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Hey Pandas, What Has Your Family Done To Promote Your “Black Sheep” Status? (Closed)
Sometimes families behavior defies logic. What's your example?
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Oh, haha, I have a good one for this. My family can trance back to the Campbell Clan (history lesson)
The Campbells are the black sheep clan of the Scottish Highlands. The Campbells are best known for the massacre at Glencoe at the ancestral lands of Clan MacDonald. In the early hours of February 13, 1692, 36 MacDonalds were slaughtered -- including women and young children -- after they had welcomed the Campbells into their homes. The Campbell contingent arrived there to convince the stubborn MacDonalds to pledge allegiance to the new Protestant Scottish king, William of Orange, as all other clans had done so they wouldn’t continue to be harassed or killed.
Basically they killed off the MacGregors, the MacEwans, the MacNabs and many other unfortunate clans. And this is why McDonald's at Glencoe has a sign that says "no Campbells allowed"
My sister has a huge wall that says 'Family' in the center. There are tons of photographs; aunts, uncles, cousins, 2nd cousins etc. Guess who isn't anywhere to be seen...
On my dad's side, I've been excluded to 2 of my half brother's weddings, my dad's retirement celebration, holiday family gatherings (all of them) and everyone just kind of ignores me, and quickly wants to brush me off as soon as I try to make conversation with them.
There's a whole thing between my mom and my dad and his family, and issues with my step-mom. Apparently I'm undesired due to other reasons, like not being in a successful career. But that's just be speculating. Either way, I'm not considered part of the family and I'm not the only one who's been alienated.
My mom doesn't wear makeup (not even nail polish, mascara, or concealer). She also doesn't like any music except hymns (I love classical and Kpop), and my dad is a perfectionist go-getter. Neither of them think mental health issues are a actually thing and they are both abusive. My brothers are perfect children in their eyes who rarely do anything wrong.
They think I'm going to become a s**t/whore (insert other synonyms) the moment I leave their home.
I'm sorry to hear you're being subjected to this. I experienced this with mine favouring my brother and badmouthing me at every opportunity so I feel your pain ... Please just focus on what you can do to be better than them. You've nothing to prove to them but you owe it to yourself to get out of there as soon as you can and live the best life you can. I made a promise to myself that I'd never be like my parents and that I would neither need anything from them or ask them for anything. I never have and I never will. I know it's tough when you feel trapped but please be kind to yourself, focus on doing what you can to improve your future and remember their behaviour is a measure of them not you.
How I could tell who was a real friend as a kid was if they could: 1) stumble through the thousands of vintage records scattered around our basement 2) not pick at the plants growing on the ceiling & walls 3) Not mind the BRIGHT colors 4) or the huge picture of Kamala Harris.
My life.
In this instance, I was a black sheep BECAUSE of my family.
My sister has a friend who is the black sheep in her family. Her immediate family is fine, but the extended family are not. Her mother is on the outside too, but her dad and brother aren't. I don't think anyone really knows why it started, but it wasn't helped by the fact that she left the scout group (because of the way her family in the group treated her) and joined a nearby one. One of the things I have heard is that when her dad got covid, he got sympathy, but when she also got covid (tested the day after the dad) her family blamed her for picking it up at work and giving it to her dad!
My sister has a friend who is the black sheep in her family. Her immediate family is fine, but the extended family are not. Her mother is on the outside too, but her dad and brother aren't. I don't think anyone really knows why it started, but it wasn't helped by the fact that she left the scout group (because of the way her family in the group treated her) and joined a nearby one. One of the things I have heard is that when her dad got covid, he got sympathy, but when she also got covid (tested the day after the dad) her family blamed her for picking it up at work and giving it to her dad!
