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Jealous Mom Demands To Bring Kids On Girls Trip, Friend Says “Absolutely Not”
Having a group of girls is the best: they’re your cheerleaders, your partners in crime, and the ones who lift you up when life gets messy. They help you survive heartbreaks and make even boring days feel special. So, naturally, a girls’ trip sounds like a perfect plan…until kids crash the party.
One woman shared how what was supposed to be a relaxing getaway turned into drama and guilt trips when her friend refused to leave her kids behind. Keep reading to see the full story!
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One woman shared how her plan for a carefree, drink-filled girls’ night went sideways when a friend insisted on bringing her child along
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The author later shared an update about her friend’s husband’s ridiculous “babysitting” offer
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She also answered a few questions from readers who were curious about how the situation unfolded
Setting a budget for any trip is crucial, no one wants awkward money squabbles ruining the vibe
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Traveling with friends is always a mix of excitement, chaos, and unforgettable memories. Especially on a girls’ trip! You’ll laugh, bond, and probably argue a little but that’s all part of the fun. Whether it’s a weekend getaway or a week-long vacation, friends make the experience unforgettable. Just remember: expectations set the tone. Communicate and plan together so everyone has a blast!
Money talk isn’t glamorous, but it’s crucial. Everyone should agree on a budget before booking hotels, activities, or meals. Nothing ruins the vibe faster than someone feeling stressed over overspending. If one friend ends up paying more than others, resentment can sneak in. So split costs evenly or assign responsibilities: maybe one handles meals, another transport. After all, vacations are for fun, not financial drama.
Not everyone wants the same thing on vacation, and that’s okay! Maybe one friend dreams of a spa day while another craves hiking or surfing. Planning a mix of activities ensures everyone gets what they want. Rotate priorities, compromise when needed, and schedule a balance of chill and adventure. This keeps the trip exciting and avoids anyone feeling left out.
It’s easy to assume a vacation means sticking together 24/7 but you don’t have to. Solo moments are healthy and fun. Some may want to nap on the beach, others may explore the town alone. Respecting this freedom reduces stress and lets everyone recharge. You’ll come back to the group energized and ready to make more memories. A few hours apart won’t ruin the trip, it can actually enhance it.
Vacations are not just about sightseeing, they’re about enjoying local food and happiness! Plan meals, snacks, and rest breaks. Ensure everyone gets enough sleep, especially after long days of exploration or nightlife. Even small adjustments like breakfast schedules or afternoon naps might make a huge difference. So, don’t let hangry moods ruin an amazing day. Take care of your basics so you can focus on creating memories instead of surviving exhaustion.
Resolving conflicts quickly is key to keeping the trip fun and ensuring small disagreements don’t spoil the mood for everyone
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Arguments are inevitable, especially on group trips. Maybe someone wants to sleep in while others want early sightseeing. These tiny conflicts can snowball if ignored. Address disagreements calmly and quickly, and compromise when possible. A simple conversation often fixes misunderstandings. Remember, the goal is fun, not winning arguments. Trust us, your friendships will survive the occasional drama.
Matching outfits, themed shirts, or coordinated colors might seem silly but they’re Instagram gold. Dressing up together creates memorable photos, boosts team spirit, and adds an extra layer of fun. Even small touches like matching accessories or color palettes count. You might even start a tradition for every girls’ trip. Fashion and friendship? Yes, please. Coordinate a little, laugh a lot, and snap those picture-perfect memories.
Don’t forget to research scenic spots, cute cafes, and hidden gems before you go. It avoids the stress of wandering aimlessly and ensures your photo ops are epic. Snap photos, capture candid moments, and plan a few surprises. Planning doesn’t mean over-scheduling, just a little prep ensures you get the best shots. Think of it as part of the adventure. Adventure and aesthetics can coexist beautifully.
Fun doesn’t have to mean reckless. If you’re planning late-night drinks, adventurous activities, or long drives, make a safety plan. Know who’s designated as driver, keep emergency contacts handy, and check the area’s safety tips. Responsible fun keeps everyone happy and worry-free. Safety doesn’t ruin the vibe, it makes the trip enjoyable for everyone. Enjoy boldly but wisely!
At the end of the day, vacations are about making memories. Laugh at mishaps, embrace surprises, and soak up every moment. In this story, the author went ahead with the trip, assuming her friend couldn’t make it since she had no one to look after her kids. But was that fair? Should she have adjusted the plan to include her friend or was she right to stick to the original idea?
Most people agreed that the husband’s response was absurd, and many felt the friend herself wasn’t much better
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Power puff scientist 3 weeks ago
It's always two sides of a coin in the friendship. As someone without kids you don't want them to always be included but for the parents it's often hard to go away a whole day. Especially if your significant other refuses to take care of their own kids alone like the husband in this story. I notice now all my friends have kids it's often they get included to events and I have to adjust my expectations when I want to see them. As the child free person that's a choice you have to make and as the parent thats also something you need to accept, something the friend in this story apparently could not do. Also sad to hear how bad she wanted to get away from her husband. More issues to explore there.
Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Those kids are a leetle too old to be this clingy. I wouldn't be surprised if their home life was TAF.
Janelle Collard 1 week ago
"I never had children as a deliberate choice. What makes you think I'd want to put up with yours for any length of time?"
Jack 1 week ago
yeah, that's an unsustainable friendship. Her situation isn't very sustainable either. Why do people trap themselves in these scenarios? Instead of leaving they try to mitigate, and offset, and do temporary fixes, and coping mechanism, at a certain point leaving would be less fuss than all this.
