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Man Demands Answers After Five Consecutive Girlfriends Leave Him For Their Secret Lovers
Man sitting on bed with head in hands, looking stressed and upset after back-to-back cheating girlfriends experience.

Man Demands Answers After Five Consecutive Girlfriends Leave Him For Their Secret Lovers

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It’s always painful when a spouse cheats on you and then dumps you to be with the affair partner. However, imagine this happening not once, not twice, but FIVE times. Obviously, you would start to question yourself. If you think I am kidding, hear this guy out.

He was really dumped by all five of his girlfriends, who left him to be with their affair partners. He started wondering if there was something wrong with him or if he was being strange. Netizens definitely had a lot to say about it, so just scroll down and find out!

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    The poster was extremely confused after all five of his girlfriends cheated and dumped him to be with their affair partners

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    The 1st one said he made her feel like a bad guy; the 2nd said he was “too himself”; while the 3rd wanted to “find herself”

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    The 4th one left him for an extremely rich guy, but the 5th one stated that they both “wanted different things,” even when he didn’t

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    He was always very clear about what kind of person he was, but it baffled him why they were with him for almost 2 years and then did this

    In today’s story, the original poster (OP) tells us about a weird situation he found himself in. All five of his girlfriends cheated on him and left him to be with their affair partners. He was really baffled after the fifth one because he couldn’t figure out the reason. As far as OP was concerned, he was pretty considerate towards them and straightforward about himself.

    He had a good job, went to the gym 6 times a week, cooked, and tended to their needs. Moreover, he was clear from the beginning that he was not religious and did not want kids. While he had his own hobbies, OP also made time for his girlfriend’s interests. Well, despite all this, he couldn’t put his finger on what he did that pushed people away. 

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    Girlfriend no 1 claimed he made her feel like the bad guy as he never yelled when she got angry. Our fellow logically assessed the reason for her anger and tried to resolve it calmly, but she left him for a lawyer. Girlfriend no 2 said that he was “too much,” but then left him for a guy called “Bubbles.” Girlfriend no 3 needed to “find herself,” left him for a butcher, and our guy couldn’t understand why.

    He could understand why girlfriend no 4 dumped him as she found an extremely rich guy. Lastly, the 5th claimed they both “wanted different things,” even when he didn’t. Well, he couldn’t fathom why they stayed with him for over or under two years before doing it. He felt like they should just end it in a month instead of dragging things out.

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    Netizens were blown away by the number and claimed something was amiss, and OP confessed that he’s autistic. Experts stress that negative stereotypes and discrimination make it harder for autistic people to date or maintain relationships. This could be because of communication differences. However, we can’t completely ignore the other statistics about cheating.

    Studies show that a person is two to four times more likely to be cheated on if they have been cheated on or have suspected cheating in a prior relationship. Moreover, research warns that a person can develop Post Infidelity Stress disorder after finding out about a partner’s affair. The symptoms, like anxiety or depression, are similar to those of PTSD.

    To get the word from the horse’s mouth, Bored Panda asked OP for an update, and he said he’s been meeting a new female friend for weekly coffee and that they have made plans to go out on a proper date. “Some might say it is way too soon, but I enjoy romance. We only get a small handful of years, and I am going to spend them being as happy as I possibly can,” he added.

    When we asked him about the most challenging part of his situation, OP stressed the initial sadness that comes over after a relationship ends. A lot of the things he loved to do felt bleak, and he lost his pep during the recovery period. However, he also added that he was pretty much back to his cheerful self at the moment.

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    “I am a very laid-back person. I do the things I enjoy and try my best to avoid upsetting others. I don’t really grasp why people get so aggressive so easily. I love to cook and make others happy. I always try to be a loving and reliable boyfriend. That is how I enjoy living and how I plan to keep being because it brings me the most joy,” he concluded.

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    What are your thoughts? Feel free to jot them down in the comments below!

    Netizens definitely had their eyebrows raised by the end, but many advised him to see a therapist or take a break from dating

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    Rutuja Dumbre

    Rutuja Dumbre

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    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    Rutuja Dumbre

    Rutuja Dumbre

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

    Denis Krotovas

    Denis Krotovas

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    I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. While studying at Vilnius Tech University, I learned how to use Photoshop and decided to continue mastering it at Bored Panda. I am interested in learning UI/UX design and creating unique designs for apps, games and websites. On my spare time, I enjoy playing video and board games, watching TV shows and movies and reading funny posts on the internet.

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    Denis Krotovas

    Denis Krotovas

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. While studying at Vilnius Tech University, I learned how to use Photoshop and decided to continue mastering it at Bored Panda. I am interested in learning UI/UX design and creating unique designs for apps, games and websites. On my spare time, I enjoy playing video and board games, watching TV shows and movies and reading funny posts on the internet.

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    Ace
    Community Member
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    3 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the second comment answered him - he's autistic, unable to pick up on cues, unable to read his partner(s), unable to notice when he's doing something that's pissing them off. Very sad, but just being "up-front" about it doesn't really help. They stay with him long enough to see that he doesn't really get emotional attachment, empathy and the like then look elsewhere for what's missing.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He comes off as cold, arrogant, and describes himself like a checklist that all women should want. I'm not surprised that he's autistic. But he's definitely choosing the wrong personality type to date. He needs to try a different "type" from now on.

    CP
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. OP rang confident to me.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the autistic side, but also - he's very eager in telling us how all of them got their "comeuppance" or are 'golddiggers'. I don't think he's as nice and level-headed as he describes himself.

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    Ace
    Community Member
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    3 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the second comment answered him - he's autistic, unable to pick up on cues, unable to read his partner(s), unable to notice when he's doing something that's pissing them off. Very sad, but just being "up-front" about it doesn't really help. They stay with him long enough to see that he doesn't really get emotional attachment, empathy and the like then look elsewhere for what's missing.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He comes off as cold, arrogant, and describes himself like a checklist that all women should want. I'm not surprised that he's autistic. But he's definitely choosing the wrong personality type to date. He needs to try a different "type" from now on.

    CP
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. OP rang confident to me.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the autistic side, but also - he's very eager in telling us how all of them got their "comeuppance" or are 'golddiggers'. I don't think he's as nice and level-headed as he describes himself.

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