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“Breastfeeding Equals Incest”: Man Divorces Wife For Going Behind His Back To Feed Baby
“Breastfeeding Equals Incest”: Man Divorces Wife For Going Behind His Back To Feed Baby
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“Breastfeeding Equals Incest”: Man Divorces Wife For Going Behind His Back To Feed Baby

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Despite the fact that we are all living in the 21st century, there are still some folks, often men, who have very strange and old-fashioned concepts about being married and what exactly they are entitled to.

A netizen shared screenshots from a particularly unhinged conversation, where a husband had accused his wife of incest because she was breastfeeding their child. We got in touch with the woman who shared the story. Readers reacted with shock and aggressively mocked this man for his bizarre, unhinged and downright entitled beliefs about his wife’s body.

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    Some women choose to breastfeed their kids

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    But one woman was shocked to learn that her husband insisted she not breastfeed because it was “incestous”

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    There are still some bizarre and old-fashioned norms around breastfeeding

    Bored Panda got in touch with the netizen who shared the story and they were kind enough to answer some of our questions and share some more details. Naturally, we wanted to know what exactly they thought was going through the husband’s brain.

    “I’m not sure about where the husband was coming from. Honestly, I believe that our society as a whole has an issue with still sexualizing breastfeeding and I think this man just had an over sexualized view of it in his mind. I’m a nursing Mom and I nursed my 2 younger children and even when I would nurse them in public with cover on I would get weird looks and was treated differently by staff members,” she shared. The unfortunate fact is that many women end up judged for their normal bodily functions even in professional settings.

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    “When I was returning to work after my now 9 year old was born, the company I worked for, Savers, refused to let me nurse on a schedule that was practical, they wanted me to wait until another manager could come in and cover me 5 hours into my shift which is just not realistic for a nursing mom to wait that long, but they told me to just supplement with formula so I think David just took that mentality too far.”

    Image credits: Anna Shvets / pexels (not the actual photo)

    The woman who posted the screenshots ended up being banned

    We also wanted to know more about the original source, the woman whose husband sent the bizarre and frankly disturbing texts. “Unfortunately, Reddit banned the wife’s account because she had posted images of their divorce papers to prove she wasn’t lying and she didn’t blur out their info. A few people doxed her and her ex-husband so Reddit took exception to it.”

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    “She did post on her personal page that they were in the middle of divorcing and that he also sees bathing their 2 sons after 2 years old as incest as well, so I think that he just has a very strange and over sexualized view of things, maybe he’s even taken the Oedipus complex a bit too seriously seeing his sons as “competition,”” she share with Bored Panda. The internet is littered with the horrible stories of entitled people, but putting your own bizarre and possessive interest over your wife’s body in front of your newborn is extreme.

    “I initially saw the post on r/facepalm and another person that commented on my post saw it reposted in the “twohottakes” group but I’m not sure if they’re still up as Reddit seems to be trying to wipe this thing off of here; they even gave me a strike against suspension because they’re saying I posted “violent content that threatened physical harm.”

    “So it’s kind of odd that they’re being so diligent at wiping this thing off here when I strongly think that this mentality needs to be challenged and brought to light not just for the safety of women, but for the health of our children too.” If you feel like this tale left a bad taste in your mouth, feel free to check out our article on misogynists being called out.

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    Image credits: Ivan Samkov / pexels (not the actual photo)

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    Later, the user who shared the story answered some questions

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    Many readers thought the husband was being disgusting

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    Justin Sandberg

    Justin Sandberg

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    I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

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    Justin Sandberg

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Author, BoredPanda staff

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    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What did I just read! And to think a person with his mind is walking around free…

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *sigh*. Sometimes I wish I had magic power to string this idiot up by his balls and give a few women a baseball bat. This makes smoke come out of my ears. Pity we as a group of Pandas can't help this poor woman. I sincerely hope she gets her firstborn back and can get on with her life without this toxic, deranged, very dangerous idiot.

    EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇵🇸🇩🇿
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baseball bat with nails in it. I can't believe what i read. This guy is just the sickest, most ignorant human being ever.

