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Guy Ends 11-Year Relationship After Fiction-Hating GF Destroys His Laptop Over His Hobby
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Guy Ends 11-Year Relationship After Fiction-Hating GF Destroys His Laptop Over His Hobby

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French novelist Albert Camus once said, “Fiction is the lie through which we tell the truth,” and it stayed with me. As an avid fiction reader, I honestly believe that it has the power to expose the realissues more than any factual novel might.

This woman, however, felt that this genre was “degenerate” and hated that her boyfriend kept reading it despite her demands to stop. One day, she got so annoyed that she smashed his laptop and expected him to “thank her.” Scroll down to find out all the drama that followed immediately!

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    The trans poster had been dating his girlfriend since he was 13 and she was 16, and he had always been an avid fiction reader

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    As he was a huge fan of A Song of Ice and Fire, he played TS4 with the theme of the novel on his newly purchased laptop

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    However, his girlfriend had started acting intensely about anti-fiction as she felt it was “morally corruptive” and “degenerate”

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    The poster refused to stop reading and playing what he loved because of her views, so she smashed his laptop and external drive in anger

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    The angry poster kicked her out of his house, but she kept whining about how he was choosing fiction over their relationship

    In today’s story, our 24-year-old original poster (OP) is a trans man who tells us about how he broke up with his girlfriend. He was 13, and she was 16 when they started dating, and as adults, they lived together in his apartment. For context, he had saved up for a long time and finally bought a new laptop and also an external hard drive to back up things.

    Our guy gave his background that he always loved fiction, and it was basically his comfort zone. Also, he really adored fantasy, and A Song of Ice and Fire was his favorite novel. In fact, he loved it so much that when he played The Sims 4, he saved the novel’s theme in the game. He spent a lot of time developing it all because it made him happy and helped him destress after work.

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    Trouble brewed when his girlfriend started acting anti-fiction, claiming that it is “degenerate, morally corrupt, and contributes to social decay.” She even called him “stunted” for immersing in such a made-up world, and things got heated between the two. She wanted OP to stop reading it and playing the game altogether, but he refused to change his hobbies as she wished.

    This really triggered her, so one day, when her boyfriend returned home, he found his laptop smashed and the external drive with a dent in it. She expected him to “thank her” for doing that, but he threw her out of his house in anger. She kept texting him about how couples moved past such things and that he had chosen fiction over her. Probably torn by her emotional ranting, he wondered if he was a jerk.

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    Netizens instantly jumped in to assure him that he wasn’t a jerk; rather, she was being a controlling menace. Experts also stress that such behavior inflicts serious long-term emotional damage to the person who has to bear with such a partner. Further, they elaborate that this toxic dynamic can lead to diminished self-worth, chronic anxiety, and fear.

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    It was also quite disturbing how she felt she could just destroy his property without thinking about how he would be utterly devastated. Research emphasizes, “Feeling anger in your relationship isn’t necessarily a red flag. But it’s important to know the difference between healthy anger and unhealthy or destructive anger. It’s never okay for it to be expressed in harmful ways.”

    Well, seems like good riddance for him, doesn’t it? It’s understandable that he felt torn, as she was always there for him during his transition. However, that doesn’t give her the right to use that against him or to control him. Many netizens said she sounded like a red flag and that he should definitely sue her for damaging his property. 

    Law professionals warn that penalties for personal property damage in the US vary widely based on intent, value, and jurisdiction, ranging from fines and probation to years in prison. Well, it looks like OP could get his ex into some serious trouble. Like Redditors, do you think he should sue her? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

    Netizens were aghast at the violent lady, and many said that he was better off than being with a controlling red flag

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    Rutuja Dumbre

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    Rutuja Dumbre

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    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Monika Pašukonytė

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Monika Pašukonytė

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Apatheist
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A Song of Ice and Fire, if you were wondering - the original title for Game of Thrones. Anyway, anyone who breaks someone else's storage of their memories is unhinged and needs to be got rid of.

    Julie S
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you I couldn't work out what that meant.

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    Tams21
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The op did the right thing. The gf having a problem with fiction is already a huge red flag, there's no rational reason to believe what she does. There's also the aspect that she's trying to control what the op reads(!!!). Her destroying the ops laptop is such an escalation that I would be concerned about their safety. I would be changing the locks.

    TACO Don's Authentic TexMex
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    16 year old dating a 13 year old. Nothing creepy about that. Sounds like someone was groomed

    David Morgan
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree on the specifics, but not the whole - when they are 13 and 16, both are children, legally speaking. However, one will become an adult at 18, while the other will still be a child for 3 more years. That IS concerning.

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First of all, she's clearly a bit predatory, when you look at the ages here. OP was 13 when they met and his partner was 16. That's a big age difference at that point. Now, she's obviously delusional and unbalanced. It's best to break up and move on.

    David Beaulieu
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry to hear she destroyed your property. Hopefully you can save your data. But it sounds like your girlfriend has very different values than you do. TBH it sounds like she might be having mental health issues, not that conservative thinking like this is 'metal illness', but a drastic change in her values like this seems dangerous. She needs to deal with her violent tendencies. Destruction of property in order to 'protect' a loved one is not OK.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like the girlfriend got religion in the most unhealthy way possible with all this unhinged raving about "degeneracy"

    mary thelen
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree: her behavior is unforgivable, and likely an indication of some serious mental problem. Even the opinion she was expressing, minus the violence, is scary. The importance of creativity, dreams, artistry, play in the healthy development of the human heart and soul is well proven and documented. Extrapolate her beliefs and you end up in and environment like that of Orwell's 1984.

    Monologues 222
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't date a nerd if you don't like nerdy stuff. Let her go.

