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Wife Packs Up And Moves Out After Being Served Divorce Papers, Husband Expected More Of A Reaction
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Wife Packs Up And Moves Out After Being Served Divorce Papers, Husband Expected More Of A Reaction

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Whatever path of life we walk on, some ups and downs are inevitable, and the way we react to and deal with all of these things is different for everyone. But while most people know and understand this, there are some who simply can’t take it when someone’s reaction doesn’t meet their expectations.

A great example of this is a story that one Redditor recently shared online. The woman was approached by her husband, who told her that he loves someone else and wants a divorce. Yet, when the woman took it very calmly and agreed to his request, he was the one to flip out and start calling her names. Scroll down to read the full story!

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Breakups and divorces are hard on all parties involved, but some people take it to whole different lows

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A woman was served divorce papers by her husband, who wanted to marry his co-worker, and instead of fighting, she calmly agreed, packed up, and left

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A couple of weeks later, the guy contacted his wife to complain about her underreaction, and when she told him that she takes time to process, he started throwing insults

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During the hearing, the man learned that the wife hired her colleague to represent her and flipped out even more, fat-shaming her and accusing her of infidelity

Everything began about a month ago. The OP, a 26-year-old woman, was served divorce papers by her 27-year-old soon-to-be ex-husband, who told her that he was in love with his co-worker and wanted to marry her.

After learning this, she started packing and left not long after. Since she worked as a clerk at a law office, she also asked one of her colleagues to represent her in this tedious process and was soon ready to proceed with the divorce.

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A couple of weeks later, the husband contacted the OP, livid about the woman moving out and, more importantly, about her not showing much of an emotional response or “fighting for him.” When she explained to him that she takes time to process things, he started throwing insults, calling her cold, unfeeling, and other things.

Things only got worse when, some days later, the soon-to-be ex-couple had their first hearing, and the man flipped out after seeing that the poster had chosen her colleague to represent her. He began accusing the wife of sleeping with her attorney, and when she denied the claims, he proceeded to further insult her, digging his hole even deeper.

The commenters were very supportive of the OP, complimenting her for her actions and bashing her husband for being a man-child. The poster was quite active with the responses, too, and she shared about how she grew her confidence and theorized that her soon-to-be ex was most likely jealous of her attorney for being everything that he’s not.

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Going through a divorce is rarely a pleasant process, and the OP did indeed handle the situation with a level of confidence that not many can boast of. And yet, when situations like this come, they don’t wait until you’re ready. 

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Fortunately, there are always people who can help, so to get some advice on how to better deal with divorces and what comes after, Bored Panda reached out to  Vanessa Marie, who is a certified women’s life coach. She seeks to help her clients by “instilling a positive mindset and reprogramming subconscious beliefs to foster a holistic approach, empowering women in every facet of their lives.”

The expert began by explaining that a choice between divorce and trying to save your marriage rarely has a better option. According to her, it is often “more about what’s healthier for individuals in their unique situations.”

“If you find your self-worth diminishing and your safety and happiness compromised, it might be time to reevaluate,” said Vanessa, adding that, in the end, people should base their decision on their personal well-being and positive growth outside the marriage’s potential.  

Depending on both people involved, the process can turn out just as calm and smooth as it can be chaotic and bumpy. However, if your partner acts similarly to the OP’s husband, the expert suggests to try and remember that the only behavior you can control is your own. 

“The best approach is to stay calm and not engage so as not to get sucked into their negativity. Let your lawyers handle the legal aspects and focus on managing your own responses and emotions,” said the life coach, explaining that all the insults and hurtful actions usually come from a person’s own insecurities.

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Of course, with the legal matters aside, one is still left to deal with the emotional stuff, which can be even more challenging. “To ease the process of going through a divorce and rebuild afterward, anchor yourself in self-worth and a mindset geared towards growth, not resentment,” advised Vanessa.

It is wise to seek the help of friends, family, or professionals, to surround yourself with a strong support network, and get emotional and practical guidance. At the same time, it’s crucial to set yourself on a good path for the future, focusing on new and exciting goals and keeping your energy focused on your growth. 

