Mom And Dad Are Disappointed That Their Son Told Grandfather That He Got Kicked Out Of Their Home As He Turned 18
The internet is filled with stories about irresponsible young people who can’t do anything, live with their parents full-time and the slightest everyday trouble totally embarrasses them.
Young people like them usually also don’t want to listen to their own parents and grandparents, who left their parental home back in their youth, earned decent money and were completely independent. Yes, that kind of situation takes place for sure, but sometimes the opposite also happens.
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The guy was kicked out from his parents’ home as soon as he turned 18
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Like this story of an 18 Y.O. Redditor whose AITA post skyrocketed in popularity, gaining 18.6K upvotes and over 2.2K comments in just two days (and it’s far from over, we’re sure).
So, the original poster is an ordinary teenager who lived with his parents, and right on his 18th birthday, at the stroke of twelve, his father entered his room, tore off his blanket and said: “You’ve just turned eighteen – get out of my house!”
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The OP still wanted to play it safe so he already had about $5K in savings
We must say that the OP was actually prepared for this turn of events. His parents told him more than once that they couldn’t wait for him to come of age so that he would move out – and then they could have their desired peace and tranquility in their house!
Of course, the OP usually took this as a joke, but he still wanted to play it safe. By the time he came of age he already had about $5K in savings from various part-time jobs so he could afford to rent an apartment and pay the bills.
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The parents told his grandfather that their son had just moved out to attend college
So the teenager packed all his stuff and spent the night at his best friend’s house. The next morning he reached out to another friend, who had an apartment for rent, and moved. Some time later, he had a family group FaceTime call with his grandparents, his aunt and uncle, and his parents as well.
At one point, grandpa asked the OP: “So, as your dad says, you moved out to attend college?” The guy was a bit surprised and replied that in fact, his parents had just kicked him out of the house on his 18th birthday.
Grandpa literally “went off” and scolded OP’s parents for kicking their own son out and for lying to him as well. He cursed them out in front of all the relatives and in front of the OP himself and this lasted for about two hours.
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After some time, the parents themselves gave OP a call, telling him that his grandfather had never insulted them like that before, blaming their son for snitching with a lot of curse words themselves. Then they finally ended the call.
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People online were completely outraged by the OP’s parents’ behavior
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Basically all of the commenters supported the OP, being completely outraged by his parents’ behavior. Someone noted that, even if we ignore the moral side of the issue, according to the law, his parents should have given him a written notice to leave their house in advance.
The OP himself admitted he planned to celebrate his birthday with homies, to which he was advised to definitely do this with his grandfather – after all, the old man really had his back, being way more familial than the parents themselves.
Somebody even told the 18 Y.O. guy that he was the only real adult person in his family
According to another commenter, if the guy told his grandfather the truth and his parents were offended by this, then he was probably the only adult person in the family. As for the parents, by the way – someone aptly wrote that in time, they can probably be expected to write an angry Reddit post about an ungrateful son refusing to take care of them.
The problems of children and parents are always extremely complicated – at any age, in any situation, and we’ll be so grateful to you for sharing your own opinion about this story. Furthermore, just tell us your own story, and you’ll be golden! Almost like OP’s grandpa.
When my friend turned 16, his mam called him out to him in the morning to 'get dressed and come down here'. He threw some clothes on and started making his way. He stopped when he reached the top of the stairs because he saw his mam standing there with a suitcase and white envelope. She said, 'Here's a birthday card with some money in it [£500], and here's a suitcase with some of your clothes. I've booked you into [local hotel's name] for a week, already paid for, but you'll have to contact the councils housing authority for somewhere after that, there's a letter in your case that you can show them to prove I've kicked you out. come and see me in a few week to get the rest of your things. Good luck, Happy birthday, I love you'. He said he didn't say a word, just gave her a kiss on the cheek and left. For the record, he was a heroin addict at the time and she had just reached her limit. He says it was the best thing to happen to him and he and his ma are now best friends.
The way she did everything you can tell she loved him and was just at the end of her rope. I am so glad everything worked out for the best for your friend and his mom.
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Any "parents" who think the kid's 18th birthday is a license kick him/her out of the house should never have had kids to begin with.
As a teacher I have legitimately seen this happen to a young lady bc the death benefits of the student stopped the month she turned 18. On the flip side, I have seen this happen as a direct result of the person's argumentative and disrespectful behavior. Since only one side is sharing its hard to say if important details are missing.
But...if it were due to "argumentative and disrespectful behavior", wouldn't the parents simply tell the grandad that? They lied for a reason, and that reason is most likely that they wrongly kicked out their own kid on their birthday b/c they had no further legal obligation to house, feed and care for them. It would seem that if it were due to HIS issues, the parents would have spoken up and said that...especially as they were being reamed by grandfather about the situation.
