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“Absolutely Heartbreaking”: 50 Times People Did Something So Awful, Their Friend Turned On Them
Interview With Expert
Not every friendship needs to have matching necklaces to be meaningful. If you care deeply about a person, support them on their best and worst days and can spend hours giggling about the silliest things, that’s all that matters.
But unfortunately, not all friendships are perfectly balanced. And sometimes, you're forced to swallow a bitter pill after realizing that someone you considered a close friend never actually cared about you at all. Redditors have been sharing stories of former friendships that blew up in an instant, so we’ve gathered their most heartbreaking tales below. Keep reading to also find a conversation with Dr. Therese Mascardo, PsyD. And let these stories be reminders of what you deserve in your own relationships, pandas.
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#1
I was gaming with my best friend and my wife was sitting on the couch next to me just reading a book. She was super content just letting me game. She just wanted to be spending time with me. My friend had a not even one year old kid that he just stuck in a bouncing chair in the side of the room while we played. He said the kid loves that chair and is in it a lot, so he just games.
The kid starts whining a bit, but he gets ignored. I'm thinking "We'll probably hit this checkpoint and he'll go tend to his kid." Nope. Several good stopping points had passed and the kid was fussing even more now. So my buddy says to my wife "[my wife's name], there's formula in the cupboard and the diaper bag is over in the corner there. He's probably just hungry and has a poopy diaper if you wanna feed and change him."
I looked at this guy like he'd just slapped her, turned my game off and said "How about instead of asking my wife to do it, you put down your game and take care of your own child?"
A bit of a harsh response, but he looked so butt hurt that I'd just told him to take care of his own child instead of game all day. I packed my stuff up and we left. I haven't spoken to him in 3 years.
TL;DR My former best friend told my wife to feed and change his infant child so he could keep playing video games. We don't speak anymore.
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#2
She got married. I was just friends with this girl from law school. She was a cool girl and we lived in the same city after law school.
We never had s*x. We had never seen each other naked. I was dating someone else at the time. She was dating this guy. I met her parents as just a friend - was friends with her sister.
So for about 6 years we were just pretty cool friends. She gets married... her husband then texts me and tells me to stay away from her.
I text her and say, yo, your husband is telling me not to speak with you anymore, is that what you want?
I got no response.
Cool.
A few weeks pass and I call friend's sister and see if she wants to grab a drink as I was in the area.
"You got some f*****g nerve calling me."
"Um... what? Listen, I know XX doesn't want me to speak to her but not sure why we can't be friends."
"Are you f*****g kidding me? You ruined her life and are trying to ruin her marriage with what you did to her!"
*WHAT??????????*
"I'm sorry, I have no idea what you are talking about... I have always had her best interest at heart so I dunno."
"Yeah, well... then why didn't you tell her you had herpes before you f****d her."
"Wait what??? She and I never had s*x and I don't have herpes so I'm a little confused here."
"Stop f*****g lying - HUSBAND told the whole thing and she never denied it so f**k you, don't f*****g ever speak to us again!"
Alright...
Come to find out - that a*****e had herpes and didn't tell her and he gave her herpes and when it got out that she had herpes somehow, he blamed it on me and she just let the lie take hold because it was easier than her family hating her husband.
Alright - cheers... consider it a parting gift.
#3
My cousin and I were inseparable as teens. He went on his mission (Mormon) and I went to hang out for a few days when he got back, I was so excited. I got there, paid for all the fun stuff we went out to do, no problem. His childhood friend and I were trying to get him to go for a walk to this cave we used to go to and he decided to tell me what a piece of trash I am and I'm going to hell because I'm gay. I didn't say a word as I drove him home immediately. I said "get out" and haven't talked to him in the 8 years since then, f**k him.
Billo66 1 month ago (edited)
Then why are all the rainbows in heaven? Hmmm? My cousin is gay, she is my best friend. We are both black sheep. I love her no matter what her physical person is, it's her soul, her just being a human being that we can be cool with each other. That's what's up. Any deity that would burn her can kiss my azz.
To learn more about this topic, we got in touch with psychologist, author and speaker Dr. Therese Mascardo, PsyD. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and discuss why going through a friendship breakup is so painful.
