Bride Asks Brother-In-Law Not To Bring His Dog To Her Wedding, BIL Ends Up Being Kicked Out For Ignoring Bride’s Request
Getting engaged and finally planning the wedding of your dreams is a challenging yet exciting process; you want everything to be flawless, but you’re also aware of all the stress that is bound to fall upon you as you try to manage everyone’s expectations.
Guest list, deciding on what dress will be “the one”, and dealing with your difficult family members; yes, everyone’s household has one or two individuals who won’t miss a chance to somehow mess with their long-awaited celebration.
Sometimes it’s your or your future spouse’s divorced parents that absolutely despise each other – other times, it’s your brother-in-law who decides to disrespect your wishes and bring a badly behaved German Shepherd to your big day.
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Respecting people’s wedding rules is essential – however, some people are too ill-mannered to understand it
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“AITA For Kicking my brother in law out of my wedding when he brought his dog with him?” – this online user turned to one of the most well-liked Reddit communities to seek advice from the members and, perhaps, find out whether she was indeed wrong to kick her 21 Y.O. brother-in-law out of her wedding because he didn’t respect her rules and brought his misbehaving German shepherd to the party. The post received over 3.5K upvotes and 386 worth of comments discussing the situation.
Woman wonders if she’s a jerk for kicking her BIL out of her wedding because he went against her wishes and brought his misbehaving German shepherd with him
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The author began her post by revealing that she and her husband recently got married; regrettably, not everything went according to the plan and it was mainly her brother-in-law’s fault. The guy is 21 years old, the youngest in the family, extremely well cared for and, frankly, spoiled.
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The OP then revealed that the 21-year-old doesn’t like her. He’s always been extremely passive-aggressive towards the woman and made terrible comments about her on several occasions.
Jack has a German shepherd, a big and a very active boy that he truly adores and takes everywhere. According to the guy’s mother, he wanted the future spouses to include his dog in the wedding invitation they sent him – however, the author told the woman that Jack could not bring his furry friend to the ceremony.
The MIL was highly confused and told the OP that her son didn’t appreciate how disrespectful the future wife was towards his dog.
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Still, the author insisted that no dogs were allowed; and while it did cause some disagreements, the woman strongly believed that the conflict was solved.
But – surprise, surprise – Jack showed up with his dog, wearing a t-shirt with the words “dog dad” on it. The bride-to-be was dumbfounded, at the very least.
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The woman revealed that the German shepherd was running around ruining everything; it was causing loud noise and even made some of the bride’s dearest friends leave.
Finally, when the author couldn’t take it anymore, she demanded Jack take his dog elsewhere, where someone else could babysit it until the wedding was over. Naturally, the man refused and the OP told him to leave.
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MIL told the author that she was being unreasonable and even said that she was the one actually ruining the wedding; she then asked her to calm down and let Jack enjoy his brother’s wedding.
What’s peculiar is that the new husband barely said a thing and only mentioned that they should’ve eloped instead if that’s how everyone was behaving at the wedding.
The OP put her foot down and asked the 21-year-old to leave, and while he did try to argue, he eventually gave in, took his dog and left. The family were upset and said that the bride shouldn’t have taken away Jack’s excitement to share his beloved brother’s happiness on this significant day.
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Jack’s mother was deeply upset and said that the author had overreacted; she declared that the new wife made it personal and was, in fact, acting like a “bridezilla”.
The OP then mentioned that she already made it clear but her brother-in-law disrespected her by going against her wishes, yet, somehow, she’s the one to blame.
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What do you think about this situation? Is the author a jerk for kicking her brother-in-law and his dog out of her wedding?
Fellow Redditors shared their thoughts regarding this uneasy situation
I may have second guessed this marriage if the groom isn't going to stand behind his bride. The 21 year old is a spoiled brat. And this is from someone who has a GERMAN SHEPHERD.
This. Through the whole family away, including the new husband who can't stand up to his family.
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An unruly German Shepherd at a wedding !? are you kidding ?! NTA !!
