So I have recently realized that I am nonbinary, and am out to my parents and a few people close to me.
I have a really hard time with social skills, but I really want to come out to everyone so they can try to use the right pronouns for me.
I am throwing a small party/ get together with some friends next week, which that alone makes me nervous. But I was thinking of coming out to some people at the party
Is that a good idea, or is that a bad time to come out, is there a better way to come out?
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Will they respect you? Will they ACCEPT you? Will it affect your safety? Will it negatively affect you mentally/emotionally? Will your living situation still be viable?
If you are unsure or uncertain about any of these questions, it may be best to wait. Maybe get to know what their thoughts on trans people are that way you can be as safe as possible, what matters most if your safety and happiness!
That being said, welcome to the Enby club!
I'm pretty sure most of them would be fine with it, but I still worry
This is a tricky one. Now if you can trust them and know they will respect and accept you,it should be safe. If you’re not sure or don’t think they willl(and if they don’t,they’re not true friends) then I wouldn’t risk it. Your mental health and happiness comes first in any situation. With all that said,I hope they do
Hey, fellow non-binary here, also with social anxiety and bad social skills. I’d say if the people you’re going to hang out with, if the idea of hanging out with them makes you nervous, then if you don’t feel comfortable you should wait.
A cool thing that I have is I have a pronoun pin that I’ve attached to my bag, so when I go out in public people can see my pronouns are they/them. If that sounds like something you’d be comfortable doing, then maybe get yourself one of those!
Coming out is a very nerve-wracking experience, and if you’re already nervous about this party, the thought of possibly coming out probably isn’t helping.
However, if you do want to go ahead with it, then a subtle way to come out is, if someone there gets your pronouns wrong, correct them, maybe saying something like, “actually, my pronouns are ___”(realized as I was writing this that i don’t know what pronouns you use, because not all non-binary people use they/them)
Basically, if you’re comfortable enough to come out, then go right ahead! A get-together with friends is a great place to do it. But, that being said, your safety is first priority, and if you don’t feel comfortable enough to come out yet, then you don’t have to. Trust me, I understand the struggle of ‘that’s not my pronouns, no that’s wrong that’s not me but I can’t say anything). Social anxiety sucks.
Last thing I’m going to say is good luck, and you have people who care about you and respect you.
You do you, and keep yourself safe!
Thank you such for all the help, it's really nice to have someone who understands. I really want to get a pin or jewelry that says they/them because it's also a good reminder to people to use the right pronouns (my parents are still having trouble)
