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Cunning Husband Uses Wife’s Cancer So That He Can Be Treated Like A VIP, She Finally Explodes
When people vow to look after one another in sickness and in health, it’s not something that should be taken lightly. Unfortunately, some married people tend to forget that they made that promise and only look out for their own well-being.
This is exactly what a man did after his wife got diagnosed with cancer and he realized that he could milk her illness to get free stuff and preferential treatment. She didn’t catch onto his cunning plans until it was a bit too late, and when she finally did, she felt helpless.
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Loved ones are supposed to be by your side when you need support, instead of only looking out for their personal gain
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The poster shared that after being diagnosed with stage 2 blood cancer and starting chemotherapy, she struggled to manage her work and social life
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After she got ill, the woman noticed her husband always mentioning her diagnosis to people and getting gifts, money, and even better parking spaces
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Finally, when her husband tried to get their food early at a restaurant by mentioning she had cancer, the woman had had enough and yelled at him for upsetting her
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Instead of apologizing for his actions, the man made himself out to be a victim, and then continued trying to con people into giving him money
It’s clear that the poster had been dealing with a lot ever since getting diagnosed with Hodgkin lymphoma, and that she was still struggling to cope with the physical symptoms of the illness. Apart from that, she was also trying to manage her work and social life, which must have been tough to do.
According to healthcare experts, when a person is diagnosed with cancer, it doesn’t just affect them physically but can also negatively impact their emotional well-being. Patients might report feeling fearful or anxious about the treatment and their future, as well as depressed about their health.
During such a difficult time, the poster definitely needed the support of her loved ones, but it seemed like her husband had other plans. Instead of looking after his wife, he started using her illness to get unnecessary gifts from people, money for medication, even though her medicines were free of cost, and self-care products that his wife couldn’t even use.
It definitely seems like the man only wanted to use his partner’s diagnosis to gain sympathy and get free stuff, and he wasn’t looking out for her well-being. This can be extremely damaging, as research states that support and care from loved ones are essential and beneficial after a person is diagnosed with cancer.
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The man’s cunning behavior became even more apparent when he cut in line by telling people his wife had cancer, and how he used her diagnosis to park closer to the hospital entrance. Even when the OP told him how uncomfortable his actions were making her feel, he disregarded her and kept doing it anyway.
This kind of situation, where a person might intentionally exaggerate physical or psychological symptoms for personal gain, is called malingering. Psychologists state that people might do this in order to get small benefits or even for bigger reasons, like getting money, an insurance settlement, or avoiding unpleasant situations.
The poster’s husband must have also seen the benefit of using his wife’s illness to gain sympathy and attention, which is why he did it so often. Eventually, the OP had had enough, and she lost her cool after he used her diagnosis yet again in a restaurant in order to get their food delivered sooner.
Even though he had caused her so much pain, the man didn’t seem to realize that he had done anything wrong. In fact, he tried to turn the tables on his wife and said that he was only making a “joke” out of himself for her sake and that he was also affected by her illness, which left her feeling confused.
What do you think about the husband’s actions, and how would you have dealt with such a situation? Let us know your honest thoughts down below.
People were shocked by the man’s behavior and told the woman to leave him because he was a con artist
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Anne Roberts 4 days ago
My son (36m) passed away earlier this year from brain cancer. It was brutal, but he told only a few very close friends about it. He didn't want to be known as "the guy with cancer'. I never would have dreamed of scamming people for personal gain. I loved him (and always will) too much to even think of that.
Sparky Hughes 4 days ago
Sounds very narcissistic. My aunt had lymphoma and only told the immediate family with instructions not to say anything. My mother told people looking for sympathy. When the cousin I’m close to called that she heard from one of our older relatives who is a known gossip. I was pissed and explained how my aunt didn’t want anyone to know. Everyone knew this cousin was close to me. She just told people she spoke to me and I said aunt was fine. Now everyone thinks my mom is getting dementia. Haha
tori Ohno 4 days ago
Judging by some of her wording, and the fact that her medicine is free, she's not in America. They'd both be under arrest for fraud if they were. Every penny, and every item given should be used for her treatment. But it sounds like none of it was used for her.
Multa Nocte 3 days ago
Unless they were Trumps. Trumps did it and got away with it.
