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Mom Makes Daughter Relive Humiliating Memory In Front Of Her BF, She Claps Back, Makes Her Cry
Mom Makes Daughter Relive Humiliating Memory In Front Of Her BF, She Claps Back, Makes Her Cry
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Mom Makes Daughter Relive Humiliating Memory In Front Of Her BF, She Claps Back, Makes Her Cry

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As kids, we don’t know any better, so of course, we find the life of the princesses from childhood stories very appealing. In fact, they even turn into role models for some of us and we dream of becoming just like them.

The original poster (OP) loved Snow White and she wanted to dress up like her for Halloween, but her mom blackmailed her into wearing a hot dog costume which turned into a humiliating memory for her. Years later, the mom brought this up in front of her daughter’s boyfriend, but she clapped back!

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    As kids, we often fall in love with the fictional princesses and even dream of becoming like them

    Image credits: bigguys45s / Reddit (not the actual photo)

    The poster was obsessed with Snow White as a kid and wanted to dress up like her for Halloween and she had told everyone about it

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    Image credits: ThrowRAhalloweendred

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    Image credits: Walt Disney Productions / Walt Disney (not the actual photo)

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    Her mom didn’t like this, so she got her a hot dog costume and blackmailed her that if she didn’t wear it, she would never watch Snow White again

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    Image credits: ThrowRAhalloweendred

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    Image credits: Tuan PM / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    It was a very humiliating memory for the poster, and years later, her mom told it to her boyfriend but twisted it that the kid had wanted to be a hot dog

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    Image credits: ThrowRAhalloweendred

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    The poster snapped, told the real story, and said that her mother was the evil queen who made her wear rags, leaving her mom in tears

    Once upon a time, Reddit user ThrowRAhalloweendred was obsessed with Snow White to the point where she would do chores just like the princess and kept watching the movie with her dad. She also dreamed about dressing up as her for Halloween in a princess dance at her ballet where she had booked her slot well in advance.

    The kid had also told everyone about it, but mommy dearest had other things in mind as she didn’t think Snow White was a good role model for her daughter. All because she had attempted to make hot dogs like the princess did for the dwarves and ended up making a mess, so her mom “surprised” her with a hot dog costume!

    Now, you might ask how the kid agreed to put it on; it turns out that her mom blackmailed her into either wearing it or never watching Snow White again. When she donned the hot dog costume, the mom clicked a lot of pictures of her, and the poor child was teased about it a lot, turning it into the most humiliating memory for her.

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    Now, fast-forward to the present, the mom narrated this incident in front of her daughter’s boyfriend, but she twisted things saying that the kid wanted to be a hot dog while other children wanted to be princesses. However, her daughter had had enough and narrated the true story, claiming that her mom was the evil queen who dressed her in rags, which was the “garbage meat costume”.

    Later, her brother told her that after they left, their mom took out pictures from that Halloween and was crying looking at them. OP mentioned that she didn’t want to make her mom cry but neither did she want to be humiliated in front of her boyfriend, so she vented online and sought people’s advice. 

    To get more perspective on the matter, Bored Panda interviewed Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor. She mentioned that fairy tales and princess narratives often present a straightforward dichotomy between good and evil, and Snow White’s character represents purity and innocence, making it easy for children to grasp and emulate these traits as desirable.

    It’s no surprise that just like other kids, OP also fell in love with Snow White and wanted to dress up like her. In the comments, OP explained that her mother wanted to mold her into a “counter-culture girl” so that she would be smarter and better than the other kids, and she generally hated everything that the poster liked.

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    Prof. Lobo explained, “When parents push children into roles or personalities that don’t match their true interests or desires, children can struggle to develop a clear sense of self. This confusion can persist into adulthood, leading to difficulties in making decisions, forming relationships, or setting life goals.”

    Image credits: Timur Weber / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    During childhood, Prof. Lobo noted that we are in a formative stage of emotional and psychological development, so humiliations often stick with us for years because of the emotional intensity and vulnerability associated with early experiences. 

    She also added that these humiliating moments can shape how we view ourselves, how we relate to others, and how we navigate the world—often requiring conscious effort and healing to overcome their lingering effects. Well, no wonder she finally clapped back after her mom tried to humiliate her in front of her boyfriend as well, and many people applauded her for doing so.

