Woman Shares Boyfriend’s Body Shaming Texts On Twitter Asking What To Do, Dumps Him With Internet’s Help
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Being made to feel bad or guilty about your body image is a horrible experience in any circumstances, but when the person doing it is the one who is supposed to love and support you, it can feel like a dagger through the heart.
This was the case recently for Shelby Johnson, who actually had a history of being underweight. It was, therefore, a victory of sorts for her to reach a healthy weight of 120lbs. Unfortunately, her boyfriend did not share the same onlook on beauty standards.
Shelby took to Twitter for advice after receiving bizarre and disrespectful criticism from her so-called beloved, sharing text messages in which he made some quite horrifying observations about her, including a weird obsession about her gut sticking out more than his. Because a “beer gut” is perfectly acceptable for a man, but is body shaming-worthy for a woman apparently.
“Am I overreacting for feeling hurt by this? I’m at a loss and just can’t even comprehend how someone who claims to love me can say this,” she wrote. Because really, does a person fall in love with a face and body? Or is it the mind, spirit, and personality where we make that connection?
Her tweet quickly went viral, with Shelby receiving an outpouring of love, support, and advice from thousands of people. Including people urging her to “dump his ass” and low-key public shaming him.
Scroll down below to check out how it unfolded for yourself and let us know what you think in the comments. Did she do the right thing by unveiling the rude people among us? Join the discussion!
Shelby Johnson had a relationship crisis recently
And it started with her boyfriend’s texts about her weight
Comments came pouring in
Shelby felt empowered after the support she received
Here are some reactions to Shelby’s decision
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If that is overweight, then i'm literally a pile of pudding
That's a good thing. People love pudding.
What kind of pudding?
hmm...
Hahahahahaha! We could be friends.
Pudding is a name for a des and you are absolutely a fabulous crocumbouche, people need to put time and love into you
That needs to be eaten up yum!
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I'm not trying be mean but one of the points he made was that she no longer looks like her pictures, so she could be bigger in person.
or people just change. like ya know. humans do. we all age. all get older and saggy. its nature. if people cant come to terms with that then they need a reality check.
Yea, but im sure she told him that she was under weight and that was why she was gaining weight, and he went and said she was "getting a beer gut". Tbh, this makes me pretty sad cause it hits close to home. A couple years ago, i ended up going down to 60lbs and had to gain weight because my hair was starting to come out and stuff from being too small. But when i was gaining back the weight, my own family (including my grandmother) kept saying things like "Arent you getting kinda fat?" and stuff. Its pretty hard coming from someone that's supposed to love you
She looks fine to me. I'm more worried with her need for attention...Why does she have to share this with the world!?
she was questioning whether what he was saying was ok or not. Sometimes you need an outside 3rd party to put things into perspective
I agree, but most people bring up these issues with friends and family or through private chat. Posting publicity she's bound to get mixed responses and the internet as a whole is a less trustworthy connection than talking to someone she knows well.
The fact she had to question it says she is insecure with herself and needs back up. I hope she figures out that she is OK maybe even better than terrific!! as she is right now. Why worry about what someone else thinks of you?? If they think there is even a little bit wrong, they do not belong in your life. You need to surround yourself with people who KNOW you are just right the way your are. and NO you do not need an outside 3rd party to put things into perspective. Trust your own judgement, if you are happy with who you are and how you look, then why listen to those that are not living your life?? They must have problems of their own!!! If someone loves you.. they KNOW you are not perfect, but they would never ever say anything to make you feel uncomfortable with yourself or make you feel ashamed or worried about your body..
But she seem to post her body on ig before (not that I want to judge her for doing it, just wanted to mention, maybe M doesn‘t meant it)
She said she had only expected her Twitter friends to reply. That's one problem with social media: your information goes to places you don't expect.
Yea I get wat you mean. Its wat I thought as well. But I guess she gets to choose, and she really wanted to know, and I guess its her problem what happens afterward. But she was really lucky to have gotten so much support, and that her boyfriend realised what he had done. It was a happy ending after all. And of course, like Polleekin says, it can be pretty risky to share with the whole wide world.
LEARN TO READ SHE TWEETED TO HER FRIENDS NOT SOMEWHERE TO THE PUBLIC
Sure, that's why this conversation ended up in the media... All she posted was public, you moron.
She looks fine. What I don't get is why she would publicly post her pictures in lingerie... Especially the second one in the 4-pieces series... I mean, it's not offensive or anything, I guess I just admire her courage, cause I think some things should stay private. And you can show your beer gut or the lack of it in other clothes than those ;)
She's posting them because of the same reason she posted all of it - attention.
@BREAK YOUr perceptions I think that is more because of my desire to communicate. There is I slight difference between writing a comment anonymously and posting dozens of pictures in underwear, private conversations and telling the whole internet about their private life. @Misty Evergreen No! No sane person needs to do this. She's acting like she has major psychological problems and she was not in any way "beaten down by her BF".
is that the same reason your commenting?
@Roman, a slight difference yes but ultimately its semantics to say you are looking for attention. and im pretty sure it didnt start off with her posting a bunch of pictures scantily clad. the main point of the entire tirade sent out was because she wanted to know she wasnt alone in thinking her boyfriend was being insensitive and overbearing. to say mental or emotional abuse CANNOT lead to major psychological problems would be a a grand disservice to mental health as a whole. maybe she didnt have problems YET but this kind of hostility and dehumanizing can certainly lead to it.
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And sometimes that's exactly what people need. This girl was so beaten down by her BF that she began to believe all the c**p things he said. She wanted to know that someone out there actually cared.
