“Am I The [Jerk] For Telling Everyone That My Husband Sold All My Baby Shower Gifts?”

Immature man who is both "not ready to be a father" and not ready to be a partner in a marriage.

Divorce, restraining order, supervised visits with his child. Wouldn't even give the child his name. NTA.. but if this is the behaviour he gives you now imagine the jealousy he will have when baby is born and gets more than him. Where do people meet those men ... and marry.... RED FLAG!!!! Divorce, divorce. A man who is such a pushover "I had to my friends made me" wtf is wrong with your man, and his friends. But has zero regards to his legal wife that carries his baby. Take his stuff, send them to his parents. Serve him divorce papers, restraining order. What if next time his friends ask him to do something dangerous? What if the baby is born, and does silly things will your husband fly into fit accusing the child of damaging his image. Hit the child because he/she embarrassed him in public??? DIVORCE! No second chances.

This reminds me of what my EX husband did years ago. We were dead broke and were given $100 for desperately needed baby supplies. (I had sold my car just to buy a crib!) The day after I gave birth, he took the money and spent it on cocaine. I left (with the baby) the very next day. I hope this woman left him, too!

The most common cause of death in pregnancy is murder, to all the dudes calling foul in ways they never do when it's a man falsely accusing women. Notice how that latter concept is unheard of? Yeah, exactly. Think about it. Men do it constantly.

DIVORCE HIM NOW!!!!

GTFO before the baby is born and never look back.

Pack his suitcase, change the locks, get a dog, and hire a divorce attorney. He's more interested in having a good time than he is being a father. Cut your losses and document EVERYTHING.

kick him in his a**

I was married to a guy like that- things only get worse. Stay safe 🥀

DEFIANTLY NTA He said that he was entitled to half the gifts, so if that is true, that means half the gifts are yours, and he sold ALL of them. And he said that it was his baby too, but your carrying it around, eating for two, and all the things that come with pregnancy! (Morning Sickness, people randomly touching belly without asking, Baby Brain, swollen feet, e.t.c.) So he has to at least ask permission to sell all that stuff!

DIVORCE, now!

And this is the people who breeds??? Really??? No wonder the world is so f**k*d up!!! He's a MOR*N, and she chose him to be the father of his baby!!! I refuse to believe this is the first red flag he shows!!!

Besides the fact that I think she shouldnt have told everyone what he did because.. urgh.. he is an a*****e. His friend and that trip were more important than all the things for his kid which seriously, you need and should be happy you got for free. So while he is the a*****e, I also think she shouldnt have pulled everyone else in that argument.

This is like the guy on "Am I the A**Hole" who complaining about having to "babysit" his newborn cuz the mom had been on bedrest for the last 3 months of the pregnancy + wanted to go out with her friends, family, etc. Needless to say 100% of the people commenting flamed him into oblivion + said he WAS the AH.

The gifts are Not 1/2 his they belong to the Baby! WHO sells baby gifts to go on a trip with his friend??? NOT a good dad! get rid of him he will never be a good dad or husband! I would of told everyone what he did also! he deserved that!

I was married to a man like this..it never gets better and you only end up loosing your furniture home pay check..divorce him before the baby comes..other wise thats his anchor to everything you have. Ask family if you can stay with them and help you get on your feet. Get a job build a new life... You will be so much happier... One more thing do not take him back experience here Do not take him back..

If he wanted to contribute towards the van he should have been honest with his wife and said that and they could have figures out a way he could help his friends. Instead this m**o went 0-100 and sold all the s**t. Also having a nursery full of stuff isn't how it works my guy babies have a constant need for things which is why these parties exist.

Has no one bothered to actually read the whole post? The OP clearly states: we have a nursery full of essentials already. Ok, the expecting father should have asked before selling the stuff. But a baby really doesn't need a second basket. Some babies hate pacifiers (mine all did) etc. Even OP didn't put the baby gifts in the nursery, but in storage. The real red flag is: why doesn't dad have money to pitch in for van repairs? Did OP know about the trip and have they organised a sleepover/ emergency back up for her? The OP definitely had to tell her family/ friends daddy sold their gifts because otherwise it could lead to problems with her family/ friends later when they ask about it. So no, nta

It does sound like she's married to a true narcissist. He flat refuses to believe he's in the wrong and has turned it around to make HER the evil one in this. That is typical narcissist behavior. After 3 years of minor stuff that she has "let slide", she probably only just realized what she married. She is going to have a child now, and her priority will be that child for the next few years. The child is going to be in trouble after a few years of his/her father telling it how he/she is always in the wrong. RUN! Leave this man. Get a good lawyer and make sure that he gets as little custody as possible!

Divorce him !!!! Divorce him !!!!! Divorce him!!!!! People don't change they just get more so.

Sounds awfully fishy.

Change the locks and sell his crap. Hopefully he's got a PS5 or something.

What a d**k.

Fake fake fake

So glad he was smart and left on his own and you didn't have to throw him out.

Seems fake. The next day? Sell them? Return them maybe. Is there some fence on their street taking random baby items? A guy that lazy wouldn't put that much effort into getting $100, let alone have any awareness about what the stuff would be worth. I've seen some weird ones but this doesn't seem likely.

How did he sell it? Did he return it all? Sounds made up. But if it's not then divorce that guy now.

Whenever I read something as shocking and ridiculous as this, I always wonder what the other person's version of the story is. I mean is there an underlying reason for selling the items she neglected to tell the readers? I know people can be jerks, but there is always two sides to every story.

NTA. What a selfish A hole! If he was that desperate for money he should have sold his own sh*t and not his unborn childs.

Aww! Shite. These AITA queries are just full of people who know what they need to do but are too wimpy to do it so they seek validation on the interwebs. Lady get your s**t together and do what you need to do for you and your pikin

He literally stole from your child before the child is even born yet. Get a divorce lawyer and get the hell out.

WTF how could she possibly think she's the AH?? Guys a POS and she should get a divorce from that loser.

Why is she even asking? This is some fabricated bs!!!

Why are people even asking AITA? It's very obvious they are not.

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IMHO, ESH. He obviously sucks because of what he did, but she shouldn't have told everyone about it. Maybe a close friend or her parents/mother. But not everyone. His reaction that she ruined his reputation is crap. He did that himself. But you really shouldn't be broadcasting news like that to everyone. Again, he is definitely a major a*****e, and those of you who are saying it's a toxic relationship and she should get out are right.