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30 Women Anonymously Ask Men Their Most Blunt Questions And Get Unfiltered Answers
Interview With Expert
There are things you just don’t ask over dinner. But online? Anything goes.
Women of Reddit took full advantage of this, dropping the spiciest, most awkward, and boldly honest questions they’d been dying to ask men. And with no names attached, they got unfiltered answers from those ready to spill the truth.
Check out some of the most eye-opening ones below, and don’t miss our conversation with love and relationship coach Jessica Elizabeth Opert on how women can build confidence in their dating lives.
This post may include affiliate links.
#1
I know it’s the trend to have big lips, but do you think thin lips are attractive. Thoughts on lips with filler vs naturally thin lips.
Raspberries2: I think big lips from injections look deformed.
[deleted]: Natural is ALWAYS best. Nails. Eyelashes. Bewbs. Everything.
NinjaDi**khead: Thin or big lips are both good. I prefer thin lips rather than unnatural big lips (they just move weird, and it's very noticeable despite what your surgeon told you).
James016 10 months ago
Natural for the win. Fillers just look like you have run face first into a wall like a cartoon character.
Sam Lombardo 10 months ago
Be natural girls. If u r fake, you just get attention from fake guys.
keyboardtek 10 months ago
And natural scent too. Most guys I know find perfume nauseating and prefer just the natural scent of a woman.
Scott Rackley 10 months ago
Unless they're full of filler, it's all good. If they are, that's gross looking. And yes, it's easy to tell.
Silberwolf 10 months ago
Everything unnatural looks gross in 95 % of the time. Big artificial lips look like that person had a gruesome car accident without an airbag and the surgeon just tried the best to reconstruct the face.
Kendall Walls 10 months ago
God gave (most of) us the features He felt would be most appropriate/attractive. All the photos on soc. med. of chicks with bloated features (of whatever type) are just saaad. Learn to be happy with the skin you're in.
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#2
If the girl makes the first move, does it turns you off or not?
actuallyanicehuman: Having a girl who owns her power is hot. Definitely sexy.
VersedFlame: If a girl made a first move on me I'd probably be stunned for the entirety of that day and only thinking about her.
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
I still think about my first date with my most recent ex (recent being a relative term, I've been single for a long time). Its important to note that I am pretty tall, and she was on the shorter side, being almost a full foot shorter than me. At the end of the night, we were about to part. I thought the date went well enough, and I was trying to judge if she would be comfortable with a good night hug, or if I should just wish her good evening and leave. Instead, she reached up, literally grabbed my by the shirt and pulled me down to kiss me. Best ending to a first date I've ever had. It was one of the few times in my life I actually felt wanted.
Alex Pope 6 months ago
It sound like she was rewlly interested. And good start to a relationship. What made her an ex?
Load More Replies... Bored Sailor 10 months ago
If a guy seems the least bit interested in you and you are interested in them, make that move. Most of us are to shy or afraid of being shot down again we hesitate and do not take hints well.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
I've had several pursue me and if they didn't we wouldn't have hooked up and/or gotten together because of my crippling fear of rejection. So, being pursued by women or having them being direct is always appreciated.
Edda Kamphues 10 months ago
I made the first move with my partner and we have been inseparable ever since. I think he was relieved I did.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Absolutely not. Clear, open communication of intent is not only sensible, it's hot!
Steven Meyer 10 months ago (edited)
It depends what the first move was, but if the first move was her knocking me to the ground and ripping my clothes off and screwing my brains out… I'd say that's a plus! On the other hand if the first move is recombing my hair and adjusting my clothes I'd say she's a goner.
#3
If married , do you find it easy to stay faithful? If single, would you give up multiple partners for one woman forever?
Fencius: Married ten years next July. It’s not hard to stay faithful, and if anything it’s gotten easier over time. My life with my wife is too important to s***w around with.
IJourden: Married, and it’s easy to stay faithful.
If someone is struggling with it there could be a lot of reasons:
the relationship is in bad shape/lacks intimacy and validation
a pathological problem, like low self esteem, narcissism, self destructive, compulsive or risk taking behavior.
not valuing the relationship or trying to wreck it
not being in the right kind of relationship dynamic, such as being monogamous when they would prefer polyamory
But yeah… If you’re honest with yourself, honest with your partner, and in a healthy relationship with good communication, being faithful to the dynamics of the relationship is not difficult.
James016 10 months ago
It is easy to stay faithful. The people I’ve know who have cheated have done so because they are selfish. No one is forced to cheat.
Ms.GB 10 months ago
Yes, married 8 years but have been a couple a lot longer and it's never been difficult to not cheat.
Load More Replies... Barong 10 months ago (edited)
For me being married changed my relationship from something I saw as great to something more. It was still great but added a sense of permanence that I felt reassuring. I would never do something to mess this up for some fling or think there’s a better relationship out there for me. Sure having someone new interested in you is a great feeling but so is waking up everyday morning and enjoying life from the mundane day to day moments, the excitingly wonderful moments, to terrible moments with a spouse you deeply love. We don’t hide anything. My wife has access to my computers, phones, and we talk about everything and anything. I am honest with people I meet and talk about my marriage and wouldn’t hide my relationship in an attempt to keep a potential interest by someone else going as a game or “backup”. I don’t put myself in situations where myself or others could develop feelings for one another.
Angelshark 10 months ago
Only been married seven years myself, but I've had no issues with faithfulness so far. I appreciate my wife and my life with her too much to throw it aside just to re-enter the septic dating pool again. Ugh.
Kat 8 months ago
My husband & I have been married for 30 years. When I became ill, I actually told him that he deserved to be happy & not have a life full of difficulties due to me being sick. I told him I'd understand if he wanted to leave. He reminded me of our wedding vows, told me he knew exactly what he was promising & that he could never be happier than he is sharing his life with me. We've had conversations about cheating (we had a friend that cheated & blew up his marriage). My husband said he could never imagine how a man can actually stand in front of another woman & not think about his wife, his family, and the hurt he would cause all of them to do something so foolish.
SillySparklyGirl 4 months ago
Sounds like you have a wonderful life partner. Praying for your health and that the 2 of you have many, MANY more years together making memories. 🩷
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Lost Panda 10 months ago
Married 14 years, only ever been with my wife. Do I view the stock? Sometimes. Will I take a test drive? Never have, never will
Sven Horlemann 10 months ago
Yes. Because my wife is my life partner. 34 years married and going strong.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
If you have a moral code, it's easy to stay faithful. People that cheat, know they're cheaters and it boggles the mind why they would even bother getting into a relationship and when they make laughable excuses, it just adds to it.
Philly Bob 10 months ago
I have a hard enough time with one woman let alone 2 or more! (The wife and I are 28 years.)
Apachebathmat 10 months ago
I’m married and can honestly say (sorry to be sickly) there isn’t another man on this planet that I could ever love more than my husband. We’ve been married so long, I think jesus was one of our guests, so now the kids have flown the nest, it’s just us and we love it, we love our own company.
Women today have more freedom in dating than ever before. That doesn’t mean the challenges or lingering biases have disappeared, but if they choose to openly pursue someone, they’re unlikely to draw shocked stares. Still, research shows that just because they can, doesn’t mean they do.
A survey by Match.com found that most single men actually prefer when women take the initiative—95% are in favor of women making the first move for a kiss, 93% want them to initiate sex, and 95% appreciate it when a woman asks for their number. Yet in reality, only 29% of women go for the first kiss, just 23% initiate sex, and only 13% ask for a man's number.
If men are so enthusiastic, why aren’t more women stepping up? Love and relationship coach Jessica Elizabeth Opert shared her thoughts with Bored Panda:
“Both men and women in today’s dating scene are experiencing lower levels of resilience to rejection,” she explained. “Dating is seen as a high-stakes, risky business, and of course, heartbreak is a terrible experience. However, we have become so focused on that possibly distressing eventual outcome that even the first message on a dating app is treated with the same caution.”
#4
Does a girl burping, farting, snorting etc really not bother you? A lot of guys say they don't but I know some who do.
Omg_a_wee_todd: Nope, I've been with my G/F for 2 years now and every morning we cut an air biscuit and fist bump the other person. However... We have a mutual understanding no heads will be forced under the covers... She doesn't have my Reddit account so I can say this, I cannot wait to propose in March!
Update!: There were a few things that came up (hence the wait), but she said yes! Also, I should clarify it's most mornings we both fart, at least one of us, but not always both. Hope y'all find the same happiness I have.
TheeFryingDutchman: Nope. It's a sign that you are comfortable enough around me. So I always love it when a girl just let's it fly.
Don Adams 10 months ago
Not at all. We are humans, we all belch, fart and snort. Why can I, as a man, take pride in an extra loud burp or a. Impressive fart, and expect my girlfriend/partner/wife to not also have these natural body functions? As long as we can smile and laugh, and use the obligatory excuse me, all is good.
Angelshark 10 months ago
I don't get these pearl-clutchers that call themselves "manly" yet throw a hissyfit because a woman did something every other human does.
