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Folks Shocked By Couple’s Blatant Favoritism Towards Elder Daughter, Show Them How Unfair They Are
The most famous parental favoritism is probably between Monica and Ross from FRIENDS. It was really heartbreaking to see their parents go above and beyond for Ross, while Monica got the bare minimum from them. That was just fiction, but it happens many times in real life.
Just look at this couple who were always helpful towards their elder daughter, but expected the younger one to do her own chores. One day, she finally snapped and called them out for this differential treatment. Here’s how they tried to dramatically justify their toxic behavior…
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Sometimes, parents don’t realize that when they play favorites, it can harm both the kids
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The poster’s elder daughter worked for 50 hours per week, while the younger one, who just finished med school, worked 20 hours per week
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Since the elder one was so exhausted from her work, the couple didn’t mind doing her laundry, but the younger one had to do hers by herself
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The younger one also had to walk their pets, and the couple kept constantly helping out the elder one with small things
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One day, the younger one finally snapped and called out their favoritism, but they were not willing to reason with her
In today’s story, the original poster (OP) tells us about his two daughters, Maya (27 years old) and Eva (23 years old). Right from the beginning, the way he describes them makes it pretty obvious who his favorite one is. The elder one had an associate’s degree in child development, music education, and psychology, and also took classes for extra certifications.
Apart from this, she also worked 50 hours a week as a nanny and as a ballet and music teacher. Meanwhile, Eva recently completed her medical school and worked for 20 hours every week at a clinic. However, she was so burned out from uni that she was considering quitting work and going back to study cosmetology.
Now, listen to the couple’s logic. Since Maya was working so much, they were willing to do her laundry, and she was also not assigned to any pet duties. Eva, on the other hand, was expected to do her own laundry and also walk their pets. Apparently, they also did more favors for Maya since she came home exhausted from her work.
However, one day, when Eva was going out, they asked her to take her clothes out of the dryer before leaving. She asked them to do it for her, but when OP refused, she was super annoyed and called out their favoritism. Yet, her father still thinks that helping Maya is reasonable, but not Eva. His wife said they should just do it, but the poster refused to budge.
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After he vented online, folks gave him a harsh reality check that they were clearly favoring Maya. The sad truth is that parental favoritism is quite common and occurs in up to 65% of families. What parents don’t realize is that it can have long-lasting effects, not only on the unfavored child, but also on the favored one.
Experts stress that children instantly notice this differential treatment, and those who get less attention or affection from them tend to have poorer mental health and strained family relationships. Moreover, it must be really heartbreaking to witness when it keeps happening all the time, and anyone is bound to just snap one day out of hurt and frustration.
Speaking of the favored kid, research reveals that favoritism is associated with higher depressive symptoms. It further states that such differential treatment can also lead to an unequal burden later in life. The real world must be difficult for these people when they find out that not everyone is as nice as their mother or father.
Now, OP has not really revealed anything about the bond between the sisters, but the parents’ behavior might definitely spark some friction, right? Studies also emphasize that, “One of the long-term impacts of favoritism is poor sibling relationships. Less-favored siblings may feel inadequate about themselves, which can cause resentment toward the favored one.”
Well, I am glad that netizens told OP the truth without hesitation, and he deserves to know that workload shouldn’t determine who gets more help. Don’t you agree? Let us know in the comments!
Folks online gave him a harsh reality check that the couple was clearly favoring Maya, and Eva was right to be upset over it
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Caroline Gavelfält 1 week ago
Sorry but I think NTA. Yes burnouts are a serious thing but they exhaust you so the point that you do not want to leave your bed, let alone going out with friends for hours. So I think it is a case of maybe sitting them both down and explaining why things are the way they are, how much can Eva handle and can Maya do a little bit more for herself. But Ultimately I can see why the parents want to help Maya out more with the day to day things then Eva when she clearly has enough energy to do the things she wants to do. I know everyone is different but when I had my burnout when I was 21 I didn't speak to anyone for 6 months, didn't work and only went out to buy ready meals to eat in the evening and other then that I stayed in bed with the TV on.