I love dogs. And cats. All animals, really. I even ran into our burning house to rescue one of my cats (he'd already ran outside, thankfully). However, I'd never bring my pets to someone's wedding, ffs! This is just common sense! When he did it after being directly asked not to, the GROOM should have done something about it, not just stand there with his hands in his pockets. What the hell is wrong with people?!
This marriage won’t last if you don’t deal with your husband problem. He should have stepped up to remove his brother, not you.
Who the hell even considers taking a dig with them to a wedding??
It really does depend. My friend's BFF brought her dog to her wedding , he had his own little collar and tie and little cuffs. But he was quiet, sweet and well behaved. But that was their dynamic.
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NTA. Obviously the younger brother has some issue with the bride so brought the dog knowing it would cause friction.
Yes. Younger brother sounds like an absolutely mental toddler. Mother in Law: gaslighting lunatic. New husband: a coward with no character who takes zero responsibility. If the marriage doesn't work out, I hope this bride knows it wasn't her fault. Also birth control. Don't need anymore babies in the family. Brother in law is enough.
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Sounds like you should reconsider marrying mister hands in his pockets unless you want to spend the rest of your married life fighting your in-laws alone. And for God’s sake, don’t get pregnant until things change. But, do yourself a favor and get out of that marriage, maybe you can get it annulled.
Everyone is clearly disrespecting you and hubs is NOT standing up for you. I was married for 21 years in a situation that was similar and when I finally had enough, I left. I'm sorry to say despite my best efforts that it didn't last...but now I'm with someone for the last 10 years who definitely has my back. I wish you the best, but please don't settle with this controlling mama and her two enabled children.
NTA I love dogs but any good dog parent knows what events are not appropriate to bring a dog to and a wedding is definitely one of them, especially if the dog is not well trained. It's behaviour was probably signalling the dog was distressed at being in an unfamiliar place with a lot of unfamiliar people and was acting defensively. My dog is lovely with most people but is also a little demon when she's in the wrong mood so I think carefully about what places and events I take her to to avoid unnecessary stress to myself, other people and most importantly my dog. This shows a worrying lack of respect towards you from the family and it concerns me how little this owner cares about their pet's well-being. Not every dog is able to be a "constant companion" so dragging them around like an accessory is not in anyone's best interest
Definitely NTA, but... isn't a wedding supposed to be for two people? Not sure which country the OP is from, so it might be just me being clueless about the local customs, but I'm under impression that there should be a bride _and_ a groom (or a bride and a bride, or a groom and a groom), right? And if so, then the rules for the ceremony should be discussed and agreed between them, shouldn't they? So how come the groom acts like the whole situation (with _his_ family, mind you) is absolutely not his business? Why does OP even ask if _she_ is the AH, when this is not supposed to be her sole responsibility?
The husband is a spinless arsehole; and as this is a post from a year ago I expect they're already divorced.
Definitely NTA... I have a feeling MIL & BIL planned this and that "Dog Dad" T shirt was made/bought specifically to flaunt their disrespect... chat to your new hubby girl and make sure he is going to have your back next time
I'm surprised the BIL didn't use the "emotional support" dog excuse like ALOT of others does just to get their pets inside of a store or business. I see enough of that at my work, coming in with their poodles with ribbons in their hair sitting in a shopping cart or in a stroller swearing that their pet is an "emotional support" pet🙄 ppl are using their cats for the same excuse. It does suck when there's ppl who actually needs a emotional support pet and can't go into public places cause of ppl faking...
Well, I'll be damn!! He doesn't care about nobody but himself. He accomplished what he went to do and that's ruining the wedding. The husband is useless and his family also. Didn't anybody else stepped up to this spoiled little brat of a boy!! He doesn't have any respect for any one at all. I would have had the chihuahua beat his dog up, those little dogs are nasty and tough. 😁
She married to a terrible family. With MIL and BIL like that, good luck. I hope your husband is a good husband.
You BIL and MIL are truly disgusting creatures with an over abundance of entitlement. They ATAH, not you. Shame on your husband for not taking your side.
Does the brother suffer a mental disability of some sort. or is he just spoiled and nasty?
