
Young Woman Films Her Customer’s Cringy Attempts To Hit On Her At Work Despite Her Not Being Interested, Goes Viral
It shouldn’t be rocket science to sense when a person doesn’t want to talk to you. And that should be respected at all costs, especially if the one being chatted up is a young woman busy working her shift at a store. But 19-year-old TikToker Mickey Ruiz, @mickey.ruiz, has recently revealed what too many women have to go through on a daily basis when men maliciously refuse to regard their personal boundaries.
In a very uncomfortable-to-watch video captioned “Why do men?”, you hear a man relentlessly bombarding her with inappropriate and overly personal questions in a bid to flirt her up, while she demonstrates her blatant disinterest. The video has been viewed more than 8 million times and most people seem to be appalled at the man’s behavior, while others genuinely worry for her safety.
Let’s see the full footage right below, which just shows us all that just like “no means no,” so does “not interested means get the heck outta here, I am just trying to do my job.” And whatever the situation, this has no exceptions, ever.
The 19-year-old TikToker Mickey Ruiz has recently shared uncomfortable footage of a man relentlessly chatting her up while she’s busy doing her shift at work
@mickey.ruizReply to @rixy_21 repost with captions. #ChiliDogYumPlz #foryou #fyp #LiveFlowSweatDuet #TheSuicideSquadMovie♬ original sound – mickey serbia-ruiz
The man bombarded Ruiz with personal and inappropriate questions although she continually showed her total disinterest
Throughout this unwanted encounter, the woman felt deeply uncomfortable but she was still trying to do her job
When it seemed like the man would finally pack up and leave, he kept on torturing Ruiz with yet more unwanted attention
She later posted another video discussing criticism and explaining why women often choose to answer creeps’ questions in fear of their safety
@mickey.ruizReply to @john.jimenez19 and women are the entitled and stuck up ones…♬ original sound – mickey serbia-ruiz
“Harassment at work is sadly a very common problem—especially for women and young workers. Our research has found that just over half (52%) of women workers have experienced sexual harassment at work, rising to 63% for women aged 18 to 24,” Frances said.
“Sexual harassment is more common from colleagues, but it happens from customers and clients too. Of those women who have been sexually harassed at work, 7 per cent said it was from a customer or client. But if you are young and serving customers it is much higher, with nearly half (46%) of young workers in customer service roles saying they have been sexually harassed by a customer.”
When it comes to crossing the personal line, Frances said that nobody should be sexualized, denigrated or intimidated when they are doing their job. “Workplace sexual harassment is not only unwanted touching, hugging, or even assault. It can also be suggestive remarks and unwanted flirting.”
Frances continued that “if a customer or client gets suggestive, or personal and persistent, you shouldn’t have to brush it off,” TUC general secretary warned. “They have crossed the line and you should report it to a manager and your union representative.”
“Trade unions have recently won agreement from the government to toughen up the law. Employers will soon be required to take steps to prevent sexual harassment in workplaces—not only from colleagues, but also customers and clients. A date has not yet been set, but this change to the law cannot come soon enough, and we hope it will make a big difference protecting people at work.”
Those saying "I would have told him off" and such... You may be able to get away with it as a man, but *many* women do not have that option unless we want to risk being shouted at and/or assaulted. We can only hope the creeps leave eventually or someone else makes them leave. (I worked at a bar when I was 18/19 and could write a book about the creeps as this guy.) EDIT: someone had their knickers in a bunch, so I changed it to MANY women. Happy?
Yeah I work at a zoo, (im in guest relations, 15 y/o) and I was selling tickets and this middle-aged man starts hitting on me. He's looking down at my shirt, and is asking all sorts of unnessicary questions to "get to know me" even after the transactions over and I say the "have a great day!" he even asks for my social media and number... (which this is my only sm) and I just told him "could you please step aside so I can help the next customer?" I deflected all of his questions or answered very vaguely. He got kicked out of the park later for smoking and not stopping on multiple occasions of being told not to.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Shame on the man for pestering you with unnecessary questions.
"unnecessary"
Plus you don't want to be fired. I can see the conversation now. Mgr: This customer says you told him off is that true? Girl: Well yes but he was asking me personal questions and wouldn't leave me alone. Customer: I was just trying to make polite conversation. Mgr: You can't talk to customers like that I'm going to have to write you up/fire you.
