There is an existing stereotype that women are the more jealous gender than men. In fact, some research actually supports that. But at the same time, describing women as jealous beyond any other emotion is damaging to not only their own self-perception but also how others see them as then people tend to take them less seriously and that impacts their lives in various ways. And, well, we can only assume that men definitely do not envy women for being perceived as the more jealous gender. But today, let’s look at what traits of women men are jealous of and the other way around. After all, jealousy is an emotion that every person, no matter their gender, experiences.
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POCKETS! Actual f*****g pockets in pants that hold more than a damn quarter.
What do we want? We want pockets! When do we want them? We want them now!!!!!!!
Doctors tend to take their complaints seriously instead of chalking it up to being dramatic, on their period, or fat.
Not having periods
Slightly related story time (Apparently a TMI warning needs to go here): When I was a kid and my big sister was telling me about periods, we had a good discussion about how normal it was, what was happening, and the ways girls dealt with them. I told my sister about how my period wasn't too bad and was usually only 1 or 2 drops. She explained to me that boys don't have periods, then explained what boys do go through during puberty. I told her she was wrong and boys do bleed too! That was when I showed her my boxers in the laundry basket, and my latest "period". Needless to say, she had mam take me to the doctors. And that was how I found out I was not having a period, but had an a**l fissure.
Not having to put up with near-constant sexual harassment from the age of 13.
Being allowed to express all of their emotions in otherwise completely acceptable and healthy ways. Let me squeal with joy at kittens m**********r
Not having people look at you suspiciously when you take your daughter to the park.
Don't get me wrong-- as a dude I appreciate that it takes incredibly little for me to be considered a "good dad" while for women it takes incredibly little for them to be considered a "bad mom"-- I just wish that I didn't literally have some random b***h go up to my daughter and ask her if she felt safe while I was keeping an eye on her.
I didn't even know what to say... but my daughter did, "my daddy says not to take to weirdos" (we use weirdo and strangers somewhat interchangeably in our home). I bought her ice cream afterwards
Edit: I appreciate the kind words and awards— the judgement isn’t an everyday thing, just something that happens every once in awhile. As some have pointed out, it may not be a gender thing; some people are just a******s. This happened earlier in the week and I’m pretty sure it’s just one of those cliquish park moms who can’t mind their own business. The elementary school mom’s in the area have formed their own Mean Girls clique at the park and I think they’re just trying to make me uncomfortable. Probably gonna get some temporary tattoos put on my face for the next time I go to give them something to really have a moral panic over :D
Maybe I'm missing something... But do most kidnappers/or perverts take the kids to the park??? Why would the lady even think that??? What is wrong with the world!
I don't know if this has been said yet and it will probably get buried however I feel it must be said.
Sensible sizing. When looking at women's clothing it's always a massive guessing game because there is NO standardization. A size 2 in one store is a 4 in another, or a 0 at another, sometimes even in the same brand but at a different store. Don't even get me started in on the fact that they typicall also tend to skip over the odd numbers in ladies' and juniors have the odd numbers only.
No matter what I do or where I go, I ALWAYS fall between the sizes. I always have to buy a size up and then do a bit of altering in hopes to get it to fit.
The diversity of their wardrobe. Don’t get me wrong. I know that women’s fashion is often frustratingly inconvenient and unpractical. That said, I wish men’s clothes can include more than 3 colors and like... 4 styles.
I have a bright AF personality, why can’t I let that show without someone feeling the need to let their opinion on my sexuality be known? I’m a peacock captain, you’ve gotta let me fly!!!
I would love to feel safe going anywhere alone. I think about hiking solo with such a longing... my boyfriend doesn't get it at all, he thinks I'm being silly. It makes me so sad/angry.
Edit: Holy moly, I didn't expect to wake up to this. Thanks for all the awards and solidarity. I want to add that of course men can and do also feel this way, women don't have the market cornered on the fear of something terrible happening when going out alone. And, where you go is also a huge factor- if you're in a sketchy place, both men and women are going to be nervous, of course.. but I've had the fact that I cannot do things solo (no matter where I am) crammed into my head all my life, and when I doubted that fact.. something really bad actually happened. I'd rather not tempt fate at this point.
I know that if I went on a hike solo, there is a very good chance nothing would happen, however I would not enjoy my time in the woods anyway. The fear of what could happen overshadows any enjoyment I might get. I've taken self defense classes, but even still, I'm the type of person that will "freeze" instead of fight or flee. I don't want a gun either, I don't want that kind of power in my hands or in my house.
My comment was not made to be a contest between women and men. I made it because all I would like to do is feel safe alone, and it makes me sad that I will most likely *never in my lifetime* feel safe being by myself in a host of different scenarios. I have many guy friends that are confident when they go out somewhere, they don't believe anything bad will happen, and that's all I want. The confidence and peace of mind that no one is going to hurt me. That's it.