Anyone who can understand common sense, knows dogs do not belong at weddings unless the bride or groom specifically wants them there, or if it’s a service dog. For any guest (family or friend) to even ask is crossing a huge line and is a strong narcissistic sign. However, calling anyone ‘spoiled’ is childish name calling that stems from childhood. The only way this woman would know if her brother-in-law had any kind of behavior issue, would be from her new husband who likely tells this to a lot of people. To call your brother spoiled and then not give them any boundaries is feeding the superiority complex this brother-in-law obviously has. The new husband will have even worse boundaries for his mom who probably has a stronger superiority complex. Parents are a child’s biggest teacher in life after all, be it learning from or against. Sounds like this bride didn’t know what she was getting herself into when she married such a man and his family.
WTF brings a dog to a wedding to begin with?!?! JHC!!!!!!!! Unless it's a literal guide dog, NO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How can the MIL just sit there and do nothing? This is her child and her daughter-in-law's wedding. How can she be such a smug idiot about it? That's horrible. OP and their husband should be enjoying this moment. Not trying to remove a guest and his dog who were not invited to their wedding. Let me say this again. THIS. IS. THEIR. MOMENT. What's even the point on putting so much stress, angst, and frustration on two people who are just trying to enjoy and celebrate their wedding?
Yeah, the Dog Dad shirt spells it out that he did this to be spiteful.
I love dogs so much and have been to weddings where the couple brought their dog which was always my favorite bc they'd just go around saying hi and getting pet. The difference is that that's the couples dog and it's well behaved. If you ask someone not to do something at your wedding (something completely reasonable, that is) and they don't respect it, you're more than justified in kicking them out. Should've kicked the MIL out too. Would love to see an update from OP saying what their husband did after this, or if he just tried to remain indifferent when his family was insulting his new spouse.
I've never heard of ANYONE bringing a dog to a wedding. I know I am being classiest, but seriously that's trashy and not the norm. It is not an appropriate plus one. And the week husband? I'd love an update.
I had two german shepherds myself for years and years. They're big, smelly, and were always trying to get in my way, be on top of me and other visitors, etc. I loved them, don't get me wrong, but there's no way I would have brought them somewhere someone specifically told me not to--especially because they were guard dogs. They didn't like you? They nipped. Warning bite. Not appropriate for gatherings.
Upvoted this because Bill should just have somewhere else. Though looked like his dog enjoyed bringing a large stick. If you are still single, look for someone that loves your dog or is not such a bridezilla when you tie the knot. People can come with a dog before you meet them...accept this is a package deal...and look at a lot of precedent stories of how pets can enrich your life or otherwise move on!!!
She said her new husband, said I should of eloped, that said he is not Happy, And you wanted too fight your way through this Dysfunctional family knowing full well, the MIL and his younger brother ways it not there first time You get what you asked for
Best thing she coulda done. Gotta set limits and stick to it or those classless excuses for human beings will do what they want because they feel like it. Good on her...hope the hubby finds a way to wash the yellow streak off his back
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Not going to second guess this. especially since it is a one-sided note. There is a few thing missing and the one who wrote is missing a few things.
I agree a whole lot missing, since the wedding was at her brothers house
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An untrained german shepherd on a wedding, what a marvelous idea, what could possibly go wrong? But I am mostly impressed how much unjustified hate the husband gets. It wasn't his idea not to invite the dog. If you can't handle it, when your husband isn't always on your side, get a dog, a human seems to be to emotionaly complex for you.
… Well, it isn’t very nice if he can’t back her up in order to not force her to be the bad guy with the family she just married into, I’d say. I’m not sure I’d dump him over it, but that’s actually a bit lacking in spine I must say. Will she then have to remain the bad guy every time there’s a spat with his family because he doesn’t have cojones enough to speak up…? Not an ideal scenario.
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Yeah clearly it was so fun other guests were leaving because it was so fun. Did you actually read the article or just decided to type a brainless response for us to all "enjoy"
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I may have second guessed this marriage if the groom isn't going to stand behind his bride. The 21 year old is a spoiled brat. And this is from someone who has a GERMAN SHEPHERD.
This. Through the whole family away, including the new husband who can't stand up to his family.