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Vinnie 4 days ago
This story is from a 5-year-old post by a banned account. So it might be fiction. As an exercise in "What would you do?", I'd be worried enough to make an exit plan. It's not only about the reputation, but safety. If the cancer goes into remission, who's to say a fraudster won't try to keep the scam going? Or use a death for more attention and material goods? Munchausen by proxy can be deadly.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 days ago (edited)
Yep, even if it's fictional, there have been plenty of real cases like this. Gýpsy Rose Blanchard's mother is one real-world example - even though Gýpsy Rose was never *actually* sick, unlike OP. But you're right, in a real situation, if OP's cancer goes into remission, why would her husband stop looking for freebies and handouts? As a similar-ish real world example, my dad died in 2021. He had been disabled for 21 years (catastrophic brain injury in 2000, the year I was 18.) My mother did not allow us to tell anyone my father had died. She let people go on believing she was the poor, martyred, overworked caregiver spouse to a profoundly disabled man. She still used him as an excuse to others ("Sorry, I have to go home, he wet the bed.") It was baffling and horrible because I couldn't even tell my dad's SIBLINGS that he had died. (I did anyway, in secret.) It was only LAST YEAR that I was finally allowed to talk about it to others. My mom still wanted the pity from being the martyr-caregiver.
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Malor Brycington 2 days ago
Why didn't she just call his parent's and tell them what was really happening and how the medication was free and their son was just taking advantage of them?
Vinnie 4 days ago (edited)
If someone is quite sick, they might be sleeping a lot. That would give someone else leeway to lie ("My wife will be able to use the laptop more when she's better."). Plus there's a wide range of perceiving and investigating whether or not someone received a present. As for the fundraiser, the sick spouse could find out only after someone mentioned it, because they don't check up on their spouses online activities.
Load More Replies... Anne Roberts 4 days ago
My son (36m) passed away earlier this year from brain cancer. It was brutal, but he told only a few very close friends about it. He didn't want to be known as "the guy with cancer'. I never would have dreamed of scamming people for personal gain. I loved him (and always will) too much to even think of that.
Sparky Hughes 4 days ago
Sounds very narcissistic. My aunt had lymphoma and only told the immediate family with instructions not to say anything. My mother told people looking for sympathy. When the cousin I’m close to called that she heard from one of our older relatives who is a known gossip. I was pissed and explained how my aunt didn’t want anyone to know. Everyone knew this cousin was close to me. She just told people she spoke to me and I said aunt was fine. Now everyone thinks my mom is getting dementia. Haha
tori Ohno 4 days ago
Judging by some of her wording, and the fact that her medicine is free, she's not in America. They'd both be under arrest for fraud if they were. Every penny, and every item given should be used for her treatment. But it sounds like none of it was used for her.
Multa Nocte 3 days ago
Unless they were Trumps. Trumps did it and got away with it.
Load More Replies... Vinnie 4 days ago
This story is from a 5-year-old post by a banned account. So it might be fiction. As an exercise in "What would you do?", I'd be worried enough to make an exit plan. It's not only about the reputation, but safety. If the cancer goes into remission, who's to say a fraudster won't try to keep the scam going? Or use a death for more attention and material goods? Munchausen by proxy can be deadly.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 days ago (edited)
Yep, even if it's fictional, there have been plenty of real cases like this. Gýpsy Rose Blanchard's mother is one real-world example - even though Gýpsy Rose was never *actually* sick, unlike OP. But you're right, in a real situation, if OP's cancer goes into remission, why would her husband stop looking for freebies and handouts? As a similar-ish real world example, my dad died in 2021. He had been disabled for 21 years (catastrophic brain injury in 2000, the year I was 18.) My mother did not allow us to tell anyone my father had died. She let people go on believing she was the poor, martyred, overworked caregiver spouse to a profoundly disabled man. She still used him as an excuse to others ("Sorry, I have to go home, he wet the bed.") It was baffling and horrible because I couldn't even tell my dad's SIBLINGS that he had died. (I did anyway, in secret.) It was only LAST YEAR that I was finally allowed to talk about it to others. My mom still wanted the pity from being the martyr-caregiver.
Load More Replies... Malor Brycington 2 days ago
Why didn't she just call his parent's and tell them what was really happening and how the medication was free and their son was just taking advantage of them?
Vinnie 4 days ago (edited)
If someone is quite sick, they might be sleeping a lot. That would give someone else leeway to lie ("My wife will be able to use the laptop more when she's better."). Plus there's a wide range of perceiving and investigating whether or not someone received a present. As for the fundraiser, the sick spouse could find out only after someone mentioned it, because they don't check up on their spouses online activities.
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