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    We also reached out to the poster, but she mentioned that everyone was hard on her mom. We clashed when I was a kid, but she’s still my mom, and I do love her. I know she was bullied by more traditionally feminine girls when she was young, and she isn’t a monster, she just did a shitty thing. I love her a lot,” she added. This definitely gives a clear perspective on her mom’s actions.

    Many people were also curious about how OP’s boyfriend reacted to this, and she said that they watched Snow White together. She also told us, He says that when we get married, we should have red, white, and black be our wedding colors, which was the sweetest thing, but I said let’s add blue and yellow accents too to keep it from being too creepy. I love that we’re talking about wedding stuff honestly.

    “It’s a long way off, but I do want to marry him someday. For this year, we’re psyched to go as Barbie and Ken for Halloween! It’s so much fun!”

    Prof. Lobo ended the interview with a few wise words that the key to a healthy parent-child relationship is fostering the child’s unique identity, encouraging their natural interests and passions, and allowing them the space to develop a sense of autonomy and self-worth.

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    Even OP claimed, “There’s nothing wrong with being ordinary, and nothing wrong with things made for little girls. I think a lot of the time, people treat things traditionally loved by young women and girls as though they’re subpar or worthy of scorn, and things traditionally loved by young men and boys as enlightened or superior.”

    She added that in her mind, that’s just misogyny. OP also advised, “Let girls love pink, and princesses, and don’t try to turn your daughters into something they’re not.” With that brilliant advice, we conclude our thoughts and hand things over to you, so feel free to express your opinions in the comments section!

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    Folks online were horrified by the mother’s actions and applauded the poster for standing up for herself

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    Rutuja Dumbre

    Rutuja Dumbre

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see i wasn't the only person with a mom who rewrote memories to suit her fantasies.

    MotherofGuineaPigs
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i hear ya. My mom put me through college - she finally stopped when I came into the room (where she was bragging) and handed her my student loan papers and told her that if she put me through school, she needed to pay this $40,000 student loan.

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    Ms.GB
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom was a great seamstress. Every year she would let us pick out what we wanted to be and sew a costume. I think the most epic was when I was 5 and I wanted to be ET. I remember that costume being really bulky and I had to kind of waddle around in it with the big feet and all but it was amazing! Let kids be whatever they want on Halloween, that's what it's for!

    Sue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister did this. She even made a Barney costume once. I have trouble resewing a seam or cutting a straight line.

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    AKA AKA
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    damn OPs mum really is the evil queen

    CalamityOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can imagine the mom flipping thru the photo album of a weepy, red-faced, grumpy-frowned hot-dog child and thinking, "Look at how much she obviously loved this costume, I just don't know what she was talking about!"

    TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol. Excellent image translation for this sorry tale, thank you.

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    Stacy s
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If mom truly felt Snow White was a bad role model strongly (right or wrong) there are a LOT better options than a flipping hot dog. Maybe Queen Elizabeth (still get a pretty dress) or Joan of Arc. Or Glinda the good witch. I couldn't always be what i wanted due to income, but i was given options in the pricae range .

    Sue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For a while I wanted one of those stupid 60's costumes with plastic masks. Because everyone else had it. But then I got over it.

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    Ringofant
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sincerely? This is downright child abuse/a power act. Period. I do think that every parent can tell a story like this and the whole thing will be told at family gatherings as a "funny thing XY did, when s/he was a child". Doesn't matter, if you are 20, 30 or 40 years old, it's still embarrassing and "definitely NOT funny, Mom/Dad". It was not funny then and it is still not funny now. Do you see me laughing now? You don't? Think about it!

    Tanya Phillips
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the OP isn't laughing too by now, it's just the mum laughing at her, which is bullying.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't worry, she rewrote the day before and turned it into happy memories, she will again and won't remember this as any more than you being mean for no reason one day. My mom does very similar things and in a few weeks she's magnanimously forgiven me for lying and causing a scene and in a few months' time she has ret-conned the traumatic incident back to whatever great parenting fantasy she clings to.

    brittany
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my bio moms favorite story to tell was how when i was in the 8th grade i thought the beetles were a new band. i went to a school dance and when mom picked me up i told her about all the dances and the decorations and music. what i said was "they played the beetles, ive never heard their songs before". i knew the beetles were a 60s band but we werent exactly allowed to listen to them so of course i wanted to talk about them. for YEARS afterwards my bio mom would swear up and down what i said was "they played this new band called the beetles." not what i said at all. (this was in to 90s, i knew the beetles were not new). it got to the point i just didnt listen top any music around her at all.