Emilu 2 weeks ago
I don’t think anyone came across particularly favourably in this story, honestly. I’m a drinker but someone like OP sounds like my idea of a nightmare. Sara needs to leave her husband if she doesn’t love/like him, the husband sounds like a waste of space (refusing to look after your own kids? Come on now) and the kids sound too old to be as clingy as they’re described to be. However, OP is the one doing the telling, so maybe she’s just exaggerating it to make herself sound better.
DC 3 weeks ago
If you don't want children, prevent having any. That goes for ALL of us, regardless of our equipment, or, a couple should talk about and decide how to avoid. If you don't care to avoid having kids, how can you dare to simply never watch them? How's that supposed to work out anyway, in any regard? A disconnected father, a used-up mother and two high-maintainance kids doesn't sound exacty like the origin of dreams.
Mike F 3 weeks ago
This looks like the OP, doesn't like kids in general and Sara's kids in particular. OP is living her hedonistic life that Sara misses but can't participate in due to said kids. It sounds (to me) like Sara needs to have a come to Jesus meeting with her husband, he needs to be more involved with his family/kids and needs to find another friend. OP sounds like an awful acquaintance let alone friend with her little get aways she tosses out but with the no kids caveat like a carrot on a stick. If I was Sara I'd drop OP like a hot rock and find another friend who can at least identify with having "challenging" kids rather than tormenting her with outings she cannot be a part of, and maybe work on getting some help for her children so she's not so miserable around them. As a "friend" OP sounds just hateful at worst and exhausting at best.
Calane E. Vanya 3 weeks ago (edited)
eh, they both look bad: one is a cheater, the other seems hateful.
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Yu Pan 3 weeks ago
Op came across like a person who's gleeful at Sara's woes. I think if you befriend a parent, the expectation is always kids are part of the deal. That naturally limits a lot of things you would invite a parent to do. A coffee date? Maybe. Overnight trip? Not likely. If Op just accepts Sara's situation and limitations, they could still be friends in a different way. Op is trying to put Sara's square peg parent way into her own round hole CF way.
PunchinelloTX 3 weeks ago
These two “friends” deserve each other. They’re both messy in their own way.
Power puff scientist 3 weeks ago
It's always two sides of a coin in the friendship. As someone without kids you don't want them to always be included but for the parents it's often hard to go away a whole day. Especially if your significant other refuses to take care of their own kids alone like the husband in this story. I notice now all my friends have kids it's often they get included to events and I have to adjust my expectations when I want to see them. As the child free person that's a choice you have to make and as the parent thats also something you need to accept, something the friend in this story apparently could not do. Also sad to hear how bad she wanted to get away from her husband. More issues to explore there.
Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Those kids are a leetle too old to be this clingy. I wouldn't be surprised if their home life was TAF.
Janelle Collard 1 week ago
"I never had children as a deliberate choice. What makes you think I'd want to put up with yours for any length of time?"
Jack 1 week ago
yeah, that's an unsustainable friendship. Her situation isn't very sustainable either. Why do people trap themselves in these scenarios? Instead of leaving they try to mitigate, and offset, and do temporary fixes, and coping mechanism, at a certain point leaving would be less fuss than all this.
Emilu 2 weeks ago
I don’t think anyone came across particularly favourably in this story, honestly. I’m a drinker but someone like OP sounds like my idea of a nightmare. Sara needs to leave her husband if she doesn’t love/like him, the husband sounds like a waste of space (refusing to look after your own kids? Come on now) and the kids sound too old to be as clingy as they’re described to be. However, OP is the one doing the telling, so maybe she’s just exaggerating it to make herself sound better.
DC 3 weeks ago
If you don't want children, prevent having any. That goes for ALL of us, regardless of our equipment, or, a couple should talk about and decide how to avoid. If you don't care to avoid having kids, how can you dare to simply never watch them? How's that supposed to work out anyway, in any regard? A disconnected father, a used-up mother and two high-maintainance kids doesn't sound exacty like the origin of dreams.
Mike F 3 weeks ago
This looks like the OP, doesn't like kids in general and Sara's kids in particular. OP is living her hedonistic life that Sara misses but can't participate in due to said kids. It sounds (to me) like Sara needs to have a come to Jesus meeting with her husband, he needs to be more involved with his family/kids and needs to find another friend. OP sounds like an awful acquaintance let alone friend with her little get aways she tosses out but with the no kids caveat like a carrot on a stick. If I was Sara I'd drop OP like a hot rock and find another friend who can at least identify with having "challenging" kids rather than tormenting her with outings she cannot be a part of, and maybe work on getting some help for her children so she's not so miserable around them. As a "friend" OP sounds just hateful at worst and exhausting at best.
Calane E. Vanya 3 weeks ago (edited)
eh, they both look bad: one is a cheater, the other seems hateful.
Load More Replies... Yu Pan 3 weeks ago
Op came across like a person who's gleeful at Sara's woes. I think if you befriend a parent, the expectation is always kids are part of the deal. That naturally limits a lot of things you would invite a parent to do. A coffee date? Maybe. Overnight trip? Not likely. If Op just accepts Sara's situation and limitations, they could still be friends in a different way. Op is trying to put Sara's square peg parent way into her own round hole CF way.
PunchinelloTX 3 weeks ago
These two “friends” deserve each other. They’re both messy in their own way.
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