“I Was Completely Disowned”: Man Confronts Parents Who Hired A PI To Track Him Down After 15 Years

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OP was disowned over some traffic fines? Pffft. OP's parents need to come and work with me for a few days. Our average amount of fines we see coming through is normally $40-50k outstanding. In a lot of cases, we can reduce or completely wipe the lot. (FWIW, where I am I'm pretty sure OP's situation would fit into the 'reduction or wipe' scenario). Also, just in case it needs to be said, OP is NTA and his parents are entitled twats.

Somebody needs a kidney or a bone marrow transplant. If they're that quick to pull the trigger and dump the guy, then, out of the blue, hire an investigator to find him, there's a health situation and they need him for parts.

What the f*ck!!? 2 weeks in jail when they were 19 for traffic tickets?? The way they worded it at first I thought they were sent to prison for armed robbery or something. But a suspended license! Good on him for telling them to f*ck off. His family telling them after 15 years 'well it looks like you learned your lesson we'll talk to you now'. What awful people!

Some people shouldn’t ever be parents , his are two of those ! I mean if they disowned op for two freaking ticket fines ffs , what the hell would they do if he had done something REALLY BAD ffs ie ki l I ing someone m as one other said , they are only worried about appearances end off , bunch of toxic s c u m !! N the only reason they stalking him now , is cos they don’t want their pathetic truth to come out , their lies etc. WELL DONE OP , from a stranger across the pond im proud of you ,xx get that cease n desist letter. Go dark completely on socials , move if needed , but keep being you , you got this dude ❤️

I would not have acknowledged them. Ever. I have the advantage of speaking four languages, so when people from my past show up I answer in a language I know they do not speak that they have the wrong person, and I do not speak their language. Has not happened often thankfully, but facebook is absolute poison and the cause of former bullies finding me again. Deleted repeatedly, but fb just restores the profile without my consent. That is the reason I became so militantly against social media.

The fact that the family doubled down just goes to show that they thought he deserved the estrangement over the past fifteen years. That a young man trying to start his life deserved to be abandoned in his time of need. That the opinions of people outside of the nuclear family meant more than the feelings of their own son. If I were op, I’d be incredibly curious about BIL because he sounds like a decent guy that married into a family with a dark, dirty, and shameful secret. That they abandoned a child. It would not make me curious enough to contact any of them though. Even his siblings didn’t care it seems. I’m glad op has a good life with new friends and everything working in his favor.

I figured someone needed a kidney.

My Father (88M) lost his Mother as she gave birth to him. His father, if we can call him that, gave him to his parents. His grandfather was a horrible man, especially to my Father. At 24, my Father met my Mother. They are still together, in love, raised 3 children, grandchildren, traveled the world - a good life. With this said, this sort of trauma, creates a sadness so deep. Sometimes, I just see it in his face. Sometimes, my Mum will tell me a horrid experience he endured. When my Mother told me Alfred had died, I looked at her and said: The only good thing that man ever did for us was give us $5 and we went and got a puppy. He has caused my Father such grief, I have no sympathy. If I had walked up to that man on the street and slapped him across the face he would have no clue who I was - let alone my or my siblings names. YOU are Brave Beyond This pain will never go away - As my Mother says - Live Your Life In JOY Thank God they met You got this!

Good lord, even talking to them would be more than anyone could ask from me. If they're lucky and I have a lazy day, I'd sent them off without physical engagement - not because they deserve so, but because they aren't worth the effort of a serious punch.

he should sue the PI, bc PI's legally have to make sure they arent helping an a****r get to their victim

Idk, something in the story is missing. I know some families are this petty, but it feels like the OP is glossing over details they don't want to admit to. I don't think it's entirely made-up, just missing info.

This story started strong, but sort of derailed at the end. Glad OP got it together and all, but the latter part of the story makes him sound a little unhinged - like...just get a restraining order on Day 2 and be done with it.

Ok, so I have some questions: Since OP is the one who actually chose to go NC, even going so far as to change his last name, has anyone asked the family how many times they attempted to get in contact with him, prior to the 15 years? He went NC. Why are we believing that he said they disowned him? How did they disown him? Did they send him a letter in jail during those 2 weeks telling him to never contact them again? Did they have a face to face with him and tell him to get lost? What exactly did they do to disown him? And then, on the other side of this drama, did his family ever say they were sorry for losing touch with him? Especially since it was his choice to go NC? Did they say they were sorry for whatever they did to contribute to this separation? Did they say how long they were looking for him? Did he tell them why he was going NC when he changed his name, etc? This whole post is just click bait disguised as an emotional rollercoaster! Uggh!