DrBronxx 10 months ago
Not even a little bit. My wife and I say "nice" when we hear the other person fart. However, we've tried to stop now that we have a child.
DrBronxx 10 months ago
To be clear - we've tried to stop saying "nice". No way we're stopping farting.
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Lost Panda 10 months ago
Been married to my wife for 14 years. I tell her not to worry about it, because it's biology... She still would rather live in discomfort. I think this is more a women thing than an actual guy thing...
Carrie B 10 months ago
I've been with my husband for 15 years (happily) and neither of us intentionally fart in each other's company. I don't know why, and when it's accidental, it's funny. We're weird I guess.
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 6 months ago
I've always farted away and don't give a D**n. It's a completely normal bodily function 😂 that at 52 i am still easily amused by 😂😂
#5
Do you have an urge to moan during sexual activity and hold it back due to some societal bs (or some other reason) or do you just not get that urge as much as women? Stereotyping vs legitimate differences
Edit: the Vibe I'm getting from this is there's no one answer to this and every man is different. Well no duh. That's a great discovery.
But now I'm wondering how many women do it out of urge vs for the benefit of their partner. Sensing a theme here.
MrDownhillRacer: I don't get the urge to moan at all. I pretty much have to remind myself to make sounds because I've read all that "women like it when you make sounds" stuff. I don't know how believable I'm being.
Wagemage314: I was silent for many years. Wife said she wanted feedback. Turns out, Primal Growls are what I was suppressing. Deep and guttural. Bear like. She likes.
Lost Panda 10 months ago
Silence... I have no urge to make any noise. I do, but like the one above said it's for her not me
Wm Wherry 9 months ago
I do because it feels so good and she helps it along by doing what she does so good. She also makes Mones and noises. I think it's gratifying to your partner that you are doing so good.
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Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
I see no need to hold back within reason. If I am suppressing then i am not sharing all of me...
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Don't fake it. Social media sickness already plagues so many people and they're so easily manipulated that it's reached the point of just being sad. It doesn't even help anyone in the long run, if your man isn't pleasing you, making him think he is is just making it worse for you. If you moan, moan. If you don't, don't. It's simple
Daniel Topping 7 months ago
pushed or fake moanage is a sensual turn-off for me. natural is ok and an important feedback.
#6
I’m very self conscious of being naked with a guy for the first time, I have a very large scar in one of my breasts from when I had a lump removed like two years ago. Do guys care about that sort of thing? I am trying to make the scar look nicer but it’s hard to make it go away completely and I’m worried that it might turn some guys off, especially considering I really like having my b**bs played with or like sucked on. Sorry if TMI 😭.
NinjasVenom: I don’t. Scars tell someone’s story and how they are there and if you are scared of showing people the scar and you showed me the scar while being naked I’d feel honored that you trusted me that much with your body.
M-F-W: I dated a woman with breast reduction surgery who was really self-conscious about the scars. They weren’t particularly noticeable but could definitely tell when I was uhhh all up in her business, so to speak.
I did appreciate her letting me know that she was self conscious and she appreciated me being gentle in return. By the end of our relationship, I’d kiss the scars as foreplay and stuff (that was over the course of a couple years and was very much consensual, I wouldn’t just jump straight to scar-play lol).
TLDR: You’re good. We’re all self-conscious about something. You can tell your partner you’re self conscious ahead of time and their response will actually tell you plenty. Someone one who isn’t mindful/respectful of that isn’t worth your time, in bed or in romance.
elmortero 10 months ago
Also, and being quite direct about it here, once the clothes come off there is very little that will make us throw the emergency brakes ..
Angelshark 10 months ago
I dated a woman who had a huge scar down the center of her torso, collarbone to belly button almost. It was from a lifesaving surgery she'd had when she was younger. I thought it was badass looking.
Bored Sailor 10 months ago
Most of us are very much not into the overall perfectionism or even slightly care that much of looks, if we are interested in you and get to that point everything else really does not matter.
Sven Horlemann 10 months ago
You are who you are. If someone does not like that, he clearly needs someone else.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
Scars make someone perfectly who they are. I have two pretty bad ones on my torso with a bunch of little ones sprinkle around my body. The big ones are an eyesore but no one I've been with have been bothered by them, as far as I know. And I'm the same. That doesn't mean that people can't be bothered by them, as you're attracted to what you're attracted to. But, for me, unless they were particularly bad I wouldn't have an issue. But even then, I think headsup would be all I would need.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
This is different for different people. Own what you have. If you show your insecurity, he will see it and if he has to spend all his time coddling you for it, he'll lose interest and feel like he has to walk on egg shells or intentionally avoid whatever it is.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago
Everyone outside of morn povies has "imperfections" when it comes to appearence, things like scars are often not even seen as such
Feelings of rejection or even shame, especially for women, can persist through many stages of a relationship—particularly when intimacy comes into play. As a result, they may hold back from expressing their true feelings, avoid voicing concerns, or hesitate to communicate when sex isn’t enjoyable.
Studies show that anywhere from 15.2% to 50.4% of women aren’t satisfied with their sex lives. Only 36% have never faked an orgasm, and sexual dissatisfaction is cited as a factor in 50% of divorces. In fact, women consistently report lower sexual satisfaction compared to men.
“Our society has told, and often still tells, women that our sexual pleasure and veracity are shameful,” said Opert. “This is reaffirmed by politics that directly tell us even our bodies, and the decisions we will ultimately carry the largest responsibility for, are not ours to make.”
#7
If I thought you were hot and I wanted to approach you, what would be the best way to go about it?! I like want to meet more men, but idk how to approach them.
NinjaD**khead: When I was 14, a girl passing by raised her head and said "you are very handsome". I am 40 now, and I still remember what I was wearing, how she looked like, how her friends looked like... that's how unusual it is for us.
So yeah, be straight forward, but not too blunt, because we might think it's a joke.
Come talk to us, that's all it takes.
Fulminero: We CANNOT, I repeat CANNOT get "hints".
"Hey, I think you're attractive, wanna chat?"
DizzyNerd: Unless he’s the guy who thinks he’s gods gift to women, he likely doesn’t know someone is into him. We’re naïve and society has taught us to be somehow. So many guys I know had no idea. He may be secretly hoping but is internally freaking out and doesn’t wanna s***w it up.
Say hi. Get to know him. If it’s worth it after that, say something if he doesn’t make it obvious first.
James016 10 months ago
Just be direct. Subtle hints don’t work. In fact hinting in general does not work. We are oblivious to such things
Adam Benson 10 months ago
Agree. Raising an eyebrow, smiling slightly and giving a quizzical look while subtley pointing North-West might be very obvious to her but I'll have no idea what she's doing.
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Anonymouse 10 months ago
Cannot confirm enough how clueless we men are... Came home from work, told my wife proudly about a lady who told me, "you love your wife, so much! You probably wouldn't be open to fooling around" My wife told me, "yeah, she was hitting on you!" I had no clue. unless you hear a direct, "not interested", they probably did not pick up on it.
Data1001 10 months ago
So much this! And if you're too shy to approach a guy, smiling at him and/or staring at him will often work wonders. But yes, nearly all dudes are clueless, and so a direct approach is great. Doesn't have to be terribly bold -- even just a simple compliment to break the ice will usually open things up.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Don't beat around the bush. Don't be subtle. Most men now don't even know if you're just being nice or if you're into them because women on social media have been loud about creepiness, age gaps and everything else. Be honest and direct
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
As men, we are simple. If a woman comes on to us, it is like winning the lottery and one hell of a confidence boost.
Apachebathmat 10 months ago
If I want to get my husbands attention, I just flash my boobs… he knows what time it is
briandes.mond@yahoo.ie 7 months ago
Feelings of rejection for women....well women need to be much more sensitive to mens feelings here and nor be so brutally quick to reject us
#8
How often are unwanted public boners an actual issue?
HyperWolfe: As a young teenager in school they were annoying, 99 percent of the time you aren't even turned on, like a light breeze could go past the front of your pants and it was an instant b***r, now as an adult you don't get them very often and by now you know multiple ways of hiding them. In a weird way I almost miss getting random boners
candyflip93: You learn how to deal with it by aging, so not that often anymore. It used to be really funny, taking the bus and miss your station bcz you're waiting for your stiffy ti f**k off.
JosephFDawson: There are 3 kinds of elections
some are sexual.
some occur during periods of nervous tension.
and there's mysterious 3rd kind that no one really understands. It happens when your schlong decides to take matters into its own hands. No reason b***r.
Calvin Smelliott 10 months ago
Seriously, sometimes it’s like, “What do you want? All I did was make a sandwich.”
Angelshark 10 months ago
Protip: If a guy falls and gets a boner, don't move him or let him move. He might have a spinal injury.
Richienotsorich 10 months ago
Hey teachers...when a teenage boy says he doesn't want to stand up to read in class, don't give him a detention yeah!