Load More Replies... An unruly German Shepherd at a wedding !? are you kidding ?! NTA !!
I love dogs. And cats. All animals, really. I even ran into our burning house to rescue one of my cats (he'd already ran outside, thankfully). However, I'd never bring my pets to someone's wedding, ffs! This is just common sense! When he did it after being directly asked not to, the GROOM should have done something about it, not just stand there with his hands in his pockets. What the hell is wrong with people?!
This marriage won’t last if you don’t deal with your husband problem. He should have stepped up to remove his brother, not you.
Who the hell even considers taking a dig with them to a wedding??
It really does depend. My friend's BFF brought her dog to her wedding , he had his own little collar and tie and little cuffs. But he was quiet, sweet and well behaved. But that was their dynamic.
Load More Replies... NTA. Obviously the younger brother has some issue with the bride so brought the dog knowing it would cause friction.
Yes. Younger brother sounds like an absolutely mental toddler. Mother in Law: gaslighting lunatic. New husband: a coward with no character who takes zero responsibility. If the marriage doesn't work out, I hope this bride knows it wasn't her fault. Also birth control. Don't need anymore babies in the family. Brother in law is enough.
Load More Replies... Sounds like you should reconsider marrying mister hands in his pockets unless you want to spend the rest of your married life fighting your in-laws alone. And for God’s sake, don’t get pregnant until things change. But, do yourself a favor and get out of that marriage, maybe you can get it annulled.
Everyone is clearly disrespecting you and hubs is NOT standing up for you. I was married for 21 years in a situation that was similar and when I finally had enough, I left. I'm sorry to say despite my best efforts that it didn't last...but now I'm with someone for the last 10 years who definitely has my back. I wish you the best, but please don't settle with this controlling mama and her two enabled children.
NTA I love dogs but any good dog parent knows what events are not appropriate to bring a dog to and a wedding is definitely one of them, especially if the dog is not well trained. It's behaviour was probably signalling the dog was distressed at being in an unfamiliar place with a lot of unfamiliar people and was acting defensively. My dog is lovely with most people but is also a little demon when she's in the wrong mood so I think carefully about what places and events I take her to to avoid unnecessary stress to myself, other people and most importantly my dog. This shows a worrying lack of respect towards you from the family and it concerns me how little this owner cares about their pet's well-being. Not every dog is able to be a "constant companion" so dragging them around like an accessory is not in anyone's best interest
Definitely NTA, but... isn't a wedding supposed to be for two people? Not sure which country the OP is from, so it might be just me being clueless about the local customs, but I'm under impression that there should be a bride _and_ a groom (or a bride and a bride, or a groom and a groom), right? And if so, then the rules for the ceremony should be discussed and agreed between them, shouldn't they? So how come the groom acts like the whole situation (with _his_ family, mind you) is absolutely not his business? Why does OP even ask if _she_ is the AH, when this is not supposed to be her sole responsibility?
The husband is a spinless arsehole; and as this is a post from a year ago I expect they're already divorced.
Definitely NTA... I have a feeling MIL & BIL planned this and that "Dog Dad" T shirt was made/bought specifically to flaunt their disrespect... chat to your new hubby girl and make sure he is going to have your back next time
I'm surprised the BIL didn't use the "emotional support" dog excuse like ALOT of others does just to get their pets inside of a store or business. I see enough of that at my work, coming in with their poodles with ribbons in their hair sitting in a shopping cart or in a stroller swearing that their pet is an "emotional support" pet🙄 ppl are using their cats for the same excuse. It does suck when there's ppl who actually needs a emotional support pet and can't go into public places cause of ppl faking...
Well, I'll be damn!! He doesn't care about nobody but himself. He accomplished what he went to do and that's ruining the wedding. The husband is useless and his family also. Didn't anybody else stepped up to this spoiled little brat of a boy!! He doesn't have any respect for any one at all. I would have had the chihuahua beat his dog up, those little dogs are nasty and tough. 😁
She married to a terrible family. With MIL and BIL like that, good luck. I hope your husband is a good husband.
You BIL and MIL are truly disgusting creatures with an over abundance of entitlement. They ATAH, not you. Shame on your husband for not taking your side.
