Woman Perfectly Explains Consent In One Hilarious Analogy So That All Men Can Finally Understand It
You aren’t one of those people who think someone can ever be responsible for being raped or assaulted. You know that no one is ever actually ‘asking for it.’ You know that rape is always the fault of the rapist. But there are some people who haven’t quite figured it out yet. Addressing them, London-based comedian Alice Brine penned a witty analogy, and it perfectly highlights the stupidity of victim blaming.
While it is a serious topic, Brine’s text is as clever as it is funny and has amassed over 200,000 likes and 95,000 shares on Facebook. “At the time [of the post] there was a cricket player in New Zealand who was in the spotlight for sexual assault,” she told Bored Panda. “The media was blowing up with headlines like ‘She said no, but did she mean it?’ Even one publication went as far as to say “She told him she was on the pill, so how could it be rape?” I got so frustrated seeing all those headlines and wrote the status.”
“I find that the post starts trending again <…> when there is a particular event happening that it relates to,” Alice added. “Right nowI’mm getting tagged in a lot of retweets about a US senator that not too many people are happy with…”
The comedian thinks that victim blaming is a huge worldwide problem. “It’s not a bunch of people shouting loudly at all, it’s embedded into the fragments that build our society.”
And the academia agrees with her. One theory suggests that this kind of victim blaming is inherently human. It’s called the just-world bias and was first formulated by Melvin Lerner in the early 1960s. After his original experiments, Lerner suggested that seeing innocent people getting hurt with no resolution of the situation violates the observers’ sense of the world as just.
“There’s just this really powerful urge for people to want to think good things happen to good people and where the misperception comes in is that there’s this implied opposite: if something bad has happened to you, you must have done something bad to deserve that bad thing,” Sherry Hamby, a professor of psychology at Sewanee University said. “We want to think that if we do the right thing, it’s all going to be OK. It’s threatening to see other people not be OK, so we want to come up with an explanation of why that experience won’t happen to us.”
Scroll down to read Alice’s analogy and tells us what you think in the comments.
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New Zealand comedian Alice Brine had been sick and tired of victim blaming when it comes to rape or sexual assault
Image credits: Alice Brine
So she wrote this analogy to prove that no one is ever ‘asking for it’
Image credits: Alice Brine
Applauding her wit, over 201,000 people have already liked her post
P.S. Alice has one more message. “Is there literally anyone reading this in London who will give me a comedy gig? Please book me.”
I was just wondering do we need to see all these "omg gurl you're so right!" -comments integrated in the post? I mean, they rarely add anything and there's a comment section right here.
OMG you are sooo right!
Gurl!
LOL!!
I agree, but in this case I think Angie Mascorro football shirt analogy is more clever than the main one the story features.
Anarkzie - Totally agree. I've heard it before, but I love it. It would be so perfect to actually use the excuse "he was asking for it - look at what he's wearing!"
omg gurl you're so right!
"omg gurl you're so right!" (I keep on saying since ever since BP started it. What the Internet "thinks" is but a random selection of expression.)
Why not? You don't like facing the fact that not only is she right, people KNOW she is?
Or it's just irritating...
Tim and Duccio make good points though.
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I read some of the comments. That was such an easy analogy and yet some people STILL try to argue against it. What is so hard to understand?!
They've probably done something they might be prosecuted for. That's the only reason I can think of.
its not hard to understand, every normal dude understands this already, the guys who have sex with someone when they say no are rapists and a major minority of men. There is no need for this post to begin with because all rational people understand this already and the freaks that dont are beyond help.
Yes, and NO! You say that "all rational people understand this already and the freaks that dont are beyond help". THIS IS THE ATTITUDE that keeps men from discussing among this shit much more broadly among themselves. The nasty bastards will boast and be seen as rolemodels. All the good men need to be more vocal about what is not acceptable behaviour because there are a lot of other men,especially younger ones, that need them to be good rolemodels.
It's not, but there are people who don't want to understand it, or even have it said out loud. They don't like to face the fact that they sound like assholes while they're blaming victims for assault.
The people arguing against it are those who don't quite see women as people so logic doesn't apply to them.
I thought that too! Some of the men tried to make out that having their stuff stolen would be just as bad! I thought this post was a great way of showing the absurdity of the concept of blame, but having your shit stolen is no way a comparison- even an Audi or gucci watch!!