James Blanken 10 months ago
Men typically get erections when they are in a relaxed and/or comfortable state. That's why we get so many at night in bed. I got my fair share my first class in college. It was an early class. A lot of times I'd get to my desk, get into a half comfortable position, find myself in between sleep and awake and then HELLO!
Lost Panda 10 months ago
Could also be a bathroom reminder. Have to go, now it got hard, really have to go, it's gone down again.... uh oh RUN
Marie BellaDonna 10 months ago
Lol like my husband in the mornings. "It's only cause I have to pee. It'll go away when I pee." 😂😭😂
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Tom De Paul 7 months ago
And then there are those disastrous elections where Trump wins. Sorry. Not sorry.
#9
Can you actually feel us clenching around the d**k?
BlademasterFlash: And it feels amazing
arothmanmusic: Depends on the girl and her kegels. I once dated a girl who could literally prevent me from pulling out if she wanted to.
jakeb71097: Yes one of my exes and I were in bed for the first time and I got her to climax and it took me by surprise the amount of power she had in that muscle
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
I am not a well hung man and yes even I can feel it. Kegle exercises will make it even more pronounced.
Ralph Vanloton 10 months ago
Women who ride horses on a regular basis have amazing musculature.
So it’s no surprise that for many women, the safest place to ask men honest and unfiltered questions—without fear of judgment—is anonymously online.
However, avoiding difficult conversations doesn’t prevent heartbreak; it only postpones it. If we never speak up about what bothers us or share what we truly want, we end up settling for less.
And if someone rejects us, that’s not a failure—it’s just proof they weren’t the right person. After all, why invest time in someone who doesn’t care about our pleasure, interests, or needs?
“My entire coaching ethos is about empowering women to be in the driver’s seat of their romantic lives,” said Opert. With her clients, she helps them recognize that they are just as worthy of choosing as they are of being chosen. “If we have the mindset of ‘What will they like about me?’ instead of ‘What do I actually like about this person I’m on a date with?’ it places women in a powerless position.”
But you do have power. Taking control of your love life starts with how you see yourself. So next time you go on a date, try changing your perspective—focus on what you want. And if you’re struggling, consider talking to a professional. Just don’t sell yourself short.
#10
How do I tell if a guy is being genuine? Sometimes I feel like men just tell me what I want to hear in order to sleep with me and will fake literally everything including the stuff they like. I need help with figuring out what their intentions are especially if they are not being honest.
[deleted]: My suggestion is to first ask them about what things they like. Not only are you learning about their interests as I hope they are learning yours, but you are also learning how they emote when talking about something they have real feelings about.
Ditto for asking about things they dislike or hate.
I'm an autistic male and gauging genuine-ness is hard for me. And what I learn about one person never seems to translate into a general skill I can apply to others.
I've learned to deliberately invoke something I know they will be genuine about first and then compare subsequent interactions to that.
McRibEater: Watch out for guys who say all the right things. The biggest players I know are also the ones who really put it on early. Most guys who really like you are nervous to start off like you are.
RavenousIron: I'm gonna keep it a buck with you. If you are meeting most guys on dating apps, 90% of them are strictly looking to get laid. They will tell you every trick in the book to get this done, and yes that means playing the genuine card. I'd suggest being up front with guys that you meet and telling them that you are looking for something more serious. That is usually a good way to see if they just want a quick f**k or actually want to put in the work.
Alex Bailey 10 months ago
I thought so too, best I've read in a long while.
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MeMosabe 10 months ago
Yes, ladies, watch for the nervous\shy guys. If he's really confident, cocky, sure of himself, then he may be just acting that way to manipulate you. But, if the guy is genuinely stand-offish, hesitant, nervous, or otherwise entirely human, it's likely genuine, since most people don't want to come across that way. And true humility is important and can't be faked.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Taking the time to talk and communicate is key. Do not rush. A man who is actually into you will enjoy the ride that is getting to know you on a deeper level.
Patrick H 10 months ago (edited)
Unless you're also just looking for a hookup, I suggest taking sex off the table until you've been dating regularly for a little while. Kissing and milder stuff is fine, but wait on the sex. I would assume that most guys that are being fake just to get laid are probably not patient enough for the long-con. If they are, then at least you've had more time to try to feel them out. I think dating apps are fine, especially for people like me that don't go out to places, but the sex timer shouldn't start until after your first in-person meeting.
Marnye Lockwood 10 months ago
Also note, obtaining sex through deception means it’s not consensual ie not ok and potentially not legal…
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
If you have expectations other than just getting off from casual sex, you're doing it wrong. For most men, that's just like ordering a coffee from Starbucks. Your personality coincides heavily with this. If you come off as a "queen" or indicate that your "stuff" is better than anyone else's, he'll see it as knocking you down a peg and you probably won't hear from him again. Be down to earth and the more attentive he is to your body, the more interested he is. If you swap licks and then he pounds it for 2 minutes, that's your answer.
Steven Meyer 10 months ago
You should never sleep with a person on the very first date, you have to have a little bit of time to get to know the person. See what you have in common, likes and dislikes, and if the person is really into you, they won't try to get you in the sack right away because they too, want to learn about you.The standard is three dates, by the time you have three dates with a guy or a girl, you know enough about them to see whether or not they are worth taking a chance for.
#11
Do guys really care if a chick’s lowers are groomed/waxed? Or do you not care?
MacKelvey: I like some grooming. She doesn’t have to be completely bare but trimmed and maintained is always nice.
[deleted]: I prefer if it is, but can't reasonably demand it. Definitely appreciated though.
Peelfest2016: I keep my business pretty trimmed up. I’d appreciate the same. I don’t need fully shaved, but trimming is very appreciated. When my gf asked me why I even care what length it’s at if it doesn’t get completely smooth anyway, I told her “you know how you make me trim my mustache because if it gets too long the hairs go up your nose when we kiss? That’s why.”
[deleted]: A definite plus and turn on. The hair gets wet, sticky, rubs and pull.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago (edited)
Depending on the activity expected I'd say, munching a raw-wool carpet isn't a great experience for example
Forrest Hobbs 10 months ago
"Munching a raw-wool carpet isn't a great experience" sounds like a man who's not had much experience of, umm, tasting a woman's tasty bits. 😉 I'd say the only turn-off is when things are whiffy and taste bad, which has nothing to do with the hair situation. Shaving rash and stubble aren't great. If in doubt, don't mess about with anything - just wash regularly.
Load More Replies... Sven Grammersdorf 10 months ago
I've got a foot long beard so I wouldn't even notice because my mouth is surrounded by fur either way.
Steve B 8 months ago
Hair down there is a major turn on for me. You'd be surprised how many men prefer it. We know it gets itchy and irrating down there. It's the same for us. And we know how much you hate getting hair in your mouths when going down on us. Some of us will actually trim because of it. But my preference is to have the area around kitty's lips shaved and the rest of the area above the slit natural, but not full on bush. May get itchy, but we fight the same
Patrick H 10 months ago (edited)
Ideally, I prevent armpits and legs shaven and the fun zone unshaven. But I don't mind if armpits and legs grow out a little every now and then. I don't like having a beard, but I also hate shaving my face, so how I could fairly expect my partner to be so diligent when I'm not. For the fun zone, shaven is fine if that's your preference, but I can't help but recall a time when I found out someone likes their women clean shaven because it made them look prepubescent. I've been pro-bush ever since.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
I personally prefer smooth, but I have no issues with groomed, trimmed, or natural. It's all good as far as I'm concerned.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
A maintained lawn is all I ask for. Anything more than that is a plus and appreciated. I was... pleasuring... someone who had wild growth and I almost threw up on her when one of her hairs went down my throat, so...
#12
If you can’t finish, is it our fault?
manateewallpaper: only if you start asking mood killer questions like that right in the middle of the act.
bloodguzzlingbunny: Nope, not ever. I have been on antidepressants before that made it very difficult to orgasm. Honestly, when I am really into the person, I am just happy to be there. Not reaching the top of the hill isn't nearly as important as being with who I am traveling with.
Skara Brae 10 months ago
There's a spectrum of possible reasons. Just plain being tired is one. Another is if a guy (with any concern about mutual satisfaction) notices his partner is losing interest, that kills the mood immediately. This can make him try to hurry up by tensing up his buddy, but that reduces sensitivity, which only makes the situation worse. If she doesn't seem to care either way, that's not good either. Conversely, If she is enjoying the interaction enough, her parts feel tighter and warmer. It's the warmth more than anything that makes things work out really, really well.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Maybe. Maybe not. Could be you. Could be something on our minds. Stress. The only time I couldn't was because she was being awkward,like didn't know how she was supposed to act or what to do/very very shy.
James Blanken 10 months ago
As manatee said, other than asking a mood killer question, no. They're are a lot of tones i didn't finish. I just got tuckered out. But it was in no way because of the woman. If anything i enjoyed every second with her because I was sharing this intimate time with her.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Nope. Men aren't always the hair-triggered firehoses that we have the reputation for. Sometimes we just... don't finish. Doesn't mean that the journey wasn't a ton of fun.
