Hey Pandas, What’s The Biggest Lie Society Tells Us? (Closed)

Damn beat me to it

Certainly there are no guarantees, but perhaps being a decent human is something we should do for its own sake.

I find it is the complete opposite. Or it is just a lose-lose and only the rich get everything.

If hard work was the source for success then the donkey would have been the king of the forst not the lion.

Great and VALID point!

The practical side of this that if you respect your elders your children will show the same amount of respect to you when you are old.

This, absolutely! While I do understand that aggressive behaviour in an elderly person can be due to them realising they are forgetting things/mixing things up which is terrifying simply being elderly does not make me respect them more than a young person. I will be more patient and careful with elderly people, but if you're unbearable, mean and entitled for no reason I don't care how old you are, I'll call you out.

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you forgot: to pay for dating site subscriptions, to pay for dates, to pay for engagement rings (optional), to pay for weddings (optional), to pay for kids (optional), to pay for school for kids, etc etc etc...

Or you can be anything you want to be. No, you literally can't.

Not all our failures are our own fault. Some people want to do things that require other people to do something.

If everyone "made it" who would do the cleaning, work at McDonalds and all the other nn-popular jobs?

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You don't "get" a happy life- you MAKE a happy life. We are responsible for our own life and our own happiness.

Ironic how the ones criticising America are the ones who love it most rather than those who wave American flags and tell anyone who criticise their country to just leave. They criticise because they want America to improve.

I think were going ion the wrong direction

Ikr?! America is a mess. I live here. I know that.

Through out human history there has never been a country like the US, nor has as its principles that everyone is equal, and regardless of where anyone has come from can achieve. We are far from perfect, do some pretty horrible things, but our foundation as put forth strives to always be better. No other country can even begin to state this claim.

When people call me weird, I say, "Thank you."

I've always gone against the wind. I can't stand being or having to be normal. If you see a weed in the yard, I see a flower. I love thunderstorms, that's some of the best sleep I get.

As a woman it is sad how we are still seen as breeding cattle by most of society. Its ridiculous how everybody believes that they know better than you when it comes to being childfree.

Ikr?! My parents still see me as a girl and often say “WHEN you have kids….” it’s awful. I don’t want to have kids.

My husband and I didn't want kids. We agreed that if we ever changed our minds it would be a decision we would would make together. We never changed our minds. Still married 37 years now.

Omfg this is so true my friend in the 5th grade was asked for nudes by a peer and she went to my teacher and the guidance counselor and they said " Oh WeLl ThEreS No Documentation AnD NO PrOFF HaHa sorry " like this is your job! You can't give two sh!ts about this 11 yo girl getting sexualy harrased!

The way to resolve bullying is to stop the artificial "Grades" system where kids are separated by age. If you put a group of kids together with a range of ages, and give the older ones responsibilities to teach and help the younger kids, they stop trying to get self-esteem through bullying and they start to show leadership and get respect from the younger kids, naturally. Source: Maria Montessori.

Sad to hear this. I despise bullying in all its forms but I particularly despise when schools turn a blind eye to it, particularly if the bully's parents are rich assholes who slip the school some under-the-counter funding to hush stuff up

School systems do nothing when a kid gets bullied. I never told anyone I was being bullied until I’d left that school because my friend reported some bullying to the school and it never got fixed or addressed at all.

So will HR!

No closer to a dragon, either.

A writer, I don't remember her name, from more than 100 years ago, once said that it's never too late to make your dreams come true. What if you're an 85-year-old woman who always wanted to be a ballerina?

Gosh darn it! I’m still not a dinosaur trainer.

Damn beaty standards. Damn spellin standards too.

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If that elder ( old person) is rude , obstinate, verbally ugly, you bet. If they are a sweet and kind senior citizen I'll give them the benefit of the doubt. Making it to a ripe old age in and of itself deserves respect, that's how I feel in my heart.

"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie

Also the lie that a biological kid is "more your kid" than an adopted one. B******t.

The blood of the pact is thicker than the water of the womb.

Your family is just a bunch of unsufferable bastards whom you are forced to pretend you do not despise until you can afford your own house.

Work smart not hard. if you have a desk job, learn programming and scripting so you can automate routine tasks.

"Well, you treat them well." - Andy Dufresne

People get aggressive if they are afraid. People are afraid of two things: one, that you threaten their income; two, that you represent an obstacle to them getting what they want (anything they want). The key therefore is to understand what people want and no obstruct them. Once that is achieved they will stop attacking you. If you mean a spouse or partner, leave them. A spouse/partner becomes abusive when you threaten/obstruct what they want, which is generally, freedom from you.

for me my depressions were a combination of me being very sensitive combined with everything going wrong for me at the time. If you are insenstitive you won't react to the most horrible circumstances, and if you are "overly" sensitive the smallest derailment in an otherwise perfect environment can cause issues. It's always a combination.

Trauma is real, but so are skewed perceptions. Sometimes the mental health of an individual is solely based on how they perceive their world rather than how their work really is. Your feelings are valid, but it might not be indicative of your reality.

If life has taught me something is that bad people succeed more in life.

Oh, I don't know, I've seen a lot of karma come to pass.

This is my number one. People need to believe that there's some kind of karmic retribution to the wrongs that happen. Like, you want to believe that some guy who rapes children and gets away with it is going to get some kind of cummupence but the fact is they may just get away with it. I think this is why a lot of people are religious; we have to believe someone like that will pay for the lives they're destroyed if not by us than by some god-like judgement. But the thing I've learned in life is that..in THIS life... they might just get away with it. The things we see ultra-rich people doing... they don't feel any remorse and their punishments are often more money and 'retirement'. Some prisoners have it better than those of us working 80 hours a week just to be poor. Some people are in prison for crimed they didn't commit and they'll never see justice. It's so frustrating. And depressing.

Ow.

Ouch.