But even when all is said and done, regret might not always be avoidable. “Navigating regret after a necessary divorce is challenging, yet this is why it’s so important to make each significant decision with confidence and thoughtful consideration,” explained the expert, adding that we should prioritize our long-term well-being. Therefore, even though it’s tough, facing the hardship of divorce is usually a more beneficial choice than enduring an unhappy marriage indefinitely.

Most endings usually seem neither happy nor pretty at the time of their occurrence. However, instead of throwing tantrums over them, like the OP’s husband, it’s good to remember that every ending is also the beginning of something new, and the sooner you make peace with it, the quicker you’ll recover and be able to continue your journey.

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What did you think about this story? How would you have handled a partner like that? Tell us all about it in the comments below! 

The commenters supported the woman, complimenting her for her confidence and bashing the husband for his child-like behavior

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Hey! I’m Dominykas, and I come from Lithuania. According to my diploma, I’m a UX Designer. However, when during my studies, I (re)discovered my passion for storytelling, I’ve been doing that ever since, mostly in writing. I have written a few short stories, some songs, and a good bunch of articles, and I plan to keep expanding on all these fronts. Aside from that, I’m also a film buff, traveler, casual basketball player, video game enthusiast, and nature lover who will rarely pass up on a little hike through the forest or a simple walk around a park.

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Dominykas Zukas

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Hey! I’m Dominykas, and I come from Lithuania. According to my diploma, I’m a UX Designer. However, when during my studies, I (re)discovered my passion for storytelling, I’ve been doing that ever since, mostly in writing. I have written a few short stories, some songs, and a good bunch of articles, and I plan to keep expanding on all these fronts. Aside from that, I’m also a film buff, traveler, casual basketball player, video game enthusiast, and nature lover who will rarely pass up on a little hike through the forest or a simple walk around a park.

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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karenhann avatar
Insomniac
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He never wanted a divorce. He wanted her to change and become a doormat to keep him.

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Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds awesome and clearly successful and smart. I'm betting this wasnt his first strike.

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Dreaming Spirit
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3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if there even was a coworker her husband was after, or was it just a ploy to get her to fight for him.

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Ken Beattie
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might be right. It's possible his problem with her is that she's too cold/analytical and he didn't like it. But if that was the case the first thing he should be doing is talking with her about that, not serving divorce papers. No matter what his ultimate cause was, he shot himself in the foot completely.

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Papa
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first thought when she said he came back and said he was upset that she didn't fight for him was that the girlfriend dumped him so he wants his wife back.

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Hannah Taylor
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He found out that the greener grass on the other side of the fence was Astroturf. 🤣🤣🤣

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Natasha Clark
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Truth be told he was more pissed that you took the good s**t you paid for... GAME CONSOLES. Perfect example of you don't know what you've got til it's gone. His colleague can have him, or may have already dumped him & he's upset you don't want him anymore either. You can move on & do so much better.

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The Other Guest
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can someone clarify what the "red (space) society" and "red /_/_/_/_/_" thing is? I tried Google & couldn't really find anything other than "red pill" and I'm not sure that's what is referenced here.

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Jane Seville
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're talking about red pill and incel men's groups. Andrew Tate followers.

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SheamusFanFrom1987
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP is a queen and soon to be a pretty hot prospect on the market (respectfully) whereas man-child STBXH can go boo-hoo-hoo all his life knowing what he lost. Seriously, how do these kind of mentally undeveloped meat sacks ever manage to get married is beyond me. Plus OP is a gamer girl, I'd call that a FATALITY for him and a big time score for whoever she lets into her life next. Seriously!!!

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Hannah Taylor
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Grit ball" is definitely appropriate here (Go, Madea!) Poor Mr. Ego went down like the Hindenburg, and he can't handle it. OP, go live your best life, and let that overgrown infant stew in his own juices.

emilystevens_2 avatar
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"OMG! I ask you for a divorce and you have the nerve to say 'OK'? How dare you not want me anymore when I just said I don't want you in the most definite way possible! You're being such a b***h!"