"Because we don’t expect it," the expert says. "With romantic relationships, we’re conditioned to the reality they might end, but often believe close friendships are forever."
"Losing a friend feels like losing a piece of yourself. It’s not just about the person; it’s about the memories, the inside jokes, the version of you that only existed with them," Dr. Mascardo continued. "There’s no cultural script for mourning a friend, which makes the grief feel even lonelier. Friendship breakups hurt because no one prepares you for them, and because they often take a piece of your past with them without offering any closure."
#4
My one guy friend(24) told me(25F) on NYE that 2020 was the year he was going to f**k me, even if it requires r**e. So I blocked him everywhere and cut all contact. He has since tried to reach me through other ppl to "apologize" but a b***h ain't got time for that foolery.
#5
'all women secretly want to be r***d.' I pulled over and told him to get out. Haven't answered his calls since.
#6
After i spent all day using my truck and trailer helping him haul tables and chairs and a giant archway to the church for his wedding that i was supposed to be a groomsmen.
Him "Hey dude, i really appreciate you helping me move this stuff, i couldn't get anyone else to help, here's $20 for the gas"
Me "woah dude, I'm IN your wedding, I don't need money to help make this happen"
Him- "yeah dude so hey, brent (his soon-to-be wifes best guy friend/100% ex f**k buddy/guy he's known for less than 3 months), really wanted to be in the wedding and i was wondering if it would be cool if he took your spot and i can see if any of her cousins backed out and if there's a seat open somewhere"
This was the day before the wedding.
I had been best friends with that guy since kindergarten, his wife didn't like me because I knew about her wild past from a different circle of friends so this was her attempt to push me out.
He caved but none of the other people involved would help move s**t so he waited until last minute to get me to help.
Haven't spoken to that guy since, and last i heard she quit her job and sucks d**k in his house all day while he's at work. They deserve each other.
Edit- i feel like i need to add, two days after the wedding the church venue called me frantic, apparently no one picked up the chairs, tables, and archway from the church venue and those f***s gave my number and told them I was supposed to be picking them up. That didn't happen.
Lila Allen 1 month ago
Well I guess he got the wife he deserved and you were free to choose better friends.
So how can we know when it might be time to end a friendship? "Start paying attention to how you feel before, during, and after spending time with them," Dr. Mascardo shared. "If you feel anxious, emotionally drained, or like you have to shrink yourself to keep the peace, those are red flags."
"Friendships should be a safe space, not a performance or a transaction. It might be time to let go when trust has been repeatedly broken, boundaries aren’t respected, or the connection feels more like obligation than joy," the therapist continued. "It's healthy for relationships to have give and take, but when a friendship starts to drain your battery more than charge it, then it may be time to re-evaluate."
#7
So, my friends and I all found out that another friend (from here on known as BG for Birthday Girl) had never had a surprise birthday thrown for her, and it was her dream. So we decided to make that happen! My husband planned a big get together at another friend’s house, we invited lots of friends, bought lots of food and even barbecue equipment, and really went all out.
BG found out about the surprise party a few weeks beforehand by accident, and was thrilled! Like, broke down sobbing she was so happy because no one had ever done it for her before. Awesome! We were hyped!
2 days before the party, she texts my husband that she’s changed plans and is going bowling with another friend instead. But we’re invited to come! 8D
....uh? What????
We were floored. And pretty pissed. And lots of people were already committed to coming to this thing! So we just had the party without her, and she texted us some super angry messages because we didn’t show up for bowling.
Now no one is friends with her.
#8
Senior year of high school, I planned a small roadtrip to a nearby city for me and my friends. Everyone was super excited. I planned activities, restaurants, sightseeing, looked at Airbnbs, etc.. One by one, they all told me they didn’t have enough money and couldn’t go. I said it was fine, so I cancelled the trip. Found out via their Snapchat stories that they lied to me and went on the trip I planned without me, including all the activities and restaurants I had suggested. They posted a lot of the pics on Snapchat and instagram too. Never spoke to them again.
#9
Didn't love my dog when he was dog sitting, carelessly let her run away, then failed to look for her. My surveillance cameras caught it all... I was PISSED. Friendship over.