It's sad that OP had so many explanations because of the "boohoo, men get attacked, too" brigade. Maybe they do, but most of them don't seem to worry about it (or at least those who complain about women mentioning it). Which just means that they are stupid and not aware of dangers. Whose fault is that?
Not worrying about appearing creepy, or scaring people while just walking home at night.
Edit: My phone is at 1%, so I gotta make this quick but ty so much for the gold. Never had anything upvoted this much!
A tip a girl friend gave me: If your out at night and think you might be appearing creepy or scary to nearby women, just call your mum or your girlfriend. It's hard to appear intimidating when your talking like you do to someone you love.
That's great advice! It doesn't involve even talking to the person who appears afraid or approaching them but would help a lot for setting up a better passive vibe.
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I’ll offer some advice for my fellow guys: you’re not going to appear as threatening at night if you wear brighter colors or reflective clothing. And if you make sure your face is easily visible, it means you can be identified - which is the opposite of what creeps want. Plus, in the event of a false allegation (which sadly happens), you’ll be able to corroborate your story with security cameras, witnesses, etc. Or if you’re lucky enough to have a service animal you can take places, it’s less threatening because it’s a cute doggy (usually) and I have my hands full making sure my buddy doesn’t leave packages behind as we walk..
It's funny, women feel unsafe because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly. Also, decent men worry about making women uncomfortable because a not insignificant amount of men behave badly.
Don't be one of those snobby people who clutch their purse or hurriedly lock their car door when a "poor" person walks by. There is no such thing as a "wrong neighborhood" any neighborhood is someone's home. Guys, if you're walking down a sidewalk and a woman is walking solo a head of you, don't just lurk behind her. Say something about the weather to break the tension, a neutral topic, offer to walk a head instead of behind. Ladies, most men aren't monsters. Give a strange guy the chance to be a hero for even a few seconds and they will usually jump at the chance. We were always taught not to talk to strangers, but speaking establishes a human connection.
My father once told me he feels awkward sitting next to a woman (provided it's not Mum or a relative) on the bus for that reason.
Don't detract. Sure women face far worse problems related to walking at night, but men and women have a common enemy affecting us both in different ways.
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Being able to go shirtless, not in most businesses obviously, but like outside or swimming etc
ETA: I didn't realize it's technically legal where I live. However that conflicts with indecent exposure laws:
https://www.findlaw.com/state/new-york-law/new-york-indecent-exposure-laws.html
Also people would stare, be creepy, freak out, etc
Most leaders are probably your gender, just like most heroes in stories and movies as you grow up, most businessmen, most inventors, most politicians etc. Plus there's also the phsysical strength, no periods, rarely if at all being bothered by random creepy perverts, people comment less on your body.
I absolutely fume when men say women can’t handle leadership roles, and when you tell them women can be natural leaders just like men, they then start asking “OK, then name me some women in leadership roles throughout history”. Well fuckface, whose fault is it that they are so few? You a*****e men did your best to block women from even being educated, much less learn any of the skills that would help them be independent for so many centuries. Hell, it’s barely even been 30 years since we couldn’t have a checking account in our own names, or take out a mortgage or any other kind of loan by ourselves. Then when things really started changing in the seventies and eighties, you made sure to relegate us to menial, non-promotion type jobs, thereby blocking us from even being in the running for a promotion. Remember hearing about the “Glass Ceiling”? That f****r exists, that glass is think, and it’s only just starting to crack. That’s why it’s only NOW that we’re finally seeing some women being given equal chances at rising in the ranks to even become leaders—-and proving they’re as good or even better than men at it. Give it another 50 years, and the list of women who are leaders will grow and maybe even surpass the list of men who are leaders.
Guys don’t have to deal with the side effects of birth control (or just birth control in general).
The weight gain, hormonal issues, and other side effects can be a nightmare, especially if you’re just starting and trying to find what’s best for you.
I hate condoms, but I use them because the wife didn't like taking the pill. I offered to get "fixed" but she doesn't want me to. We need that male pill!
Men can't/don't get pregnant
I find it kind of funny this could reasonably be said by either sex and still apply to this list
Generally speaking, having people take your problems seriously and being able to safely express that you’re having them rather than being told to “man up” and just deal with it. You’d be shocked and horrified what kind of stuff men just shove in a box and mentally lock away and keep going like nothing is wrong.
Again, generally speaking. I recognize there’s a lot of women with a lot of problems, but people are generally more open to listening to them and taking it seriously, in my experience.