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Mike F
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guy sounds like he's in grade school, she didn't fight for him! The dude is a joke and he's probably gonna end up without in the long run. His AP probably won't want to part of a drama machine, lol.

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weatherwitch
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This lady is going places. She sounds fantastic moving forward with confidence and affirmation. He was a right loser who's well and truly lost out, and she will be so happy without him.

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Janis McClure
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! My ex was shocked and was expecting me to be angry, throw a fit, cry and beg him not to break up with him. Thankfully we weren't married. My response was "okay, do what you feel is right for yourself ". Blew his damn mind. He called a few times trying to meet up, I refused and eventually blocked him on everything. When it's done, is done. We'll done on taking your life in your own hands to do what's right for. Never ever allow a man to disturb your peace and damage your mental health because of their insecurities. Your ex tried to flip the script on you but darlin you played that Uno reverse! I wish you all the best.

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Cassie
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's mad she didn't fight for him when he not only didn't fight for her, but went to the effort to ditch her. What does he think she would be fighting for? What a dunce.

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Kathy O'Sherry
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a f*****g a*****e. He's going to be miserable in his new life. My own father did exactly this to my mother - he definitely regretted marrying his gold digging affair partner.

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Ephemera Image
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lovely to see a younger woman know her worth. You don't have to take whatever someone else deems to throw at you. She's a champ!

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Trish Christoffersen
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman is my hero. When my husband told me he was leaving I was happy about it. Then he took forever to pack, so I did it for him. My mom was moving in with me, so he had to get his c**p out. He wanted his cake and eat it to since I found out he had been sleeping with his ex since we got married. Then he tried to sue me to sell our house. Didn't work. No contact for two years and I'm extremely happy about it.

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JP Purves
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Retired paralegal here. OP's husband has got to be the dumbest tool in the shed. She's a law clerk in a law firm surrounded by attorneys and the husband is representing himself. I think we know who's coming out ahead in this divorce. BTW, her comment about her treatment by some of the younger members in the firm is spot on. They should be kissing her feet. Everyone knows that paralegals do most of the work for lawyers.

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Lise Brouillette
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm getting the distinct impression that STBX made up the whole thing about marrying his co-worker to make you jealous. And now he's mad as a hatter because you called his bluff. YOU GO GIRL! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex husband found out I was dating my now husband 4 months after he remarried and FLIPPED TF OUT. I was like, what is your problem? We broke up 3 years ago and NOW you're upset? He honest to God thought we could still have sex when he came up to Seattle (from OR). Not sure where he got THAT idea as when I left him I made it perfectly clear that we were DONE. Totally insane.

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Michael Ruggiero
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She wasn't fully committed to the relationship, what she bought was hers and the rest ours.

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Insomniac
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He never wanted a divorce. He wanted her to change and become a doormat to keep him.

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Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds awesome and clearly successful and smart. I'm betting this wasnt his first strike.

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Dreaming Spirit
Community Member
3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if there even was a coworker her husband was after, or was it just a ploy to get her to fight for him.

kenbeattie avatar
Ken Beattie
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might be right. It's possible his problem with her is that she's too cold/analytical and he didn't like it. But if that was the case the first thing he should be doing is talking with her about that, not serving divorce papers. No matter what his ultimate cause was, he shot himself in the foot completely.

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Papa
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first thought when she said he came back and said he was upset that she didn't fight for him was that the girlfriend dumped him so he wants his wife back.

hannah_taylor_1 avatar
Hannah Taylor
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He found out that the greener grass on the other side of the fence was Astroturf. 🤣🤣🤣

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Natasha Clark
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Truth be told he was more pissed that you took the good s**t you paid for... GAME CONSOLES. Perfect example of you don't know what you've got til it's gone. His colleague can have him, or may have already dumped him & he's upset you don't want him anymore either. You can move on & do so much better.

rpepperpot avatar
The Other Guest
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can someone clarify what the "red (space) society" and "red /_/_/_/_/_" thing is? I tried Google & couldn't really find anything other than "red pill" and I'm not sure that's what is referenced here.

janeseville avatar
Jane Seville
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're talking about red pill and incel men's groups. Andrew Tate followers.

