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#1

I’ve always thought Lesbian was a female attracted to females and Gay was male attracted to male, but people often refer to women as gay. How does this work?

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Queerios
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gay is basically an umbrella term for people in the LGBTQ+ community. Some people use "gay" even if they're not a man attracted to men. Lesbians are also sometimes referred to as gay women :) (Sorry if this is confusing lol)

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#2

Why do some in the community have to assume someone is (whatever)phobic as soon as they have a different view than them? I think it rather gives a bad outlook for others of the community.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn’t really a question to pose to a community where having an opposing opinion [i.e. most ‘opposing opinions facing the lgbtq community are, ‘being ‘x’ is bad/goes against religion/goes against evolution.’] So when you have an opposing opinion to an lgbtq-centric community that is why the the jump goes to ‘phobic’…99% of the time, it is. Now, if you mean on a universal scale why we are so intolerant of other peoples lifestyles and beliefs…we are in an incredibly divisive era and are incapable of tolerating our differences and social media has only made it worse.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, was asking, why do people assume (whatever)phobic when someone is asking questions? I do not have some (phobia) fear of people. Why is the phrasing used so much? -- Personally, it looks bad on a community that is supposed to accept all genders or sexual orientations. So yes, it is a genuine question, "Why is "(whatever)phobic" the general go to phrase when posed with questions that someone wants answers to that are on the topic at hand?"

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#3

I am a very curious person and if I met someone I want to get to know them. I ask someone their sexuality, and they took offense. How do I ask someone and be as kind as possible?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i think you have to know someone better. it also depends on the person as some people are more private than others. or you can casually ask if they would date an objectively attractive celebrity of their same gender, so they could politely say “i don’t swing that way” or “yeah i would”

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#4

I have a question about me, kind of "what is my letter, do I have a letter, aren't I just normal with a side of mental?"

First, I know that labels are not what's important, but I'm confused about me and they can give me a direction.

So, confusion:
1) I always said that I don't fall in love with a gender but with a person. If that person would happen to be female (as me), fine.
2) But I only crushed or fell in love with males.
3) As far as I know...
4) ... because of a lot of mental health c**p I had extrem problems in aknowledging my feelings. First time I could admit to myself that I had a crush on someone was at 18.
5) Since having learned listening to what I need instead of what others want, sex is a big no for me...
6) ...but that may be partly or mainly trauma related

So, am I
1) Pan
2) Hetero
3) Unknown because mental
4) Ace
5) Non-Ace, just mental

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Kiri
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You may be Omni . Trust me I understand how confusing it is. You just kinda know that you are ✨fruity✨.

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#5

I have a couple of questions. The first, when did the term q*eer become acceptable? When I was growing up that was considered a negative term for gay and lesbians. Second, what does the "IA" in LGBTQIA stand for? That's new to me. I'm not a part if the LGBTQIA community but I have always believed in treating everyone with respect.

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Lukas-not-Luca (he/him)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Intersex means that at birth a person has a mix of male/female sexual characteristics ( to my understanding anyways). And the term queer is different for everyone. I use it personally- it's kind of like reclaiming it. Just make sure to say they're queer and not "a queer"

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