    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My heart breaks to know how many people share my boat. Having a cruel mother can feel endlessly devastating.

    Binny Tutera
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this was terribly traumatic for OP- that it had such a thunderbolt effect on her when her mother totally changed the narrative on the story. That wasn't- and still isn't- love and support. It was a purely vindictive act to punish her for making a mess when she tried to make hotdogs WHEN SHE WAS 8!!! I made green eggs and ham when I was about that age (and probably a mess, too) and my mom and dad just closed their eyes and ate them.

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    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see i wasn't the only person with a mom who rewrote memories to suit her fantasies.

    MotherofGuineaPigs
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i hear ya. My mom put me through college - she finally stopped when I came into the room (where she was bragging) and handed her my student loan papers and told her that if she put me through school, she needed to pay this $40,000 student loan.

    Load More Replies...
    Ms.GB
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom was a great seamstress. Every year she would let us pick out what we wanted to be and sew a costume. I think the most epic was when I was 5 and I wanted to be ET. I remember that costume being really bulky and I had to kind of waddle around in it with the big feet and all but it was amazing! Let kids be whatever they want on Halloween, that's what it's for!

    Sue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister did this. She even made a Barney costume once. I have trouble resewing a seam or cutting a straight line.

    Load More Replies...
    AKA AKA
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    damn OPs mum really is the evil queen

    CalamityOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can imagine the mom flipping thru the photo album of a weepy, red-faced, grumpy-frowned hot-dog child and thinking, "Look at how much she obviously loved this costume, I just don't know what she was talking about!"

    TribbleThinking
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol. Excellent image translation for this sorry tale, thank you.

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    Stacy s
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If mom truly felt Snow White was a bad role model strongly (right or wrong) there are a LOT better options than a flipping hot dog. Maybe Queen Elizabeth (still get a pretty dress) or Joan of Arc. Or Glinda the good witch. I couldn't always be what i wanted due to income, but i was given options in the pricae range .

    Sue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For a while I wanted one of those stupid 60's costumes with plastic masks. Because everyone else had it. But then I got over it.

    Load More Replies...
    Ringofant
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sincerely? This is downright child abuse/a power act. Period. I do think that every parent can tell a story like this and the whole thing will be told at family gatherings as a "funny thing XY did, when s/he was a child". Doesn't matter, if you are 20, 30 or 40 years old, it's still embarrassing and "definitely NOT funny, Mom/Dad". It was not funny then and it is still not funny now. Do you see me laughing now? You don't? Think about it!

    Tanya Phillips
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the OP isn't laughing too by now, it's just the mum laughing at her, which is bullying.

    Load More Replies...
    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't worry, she rewrote the day before and turned it into happy memories, she will again and won't remember this as any more than you being mean for no reason one day. My mom does very similar things and in a few weeks she's magnanimously forgiven me for lying and causing a scene and in a few months' time she has ret-conned the traumatic incident back to whatever great parenting fantasy she clings to.

    brittany
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my bio moms favorite story to tell was how when i was in the 8th grade i thought the beetles were a new band. i went to a school dance and when mom picked me up i told her about all the dances and the decorations and music. what i said was "they played the beetles, ive never heard their songs before". i knew the beetles were a 60s band but we werent exactly allowed to listen to them so of course i wanted to talk about them. for YEARS afterwards my bio mom would swear up and down what i said was "they played this new band called the beetles." not what i said at all. (this was in to 90s, i knew the beetles were not new). it got to the point i just didnt listen top any music around her at all.

    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My heart breaks to know how many people share my boat. Having a cruel mother can feel endlessly devastating.

    Binny Tutera
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this was terribly traumatic for OP- that it had such a thunderbolt effect on her when her mother totally changed the narrative on the story. That wasn't- and still isn't- love and support. It was a purely vindictive act to punish her for making a mess when she tried to make hotdogs WHEN SHE WAS 8!!! I made green eggs and ham when I was about that age (and probably a mess, too) and my mom and dad just closed their eyes and ate them.

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