Robyn Hill 6 days ago
The comment about why Maya is continuing to take all those classes is spot-on. She can’t teach with an Associates’ degree and a bunch of certifications. Why isn’t she pursuing her teaching degree? I get that she has a job, but it feels like they're kind of enabling her at this point. As for Eva - she may have just figured out that nursing is not her thing. It may not be a true ‘burnout,’ but burnout can take different forms. For some, it manifests as just going through the motions. That’s not something you can do in nursing. Sounds like both of them need to sit down and figure out what they really want to do.
person (i think) 6 days ago
They do have different needs, but just put E’s clothes in the dryer for her if you need the washer. Takes 1.5 minutes. Don’t fold anyone’s clothes afterwards, or fold both daughters, or do the in-between of just laying flat the things one doesn’t want wrinkly. .. .. If you make a meal for 1, just make 2 meals. M can take care of the animals 1x/week, everyone else can do 2x/week each.
Nova Rook 1 week ago
"The most famous parental favoritism is probably between Monica and Ross from FRIENDS"? Good gravy. Cinderella would like a word.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
YTA !! dam I’ve got two kids 21-24 both living at home , happily , both work long hours in secure jobs long term jobs to ,I’m housebound ,n they both bring washing down , pop in in washer , I take it out n put it on line , or dryer if weathers awful , ie winter ,all summer it’s out on line ,I bring it in fold it n put it up on their beds , , YOU KNOW LIKE A MOTHER DOES 🙄I also cook three times a week n as they love cooking on my daughter days off , n evenings off ,( she works in our village pub so shifts ,) she cooks for her n her now fiancé n my son if he’s not working away as he often does also does this if at home , it’s called compromise,n trust me I WOULD not be pushing a burnt out child ffs it takes fk all to sort washing 🙄,both of the kids need to step back n look at all those bloody degrees they are doing ,n do a job within their preview , rather than a nanny , etc ,medical school is hell on earth but it’s a great profession to be in ,,treat the kids EQUALLY!!
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Eva's "burnt out" after working a few months? Sounds like quite a snowflake to me. If you're only working part time you can do your own f*****g laundry. She sounds lazy and entitled to me.
Caroline Gavelfält 1 week ago
Sorry but I think NTA. Yes burnouts are a serious thing but they exhaust you so the point that you do not want to leave your bed, let alone going out with friends for hours. So I think it is a case of maybe sitting them both down and explaining why things are the way they are, how much can Eva handle and can Maya do a little bit more for herself. But Ultimately I can see why the parents want to help Maya out more with the day to day things then Eva when she clearly has enough energy to do the things she wants to do. I know everyone is different but when I had my burnout when I was 21 I didn't speak to anyone for 6 months, didn't work and only went out to buy ready meals to eat in the evening and other then that I stayed in bed with the TV on.
Robyn Hill 6 days ago
The comment about why Maya is continuing to take all those classes is spot-on. She can’t teach with an Associates’ degree and a bunch of certifications. Why isn’t she pursuing her teaching degree? I get that she has a job, but it feels like they're kind of enabling her at this point. As for Eva - she may have just figured out that nursing is not her thing. It may not be a true ‘burnout,’ but burnout can take different forms. For some, it manifests as just going through the motions. That’s not something you can do in nursing. Sounds like both of them need to sit down and figure out what they really want to do.
person (i think) 6 days ago
They do have different needs, but just put E’s clothes in the dryer for her if you need the washer. Takes 1.5 minutes. Don’t fold anyone’s clothes afterwards, or fold both daughters, or do the in-between of just laying flat the things one doesn’t want wrinkly. .. .. If you make a meal for 1, just make 2 meals. M can take care of the animals 1x/week, everyone else can do 2x/week each.
Nova Rook 1 week ago
"The most famous parental favoritism is probably between Monica and Ross from FRIENDS"? Good gravy. Cinderella would like a word.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
YTA !! dam I’ve got two kids 21-24 both living at home , happily , both work long hours in secure jobs long term jobs to ,I’m housebound ,n they both bring washing down , pop in in washer , I take it out n put it on line , or dryer if weathers awful , ie winter ,all summer it’s out on line ,I bring it in fold it n put it up on their beds , , YOU KNOW LIKE A MOTHER DOES 🙄I also cook three times a week n as they love cooking on my daughter days off , n evenings off ,( she works in our village pub so shifts ,) she cooks for her n her now fiancé n my son if he’s not working away as he often does also does this if at home , it’s called compromise,n trust me I WOULD not be pushing a burnt out child ffs it takes fk all to sort washing 🙄,both of the kids need to step back n look at all those bloody degrees they are doing ,n do a job within their preview , rather than a nanny , etc ,medical school is hell on earth but it’s a great profession to be in ,,treat the kids EQUALLY!!
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Eva's "burnt out" after working a few months? Sounds like quite a snowflake to me. If you're only working part time you can do your own f*****g laundry. She sounds lazy and entitled to me.
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