“Stuck At The Emotional Maturity Level Of 25 Years Old”: Man Has A Revelation On Why Some Guys Only Date Much Younger Women, Many Internet Users Agree
Recently, a comedian and radio DJ named Gary Thompson, from Tulsa, Oklahoma, shared a video on his TikTok channel that became an instant hit on social media.
The video captioned “Middle-Aged Men Dating Twenty-Something Women” shows Thompson explaining to his viewers the reasons why 45-year-old men like himself date women in their 20s in a brutally honest way.
While Thompson’s arguments are probably not something these men would want to hear, people on the internet found them very illuminating. The video has since amassed 527.4k views and received tons of comments from people who saw the topic as not just relevant but hitting close to home.
Radio DJ Gary Thompson from Oklahoma is going viral for debunking age-gap romances in this brutally honest video
Thompson says he figured out why men his age date 20-something women
“You know, I’m not gonna make friends with a lot of guys who are 45-50 years old right now with this TikTok who are dating women in their 20s, okay, because I think I figured out why we do it. At age 45, a guy my age dating a woman who’s 25 might be because I’m stuck as a man at the emotional maturity level of that 25-year-old woman. There’s nothing wrong with her being emotionally 25 if she is 25. There’s a real problem with me being emotionally 25.”
He argues that women expect that a man’s age matches his maturity level
“If I’m 45, walking around with silver in my beard and in my hair, with my nice car, with my established job, I look like a safe place for that 25-year-old woman. She wants a guy who’s going to treat her maturely and fairly. And so she gets into the relationship with a guy who’s 45 thinking he’s going to treat her differently than that guy who’s 23 years old. No, it’s a bait and switch and it hurts worse than being hurt by a 23-year-old. Because you’re 43, 44, 45 and you still haven’t healed that wound as a man that you got when you were 23 when you came out of your first relationship.”
Thompson encourages men to heal themselves first
“Here’s to stopping using women who are in their 20s as emotional scratching posts, guys. Instead of dating those women, get into therapy and actually become that emotionally secure, emotionally available man. And then if you still want to date somebody who’s 25, you can do that and actually give emotionally what you’re advertising with the silver in your beard. Or just date somebody your own age.”
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The viral video has been watched 528k times and sparked a discussion online
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And this is what people thought of it
Wow... that's a first. All of these commenters saying that guys in their 40s are "emotionally unstable" while women in their mid 20s "don't know any better" somehow manage to be sexist towards both sexes at once.
It's not sexist to say women don't know any better because they are inexperienced, that is just due to their age. And any man dating a person more than 10 years younger than him is sketch, a man dating someone half their age is disgusting.
Load More Replies... Everyone is different and and I don't really like the way this guy tries to suggest that all men and women in these relationships are looking for the same thing. That said, younger people sometimes simply lack the life experience to be able to judge when they're being used and I think it's for that reason that family and friends are often a bit weary when someone is in a relationship with a large age gap. If both sides are happy and know what they're getting into, I don't see the problem. But if my daughter had dated a 40 year old when she was 20, I'd have also been keeping a close eye.
My brother is 45 and his girlfriend is 20 years younger. They're both very aware that there's a huge age-gap. But they moved in together and both have secure jobs and they are HAPPY! What is wrong with being happy? He knew her a few years before they dated (both had prior relationships) and now they're a couple and of all the gf my brother had, I think she's the one that fits best to his character. Not saying the others were not nice - they were. But they just didn't *fit*. Obviously, if he were 30 and she 10, that's obviously wrong. But she's an adult and mentally mature and a strong character. they knew each other for a long time before and before moving in, they were both dating for a few years. So what is wrong there? If he's happy and she's happy and both are adults... where's the f*****g harm? Stop being so judgemental about other people's love-life! As long as nobody gets hurt or is seriously unhappy, what do we effing care?
Your statement is an exception to the rule. It works sometimes but mostly the kind of age gap is not healthy and people are getting hurt.
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Wow... that's a first. All of these commenters saying that guys in their 40s are "emotionally unstable" while women in their mid 20s "don't know any better" somehow manage to be sexist towards both sexes at once.
It's not sexist to say women don't know any better because they are inexperienced, that is just due to their age. And any man dating a person more than 10 years younger than him is sketch, a man dating someone half their age is disgusting.
Load More Replies... Everyone is different and and I don't really like the way this guy tries to suggest that all men and women in these relationships are looking for the same thing. That said, younger people sometimes simply lack the life experience to be able to judge when they're being used and I think it's for that reason that family and friends are often a bit weary when someone is in a relationship with a large age gap. If both sides are happy and know what they're getting into, I don't see the problem. But if my daughter had dated a 40 year old when she was 20, I'd have also been keeping a close eye.
My brother is 45 and his girlfriend is 20 years younger. They're both very aware that there's a huge age-gap. But they moved in together and both have secure jobs and they are HAPPY! What is wrong with being happy? He knew her a few years before they dated (both had prior relationships) and now they're a couple and of all the gf my brother had, I think she's the one that fits best to his character. Not saying the others were not nice - they were. But they just didn't *fit*. Obviously, if he were 30 and she 10, that's obviously wrong. But she's an adult and mentally mature and a strong character. they knew each other for a long time before and before moving in, they were both dating for a few years. So what is wrong there? If he's happy and she's happy and both are adults... where's the f*****g harm? Stop being so judgemental about other people's love-life! As long as nobody gets hurt or is seriously unhappy, what do we effing care?
Your statement is an exception to the rule. It works sometimes but mostly the kind of age gap is not healthy and people are getting hurt.
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