Henrik Fleischer 10 months ago
Climaxing isn't everything, when the road ends blind, the scenery was always well worth the ride.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Many men have this problem only when they are in their own head too much. It is almost never anything to do with the woman.
Adam Benson 10 months ago
There could be many reasons: tiredness, stress, alcohol/d***s in the system, feeling too hot or cold, being in an uncomfortable position and possible feedback like 'aren't you finished yet?' 'what's the matter?' or 'hurry up already! Even worse if all of the above occurs in the same evening.
Robert Horáček 1 month ago
Well... I can be tired... I can be on some medication with such an unpleasant side-effects... There is plenty of stuff that could be going on that is completely ou of any connection with you... Sometimes it's not helpless and then it comes to you and your attitude... But generally speaking - not your fault.
gilles rodrigue 3 months ago
Anti depressant are the worst for orgasm many doctors prescribe them for premature éjaculation
#13
I'm a very pale woman but my b*tt and v*lva area are pretty dark.
Even the line for my b**tcrack is dark.
Is this gross to you guys? LOL.
maybehun: This is very very normal by the way. It’s from hormones. Most people have darker genitalia.
ProsperoFinch: As long as the skin is clean, and there are no abnormal smells, we don’t care. If you’re doing stuff with us, we are happy to be there. We are so happy to be there with you, to see you naked, to feel your skin against ours, to experience pleasure with you.
Anyone who is grossed out by your unique traits isn’t someone you want to be with anyway, so if they ditch you or dump you over it, then they’ve filtered themselves out for you. Those kinds of people are f**kheads who don’t deserve to get f**ked in the fun way.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Thank you, Prospero. That really needed to be said, and you said it quite well.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
It is a part of your natural uniqueness and absolutely nothing to feel embarrassed about...
#14
Do you guys REALLY enjoy going down on us, or do you just deal?
Ilmioaccount18piu: Do you really enjoy having a d**k in your mouth? It depends of course, but if the person giving or*l is enjoying it, the person who receives it will clearly notice.
arothmanmusic: Yes, absolutely. It’s one of my most favorite things in the world.
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
I prefer to use my hands, because I DO enjoy making my partner feel good. I'm a sensualist, and I very much enjoy playing with my partner's body, and I love knowing that I was able to make her feel physical pleasure.
James Blanken 10 months ago
Yes, because I know my partner likes it and gives her pleasure. Knowing that I am pleasuring her is a huge turn on. It's symbiotic.
Silberwolf 10 months ago
I love it! Even more when I see her enjoying it and when she's breathing heavily with lust. :) Only once I had a cramp in my tongue, which was unpleasant.
Mark Karol-Chik 10 months ago
I LOVE IT. When I can make her shake and moan with ecstasy buy using my mouth and hands, that is the best
Bored Sailor 10 months ago
I think with many it varies and the important thing is for a couple to be open in communication to know what each prefers. Personally I enjoy it and my wife and my wife really really
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
There is nothing better for me personally. I do not feel that I have done everything I can to please a woman if I am not permitted to go down on her. I absolutely enjoy tasting a woman...
MeMosabe 10 months ago
I enjoy doing what give her pleasure and get s a positive response. Whatever that is. (But I draw the line at the back door. I'm not into a**l.)
Richienotsorich 10 months ago
Seeing a lot of "I eat ăss" things lately and I'm like ewww! 🤢
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Is the s*x different with a girl you don’t want to see again and a girl you do? Is the intimacy different, the lead up etc?
RandeKnight: Just making out with someone I love is better than monkey s*x with a stranger.
MacKelvey: Yes. I’m much more bold with a woman I know I’ll never see again.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Sex with someone that you are not emotionally bonding with is just that, Sex. Sex with someone that you respect and genuinely care for is on an entirely different level and that level usually means that you want to go above and beyond in order to please them.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
I don't have any issues with hooking up/one night stand and have done it. But sex with someone I know is better, and even better with someone I care about.
Joy 10 months ago
Formulaic action that's functional and er, delivers but where there's no enjoyment. Just a rushed functionality. No warmth so the heat is cold.
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For my first time, this guy after we had done the deed; 1.Didn’t clean up his mess 2.Started pointing out my flaws “Your chest has a lot of acne, your veins are oddly blue, your knees look weird”. Is this normal? I personally was offended and that made my first time horrible.
ProsperoFinch: Dude was a massive a**hole, and I’m sorry your first time was a negative experience. You deserve better. Hopefully your future experiences will be much more loving and uplifting.
ChunksMcGoo: Sounds like they're either really insecure about themselves and that's them coping with it orrr they're an a**hole.
Bored Sailor 10 months ago
He felt he under performed and as an a*****e was trying to blame her with false faults.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
That guy was an absolute tool. Why on earth would anyone point out someone's(supposed) flaws after having sex? That is just rude on a whole other level.
Richienotsorich 10 months ago
Sex for women for the first time must suck. Boys/young men are just after one thing - theyre own gratification. If I could meet my first partner again, I'd apologise and offer to put things right.
weatherwitch 6 months ago
It makes me question if he was manipulative to get the OP into this situation in the first place? Poor OP that's a really rotten experience 😔
gilles rodrigue 3 months ago
Fisrt why did he make the deed if he didn't like you imperfection is human and we're not all the same
#17
I have a very ethnic background and while that means people may find me especially unique/attractive it does mean that I’m “hairy” nothing too crazy
but I grow a few hairs around my nipples- overall I have a nice chest but there is a bit of scarring from plucking/hair removal (I have ocd ha) …is that a turn off? I’m working on healing and keeping things moisturized 😭.
packersfan823: If your partner finds a couple small scars or a couple hairs revolting, the problem isn't with you, the problem is with your partner. I'm just happy to see b**bs.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Everyone is different, getting to know those differences is part of what makes the journey worth taking. A few hairs around your nipples is definitely NOT an issue.
Lost Panda 10 months ago
This would be one of those preference things, but again we're all human. That type of stuff is part of being human. If a few hairs sets someone off, then they can be sent off.
Alex Bailey 10 months ago
Not sure how that aspect in particular would make them 'especially unique/attractive' either when that kind of thing is completely subjective.
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weatherwitch 6 months ago
That is completely normal. It's socialital expectations for someone to remove all hairs from everywhere that I personally find to be wrong 😔
#18
Does eye contact actually make a difference when we're giving h*ad?
conquer69: Yes... until I remember I look like a thumb from that angle.
PatchTheLurker: There's a chance that this is just for me, but, eye contact during ANYTHING is sexy. Eye contact while I'm inside? (in any way, really) Fast pass to c*m town. Eye contact while you sexy talk and all clothes still on? Fast pass to c*m town. Eye contact when she tells me "you're REALLY good at Mario kart and I hate it"? You guessed it baby, c*m town.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Oh yes, it is a psychological turn on. Just don't turn it into a starring contest, lol.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
Yes, but not like HOLDING eye contact for a long time. A glance here and there works for me. But even if not, mostly I'd take it as you concentrating on the task at hand. lmao
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
F**k..yes...Avoiding eye contact would make me believe you're just doing it out of some sort of obligation. When my wife makes eye contact , and adds more depth or effort...... Eruption is imminent.
Henrik Fleischer 10 months ago
what conquer69 says...but I tend to forget that thumb with pelican blubber chin I look like when I can see she loves it-and me <3
Richienotsorich 10 months ago
Much much better than seeing the back of your head, but we'll take that too.
#19
Where do you put your b*lls when you ride a bike?
AdamBomb_RB: I ride a bike daily at school and I've never once thought about that, lol.
But for a more detailed answer, they don't really "get in the way" 'cause our, uh, genitals are, like, more forward/higher up than womens', so when we sit down our b*lls are, like, between our legs, and on a bike, or any seat for that matter, the actual part making contact with the seat is just your a**.
candyflip93: Not kidding, I don't even know how I manage that, like when I really want to find out and do it manually, it doesn't work and hurts a lot. The only way is to just do it and leave the rest to your b*lls memory.
Subaru645 10 months ago
In between the bike spokes if from the city, hanging from the rear of the seat if you’re from the country…
WubiDubi 10 months ago
There's a rear bike light that is exactly that. Illuminted balls in silicon s*****m, attach to saddle.
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Richienotsorich 10 months ago
They sit between the two largest, strongest muscles in our body when we're sitting down, hence manspreading.
Evelien Stijger Martens 10 months ago
I see lots of men sitting on their bike and their balls are goïng from left to right. Men who ride bikes as sport get stimulated by it. I have a family member that told me this, because after he went for a long ride, he always wanted sex because of it. And I'm like, why do I have to see men's crotches anyway , especially when they are on their bike and you see thr whole shebang moving all over. Ceep it to yourself, same as expected from women.
Donna Peluda 10 months ago
And lady's this is the reason we can't always sit with are legs I'm together. Think nutcracker
#20
Are you looking at my b***hole when you do it from behind?
dnaoriginal: If lights are on, yes, if lights are off, yes.
NotBearhound: Focusing on the whole, not the hole.
