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Same, this post makes me happy in several unexplainable ways

They’re most likely in a bad mental state and use BP and being a troll to take their anger and aggression out on us; or perhaps the fact that there are infinite genders is dizzying and scary to them. I honestly feel bad for them; clinging to their old beliefs because they’re afraid of change and these “newfangled ideas.” However, I am a very empathetic, nonjudgmental person that tends to see the best in everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt. Also, this doesn’t excuse their actions.

I wanna clip @Weezy's teeth with a rusty nail clipper, then force him to drink boiling battery acid. After that, i'm running him over with a steam roller.

Happy pride month and don't let wheezy bring you down. I stopped being non-binary for 2 months because of his comments. Please don't listen and say goodbye to the haters.

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pride month shouldn't be a thing

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the lgbtq community is trash

For me, I was AFAB, grew up as a "tomboy" who believed they were a boy in the wrong body, back in the 70s/80s when it was NOT accepted/talked about; Today I would probably just be called Trans and transition. I spent the next 30 years trying to conform to society's expectations of what "womanhood" is, and now don't feel like I belong to either male or female. I'm too masculine to be "female" and too feminine to be "male" in any traditional sense. I don't feel like either. I don't identify with my body at all but the dysphoria comes and goes.

So, the term nonbinary can describe a large variety of different experiences, so while I'll tell you my experience with it keep in mind that another nonbinary person could feel completely different. Now, for me personally, I've never truly felt like my agab, assigned gender at birth. This didn't bother me too much in my younger years until I hit puberty. Puberty brought along with it attention to things I didn't want nor felt should be connected to me as a person. I don't think I experience this dysphoria as strongly as trans people do, but enough to where something isn't quite right. With a big problem being that I'm sure I wouldn't be completely happy as the opposite gender either. It's weird middle ground where I feel I'll never be completely okay with my body, but I can at least try to make it better through different strategies. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

For me personally, I've been through a few different labels in the process of figuring myself out. I'm non-binary and this is definitely the least dysphoric and most happy I've felt with myself because there are less expectations and pressures. There is no "manly enough" or "feminine enough" I can just be whatever i want, like whatever i like, dress however i want. it's awesome

I’m AFAB. Thinking of myself as a girl didn’t feel right but thinking of myself as a boy didn’t feel right either. I felt kind of on the outside of things looking in. When I learned about NB it clicked and made sense and I no longer felt on the outside of things

For me (as an afab) it was that whenever I saw myself in a mirror, I never thought "oh that's a girl." It just didn't seem right, and it always sounded off when someone used she/her pronouns to refer to me. For the longest time, I never even considered myself nonbinary until recently, when it just kinda came to me, and I was like "I'm not really a girl, am I?" I started seeing myself differently, and I'm a lot happier and more comfortable

You already have. Coming out is one of the hardest things most LGBTQIA+ people do, after accepting who they are themselves. The thing is, we never stop coming out. Each new job or person we meet etc, we may have to come out all over again. She's shared with you something very hard and you've done what any decent human being would do which is show compassion and love. Showing support is a hard thing to do as it's individual to the person. For some it might be attending pride march with them, others it might be just being there to listen and talk. Best thing I cam advise is talk to your daughter and ask her if there is anything she wants support with, but just knowing you're there and are happy is most likely going to be more than enough

As another bisexual teenage girl, you did an awesome job and you have done enough. Just show support when needed, but always remember you did the perfect thing when she was coming out :)

What might also be a thing to consider going forward: when asking about a partner and whether there is one, ideally use neutral language - like when she says she met someone, don't ask about "him" until you know it is actually a "he". Sometimes that just happens automatically. I don't know what the situation in family gatherings is, if have those - do the realtives know? If so, support could be the same here: making sure they don't assume the gender of the person she might be seeing. But that is just one specific thing that bothers me sometimes, don't know how your daughter sees it. Ideally: just ask her. I think it could mean a lot to her just to have you ask (and then act on the answers)

if you're this nice to her after she came out, you've already shown her that you're supportive.

Personally, I feel like you don’t need to! If she dates a girl, treat it like any other relationship. Don’t make it all special or different. It may make her seem out of place. Good job on u for being supportive. :D

I do feel offended. Someone said their pronouns were "bun bun" (as in a furry) quite seriously, and that s**t drives me crazy because now nobody takes it seriously at all that some people experience a lot of gender dysphoria and yet don't want to undergo surgical or other biological changes for a variety of reasons, or may choose to be gender fluid, etc. and that is a lot more legit than a sexual preference for dressing up in animal costumes.

That's b******t. It's harmful because it makes people think queerness is a joke. It's okay to identify with a xenogender, but I'd recommend not being super vocal about it and just being chill with being nonbinary and using they, it, or some easy to learn neopronouns. This type of s****y person definitely harms us

As someone one who identifies as NB I really don’t care but that’s bc I don’t care what pronouns you use for me. If someone isn’t taking it seriously or being a jerk that’s a show of their character and not mine. But I get that it can be hurtful for other people so I myself am always mindful of asking for pronouns and using the ones the individual wants

I think that xenogenders are pretty awesome, and if they are actually mocking the community, I can tell quickly.

I think it is really weird and don't understand why people say that? But then I am agender, and think it shouldn't matter whatsoever as what you calssify as - as in, no one should have to define themselves in any way and everyone should just be what they are, no labels needed. I do unterstand though that society in most places is a step away from that. So to a certain degree I feel that those genders make a mockery of the need to label stuff and itemize genders, which I agree with. But the way they do it (if that is what they do, I only really hear such genders in the context of mockery) is not fit for the society today.

it’s not so much as want to change as we are who we are, but like for me when i found out being nonbinary exists it made so much sense as to what i had been feeling my entire life

I didn't change my gender, I accepted that I'm a man.

I never really just "woke up one day" and realized I was a guy, or that I liked girls, it was always just who I was, and when I realized there were other people like me it was so validating, I felt like I wasn't alone. It was always a part of who I was, it was just hard for people to see me how I saw myself. Thanks for taking the time to learn more about us before deciding to hate, you are a better person than most.

i am reporting Weezy for hate speech. anyone care to join me?

Assuming you're a woman, let me ask: How do you know you're a woman? When did you first see yourself as a girl? Well, that isn't the case for everyone. I always thought I was a boy when I was very young, and getting into middle school I hated that I was a "girl" physically and separated from doing the things and looking the way I felt. As for opening up sexually, well, I think everyone is bisexual on a spectrum: The Kinsey Scale makes more sense than thinking of things in binary. Sometimes I feel more attracted to women, sometimes to men. It can depend on the people I'm with, or the way I feel that day. Other cultures, e.g. the ancient Greeks and Romans were pretty much all bisexual, and Western Christian/Abrahamic religious culture has basically brainwashed us. It was the Westerners who adopted this need to categorize things, and split things into definitive categories. That's not natural.

Everyone is different. Most trans couples I know broke up, but some stayed together. I have a good friend who identifies as lesbian and has a hard time with knowing what terms to use around her trans-masc partner -- can she still call herself a lesbian without offending/ diminishing her partner's identity as a man? etc. It's so complicated.

I'm not trans but i have a lesbian couple as friends. One of them transitioned to male and they seem just as happy as they were before, but on the other hand i knew a guy that decided not to tell his family he was transitioning so wife and kids got to find out from a national newspaper. they were devastated at how he went about telling them and disowned him/her for it.