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You've known that your parents were kicking you out long enough to have a plan in place as well as money. They told the lie, got angry when they were caught. You are not the AH, they are. So now, your last step is to cut them off. I don't know what kind of parents they have been or your history with them, but they threw out their 18 year old child at midnight without care for your safety. It's OK. Then became more concerned for their image. You don't need toxic people in your life.
That's so awful. My husband and I met when his son was 2½ and married when he was 6. My stepson is now 13 and while that means in 5 years he could be moving out, I'm sure not in any rush. As far as I'm concerned, this house is his home for as long as he wants it to be. He welcomed me into his and his dad's home and has loved me unconditionally from Day 1, and I owe him nothing less. If anything ever happened to his dad, we're still family and he's still my little boy, period. For parents to be this cold towards their own flesh and blood is something I just can't even wrap my mind around.
Well given the treatment of the kid he probably wasn't intended and the parents wanted to cut strings. But wait if a grandkid gets involved watch them go on the we don't know why we got cut out
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Lot of holes in this story. The parents thought the son was gonna perpetuate the story he was going to college? Good grief, why?
Seen enough over the course of my life to realize that "people are stupid" covers way more than anyone might think.
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Just an FYI: the 18th birthday only applies to people who are no longer enrolled in high school. If an 18-year old is still enrolled in high school, parents or guardians are still legally responsible for them until they graduate, and kicking them out on their 18th birthday is, in fact, illegal in many states if the person is still enrolled in high school. Between the 18th birthday and graduation, there is a legal gray area where they have the rights and responsibilities of an adult under certain laws, but they are still protected as a minor while enrolled in high school. In many states, the rule is that they have to be enrolled in high school, and up to the 19th birthday. At 19, parents can legally evict them, even if they are still in high school. There are also provisions for children with disabilities that must be taken into consideration.
If I was them, I would call Grandpa and tell him what they just did. Every time they called screaming, I would pass it on to Grandpa. There is no love lost there, and eventually they will work out having a tantrum will bite them on the a*s
Hey, you are free from a toxic environment. Honesty is everything. I would tell everybody And if your parents cannot handle it...that is their problem. Enjoy the honesty.
Don't feel bad for telling the truth and not covering for them...they needed their asses handed to them and Grandpa did just that!
And when they are old and need help, they'll wonder why their son's not there for them ...
it happens every day to kids in the foster parent network or other wards of the state. The day you turn 18 you're out of the house and on your own.
Jeez. For my 18th birthday, my mom and a bunch of people took me out for a huge feast. 50 years ago and I still remember it. Thanks, Mom, and everyone. PS: she didn't kick me out.
In the middle of the night?? I mean, my parents made it pretty clear to my brother and indeed all of us that they don't want him to live with them while he is at uni. (My brother like the room service at home was a bit less active in this regard, than his siters), but a) they paid for his rent etc and b) he moved out in a normal. Tossing someone out of the house at midnight is completley psycho. I keep reading these posts and wonder why people have kids in the first place??
Why do people have kids if the only thing they are excited about is when those kids finally move out?! My parents always told me I can stay as long as I want/need, which turned out to be for a long while cause rent is f*****g expensive, and me moving out was never a main topic. I wanted to move out because I wanted my own place as you do when you grow up but my mom cried when I was gone. She fully supports me in everything I am just really blessed to be so loved. So I don't understand this. At all. Don't have kids if you only see them as a burden. Seriously. Wtf?!
Well they need to own their decision. It's very well within their rights to kick the 18 year old out. But then they are ashamed of doing so. So, clearly doing what is within your rights, isn't always what's right.
This happened to my niece and two nephews. Thankfully Gma and Gpa took them in. Still totally f-ed up. Naturally, parents were super religious. Of course. The cruelest people are super religious
NTA the very fact that they lied about it and then got mad because you simply told the truth shows what kind of POSes they are. If there were were extenuating circumstances that justified this move, they wouldn't have needed to lie about what happened and why.. As soon as they called back and started cussing you out, I would have been like, "go f**k yourselves, I never want to hear from you again" and hung up. Obviously keep your grandfather in your life, as well as any other family who treats you with respect, but cut the parents out completely. I have never and will never agree with the people who insist that you have to stand by family just because they are blood related. It's not the same as parents but I have blood related aunts on both sides who both took advantage of my grandparents in frail states to steal money/property from them. So as far as I'm concerned, they cease to exist. They are permanently dead to me. You may better off doing the same to the parents.