Does the brother suffer a mental disability of some sort. or is he just spoiled and nasty?
Anyone who can understand common sense, knows dogs do not belong at weddings unless the bride or groom specifically wants them there, or if it’s a service dog. For any guest (family or friend) to even ask is crossing a huge line and is a strong narcissistic sign. However, calling anyone ‘spoiled’ is childish name calling that stems from childhood. The only way this woman would know if her brother-in-law had any kind of behavior issue, would be from her new husband who likely tells this to a lot of people. To call your brother spoiled and then not give them any boundaries is feeding the superiority complex this brother-in-law obviously has. The new husband will have even worse boundaries for his mom who probably has a stronger superiority complex. Parents are a child’s biggest teacher in life after all, be it learning from or against. Sounds like this bride didn’t know what she was getting herself into when she married such a man and his family.
WTF brings a dog to a wedding to begin with?!?! JHC!!!!!!!! Unless it's a literal guide dog, NO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How can the MIL just sit there and do nothing? This is her child and her daughter-in-law's wedding. How can she be such a smug idiot about it? That's horrible. OP and their husband should be enjoying this moment. Not trying to remove a guest and his dog who were not invited to their wedding. Let me say this again. THIS. IS. THEIR. MOMENT. What's even the point on putting so much stress, angst, and frustration on two people who are just trying to enjoy and celebrate their wedding?
Yeah, the Dog Dad shirt spells it out that he did this to be spiteful.
I love dogs so much and have been to weddings where the couple brought their dog which was always my favorite bc they'd just go around saying hi and getting pet. The difference is that that's the couples dog and it's well behaved. If you ask someone not to do something at your wedding (something completely reasonable, that is) and they don't respect it, you're more than justified in kicking them out. Should've kicked the MIL out too. Would love to see an update from OP saying what their husband did after this, or if he just tried to remain indifferent when his family was insulting his new spouse.
I've never heard of ANYONE bringing a dog to a wedding. I know I am being classiest, but seriously that's trashy and not the norm. It is not an appropriate plus one. And the week husband? I'd love an update.
I had two german shepherds myself for years and years. They're big, smelly, and were always trying to get in my way, be on top of me and other visitors, etc. I loved them, don't get me wrong, but there's no way I would have brought them somewhere someone specifically told me not to--especially because they were guard dogs. They didn't like you? They nipped. Warning bite. Not appropriate for gatherings.
Upvoted this because Bill should just have somewhere else. Though looked like his dog enjoyed bringing a large stick. If you are still single, look for someone that loves your dog or is not such a bridezilla when you tie the knot. People can come with a dog before you meet them...accept this is a package deal...and look at a lot of precedent stories of how pets can enrich your life or otherwise move on!!!
She said her new husband, said I should of eloped, that said he is not Happy, And you wanted too fight your way through this Dysfunctional family knowing full well, the MIL and his younger brother ways it not there first time You get what you asked for
Best thing she coulda done. Gotta set limits and stick to it or those classless excuses for human beings will do what they want because they feel like it. Good on her...hope the hubby finds a way to wash the yellow streak off his back
Load More Replies... Not going to second guess this. especially since it is a one-sided note. There is a few thing missing and the one who wrote is missing a few things.
I agree a whole lot missing, since the wedding was at her brothers house
Load More Replies... An untrained german shepherd on a wedding, what a marvelous idea, what could possibly go wrong? But I am mostly impressed how much unjustified hate the husband gets. It wasn't his idea not to invite the dog. If you can't handle it, when your husband isn't always on your side, get a dog, a human seems to be to emotionaly complex for you.
… Well, it isn’t very nice if he can’t back her up in order to not force her to be the bad guy with the family she just married into, I’d say. I’m not sure I’d dump him over it, but that’s actually a bit lacking in spine I must say. Will she then have to remain the bad guy every time there’s a spat with his family because he doesn’t have cojones enough to speak up…? Not an ideal scenario.
Load More Replies... Yeah clearly it was so fun other guests were leaving because it was so fun. Did you actually read the article or just decided to type a brainless response for us to all "enjoy"
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