress is slightly off white), she is grasping the Groom more than the Bride is. I guess we could give benefit of the doubt she may need to for balance, or something, but I fear that would be too generous.
A white dress, if the bride approves, is just fine. A full wedding dress, whether the bride approves or not, just projects a Jocasta complex.
I wish I could give you a second upvote for actually knowing what a Jocasta complex is!
Load More Replies... If an MIL did that to me, I would have to ask my husband why he doesn't say something to her, like, "Mom, you can't wear that dress. Either change it or leave." If he still allowed it to happen, I'd hand the ring back and announce that there will be no wedding. He and his mother can live happily ever after.
Or, I'd call the OHN Bureau, as in "Oh, HELL NO!" Armed with glasses of red wine and cranberry juice (for àssholes who show up in white dresses), air horns (for those who make and take phone calls during the ceremony), and pocket spotlights (for those who try to cut in on the wedding pictures), they're ready for action.
Load More Replies... Yeah, this is going to be one of THOSE MILs. Not only did she try to upstage the Bride by making her dress 100% white (the top part of the Bride's dress is slightly off white), she is grasping the Groom more than the Bride is. I guess we could give benefit of the doubt she may need to for balance, or something, but I fear that would be too generous.
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