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SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP is a queen and soon to be a pretty hot prospect on the market (respectfully) whereas man-child STBXH can go boo-hoo-hoo all his life knowing what he lost. Seriously, how do these kind of mentally undeveloped meat sacks ever manage to get married is beyond me. Plus OP is a gamer girl, I'd call that a FATALITY for him and a big time score for whoever she lets into her life next. Seriously!!!

hannah_taylor_1 avatar
Hannah Taylor
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Grit ball" is definitely appropriate here (Go, Madea!) Poor Mr. Ego went down like the Hindenburg, and he can't handle it. OP, go live your best life, and let that overgrown infant stew in his own juices.

emilystevens_2 avatar
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"OMG! I ask you for a divorce and you have the nerve to say 'OK'? How dare you not want me anymore when I just said I don't want you in the most definite way possible! You're being such a b***h!"

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Mike F
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guy sounds like he's in grade school, she didn't fight for him! The dude is a joke and he's probably gonna end up without in the long run. His AP probably won't want to part of a drama machine, lol.

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weatherwitch
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This lady is going places. She sounds fantastic moving forward with confidence and affirmation. He was a right loser who's well and truly lost out, and she will be so happy without him.

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Janis McClure
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! My ex was shocked and was expecting me to be angry, throw a fit, cry and beg him not to break up with him. Thankfully we weren't married. My response was "okay, do what you feel is right for yourself ". Blew his damn mind. He called a few times trying to meet up, I refused and eventually blocked him on everything. When it's done, is done. We'll done on taking your life in your own hands to do what's right for. Never ever allow a man to disturb your peace and damage your mental health because of their insecurities. Your ex tried to flip the script on you but darlin you played that Uno reverse! I wish you all the best.

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Cassie
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's mad she didn't fight for him when he not only didn't fight for her, but went to the effort to ditch her. What does he think she would be fighting for? What a dunce.

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Kathy O'Sherry
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a f*****g a*****e. He's going to be miserable in his new life. My own father did exactly this to my mother - he definitely regretted marrying his gold digging affair partner.

ephemeraimage avatar
Ephemera Image
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lovely to see a younger woman know her worth. You don't have to take whatever someone else deems to throw at you. She's a champ!

trishchristoffersen_1 avatar
Trish Christoffersen
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman is my hero. When my husband told me he was leaving I was happy about it. Then he took forever to pack, so I did it for him. My mom was moving in with me, so he had to get his c**p out. He wanted his cake and eat it to since I found out he had been sleeping with his ex since we got married. Then he tried to sue me to sell our house. Didn't work. No contact for two years and I'm extremely happy about it.

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JP Purves
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Retired paralegal here. OP's husband has got to be the dumbest tool in the shed. She's a law clerk in a law firm surrounded by attorneys and the husband is representing himself. I think we know who's coming out ahead in this divorce. BTW, her comment about her treatment by some of the younger members in the firm is spot on. They should be kissing her feet. Everyone knows that paralegals do most of the work for lawyers.

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Lise Brouillette
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm getting the distinct impression that STBX made up the whole thing about marrying his co-worker to make you jealous. And now he's mad as a hatter because you called his bluff. YOU GO GIRL! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

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Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex husband found out I was dating my now husband 4 months after he remarried and FLIPPED TF OUT. I was like, what is your problem? We broke up 3 years ago and NOW you're upset? He honest to God thought we could still have sex when he came up to Seattle (from OR). Not sure where he got THAT idea as when I left him I made it perfectly clear that we were DONE. Totally insane.

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Michael Ruggiero
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She wasn't fully committed to the relationship, what she bought was hers and the rest ours.

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