That is BS, and the creep knew it. Why does that creep think he has the right to interrogate her at her own job?
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Speak. For. Your. Self. And. Not others. Jezus. I'm a woman and I'm TELLING YOU I have that option. It genuinely sucks that you don't think you do but for the love of GOD stop speaking for other people.
Well, lucky you.
Then ask guys out. Stop perpetuating an idea that most women don't want to keep going. If you don't mind being cornered at work then flirt away but don't speak for most women when that's not what they want
She said many women, not all women. Calm down love. I get hit on ALL THE TIME but I'm autistic so my naturally poor social skills gets rid of creeps for me as I can't always tell.
It's not just retail. I'm a mechanic. I get hit on at the parts counter, explaining to customers, walking back from lunch. No, I don't want to "borrow your tool" I'm gonna need more than than 10mm
Why do guys do this? Do they really think that she'll change her mind if they just keep displaying greater degrees of insensitivity? Or do they think that she'll actually be intimidated into sexual acts? Or are they just all "I WILL NOT BE IGNORED, DAN"?
They figure they can wear her down until she says OK, just to get rid of him. Because these guys live in a fantasy world, and they saw it happen in a movie once—-most likely a porno flick.
There are also a lot of people who are just socially inept, like a lot of people on the autism spectrum, who cannot read the cues that she's not interested. It's very scary to be a woman in that position, not sure if this is a clueless-but-harmless guy who will go away quietly on his own, a guy who needs to be directly told to go away, or a guy who will get angry and violent if he's told to go away.
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Yup!
Those saying "I would have told him off" and such... You may be able to get away with it as a man, but *many* women do not have that option unless we want to risk being shouted at and/or assaulted. We can only hope the creeps leave eventually or someone else makes them leave. (I worked at a bar when I was 18/19 and could write a book about the creeps as this guy.) EDIT: someone had their knickers in a bunch, so I changed it to MANY women. Happy?
Yeah I work at a zoo, (im in guest relations, 15 y/o) and I was selling tickets and this middle-aged man starts hitting on me. He's looking down at my shirt, and is asking all sorts of unnessicary questions to "get to know me" even after the transactions over and I say the "have a great day!" he even asks for my social media and number... (which this is my only sm) and I just told him "could you please step aside so I can help the next customer?" I deflected all of his questions or answered very vaguely. He got kicked out of the park later for smoking and not stopping on multiple occasions of being told not to.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Shame on the man for pestering you with unnecessary questions.
"unnecessary"
Plus you don't want to be fired. I can see the conversation now. Mgr: This customer says you told him off is that true? Girl: Well yes but he was asking me personal questions and wouldn't leave me alone. Customer: I was just trying to make polite conversation. Mgr: You can't talk to customers like that I'm going to have to write you up/fire you.
That is BS, and the creep knew it. Why does that creep think he has the right to interrogate her at her own job?
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Speak. For. Your. Self. And. Not others. Jezus. I'm a woman and I'm TELLING YOU I have that option. It genuinely sucks that you don't think you do but for the love of GOD stop speaking for other people.
Well, lucky you.
Then ask guys out. Stop perpetuating an idea that most women don't want to keep going. If you don't mind being cornered at work then flirt away but don't speak for most women when that's not what they want
She said many women, not all women. Calm down love. I get hit on ALL THE TIME but I'm autistic so my naturally poor social skills gets rid of creeps for me as I can't always tell.
It's not just retail. I'm a mechanic. I get hit on at the parts counter, explaining to customers, walking back from lunch. No, I don't want to "borrow your tool" I'm gonna need more than than 10mm
Why do guys do this? Do they really think that she'll change her mind if they just keep displaying greater degrees of insensitivity? Or do they think that she'll actually be intimidated into sexual acts? Or are they just all "I WILL NOT BE IGNORED, DAN"?
They figure they can wear her down until she says OK, just to get rid of him. Because these guys live in a fantasy world, and they saw it happen in a movie once—-most likely a porno flick.
There are also a lot of people who are just socially inept, like a lot of people on the autism spectrum, who cannot read the cues that she's not interested. It's very scary to be a woman in that position, not sure if this is a clueless-but-harmless guy who will go away quietly on his own, a guy who needs to be directly told to go away, or a guy who will get angry and violent if he's told to go away.
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Yup!