I chose to believe those people just like being contrary. I really don't want to believe their just stupid.
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may i ask a few question if a women has drunk sex and regrets it, is it rape?do you think theres no women around who take advantage of drunk guys? and do you think only men are capable of rape?
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hmm guess yall aint feminist but mysandrists ....interesting
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I guess some people argue against the condescending, self-righteous tone of the headline.
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What's "hard to understand" is that if you're going to make an analogy, at least make it an applicable one. This analogy does not fit the situation at all because zero people want to get robbed no matter the circumstances. Obviously going home with people from the bar or wherever is a real thing and often both people have the same intent. That's where this analogy fails.
Zero women want to get raped, no matter the circumstances.
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watch out having a different opinion is not liked to be seen on this site this site is not nice to ppl with different opinions
Yeah and hate the "women never say what they want" stereotype too. From my experience - even when we do, most men just don't listen. Because they don't want to. I really don't see what's so difficult about the meaning of the one-syllable word that we all learn to use at about 1,5 years old...
Women never say what they want? Maybe. But we ALWAYS say what we DON'T want. *high five*
That is very true Daria 🖐.
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No is simply a challenge to them.
That's massively offensive.
I was just wondering do we need to see all these "omg gurl you're so right!" -comments integrated in the post? I mean, they rarely add anything and there's a comment section right here.
OMG you are sooo right!
Gurl!
LOL!!
I agree, but in this case I think Angie Mascorro football shirt analogy is more clever than the main one the story features.
Anarkzie - Totally agree. I've heard it before, but I love it. It would be so perfect to actually use the excuse "he was asking for it - look at what he's wearing!"
omg gurl you're so right!
"omg gurl you're so right!" (I keep on saying since ever since BP started it. What the Internet "thinks" is but a random selection of expression.)
Why not? You don't like facing the fact that not only is she right, people KNOW she is?
Or it's just irritating...
Tim and Duccio make good points though.
G
I read some of the comments. That was such an easy analogy and yet some people STILL try to argue against it. What is so hard to understand?!
They've probably done something they might be prosecuted for. That's the only reason I can think of.
its not hard to understand, every normal dude understands this already, the guys who have sex with someone when they say no are rapists and a major minority of men. There is no need for this post to begin with because all rational people understand this already and the freaks that dont are beyond help.
Yes, and NO! You say that "all rational people understand this already and the freaks that dont are beyond help". THIS IS THE ATTITUDE that keeps men from discussing among this shit much more broadly among themselves. The nasty bastards will boast and be seen as rolemodels. All the good men need to be more vocal about what is not acceptable behaviour because there are a lot of other men,especially younger ones, that need them to be good rolemodels.
It's not, but there are people who don't want to understand it, or even have it said out loud. They don't like to face the fact that they sound like assholes while they're blaming victims for assault.
The people arguing against it are those who don't quite see women as people so logic doesn't apply to them.
I thought that too! Some of the men tried to make out that having their stuff stolen would be just as bad! I thought this post was a great way of showing the absurdity of the concept of blame, but having your shit stolen is no way a comparison- even an Audi or gucci watch!!
I chose to believe those people just like being contrary. I really don't want to believe their just stupid.
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may i ask a few question if a women has drunk sex and regrets it, is it rape?do you think theres no women around who take advantage of drunk guys? and do you think only men are capable of rape?
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hmm guess yall aint feminist but mysandrists ....interesting
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I guess some people argue against the condescending, self-righteous tone of the headline.
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What's "hard to understand" is that if you're going to make an analogy, at least make it an applicable one. This analogy does not fit the situation at all because zero people want to get robbed no matter the circumstances. Obviously going home with people from the bar or wherever is a real thing and often both people have the same intent. That's where this analogy fails.
Zero women want to get raped, no matter the circumstances.
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watch out having a different opinion is not liked to be seen on this site this site is not nice to ppl with different opinions
Yeah and hate the "women never say what they want" stereotype too. From my experience - even when we do, most men just don't listen. Because they don't want to. I really don't see what's so difficult about the meaning of the one-syllable word that we all learn to use at about 1,5 years old...
Women never say what they want? Maybe. But we ALWAYS say what we DON'T want. *high five*
That is very true Daria 🖐.
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No is simply a challenge to them.
That's massively offensive.