Even as women we get told to calm down and stop overreacting, it's not a real problem, are you on your period? Men have it worse in some ways, women have it worse in others. I wish people would just listen, no matter the gender, and stop using social stereotypes to box them in and ignore them
Not having to shave everywhere 😫
Yea.... I only shave now when it's summer and I want to have hairless legs on the beach. Other than that my husband deals with my Italian hairiness lmao 🤣 honestly most people could care less and the ones that do are not the kind of people I care to be around anyway. Once I hit 30 I realized I don't actually have to torture my skin every 2 days
Being physically stronger and higher stamina. I really like to work but is always told that I can’t handle it
Actually stamina is not something that men naturally have more of. For the "factory standard" human, men do have more natural strength, but (physical) stamina is the same. Also, women can improve their stamina faster than men.
Unsolicited hugs, cuddling without romance
The school dress code…specifically shoulders
The physical contact they share with their friends. Guys usually don't go around hugging each other
Edit: Personally for me a lot of why I'm not really a hugger is the culture where I live(Finland). I don't really want to make other people uncomfortable by invading their personal space. I have a lot of female friends as well and hugging them is pretty rare too
Thank you for all the encouragement though! Maybe I have to make a change
They don't have to waste a year of their lives serving in the military in my country.
I get the feeling that many people in my country could benefit from a year of military service. Admittedly I could also probably use the experience.
They can cry during movies or TV shows and not get thought less of or made fun of.
Seriously, I get choked up at stupid stuff and have to try to hide it. Need to try to limit it to one manly tear.
Getting compliments.
I’m one of the fortunate ones who at least gets smiled at by women, but I still never get compliments.
Tbf, it can sometimes be difficult to give a man a compliment. Hear me out...I like to compliment people regardless of gender, but sometimes you can tell a guy "that's a great color on you" and what they hear is "I want you to relentlessly hit on me." Not always, and clearly not every guy, but it happens enough that it can be off-putting. I'll still compliment anyone because sometimes it can make a person feel good when they are appreciated in some form, but yeah, it's cuz some guys are creepy. Sorry, and you look lovely today!
Not having to be conscious about who your walking behind, the distance you are from somebody or the way your walking to appear "less threatening"
let me clarify I hate both sides of this before I get ratioed 10 years into the future, both the fact that I have to be aware of it and that its a thing that women generally have to be on the look out so much, its a s****y world and I have to try and not take it personally but it does still hurt
I would say being pretty. Men are not considered pretty and people don't compliment us so we live our whole lives being un-appreciated in that way. This is just a generalization, but I'd say most men like me simply don't get complimented and are not considered inherently valuable unless we do or accomplish some great thing.
Pretty clothes pretty everything
Pretty, maybe. But not always comfortable. Or even substantial—-meaning made of thin material to the point it’s pretty much see through. Then there’s the issue of plunging necklines, cutouts, shortness, tightness, coverage, etc, etc, etc. That s**t is incredibly uncomfortable. Then there are the unwanted eyes on you and words coming out of filthy unfiltered mouths. Why do you think so many of us prefer to wear loose and comfortable clothes, even if they are rather shapeless?
Being able to locate items in the refrigerator
I can't believe body autonomy is not on this list, and at the top as well. When your male doctor/gynaecologist says don't do this/that/the other, because you're a young woman and you can't possibly know your own mind.
GOD we took my dad down to the local lakefront hangout my parents and I both did antics at in our time. He's older so he smugly went 'You know I can't make it back to the house' and got to have a moment with nature by peeing between the boulders. Gave him s**t about 'oh you didn't hit your cane did you' and he got defensive about his aim. In reality, mom and I were spending the time waiting for him sulking about how jealous we were. That s**t gave him some kind of spiritual boost for DAYS.
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I wish I could just whip it out and pee behind a tree sometimes. Also the last 10 did not show up, so sorry for repeating, but how men's pants are sized in inches and always accurate.
And have leg/waist sizes. It's extremely hard to find short pants for women
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Men can also wear skirts, the problem is that it's difficult to find women's clothing that fits amab people. (I haven't looked for many skirts but I know it is difficult to find tops and I assume it is similar for skirts)
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I can't believe body autonomy is not on this list, and at the top as well. When your male doctor/gynaecologist says don't do this/that/the other, because you're a young woman and you can't possibly know your own mind.
GOD we took my dad down to the local lakefront hangout my parents and I both did antics at in our time. He's older so he smugly went 'You know I can't make it back to the house' and got to have a moment with nature by peeing between the boulders. Gave him s**t about 'oh you didn't hit your cane did you' and he got defensive about his aim. In reality, mom and I were spending the time waiting for him sulking about how jealous we were. That s**t gave him some kind of spiritual boost for DAYS.
Load More Replies... I wish I could just whip it out and pee behind a tree sometimes. Also the last 10 did not show up, so sorry for repeating, but how men's pants are sized in inches and always accurate.
And have leg/waist sizes. It's extremely hard to find short pants for women
Load More Replies... Men can also wear skirts, the problem is that it's difficult to find women's clothing that fits amab people. (I haven't looked for many skirts but I know it is difficult to find tops and I assume it is similar for skirts)
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