    Heather Menard
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like she wants his attention. The only way she could get it was breaking his computer. Don't take her back. You are way to young

    Fungus John
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    preaching about immoral behaviour? Sounds like she's turned religious, which is pretty d**n ironic if you hate fiction.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Somebody drank the Kool aid.

    Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero"
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She destroyed your property, did not offer any forms of; apologies, contrition, or recompense. Only an illegal & illogical justification as to why they committed such an act. I will not get into the age issue(s), other than to say, that if you two were physically intimate (slept with each other), in most states, it is illegal for an 18 year old, to do such, with a 15 year old. It is usually considered, under the age of consent. The three year age gap is considered potentially illegal until 18, especially if sêx is involved. It can be considered statutory, until the younger person turns 18 years of age.

    Doodles1983
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Multiple red flags. Hope OP stayed away. And reported her for destruction of property.

    Robin Roper
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP's GF showed him who she was. Please believe it and not only not allow her back into your house take her to small claims court for destroying your property.

    Sarah Ellison
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Couples work through disagreements" but when OP refused to stop their hobby the GF broke the laptop. That sure feels like she tried to work through it.

    Blackmoon The Dragon
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, fantasy can sometimes overpower real life. However, why the HECK are you going to destroy someone's property for it? It isn't morally bad unless it causes you to do or think moral things. If someone doesn't love you for who you are (if being who you are isn't mutually destructive) then they're not for you.

    Jenny
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully, he'll be able to recover all of the data on the backup HD. Just denting it shouldn't have destroyed it, and a techie should be able to help for a small fee. Laptop screens can also be replaced at a cost as long as the actual components of the laptop itself were't damaged.

    Megasmacky
    Community Member
    2 days ago

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    All the usual abundance of reason and level-headed common sense I expect from women.

    Lola July
    Community Member
    2 days ago

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    She was wrong to destroy your property. You're disgusting for enjoying stories focusing on incest, fantasy or not. That's gross.

    Apatheist
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A Song of Ice and Fire, if you were wondering - the original title for Game of Thrones. Anyway, anyone who breaks someone else's storage of their memories is unhinged and needs to be got rid of.

    Julie S
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you I couldn't work out what that meant.

    Load More Replies...
    Tams21
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The op did the right thing. The gf having a problem with fiction is already a huge red flag, there's no rational reason to believe what she does. There's also the aspect that she's trying to control what the op reads(!!!). Her destroying the ops laptop is such an escalation that I would be concerned about their safety. I would be changing the locks.

    TACO Don's Authentic TexMex
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    16 year old dating a 13 year old. Nothing creepy about that. Sounds like someone was groomed

    David Morgan
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree on the specifics, but not the whole - when they are 13 and 16, both are children, legally speaking. However, one will become an adult at 18, while the other will still be a child for 3 more years. That IS concerning.

    Load More Replies...
    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First of all, she's clearly a bit predatory, when you look at the ages here. OP was 13 when they met and his partner was 16. That's a big age difference at that point. Now, she's obviously delusional and unbalanced. It's best to break up and move on.

    David Beaulieu
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry to hear she destroyed your property. Hopefully you can save your data. But it sounds like your girlfriend has very different values than you do. TBH it sounds like she might be having mental health issues, not that conservative thinking like this is 'metal illness', but a drastic change in her values like this seems dangerous. She needs to deal with her violent tendencies. Destruction of property in order to 'protect' a loved one is not OK.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like the girlfriend got religion in the most unhealthy way possible with all this unhinged raving about "degeneracy"

    mary thelen
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree: her behavior is unforgivable, and likely an indication of some serious mental problem. Even the opinion she was expressing, minus the violence, is scary. The importance of creativity, dreams, artistry, play in the healthy development of the human heart and soul is well proven and documented. Extrapolate her beliefs and you end up in and environment like that of Orwell's 1984.

    Monologues 222
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't date a nerd if you don't like nerdy stuff. Let her go.

    Heather Menard
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like she wants his attention. The only way she could get it was breaking his computer. Don't take her back. You are way to young

    Fungus John
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    preaching about immoral behaviour? Sounds like she's turned religious, which is pretty d**n ironic if you hate fiction.

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Somebody drank the Kool aid.

    Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero"
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She destroyed your property, did not offer any forms of; apologies, contrition, or recompense. Only an illegal & illogical justification as to why they committed such an act. I will not get into the age issue(s), other than to say, that if you two were physically intimate (slept with each other), in most states, it is illegal for an 18 year old, to do such, with a 15 year old. It is usually considered, under the age of consent. The three year age gap is considered potentially illegal until 18, especially if sêx is involved. It can be considered statutory, until the younger person turns 18 years of age.

    Doodles1983
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Multiple red flags. Hope OP stayed away. And reported her for destruction of property.

    Robin Roper
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP's GF showed him who she was. Please believe it and not only not allow her back into your house take her to small claims court for destroying your property.

    Sarah Ellison
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Couples work through disagreements" but when OP refused to stop their hobby the GF broke the laptop. That sure feels like she tried to work through it.

    Blackmoon The Dragon
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, fantasy can sometimes overpower real life. However, why the HECK are you going to destroy someone's property for it? It isn't morally bad unless it causes you to do or think moral things. If someone doesn't love you for who you are (if being who you are isn't mutually destructive) then they're not for you.

    Jenny
    Community Member
    2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully, he'll be able to recover all of the data on the backup HD. Just denting it shouldn't have destroyed it, and a techie should be able to help for a small fee. Laptop screens can also be replaced at a cost as long as the actual components of the laptop itself were't damaged.

    Megasmacky
    Community Member
    2 days ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    All the usual abundance of reason and level-headed common sense I expect from women.

    Lola July
    Community Member
    2 days ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    She was wrong to destroy your property. You're disgusting for enjoying stories focusing on incest, fantasy or not. That's gross.

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