Idaho_In_Uranus: I can see it, but I’m not necessarily looking at it. I’m more focused on the jiggle of the buns and my stroke point. The b***hole is just kinda in the periphery.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
Looking, but not staring. I'm usually looking between several things and then the whole, rinse repeat.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Well yes but as a part of the bigger picture. I love the look of a woman's behind. It is actually one of the most sensuous parts of a woman's body to look at.
James Blanken 10 months ago
Not the point of interest. Lol. We mostly look at it cause it's there.
#21
Do y’all get post n*t clarity work after you’ve had s*x with someone you love?
in-a-microbus: Absolutely! It's just a clarity about different things. Instead of "I've made a mistake, I regret this decision" it's more "don't forget to put three garbage bins out".
SatinWalrus: It comes and it goes, but it never stays long enough.
Forrest Hobbs 10 months ago
Can anyone translate the original question? I have no idea what it means.
Lila Allen 10 months ago
Post orgasm do you suddenly have more clarity in your thought process.
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Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
Sometimes and sometimes we are too deep in the bliss of the feeling of just having made love to someone that we care about.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Sure I do. It doesn't last very long, but it can 'unfog' the brain and leave things clear to make those little intuitive connections that are so fun when they happen.
Scott Russel 5 months ago
Men have a 10 - 20 min refraction period after ejac. Loss of blood flow and the clarity I believe is due to satiation. We are no longer thinking about s*x every other minute, we dont realize how much of that background noise is in our heads until we c*m.
#22
How do we know if you like us, romantically?
RogueAlt07: We like to hang around you, actively make the choice to pursue your company, smile and look at you in groups and generally get along very well and usually they’re into you.
[deleted]: You want to know the actual secret? They will mirror you. If you smile at them they will do the same back to you. Men are very sensitive and are really in tune with the one they like, so they will be very reactive to them. Even when they try to hide it. So do let them know because they are thick as bricks and will spite their own feelings.
Silberwolf 10 months ago (edited)
An introverted man like me would look at you with a slightly smiling face every time I see you, way longer than at any other person in the room, and hope for the best ;)
Anonymous User 10 months ago
I always instinctively knew that because I'm the same way. It was kinda torturous because most of the time they didn't actually like me. lol
Load More Replies... Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
If I am romantically interested in a woman, I cannot wait to have more simple contact. Texts,phone calls ANY interaction that lets us be with or around you.
Malamutes 10 months ago
I'm kind of a neanderthal, but...I will do things for you. Need that heavy thing lifted? I got it. Fix your car? No problem. Help you get your cat to the vet? All over it. Beat somebody up for you? O.k., maybe not that last one. If I can make myself useful to you, than you'll want me around. And that means I get to spend time with you. And that's really what I want.
#23
Do you prefer boxers or briefs?
Foxsayy: The only true answers.
Briefs are way too tight and uncomfortable. Boxers are way too lose and they feel like wearing a pair of unruly shorts under your pants.
Boxer briefs are the goldilocks of underwear.
Nomad493YT: Briefs. Feels snug and comfy.
Lost Panda 10 months ago
Boxer briefs. Wore them for the first time when I bought them by mistake... Now it is all I will wear
Child of the Stars 10 months ago
As a woman, I found the female equivalent of boxer briefs (essentially the same thing but with a wider crotch). And omg, those are the most comfortable underwear I've ever worn in my entire life.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
I prefer boxers. I wore briefs for years but made the switch to boxers and i now enjoy the freedom of movement.
James Blanken 10 months ago
I'm a boxer briefs guy. Briefs always have me a wedgie. Boxers felt like I was going commando. Boxer briefs offer the needed support without being too constricting. But to reach their own.
Stan Shimonko 6 days ago
Briefs/bikini, no trap door, I'm over the top. I want it all tucked in, no "package", but I'm not Needle-d**k, the bug f****r".
#24
Do you judge a woman by the s*x on the first time or do you assume it will get better with comfort?
ChunksMcGoo: It's always kinda awkward the first time but if I'm interested in you, I will definitely try it as many times as it takes.
neoshadowdgm: The only thing I would judge someone for on the first time is a lack of willingness to put effort into pleasing me. Like the kind of women who expect to receive oral and refuse to give it. Other than that, I expect it to be awkward but amazing anyway. The cool thing about s*x is that you get better at it the more you practice with a new partner. We’ll learn each other’s preferences over time and it will keep getting better. The first time is mostly just “holy s**t, we’re actually having s*x!”
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
For me, I figure it's mostly always at least somewhat awkward the first time and would get better over time.
James Blanken 10 months ago
The first time is always awkward. If you're with someone you care about, then you don't know each other's rhythms, you may have only talked about a couple things you both like. You won't know any of their spots. But there is real fun in learning those things. The more you it to learn is fun. The more you learn is fun. The more you can please your partner is f*****g awesome!
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
The first time is always awkward and should NEVER be used as the measuring bar for what "can be". Once you get to know each other on a deeper level and figure out what the other person really likes, it will of course get better and better.
#25
Do your b*lls really move depending on the weather, if so, does it feel weird?
ChunksMcGoo: It's temperature dependent and sometimes it can feel weird like if you go from warm house to cold outside or jump into a cold pool in the summer.
The_WandererHFY: Passive system, it just does its thing. The boys gotta stay climate controlled.
The reason for that is that sp*rm need a certain temp range, and core body temp is too high. Gotta keep them sh**s air-cooled, but if it's cold then they stay closer to the core body so they don't f**kin freeze.
Evelien Stijger Martens 10 months ago
That's the reason you don't wear pants that are to tight, the balls get to warm. They are outthere for a reason.
gilles rodrigue 3 months ago
Yes they do it's a mechanism to protect the s***m it has to always be at the same temperature that's why the s*****m moves up or down depending of the temeperature
Jake Bertz 3 months ago
If you jump into cold enough water it feels like getting punched in the junk.
#26
How do you feel about s*x during period?
McRibEater: Turn off the lights, throw down a towel and get to work. One of the reason I enjoy doing it during this time is Women seem super turned on during their period.
JBounce369: I'm definitely an outlier here but I could never. Any blood, and especially not my own, makes me nauseous.
Child of the Stars 10 months ago
I won't either. It's a horrific irony for me: the hormones make me horny as f.uck, but they also make me so sensitive sex is painful 🤦♀️
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the friction is different, there is a whole different feeling, some people might like it, some won't.
Henrik Fleischer 10 months ago
Good! Grew up in Greenland, reminds me of my grandmother skinning seals. Sorry, just for fun, but no problem at all with period, even going down is great. Not a vampire, but just loves sex in any way.
Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
I personally don't pursue this activity but many men do. I don't because my ideal love making session includes going down on the woman. I just don't feel that I have done all I can to satisfy her if I don't go down on her.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
I've done it plenty. Basically, as long as the lights are out it's not really bad. However, I'm willing to wait it out so it's basically up to them if they want sex during their periods.
#27
When a b*ner happens, does your p*nis slowly come up, or does it shoot up straight away?
[deleted]: Depends... if you notice it sliding up your pants then it'd typically slow, but if your girl is standing in front of you saying she's ready..... kinda just happens and you won't notice
cheetosysst: Usually slow, it's blood we're talking about, not a freaking star wars light saber
Skara Brae 10 months ago
It's definitely situational. A rapid one can take maybe 3-5 seconds. Also, it doesn't have to be just one state or the other. It can be part of the way. A little of the right visual and/or physical stimulation can raise the flag quickly. It can drop just as quickly if the stimulation goes away.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
I'm probably going to hear it next time I see one, and I'm going to have to explain why I'm giggling...
Load More Replies... James Blanken 10 months ago
Usually slow. Especially as we get older because not as much excites us right away. But every so often we may see or hear something that gives us that tingle in our balls (us, it's an actual tingle) and we're ready for launch in a few seconds.
Wm Wherry 9 months ago
I'm 80 and have only seconds before it's at full attention. I'm not complaining!
Load More Replies... Bruce Fenton 10 months ago
I don't think most of us are quick draw gun fighters,lol. Some are I am sure. The quickness of my erection depends on the situation and age has an effect also. Gets a tad slower when you get older.
#28
What does it feel like walking with your dong between your legs ? Or how does that work...
[deleted]: You don't really notice it, but at the same time you know *somethings* there.
GrazYetti: It’s the same as your nose being within your vision. You get so used to your nose being in your peripherals that you don’t see it anymore. Same with your manhood, it’s there and flopping around but, you’re so used to it that you don’t notice it anymore.
kamakazi339: It literally ceases to be a thought unless you
A. Get it stuck to your leg (d**k/b*lls) B. Get a b*ner.
Maria Maria 5 months ago
My cousin once asked me: "doesn't it feel empty down there?" It's all about what you're used to.
I'm probably a t-rex 6 months ago
I would assume it's like having bo*bs. I dont really notice until I'm jogging or running down the stairs...