We also asked the expert for her advice on how to end a friendship. "There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. If the friendship was deeply meaningful, a compassionate conversation can offer both people clarity and closure," she says. "But in cases where there’s emotional harm, manipulation, or the dynamic has faded naturally, a gradual disengagement can be more appropriate."
"You don’t owe everyone a detailed explanation—especially if doing so would reopen wounds. You can honor the role someone played in your life without inviting them back into it," Dr. Mascardo noted. "Ending a friendship isn’t about trying to hurt the other person, it’s about protecting yourself and your peace."
#10
This was the fastest for me. I was being stalked and harassed in high school. I went to the administration and they called in the police. My best friend said "I don't know why you have to make it such a big deal." Never spoke to her again.
#11
I was 16 and had my first boyfriend. I confided in my best friend of a decade that I was really upset because he got annoyed at something I said at Baskin Robins and threw me against a table and then down on the floor, and that it wasn't the first time he'd shoved me around.
She told me that she didn't want to hear it and that I had no right to complain because unlike her, at least I had a boyfriend.
That was pretty much that for our friendship.
Edit to add: so people can stop freaking, yes, I broke up with him, and it was like 2 and a half decades ago. I'm in a safe and loving marriage.
#12
I got se***lly a**aulted by two guys in a summer camp and told it to my best friend. After calling me stupid for letting that happen, she apologised and I forgave her. Then I saw her parents who asked how summer camp went and all she did was turn to me and go "well, you made many friends, didn't you ? Don't you wanna tell my parents about it ?" with a big smile on her face. I don't feel too bad about thinking that she can f**k off in hell.
Earonn - 1 month ago
In these situations it's best to call out their game. Not that I would blame OP for not doing that. "Well, I told you that I got ra*ped by two guys and you called me stupid for allowing it, so, no, I wasn't making "friends"." Then leave it to the audience (here: the parents) to deal with them.
Finally, the therapist added that it can be hard when a friendship breakup doesn't have closure.
"It's important to keep in mind that these breakups aren’t failures or reflections of our worth. They’re transitions. People evolve and grow, and not always in the same direction," Dr. Mascardo explained.
"It’s okay to grieve, miss them, and still know it was the right decision. Healing doesn’t always look like closure, sometimes it looks like moving forward with self-compassionate acceptance," she continued. "Losing a friend doesn’t mean the bond wasn’t real, it just means your paths are no longer aligned."
#13
I have a story that I don’t really like to talk about. This has been a recent event in my life and is serious. My friend that I am no longer friends with is someone that I have known for years. We are neighbors and practically grew up together.
He was a relatively normal person and had good morals up until he was introduced to social media. He used yolo on Snapchat as well as Instagram. He mainly used Snapchat and yolo.
At this time, his parents were typically not home or helping with taking care of the recent baby brother he received so he had plenty of free time and that free time he used to post yolos. Before he used social media, he was really into the joker for some odd reason. He’d act like the character for no reason and act strange towards strangers and ppl he knew. He even acted that way towards his girlfriend. He ended up losing her because he was acting oddly towards her. All whilst this was happening, he was saying horrifying things on Snapchat. I thought that what he was posting was very disturbing and I got tired of it. He also threatened to k**l people and hurt people.
I ended up taking screenshots of what he was posting and showed the school administration to see if they could help him. He ended up getting suspended for a substantial amount of time and thankfully stopped what he was doing. I am not longer his friend because I can’t take any chances of him finding out and hurting me.
TL:DR
My friend acted like the joker and threatened to k**l people so I told the school and got him suspended.
Call me a snitch all you want, but it would’ve gotten worse if I didn’t do anything.
#14
I posted on Facebook something along the lines of "Congratulations to my friends John and Mike for finally getting married!" and she posted a long homophobic/religious rant comment about how all lgbtq people are going to hell and so will anyone associated with them.
Thinking that there had to be some form of miscommunication going on, I emailed and asked her why she wrote that. Turns out in all our years of friendship, we had never discussed anything lgbtq related (which is really weird now that I look back on it) and that was how she really felt.
So, uh, bye. Never spoke to her again.
Luke Branwen 1 month ago
I've cut off my best friend for ~7 years after she casually mentioned she supports conversion therapy. I loved her a lot, but at some time she just became a different person I could no longer tolerate.