She's very young; she doesn't realize these pictures will be on the Internet forever and will come back to haunt her future relationships and professional opportunities. (I once swore I'd never take a "real" job but fast-forward to 40y.o. and now I'm SO glad I grew up before social media.)
I thought the same thing... But IDC... She does what she wants, and as long as it doesn't do any harm to people, it shouldn't matter.
I don't think it's really a weight issue, 5lbs?! It looks more like she needs abdominal muscle tone . Every woman's body has a slight bulge an inch or two below the navel. Look at classical sculpture, it's usually right at the middle of the body height-wise..
Yes, lost muscle mass and gained fat. The number of the scale is the same, but the body completely different - there is even a story on bored panda about this: https://www.boredpanda.com/same-weight-fitness-incredible-transformations/
If that is overweight, then i'm literally a pile of pudding
That's a good thing. People love pudding.
What kind of pudding?
hmm...
Hahahahahaha! We could be friends.
Pudding is a name for a des and you are absolutely a fabulous crocumbouche, people need to put time and love into you
That needs to be eaten up yum!
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
I'm not trying be mean but one of the points he made was that she no longer looks like her pictures, so she could be bigger in person.
or people just change. like ya know. humans do. we all age. all get older and saggy. its nature. if people cant come to terms with that then they need a reality check.
Yea, but im sure she told him that she was under weight and that was why she was gaining weight, and he went and said she was "getting a beer gut". Tbh, this makes me pretty sad cause it hits close to home. A couple years ago, i ended up going down to 60lbs and had to gain weight because my hair was starting to come out and stuff from being too small. But when i was gaining back the weight, my own family (including my grandmother) kept saying things like "Arent you getting kinda fat?" and stuff. Its pretty hard coming from someone that's supposed to love you
She looks fine to me. I'm more worried with her need for attention...Why does she have to share this with the world!?
she was questioning whether what he was saying was ok or not. Sometimes you need an outside 3rd party to put things into perspective
I agree, but most people bring up these issues with friends and family or through private chat. Posting publicity she's bound to get mixed responses and the internet as a whole is a less trustworthy connection than talking to someone she knows well.
The fact she had to question it says she is insecure with herself and needs back up. I hope she figures out that she is OK maybe even better than terrific!! as she is right now. Why worry about what someone else thinks of you?? If they think there is even a little bit wrong, they do not belong in your life. You need to surround yourself with people who KNOW you are just right the way your are. and NO you do not need an outside 3rd party to put things into perspective. Trust your own judgement, if you are happy with who you are and how you look, then why listen to those that are not living your life?? They must have problems of their own!!! If someone loves you.. they KNOW you are not perfect, but they would never ever say anything to make you feel uncomfortable with yourself or make you feel ashamed or worried about your body..
But she seem to post her body on ig before (not that I want to judge her for doing it, just wanted to mention, maybe M doesn‘t meant it)
She said she had only expected her Twitter friends to reply. That's one problem with social media: your information goes to places you don't expect.
Yea I get wat you mean. Its wat I thought as well. But I guess she gets to choose, and she really wanted to know, and I guess its her problem what happens afterward. But she was really lucky to have gotten so much support, and that her boyfriend realised what he had done. It was a happy ending after all. And of course, like Polleekin says, it can be pretty risky to share with the whole wide world.
LEARN TO READ SHE TWEETED TO HER FRIENDS NOT SOMEWHERE TO THE PUBLIC
Sure, that's why this conversation ended up in the media... All she posted was public, you moron.
She looks fine. What I don't get is why she would publicly post her pictures in lingerie... Especially the second one in the 4-pieces series... I mean, it's not offensive or anything, I guess I just admire her courage, cause I think some things should stay private. And you can show your beer gut or the lack of it in other clothes than those ;)
She's posting them because of the same reason she posted all of it - attention.
@BREAK YOUr perceptions I think that is more because of my desire to communicate. There is I slight difference between writing a comment anonymously and posting dozens of pictures in underwear, private conversations and telling the whole internet about their private life. @Misty Evergreen No! No sane person needs to do this. She's acting like she has major psychological problems and she was not in any way "beaten down by her BF".
is that the same reason your commenting?
@Roman, a slight difference yes but ultimately its semantics to say you are looking for attention. and im pretty sure it didnt start off with her posting a bunch of pictures scantily clad. the main point of the entire tirade sent out was because she wanted to know she wasnt alone in thinking her boyfriend was being insensitive and overbearing. to say mental or emotional abuse CANNOT lead to major psychological problems would be a a grand disservice to mental health as a whole. maybe she didnt have problems YET but this kind of hostility and dehumanizing can certainly lead to it.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
And sometimes that's exactly what people need. This girl was so beaten down by her BF that she began to believe all the c**p things he said. She wanted to know that someone out there actually cared.
She's very young; she doesn't realize these pictures will be on the Internet forever and will come back to haunt her future relationships and professional opportunities. (I once swore I'd never take a "real" job but fast-forward to 40y.o. and now I'm SO glad I grew up before social media.)
I thought the same thing... But IDC... She does what she wants, and as long as it doesn't do any harm to people, it shouldn't matter.
I don't think it's really a weight issue, 5lbs?! It looks more like she needs abdominal muscle tone . Every woman's body has a slight bulge an inch or two below the navel. Look at classical sculpture, it's usually right at the middle of the body height-wise..
Yes, lost muscle mass and gained fat. The number of the scale is the same, but the body completely different - there is even a story on bored panda about this: https://www.boredpanda.com/same-weight-fitness-incredible-transformations/