39 Times Teachers Were So Unfair And Out Of Line That Their Students Had To Expose Them Online

Nobody’s arguing that classrooms don’t need structure. Teachers and students both need clear rules and expectations to get the job of learning done, and, honestly, a little firmness isn’t exactly the enemy here. But there’s a pretty big difference between a teacher enforcing the rules and a teacher becoming so rigid about them that the rules start to feel like the whole point of the exercise—and it turns out, there’s research to back up that distinction.

A 2024 review of teacher strictness found that while clear rules and discipline can support learning and classroom order, excessive strictness can have the opposite effect, potentially reducing students’ motivation and participation. So being strict isn’t necessarily the problem; it seems to be what happens when strictness becomes excessive.

That might be because, as another study explained, there’s a difference between guiding students and trying to control them. The researchers distinguish between autonomy-supportive teaching, where teachers create an environment that supports students’ need for autonomy and provide explanations for why they’re being asked to do something, and controlling teaching, where teachers pressure students to “think, feel, or behave in a specific way prescribed by the teacher.”

And that control can take different forms. It can be relatively obvious, such as punishments, rewards, deadlines, and commands, or more subtle, including tactics that make students feel “guilt, shame, and anxiety.” The researchers note that these controlling approaches can undermine students’ engagement, while autonomy-supportive teaching can have “positive effects on students’ needs satisfaction, high-quality motivation, and engagement.”

Importantly, the researchers point out that these two approaches aren’t necessarily opposites: “the absence of one does not necessarily imply the presence of the other.” In other words, a teacher can give students structure without automatically trying to control their every move.

And perhaps that’s the real takeaway: sometimes it’s not even the rule that’s the problem—it’s how the teacher delivers it. After all, we all know there’s a big difference between a curt “see me” scrawled in red pen on an assignment and a teacher who takes you aside, privately and calmly, to carefully explain what needs to change. And, perhaps not surprisingly, this goes for their tone of voice too.

Researchers from the University of Essex and the University of Reading played recordings of teachers’ voices to 250 children aged 10 to 16 and asked them how the different voices made them feel, including how it would affect factors such as competence, emotions, trust, and their intention to cooperate. The children responded more positively to supportive tones, while “controlling” or “strict-sounding” ones were linked to lower self-esteem, less willingness to cooperate, and less willingness to speak up about problems such as bullying.

As Professor Netta Weinstein from Reading put it, “Tone of voice is a powerful way to convey teachers’ caring, understanding, or openness,” adding that “It’s easy to forget when we are stressed or tired, but teachers can provide a positive learning environment when they are thoughtful in how they use their tone of voice.”

That seems particularly important when students get something wrong—which, inconveniently enough, is kind of how learning works. As neurologist and former teacher Judy Willis explains in an article on Psychology Today, “We learn the most from our mistakes and the mistakes of others when we receive information (corrective feedback) to prevent our making the mistake in the future. This is part of the brain’s neuroplastic ability to change itself in response to thought and experience.”

But for students to learn from mistakes, they need to feel comfortable enough to make them without fearing punishment—or worse, public humiliation. As Willis explains, “The greatest school fear reported by students is being reprimanded for a mistake or poor performance of any kind in front of classmates.” She adds that embarrassment and negative attention can cause students to avoid participating altogether, while stress can impair working memory, problem-solving abilities and emotional self-control.

This is just one of the many ways teachers teach their students more than what’s on any lesson plan. They’re also modeling how to communicate, handle frustration, and respond to mistakes. Students might forget a history date, or how to solve for x, but they’re a whole lot less likely to forget how a teacher made them feel when they got something wrong.

Of course, teachers are human, too. They make mistakes and have bad days just like the rest of us. And, honestly, teaching is no small job. Keeping a room full of students engaged, well-behaved, and supported while dealing with wildly different personalities and needs sounds exhausting enough.

None of this is meant to bash teachers. Nor is it a case against them having high standards. Rather, it’s about what happens when enforcing those standards becomes more important than the common sense behind them. Because being strict and being unreasonable aren’t necessarily the same thing—although some of these examples certainly seem to blur the line.