Silberwolf 10 months ago
You don't really feel it unless you get a boner or the underwear doen't sit right.
nottheactualphoto 10 months ago
For that matter, don't say "veggies" or "tummy" or "poop" or any of the other baby talk that has become widespread.
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#29
How do you manage to move it without using your hands? I've seen a couple of guys do it and was absolutely speechless/impressed. They just said, "I don't know how, I just can". I want to know HOW.
vendetta0311: Same muscle that stops the pee stream, women have it too.
RogueAlt07: There’s the muscle I think in the glutes that pulls it, it’s primary purpose is to pull the glutes up but a side movement is the phallus moving. Don’t quote me, I’m not a medical professional so I may be wrong but that’s my best guest for how we do it.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago
I'd say there is an muscle at the base that twitches during orgasm to push the liquids out but can also be controlled consciously
#30
What do 'blue b*lls' feel like?
IJourden: It’s kind of a dull ache with moments of sharper pain or discomfort, and if it starts to radiate it can start to feel like stomach cramps.
I would like to note however that you should never let a guy use “blue b*lls” to pressure you into s*x. If it’s really bothering him, I assure you, he is capable of taking care of it on his own. A guy putting the pressure on like that is probably a sign to eject the whole man.
[deleted]: You know, I’m 40 and I’ve never experienced this. I’ve been in plenty of situations that I feel it would have happened, by the scenarios I’ve heard described. Total mystery to me, these blue b*lls.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
It's like a migraine but in your balls. Best way I can describe it. Very uncomfortable but at the same time, if we have blue balls and we cum, it can be more powerful and sometimes lasts longer than the usual "euphoria".
Kyle Simonson 10 months ago
Blue balls is a fake symptom. Just another ploy to get in your pants.
Breadcrumb. 10 months ago (edited)
Cool so I looked it up and it's a discomfort. Not a serious problem or even a medical problem, just a discomfort. As a woman I can relate because it has nothing to do with balls. It's not even a medical condition..why is it the end of the world to so many immature men..
Lost Panda 10 months ago
Epididymal hypertension, while there may not be a lot of scientific literature, I'm going to have to say it is a thing. Personally have experienced the discomfort from lack of release, but like above it can be handled by yourself
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How many times can a man c*m during s*x? I know some guys are one and done, others can go for a round 2 after a break. But I was recently with a guy who claimed he came 4 times. I didn’t know that was possible for a man to do.
MCXI-1111: I once did a 6 rounder where we basically laid in bed all day for about 4 hours and just went for it.
By the end I was c*mming, but nothing was coming out…it actually got a little weird because she thought I faked it and I’m like “no, I’m drained”.
Then we went and got food and drinks. It ended a couple weeks later but was one hell of an afternoon.
eastbayweird: It's called the refractory period.
I can't speak for other men, but for me, immediately after finishing I'm so sensitive that any further stimulation is very painful. I need at least 10-15 minutes until I'm ready to try again fortunately that's about how long it takes for my tongue to start getting sore, so it usually works out. And if I'm still not ready I have no issues with her bringing out a toy until I'm ready to try again. I know a lot of guys get seriously offended any time toys come out but honestly i couldn't care less. Whatever helps her get there is fine by me.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
As someone else, it's different for everyone and no number is right or wrong. If you want to go more than your partner can, there are other ways. If that doesn't work, sometimes people just aren't compatibale and that's okay.
#32
Why do you find b**bs appealing??
Lord_Metagross: Life cold. Life hard.
b**bs warm. b**bs soft.
UltraLollipop: There is just something about not having them and how the human body doesn’t have strait lines or perfect angles but b**bs just seem so round and soft. And they add a nice curve to the body. Also many men are so curious about them and back to the thing about not having them.
leendadll 10 months ago
I'm a straight female. At a "gentleman's club", a pro dancer called me up to stage, put my face vetween her boobs, and boob-smacked my face. I returned to my BFand said, "Ohhh, now I get it!! They were pillow-soft and smelled of baby powder!"
Adam Benson 10 months ago (edited)
I'm just curious why your BF took you to a 'gentleman's club?'
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setsuriseikou 10 months ago
I (f) once had a boyfriend whose b**bs were on a par with mine in terms of size (no, he wasn't particularly fat, it's just that I'm less than AA cup). Though he did say he wished mine had been bigger...
Load More Replies... JayWantsACat 10 months ago
What everyone is saying plus we are generally conditioned to sexual breasts. Add in that, at least in the US, they're "tAboO" and hidden away from site like some soft, pillowy treasure. Plus, boobs are mostly one of the first thing us guys get to experience with girls when we're young. I still remember my first boob touch. lmao And since we want what we can't have and all of the above... This would probably go away if being women being able to be topless like men was universal. After a generation or two, they probably would stop being sexualized.
Skara Brae 10 months ago (edited)
I think (for men who find them appealing) that there is a built-in component. For example, one time my wife and I were sitting on a balcony of an apartment when a woman in the building across the street walked up to her window naked and stared at us for a few seconds. I certainly wasn't expecting that, but I noticed immediately. My wife didn't notice until I pointed it out. She found it disconcerting that I noticed, but it's not like I was trying to notice. Another time I was sitting on a beach where many people were in the water playing in the waves. One woman got hit by a wave that knocked her top off. I noticed immediately, even though I wasn't looking in that exact direction. A few years later we went to the island of Moorea where the beaches are topless optional. After seeing several hundred women sunbathing while we walked along the beach, I was surprised to find that I became annoyed after awhile, like the part of the brain that notices nudity gets overloaded and tired. I got better though.
Onahogar Emmanuel 2 months ago
Also there's this small fact that it's the first thing that graced my lips
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Lord_Metagross nailed it. Boobs are warm and soft, they feel nice in the hand, and if the lady is sensitive, they're fun to play with and cause said lady to make cute squeaky noises. And that's hot.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago
Evolutinary components I's say, boobs are a sign of being able to provide for the expected offspring. More casually said: An additional body part to play with that makes the partner feel good
#33
How come some guys don’t like to kiss/make out?
MASTER_L1NK: They probably were made self conscious about it. I'm not that guy but an ex way back when made a comment on my French kissing that made me not want to do it til recently with my current gf. She loves it and she likes the way I do it. So I like it again.
wegsleepregeling: I only don't want to if our kissing styles aren't compatible. I have totally lost interest in a partner, over time, who didn't kiss in any ways that I found satisfying. I fell quickly in love the woman who kissed me absolutely perfectly, and was clearly getting off on it. (Not the only reason I fell in love but that lit the fire to quickly go all in with her. I'm also still hopelessly in love with her, to this day.
The ultimate advice IMO: kiss the way you authentically like it, go all in, rather than the way you think he wants it.
#34
Does it feel good when a girl grinds? Bc it feels hella good for me but I don't think it does much for guys so I don't do it much but I don't want to quit.
MrDownhillRacer: It doesn't do much for me, but that's a good thing. Moves that aren't as stimulating for the man are our opportunity to back away from the edge so that we don't end up finishing too early.
salimeero: Also, I think i can speak for most men when i say, sometimes it's also nice to change pace and see her enjoy herself.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago (edited)
Not as much but that's a good thing, since men statistically need less time to reach orgasm it's a good way for women to "get ahead"
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
For me it's kind of hot but beyond that doesn't really do much for me. AND THAT'S OKAY. It's a two way street and what helps you get there is generally great. I will say that one of my exes had trouble climaxing and we tried everything. What helped her and what she enjoyed was grinding. And I enjoyed it too but she usually did it so hard and so long that my helps and pelvis were always sore the next day or two. It didn't bother me because she enjoyed but that only happened with her. lmao
#35
My boyfriend claims that my guy friends have thought about what it would be like to have s*x with me. That’s not true right?
LoginForMyP*rn: Most of them have, probably.
But bear in mind that it doesn't mean they WANT to have s*x with you. It's just a thing we think about sometimes.
And even if they do want to have s*x with you they might not choose to. Part of growing up as a man is learning that you don't have to stick your d**k into every person you find attractive.
Sick_Sabbat: Difficult truths about both genders. Most of us within the first 10 to 20 seconds of meeting you will have made the decision in our heads if we would have s*x with you or wouldn't. If the answer to this was yes. Then absolutely we have thought about it. Will we try it? Not always. Everyone you know that is attracted to your gender identity has thought about s*x with you at least once. Not necessarily a full on fantasy but the question of "Would I?"
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
Sorry, but no. Not all guys think about their female friends in terms of sex. I have not imagined having sex with any of my female friends, even the ones that I was initially attracted to and trying to be more than friends with. We didn't work out romantically, we became friends, and that was it.
Panda McPandaface 10 months ago
If you were initially attracted to them, then that in itself has an element of 'would I?' If you think it didn't then you're in denial.