The world today is a much different place from what it was when our parents turned 18. Housing, food, daily necessities, and transportation are exponentially more expensive now. Good on this dude for having enough sense to have some financial padding when they pushed him out the nest. If he hadn't he would have been at the mercy of friends or other family members willing to take him in. I hope the grandfather's words didn't fall on deaf ears and they see where they went wrong. That and if the op hits hard times and he needs his parents to take him back in they'll be a little more gracious and do the right thing.
My parents joke about this happening, but they wouldn't and didn't kick us out when we turned 18
I don't see how this is legal. Landlords have to give tenants at least 30 days notice before evicting them, and if the person refuses to leave the eviction process can take a while. People can't just be thrown out of their homes with no notice. And I don't think muttering about how you are going to kick them out at 18 counts as legal notice.
While the some adults knows this an average teen isn't going to know this. Most adults don't even know this. Not to mention, do you think the 18 year old would want to stay in that house knowing that their parents don't want them there?
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Wow. I couldn’t do that to my kids. Ever. But I guess some kids try their parents to their wits end and that behaviour is bound to have repercussions.
It's unusual for people to kick out a child at 18, but I do know of a case where a woman kicked out each of her three daughters when they turned 18. Luckily, the oldest was taken in by a kind neighbour. She was in tears and absolutely not prepared to live on her own. She ended up doing fine. As for the young man being well-prepared, it can seem like a stretch. If this is a true story, he may have been thinking of moving out soon to get away from his shitty parents. According to Reddit, he's close to his grandfather, who may have nurtured a sense of autonomy. I've encountered the rare teenager who runs a business.
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When my friend turned 16, his mam called him out to him in the morning to 'get dressed and come down here'. He threw some clothes on and started making his way. He stopped when he reached the top of the stairs because he saw his mam standing there with a suitcase and white envelope. She said, 'Here's a birthday card with some money in it [£500], and here's a suitcase with some of your clothes. I've booked you into [local hotel's name] for a week, already paid for, but you'll have to contact the councils housing authority for somewhere after that, there's a letter in your case that you can show them to prove I've kicked you out. come and see me in a few week to get the rest of your things. Good luck, Happy birthday, I love you'. He said he didn't say a word, just gave her a kiss on the cheek and left. For the record, he was a heroin addict at the time and she had just reached her limit. He says it was the best thing to happen to him and he and his ma are now best friends.
The way she did everything you can tell she loved him and was just at the end of her rope. I am so glad everything worked out for the best for your friend and his mom.
Load More Replies... Any "parents" who think the kid's 18th birthday is a license kick him/her out of the house should never have had kids to begin with.
As a teacher I have legitimately seen this happen to a young lady bc the death benefits of the student stopped the month she turned 18. On the flip side, I have seen this happen as a direct result of the person's argumentative and disrespectful behavior. Since only one side is sharing its hard to say if important details are missing.
But...if it were due to "argumentative and disrespectful behavior", wouldn't the parents simply tell the grandad that? They lied for a reason, and that reason is most likely that they wrongly kicked out their own kid on their birthday b/c they had no further legal obligation to house, feed and care for them. It would seem that if it were due to HIS issues, the parents would have spoken up and said that...especially as they were being reamed by grandfather about the situation.
Load More Replies... You've known that your parents were kicking you out long enough to have a plan in place as well as money. They told the lie, got angry when they were caught. You are not the AH, they are. So now, your last step is to cut them off. I don't know what kind of parents they have been or your history with them, but they threw out their 18 year old child at midnight without care for your safety. It's OK. Then became more concerned for their image. You don't need toxic people in your life.
That's so awful. My husband and I met when his son was 2½ and married when he was 6. My stepson is now 13 and while that means in 5 years he could be moving out, I'm sure not in any rush. As far as I'm concerned, this house is his home for as long as he wants it to be. He welcomed me into his and his dad's home and has loved me unconditionally from Day 1, and I owe him nothing less. If anything ever happened to his dad, we're still family and he's still my little boy, period. For parents to be this cold towards their own flesh and blood is something I just can't even wrap my mind around.
Well given the treatment of the kid he probably wasn't intended and the parents wanted to cut strings. But wait if a grandkid gets involved watch them go on the we don't know why we got cut out
Load More Replies... Lot of holes in this story. The parents thought the son was gonna perpetuate the story he was going to college? Good grief, why?
Seen enough over the course of my life to realize that "people are stupid" covers way more than anyone might think.