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    Stephanie Did It
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if breastfeeding and bathing a helpless infant or toddler is incest, he started by "punishing" her, but how long before this nut starts viewing his own sons as actual rivals and turns his aggression on them? One is seemingly safe with her (for now) but it's the firstborn in his possession that I'm worried about. That child is in very real danger.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, this guy should NOT be given any custody. He shouldn't even be allowed around his sons without someone else present.

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    My O My
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally I think that people with this mindset should be kicked out of the military. Do you really want someone with that believes to fight for your country and carry these thoughts as the general mindset of your country out into the world?

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who has been surrounded by military, police, firefighters and the like for nearly a decade, we'd be left without these services if we kicked out all the psychopaths. These types of Jobs attract the power-hungry. The military isn't (and has never been) the way Hollywood likes to portray it.

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    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone should tell this gianormous fückhead of a moron that he too was a baby at some point and was suckling on his mother's milky makers. He too did the "incest" as he calls it. The OP should be happy he's divorcing her, and keep these texts as evidence for the court. A man with a mindset like that shouldn't raise kids. "My" wife, "my" boobs, my my my. The wife is a living breathing human and not his pet or property for Pete's sake! A baby is not a concurrent anyway, it is a baby. It is *hungry*.

    Alro
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait till he realises that she has to clean the baby's penis

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    Lost Penny
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How...How do people end up with a dumpster of such epic proportions festering in their heads?? Seriously, how??

    Hodge Elmwood
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder how many red flags she missed before they got married. Not blaming her, because men like this can be really good at hiding their craziness, but I can't help thinking there had to be some sign he was nuts!

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    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Y bet HuntYr an WYlder were hys ydea, too. What a tool. But what is more surprising is how apologetic and accomodating the woman was. I mean ... how much s**t does one have to put up with? Printout, lawyer, sole custody, done.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't know how much more abusive he's outside of texts, keep that in mind. Maybe she's scared

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    Adira Bennett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This man's abusive jealousy surrounding his wife's motherhood is very typical for a perpetrator of domestic violence. The #1 cause of death for pregnant women in the US isn't pre-eclampsia or pulmonary embolism... it's HOMICIDE. The abuser is so possessive of their pregnant partner's body and attention and affection that they view the embryo/fetus/infant as an invader; a threat to their sense of power and ownership. Using the child as a p**n to coerce their partner is also common, like this man's threats about custody. This woman is in DANGER, and if he did abscond with their older son, her son is potentially in danger too. He has firearms, and he is probably capable of murdering his wife and/or son/s. Deadly weapons, recent pregnancy and childbirth, threat of separation... these are check marks on the list of lethality factors used to assess level of active mortal danger for DV victims.

    Adira Bennett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For anyone wondering, the word BP decided to censor is NOT a slang term for explicit imagery. It's the lowest value chess piece. And I have no idea why it got censored!

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    Ritchat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I first admired how calm she is able to stay after his irrational accusations... until it slowly dawned on me that she probably had to de-escalate situations where he became irrationally angry before... He sounds like he is one step away from becoming violent and it wouldn't be the first time...

    Spencer's slave no longer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Breastfeeding is the most natural act for women after giving birth. Bottle feeding is also 100% what's best for baby if we can't,/choose not to breastfeed. This particular thread is akin to a "man" complaining on this very thread that "my wife breastfeeding my daughter will make her a lesbian". I honestly wonder at the upbringing of any "man" who is convinced that vaginal birth is a sexual act.

    -
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'cause babies have phenomenal memories and brag about their sexual exploits to the other babies in the nursery. "Hoooboy, I was all up in her business, gettin' squeezed out. By the time she was done, my head was shaped funny and I could barely see. I cried when I came."

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    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What did I just read! And to think a person with his mind is walking around free…

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *sigh*. Sometimes I wish I had magic power to string this idiot up by his balls and give a few women a baseball bat. This makes smoke come out of my ears. Pity we as a group of Pandas can't help this poor woman. I sincerely hope she gets her firstborn back and can get on with her life without this toxic, deranged, very dangerous idiot.

    EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇵🇸🇩🇿
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baseball bat with nails in it. I can't believe what i read. This guy is just the sickest, most ignorant human being ever.

    Load More Replies...
    Stephanie Did It
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if breastfeeding and bathing a helpless infant or toddler is incest, he started by "punishing" her, but how long before this nut starts viewing his own sons as actual rivals and turns his aggression on them? One is seemingly safe with her (for now) but it's the firstborn in his possession that I'm worried about. That child is in very real danger.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, this guy should NOT be given any custody. He shouldn't even be allowed around his sons without someone else present.

    Load More Replies...
    My O My
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally I think that people with this mindset should be kicked out of the military. Do you really want someone with that believes to fight for your country and carry these thoughts as the general mindset of your country out into the world?

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who has been surrounded by military, police, firefighters and the like for nearly a decade, we'd be left without these services if we kicked out all the psychopaths. These types of Jobs attract the power-hungry. The military isn't (and has never been) the way Hollywood likes to portray it.

    Load More Replies...
    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone should tell this gianormous fückhead of a moron that he too was a baby at some point and was suckling on his mother's milky makers. He too did the "incest" as he calls it. The OP should be happy he's divorcing her, and keep these texts as evidence for the court. A man with a mindset like that shouldn't raise kids. "My" wife, "my" boobs, my my my. The wife is a living breathing human and not his pet or property for Pete's sake! A baby is not a concurrent anyway, it is a baby. It is *hungry*.

    Alro
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait till he realises that she has to clean the baby's penis

    Load More Replies...
    Lost Penny
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How...How do people end up with a dumpster of such epic proportions festering in their heads?? Seriously, how??

    Hodge Elmwood
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder how many red flags she missed before they got married. Not blaming her, because men like this can be really good at hiding their craziness, but I can't help thinking there had to be some sign he was nuts!

    Load More Replies...
    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Y bet HuntYr an WYlder were hys ydea, too. What a tool. But what is more surprising is how apologetic and accomodating the woman was. I mean ... how much s**t does one have to put up with? Printout, lawyer, sole custody, done.

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't know how much more abusive he's outside of texts, keep that in mind. Maybe she's scared

    Load More Replies...
    Adira Bennett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This man's abusive jealousy surrounding his wife's motherhood is very typical for a perpetrator of domestic violence. The #1 cause of death for pregnant women in the US isn't pre-eclampsia or pulmonary embolism... it's HOMICIDE. The abuser is so possessive of their pregnant partner's body and attention and affection that they view the embryo/fetus/infant as an invader; a threat to their sense of power and ownership. Using the child as a p**n to coerce their partner is also common, like this man's threats about custody. This woman is in DANGER, and if he did abscond with their older son, her son is potentially in danger too. He has firearms, and he is probably capable of murdering his wife and/or son/s. Deadly weapons, recent pregnancy and childbirth, threat of separation... these are check marks on the list of lethality factors used to assess level of active mortal danger for DV victims.

    Adira Bennett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For anyone wondering, the word BP decided to censor is NOT a slang term for explicit imagery. It's the lowest value chess piece. And I have no idea why it got censored!

    Load More Replies...
    Ritchat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I first admired how calm she is able to stay after his irrational accusations... until it slowly dawned on me that she probably had to de-escalate situations where he became irrationally angry before... He sounds like he is one step away from becoming violent and it wouldn't be the first time...

    Spencer's slave no longer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Breastfeeding is the most natural act for women after giving birth. Bottle feeding is also 100% what's best for baby if we can't,/choose not to breastfeed. This particular thread is akin to a "man" complaining on this very thread that "my wife breastfeeding my daughter will make her a lesbian". I honestly wonder at the upbringing of any "man" who is convinced that vaginal birth is a sexual act.

    -
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'cause babies have phenomenal memories and brag about their sexual exploits to the other babies in the nursery. "Hoooboy, I was all up in her business, gettin' squeezed out. By the time she was done, my head was shaped funny and I could barely see. I cried when I came."

    Load More Replies...
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