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I'm a lady and this happens to me a lot. It doesn't mean anything, though.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Sure. And it has nothing to do with gender; women do this too. It's a simple glance and an almost instinctive thought process of 'I'd hit that' or 'nah'. Doesn't mean I actually want to do it, or that I will ever try. If I see a photo of a cheeseburger, my brain will instantly think 'I'd eat that' or 'nah'. Doesn't mean I'm going to order that specific cheeseburger now, or even ever. It just looks good.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
Yes, but that doesn't really mean a whole lot for the most part. I've found friend's girlfriends attractive but that doesn't mean I'd have sex with them even if it was somehow okay. The same with my women friends. Yes, I'd thought about having sex with them even if I didn't find them attractive. And, no, I wouldn't necessarily act on it if given the chance even with the ones I found attractive. Sex isn;t and shouldn't be the end all be all.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Lots of guys will say they don't , your choice to believe them. I and every guy I've ever known have done this.
#36
How often do you m*sturbate as you get older?
BrilliantWeight: I'm married and it's about once every 3 days or so on average. Mostly when I'm bored at home by myself when my wife is at work.
[deleted]: Every other day sometimes, twice a day other times. I think it’s kinda seasonal. Late 30s.
#37
Can you feel our b**bs when we hug??? Like obviously you do, but is it noticeable???
KingLewi92: Yes, and we are aware of that every time.
DaRUBaX: not always. unless i’m specifically paying attention to that i don’t really notice it. like i’ll feel it but i may not be paying attention to it and because of that i won’t notice it.
#38
How do you all p*e when you have a b*ner?
CakeAccomplice12: We become cirque de Soleil gymnasts for a brief minute.
dimmu1313: with great difficulty.
kwinckultoss: Medical doctor here: unlike females, males have only one genital orifice for both urinary and genital… necessities. The mechanism of which system’s canal is connected is similar to a trapdoor: when you get an erection, the trapdoor kind of closes/narrows the urinary tract, slowing the passage of urine through bladder, and opens/widens the genital tract. That’s why it takes longer and becomes more difficult to urinate with a boner, because you’re trying to push urine through a more narrow tube.
TotallyNOTAFox 10 months ago
My answer would be "while sitting", because otherwise it will make a huge mess
#39
With all of these s*x questions being flung about; does intense focus on career or hobbies negatively affect your s*x drive?
hkystar35: 100%. And with traditional stereotypes for gender roles, it just adds to the pressure of the guy being the one to initiate. It's anxiety inducing to weigh "I'm f**king exhausted" with "I'm going be more exhausted f**king" and how that affects the relationship.
[deleted]: No. For me there's always time for s*x. It improves my mood and makes it easier for me to focus. Not to mention intimacy is important in ones life.
Lost Panda 10 months ago
The guy having to initiate is ridiculous. If I don't intiate it, with little to no signs that she wants it, I'm the a-hole. Then if I'm too tired after work, housework, homework, and it's now midnight and I have to be up in five hours for work, you guessed it... I'm the a-hole
Lila Allen 10 months ago
It's a weird social thing...because it's reverse for a girl. If you don't initiate it we assume we have done something wrong or look hideous and should instantly go try and fix ourselves. We need to get rid of this entirely.
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Do you actually like it when a girl is inexperienced, or do you guys just say that?
f**kallthistodeath: Think it just takes the pressure of when you know you’re the more experienced one.
BrilliantWeight: I've had both in my life. My wife was experienced when we met, and I LOVE having s*x with her, significantly because she is good at it. The fact that her experience comes from practice with people who are not me doesn't bother me at all. I know who she's banging these days, and that's all that matters to me.
That being said, my girlfriend and I losing our virginities to each other when we were teenagers was pretty special. Neither of us had much of an idea of what to do other than "this goes here", but we were in full-blown teenage love, and I'm thankful I got to do that with her specifically.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
Only liking sex with inexperienced women is a huge red flag, to me. Having said that, sex with both types of women can be fun in their own way. Personally, I like experienced over inexperienced because my personal sex life has matured and I don't know that I necessarily want to have to start over or teach over and over what I've already come to expect as basic skills. Especially since sex with each person is different and you learn what each like, so you're constantly learning anyways.
#41
What’s the best way to handle/explore s*x with a man who is maybe starting to experience lower T (we are 40 years old) and we’re in a new relationship and I have a huge crush on him! He seems frustrated about it, and I want to be a good partner…. And I also want to be satisfied….
HelloBello30: maybe he is eligible for TRT? I am on it. It's dope.
Questionable_Ballot: Initiate intimacy. As men, we're usually the ones expected to initiate all the time. When a woman initiates kissing/touching, it makes me feel wanted and gets the motor running 0-60 pretty quick.
Fellfromthemoon 10 months ago
40-year olds are quite far from the natural lowering of testosterone (usually occurs over 60-65.) If you suspect having low T, go to a doctor. Seriously, it has an adverse effect on your cardiometabolic health too.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
Don't pretend to be understanding or coddle. That makes it worse. First off, make sure you can deal with it.
#42
How often do you actually sit on your b*lls and is it painful?
Knotical_MK6: Most underwear don't really allow your balls to fall down in a position where you could sit on them.
DontTrustMeImAllSh-t: Maybe a couple times a year. The pain feels like stubbing your toe but the peak lasts longer and it travels up your spine
Skara Brae 10 months ago
I'd describe the pain as a little like having an icepick stabbed up into your belly, only maybe not as strong, depending on how hard the little fellers got squished. This is definitely why guys sit with their legs spread out. Also, getting hit hard can really hurt a LOT. There was a story in the news a few years ago where some woman in China was angry at some guy and she squeezed his danglers so hard that he had a heart attack and died. This is a little surprising, but not unbelievable.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
I mostly close my legs them when turning over sleeping, if it happens at all. Most of the time it's us accidentally nut tapping ourselves. lmao
Bored Sailor 10 months ago
From the post first replier must be young, as you age things get loser. Women sag so do men. Ours is just under more cover.
#43
It’s a common claim that men are less attracted to older women. If this is true for some, Is it the way she actually looks physically or the perception that she might have far less of a libido?
McRibEater: I’m into older Women big time, depends on the Guy.
[deleted]: It’s probably generally true, people don’t get hotter as they get older (on average)! but by no means is that something that is a hard and fast rule. If you’re a 10 you’re a 10. Everyone gets a little fatter and a little wrinklier in their old age but it’s not like if you’re hot at 25 you’ll be a troll as soon as you turn 40.
Data1001 10 months ago
I think there's a certain point (for most guys, anyway -- maybe not Leo) where you stop being as attracted to women who are quite a bit younger than you. (No, I'm not talking about underage girls.) Maybe it's when you hit 40, or 50, that 20-something women just aren't anything that turns you on any more. But at any age, a woman who feels comfortable in her own skin, and just *owns* her age, can be very sexy... case in point, Helen Mirren -- who at nearly 80 years old, is definitely still a 'thirst trap' for many men who are much younger than she is... and it's mostly because of her confidence, humor, and personality.
Lila Allen 10 months ago
The fact that she is objectively hot as hell doesn't hurt
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 10 months ago
I've never actually dated anyone younger than me. It was never about the age, that was just who I was compatible with.
#44
What takes a girlfriend to the fiancé/wife level?
amuzmint: Can I grow old with this person, have they gone out of the way for me multiple times, be the person who understands me without me having to say anything, and more.
KanadeKanashi: When the honeymoon phase of the relationship ends and you're still wholefully in love with each other, and having each other best interests at heart
Though you do need sexual compatibility.
Skara Brae 10 months ago
There is another aspect that I think is important. I can't speak for every guy, because there are a lot of self-centered selfish ones. However, I think most guys lose interest in a woman who tries hard to be made-up and attractive, but doesn't reveal her personality enough. I don't think guys fall in love deeply when the woman doesn't make herself known to him. Women like this can be somewhat indistinguishable. If the woman does reveal her thoughts and he has no interest, it's time to move on.
#45
Do you like it when a girl does a little gasp when you first slide in?
Edit: probably should’ve said a genuine gasp of pleasure, not pain lol.
djangula89: There are so many things that I like that can be ruined if someone does it knowing I like it opposed to happening naturally...
thefantasticstapler: 10000%.
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Yes, I like noises and movements and words that indicate that you're enjoying yourself. But don't fake it. We will know, and that's a major turn off.
#46
What made you fall in love? And when did you realize it?
originalsanitizer: There was a Jack Nicholson movie where he told someone that they made him want to be a better person. She really made me feel that way. We had been together for 4 or 5 months at that point.
OGNovelNinja: Hung up the phone, realized I was buzzed just from talking to her, and kinda panicked. Not because I was afraid of commitment (I'd been in love before), but I knew she was. Sure enough, she broke up with me.
Twelve years later, we got married. We now have two boys.
The intervening years would make for a decent soap opera, I think.
#47
Do you really like girl with small butts and small
breast’s?
whiteshirted: To quote great wisdom I once received:
"I added a 'sunburn' tag because I realized everything can be a kink."
