Fiancée’s Unexpected Request Months Before Wedding Makes This Man Rethink It All: “The Idea Made Me Ill”

Planning a wedding isn’t always easy, but it’s usually one of the most exciting times in a couple’s life. For this Redditor, though, that excitement took a hit when his fiancée dropped a bombshell on him ahead of their big day.

After four years together, she asked to open their relationship—something he had no interest in. The request left him stunned and hurt, and with his head spinning over what it meant for their future, he took to the internet to vent. Read the full story below.

After four years together, the man was excited to marry his fiancée

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But he was completely blindsided when, one day, she suggested they open their relationship

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In the replies, readers shared supportive messages and suggestions for what to do next

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Later, the author returned with an update, revealing that he’d decided to call the wedding off for good

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Readers were happy to see him stick to that choice

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