Load More Replies... Just an FYI: the 18th birthday only applies to people who are no longer enrolled in high school. If an 18-year old is still enrolled in high school, parents or guardians are still legally responsible for them until they graduate, and kicking them out on their 18th birthday is, in fact, illegal in many states if the person is still enrolled in high school. Between the 18th birthday and graduation, there is a legal gray area where they have the rights and responsibilities of an adult under certain laws, but they are still protected as a minor while enrolled in high school. In many states, the rule is that they have to be enrolled in high school, and up to the 19th birthday. At 19, parents can legally evict them, even if they are still in high school. There are also provisions for children with disabilities that must be taken into consideration.
If I was them, I would call Grandpa and tell him what they just did. Every time they called screaming, I would pass it on to Grandpa. There is no love lost there, and eventually they will work out having a tantrum will bite them on the a*s
Hey, you are free from a toxic environment. Honesty is everything. I would tell everybody And if your parents cannot handle it...that is their problem. Enjoy the honesty.
Don't feel bad for telling the truth and not covering for them...they needed their asses handed to them and Grandpa did just that!
And when they are old and need help, they'll wonder why their son's not there for them ...
it happens every day to kids in the foster parent network or other wards of the state. The day you turn 18 you're out of the house and on your own.
Jeez. For my 18th birthday, my mom and a bunch of people took me out for a huge feast. 50 years ago and I still remember it. Thanks, Mom, and everyone. PS: she didn't kick me out.
In the middle of the night?? I mean, my parents made it pretty clear to my brother and indeed all of us that they don't want him to live with them while he is at uni. (My brother like the room service at home was a bit less active in this regard, than his siters), but a) they paid for his rent etc and b) he moved out in a normal. Tossing someone out of the house at midnight is completley psycho. I keep reading these posts and wonder why people have kids in the first place??
Why do people have kids if the only thing they are excited about is when those kids finally move out?! My parents always told me I can stay as long as I want/need, which turned out to be for a long while cause rent is f*****g expensive, and me moving out was never a main topic. I wanted to move out because I wanted my own place as you do when you grow up but my mom cried when I was gone. She fully supports me in everything I am just really blessed to be so loved. So I don't understand this. At all. Don't have kids if you only see them as a burden. Seriously. Wtf?!
Well they need to own their decision. It's very well within their rights to kick the 18 year old out. But then they are ashamed of doing so. So, clearly doing what is within your rights, isn't always what's right.
This happened to my niece and two nephews. Thankfully Gma and Gpa took them in. Still totally f-ed up. Naturally, parents were super religious. Of course. The cruelest people are super religious
NTA the very fact that they lied about it and then got mad because you simply told the truth shows what kind of POSes they are. If there were were extenuating circumstances that justified this move, they wouldn't have needed to lie about what happened and why.. As soon as they called back and started cussing you out, I would have been like, "go f**k yourselves, I never want to hear from you again" and hung up. Obviously keep your grandfather in your life, as well as any other family who treats you with respect, but cut the parents out completely. I have never and will never agree with the people who insist that you have to stand by family just because they are blood related. It's not the same as parents but I have blood related aunts on both sides who both took advantage of my grandparents in frail states to steal money/property from them. So as far as I'm concerned, they cease to exist. They are permanently dead to me. You may better off doing the same to the parents.
The world today is a much different place from what it was when our parents turned 18. Housing, food, daily necessities, and transportation are exponentially more expensive now. Good on this dude for having enough sense to have some financial padding when they pushed him out the nest. If he hadn't he would have been at the mercy of friends or other family members willing to take him in. I hope the grandfather's words didn't fall on deaf ears and they see where they went wrong. That and if the op hits hard times and he needs his parents to take him back in they'll be a little more gracious and do the right thing.
My parents joke about this happening, but they wouldn't and didn't kick us out when we turned 18
I don't see how this is legal. Landlords have to give tenants at least 30 days notice before evicting them, and if the person refuses to leave the eviction process can take a while. People can't just be thrown out of their homes with no notice. And I don't think muttering about how you are going to kick them out at 18 counts as legal notice.
While the some adults knows this an average teen isn't going to know this. Most adults don't even know this. Not to mention, do you think the 18 year old would want to stay in that house knowing that their parents don't want them there?
Load More Replies... Wow. I couldn’t do that to my kids. Ever. But I guess some kids try their parents to their wits end and that behaviour is bound to have repercussions.
It's unusual for people to kick out a child at 18, but I do know of a case where a woman kicked out each of her three daughters when they turned 18. Luckily, the oldest was taken in by a kind neighbour. She was in tears and absolutely not prepared to live on her own. She ended up doing fine. As for the young man being well-prepared, it can seem like a stretch. If this is a true story, he may have been thinking of moving out soon to get away from his shitty parents. According to Reddit, he's close to his grandfather, who may have nurtured a sense of autonomy. I've encountered the rare teenager who runs a business.
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