And I'm pretty sure being into petite girls is more common than that.
pyromatt0: Everything is a spectrum, including preference.
here_4-the_LOLs: Some men don't, some men do. For me personally: yes, but it's all about the person who the woman is. My amazing wife is a 5/9 beautiful voluptuous woman with at least a double D cup. The last woman I slept with before my wife was a sweet 5/2 slim girl with AA. Had an amazing time with her. After the second time I slept with her, she told me she felt embarrassed by her cupsize. I told her I thought she was beautiful. That she was more than just her cupsize. The s*x became increasingly more better after that.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
I've been with slim and petite and curvy and busty and both are a great time!
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
Busty or not, tall or short, slender or curvy, it really doesn't matter. Physically its more about proportions, and how everything fits together. But even More important is about personality and compatibility. I've had women I wasn't particularly attracted to become very beautiful when I got to know them better and realized how great they were.
Parmer Engineering 10 months ago
This is a preference. I do not like jiggly , cellulite a*s. I'm not a boob man so I don't care much as long as they're not obviously gross.
#48
Do you need/want a girl to be more active in bed? (If so what should she be doing) Or if she’s just like holding on for dear life as you f**k her is that enough?
deathanhonour: Depends on the situation. But the most important thing is enthusiastically showing your enjoyment. That could mean holding on for dear life and begging for more. That could mean being vocal, or taking control. Just make eye contact and smile occasionally, and do whatever comes naturally, other than starfish.
brandonawarah: My first time was with a girl who was stone cold aside from her climaxes (and even then she was super quiet) I legitimately couldn’t finish because I need some engagement from her.
#49
How often does s*x suck?
Is it more like “bad s*x is still s*x” or are there moments you’re there floating in a sea of someone’s sensationless p*ssy wishing you’d stayed home and watched Lego Wars?
ProsperoFinch: I’d say most of the time, s*x is a bit like pizza, in that even when it’s bad, you’re still like “f**k it, it’s still mildly satisfying”.
That said, I’ve had had truly bad s*x a couple of times in my life. I’m 40 now, and I’ve been doing it since I was 17, so it’s very very rare, but it has happened. Both times were extremely casual, with no emotional connection, and the girl was an unenthusiastic partner (despite giving enthusiastic consent). They just laid there, kinda like a starfish, no feedback about what felt good or felt bad.
When there’s feedback, we can turn a bad or awkward sex session around and even if it’s not amazing it can be enjoyable in the end. But no feedback? Just lying there expecting me to magically know what revs your engine? There’s no way anyone can make that work. Good sex is an exchange of energy and passion. Even if it’s casual, it’s still a partnership, and both people have to be engaged.
PinkEyeofHorus: It depends in the situation. One night stands where they just starfish because of inexperience, it’s just “ok”. When in a committed relationship and she starfishes because of “duty sex” and does it just to get me to stop initiating. Absolutely soul crushing.
#50
Do you really want women to sit on your face?
tatertom: Not merely sit on, but smother.
Iminlesbian: I will BEG a girl to do this. Sometimes takes a while for a girl to be okay with actually crushing my face but that’s what I want.
I personally really enjoy the idea of my face being used for pleasure.
v43havkar: As often as possible. Even if I die during this, it is still - a beautiful death.
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
"Not merely sit on, but smother." lmao For me, just sitting is fine.
#51
What do you seek in foreplay?
yourname92: Legitimate interest in her part. Anything can happen and I'm fine with it as long as I know she's doing it because she likes it.
And also face sitting. Don't feel self conscious about it either.
ClassicManeuver: Giving you pleasure, making you wet, making you want it, teasing, oral, etc. Foreplay IS s*x, not just something you gotta do before. It’s half the fun!!
50at20: Two sides to this answer: What I want you to do To me, AND what I want from you when I’m doing things to you…
What I want a girl to do to me? Honestly I just want you to enjoy yourself. If you’re just going through the motions I will probably be able to tell. Like if you Hate to go down on me, you probably won’t give the best head. And although “bad h*ad” is still good h*ad, there’s no reason to do it just because you feel obligated. I can get just as turned on by a girl kissing my neck and fondling my balls as I can from a girl going down on me.
Every guy is different. And even situations are different. Like, if you are horny and want me to spank you and beat it up from behind, then the way you come at me with foreplay should align with this desire. If you want me to be gentle and make love, then kiss me gently too. I’ll follow your lead. And as for what to do during foreplay? Pretty much Any touching or kissing Anywhere is a turn on. It typically doesn’t take much. Asking is a Huge turn on too!!! “Do you like it like this”….. uh, F**k Yes I do! And thank you for asking, and now I’m so tuned on that you asked that I’m going to have to immediately ravage you!!!
And as far as foreplay For you, don’t fake it. My goal is to turn you on. If what I’m doing isn’t doing it for you then don’t let me waste both of our time! Give little “commands” or “course corrections” to guide me to what you want.
Now I will say, in my younger years, getting directions was a bit of a blow to the ego. I thought I knew what I was doing, so to be told I was doing it wrong kind of hurt! Lol. But some of it had to do with the way I was told I was doing it wrong… Don’t just be a d**k about it! If you say “why are you doing it like that?” With a bunch of attitude it’s going to make me just not want to do it anymore. Ever! That may sound like it’s obvious, and it would go both ways, but that was a prior experience I had, so I figured I would share it! however, if you say some thing like… “That feels good, use your tongue more” or “baby, I like that, slow down a little bit“ I will get excited that I am on the right track and that you’re enjoying it, and it’s honestly always been a turn on to get a little bit of direction. being able to ensure your partner is enjoying themselves should be a turn on! Unless, of course you’re with a selfish partner.
#52
Do you really think about s*x as often as women or are you lying about that? Because I am constantly ready and if I could I would have s*x as often as possible. Yet I wonder if men are the same.
Astramancer: Just like with women it varies from person to person and time to time.
Sometimes guys simply aren't mentally in the mood. Sometimes guys simply aren't physiologically in the mood even if the mind says yes (and it doesn't really have anything to do with the partner).
But sometimes 100% ready to go even if it's completely inappropriate time and place.
meow1983: My ex husband only wanted two or three times a week when I wanted five or more times a day. I hated the rejection. Sorry you’ve been rejected so much.
Have_Donut: I personally feel like I can turn it on fast if I have something to queue me in that direction but it is actually not on my mind too often to be honest.
#53
Do you j*rk off to the pictures of me I sent to you?
197720092012: Most likely, 100%.
Outrageous_Taro86: If you’re not playing with yourself to the pics I sent you, why did I send them??
Lila Allen 10 months ago
Thank you... I def get the ick from the concept.
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Why are y’all so quick to disconnect after s*x? I’ve always liked to cuddle with it still in after.
fakiresky: I don't know about everyone else, but I love cuddling, snacking, and chatting after s*x.
[deleted]: It's biochemical/hormones. Most guys are literally wired for that.
wokeupatapicnic: It’s situational, sometimes I’m just overheated and sweaty or if it was particularly aggressive sometimes I go too hard and my b*lls slap around and make me a bit nauseated afterwards lol.
But I once had a relationship where I was usually disconnected after s*x and it felt mostly due to hormones or something. Like I had just been given a shot of adrenaline and my fight or flight response kicked in or something. It was unpleasant for me to be in that state, and I’d get grumpy and defensive. I was mostly a total asshole afterwards, even if I didn’t want to be.
Looking back, it’s something I had to mentally prepare for and that I learned my way out of in my late 20s, but I feel like it was partly due to bad chemistry between us, and our relationship being toxic without either of us realizing it. Instead of bringing us together the s*x helped drive us apart or something… that was a really weird time in my life, and prob not what you were asking about, but it’s something that dawned on me while looking back…
Doctor Strange 10 months ago
I actually Want to stay and just hold her, but my body, after climax often urgently requires the use of the toilet. So I Have to get up. But I always try to come back as soon as possible, because sex is great, but laying with the woman I love, my arms around her, her head upon my chest, That is the stuff that dreams are made of. THAT is what I want to find so much, someone I can hold, feel her warmth against me.
Donna Peluda 10 months ago
Sometimes after orgasming my I can't stand being touched like I'm to sensitive. Not just down there but even the slightest touch is uncomfortable. It wears off after a few mins.
Bozimandeus 10 months ago
I would like to stay, but I always have this urge to clean up the mess and not try to get anything else on my partner.
What do you think ?
Shortstuff 1 month ago (edited)
Laughing at the censorship on such an open topic such as s e x !
Carol Barnhill 8 months ago
I'm 74 years young and still have s*x with my husband . He don't want to be with me only , he wants a prostitute he's 69 . Why would he want someone like that .?
UKGrandad 10 months ago
Of course they're personal preferences. Not everybody likes or dislikes the same things and individuals' bodies react differently to stimuli, so people can only speak from their own experiences.
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Shortstuff 1 month ago (edited)
Laughing at the censorship on such an open topic such as s e x !
Carol Barnhill 8 months ago
I'm 74 years young and still have s*x with my husband . He don't want to be with me only , he wants a prostitute he's 69 . Why would he want someone like that .?
UKGrandad 10 months ago
Of course they're personal preferences. Not everybody likes or dislikes the same things and individuals' bodies react differently to stimuli, so people can only speak from their own experiences.
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