#15
Had a dude I was friends with in the military. Pretty cool guy, looked out for everyone, tried to take care of everyone. He was all around a great guy.
Right up until you get him talking about women. As soon as he starts talking about females, he turns into the most downright misogynist pig ive ever met. As a guy I can understand some talking and elaborating when it comes to the other gender, but the things he would say makes people downright uncomfortable and are conversation stoppers. He had been told multiple times about it, warned and warned, and it still didnt stop. The worst part? He was married and continues to be. Dont worry, he cheats on her with as many females as he can find.
Hard no in my book.
#16
My dad died a few years ago, and while everyone I know were sending us condolences, one of my best friends I’ve had since elementary school tried to send my mom d**k pics. He didn’t want me to find out but naturally my mom told me immediately. Haven’t talked to him since. No room for that kind of betrayal in my life. My dad had done a lot for him, too, including straight-up giving him money when he needed it. Just pure wtf. Sucks.
#17
In college, a former friend tried to have s*x with me (I'm also a guy) while I was black out drunk (He was not drunk). He did that despite knowing I am straight and had a girlfriend at the time. Lucky for me there were some actual friends that stopped him.
Beak Hookage 1 month ago
Dude, it wouldn't have been okay if he'd done it if you were gay and single! It's SA either way.
#18
Friend had physically harmed another friend who was drunk because he thought nobody would notice.
Next day I confronted him, and after looking in my eyes and denying what I had seen for 30 minutes, it was like his mask came off. I have never understood the descriptions of the *coldness* of eyes until that moment. He just looked at me, smiled, and said "Honestly? I just don't care."
We are no longer friends. Everyone else eventually figures out that he was bats*it and takes a step back. He checks into a psych ward for 3 days, but *keeps the admittance bracelet on for the next three weeks*. Tells everyone he talks to, using my name, about this b***h who destroyed his life and caused him to attempt s*****e.
Don't be friends with psychopaths, kids. If they have alienated everyone they ever knew, the common denominator is them.
#19
I live in a small town. One of my employees is transgender and is self-conscious about small town folks staring at her and saying s**t. A friend of mine saw me at lunch with her and I introduced them. A few weeks later I saw my friend at another community function where he brought up my trans employee and said a bunch of disparaging things about her. I didn't make a big deal of it, but I have stopped asking my ex-friend to hang out and always turn down invitations to hang out. When I was a kid I was "different" and I want nothing to do with people who disparage people just for being different.
#20
I was going through some s**t and needed to be talked down from s*****e one night. I told my friend I really needed help and someone to talk to she said "I'm really not up for that right now. You're on your own." I listened to this woman rant about her money troubles and helped her out. The one time I need some help, that took a lot in me to ask for, I get a selfish "sorry b***h. Not my job.". I haven't talked to her in 7 years and she can still go f**k herself. On the brighter side, I was too f*****g mad at her to k**l myself that night.
Edit: I didnt tell her I was s******l. I kept that part to myself, I just told her I needed someone to talk to because of my anxiety and depression were really f*****g with me and please don't leave me alone, I really needed to just be told everything was alright. She wanted to watch TV and not talk me and for me to "get over it" and it "wasn't her job to hold [my] hand."
Hope that clears it up.
#21
My former best friend , of over 6 years, hit up my ex girlfriend the day we broke up. He sent her a DM asking if she wanted to “hangout at his house” (parents but wtv). At the time he also had a girlfriend, who was pregnant with his kid. My ex hit me and his girlfriend up with the messages. My ex and his girlfriend decided to go together at his place and expose him.
I didn’t want to do with any of that but I didn’t want anything to happen to either of the girls. So we show up, his mom greets us and let’s us in, as soon as he saw us 3 he knew that his s**t was up but acted all surprised. We told him we knew, he kept defending his case by saying his little brother (who was f*****g 6) sent my ex those messages.
Well to make a long story short, his pregnant girlfriend left him, he’s currently paying child support, he also moved out of the state like a month later. My ex and I are back together and 3 months into our marriage.
Lila Allen 1 month ago
Well it seems as if the trash took itself right on out. Glad all of the rest of you got a win.
#22
My husband had a best friend. Been friends for over a decade. He asked his best friend to be his best man at our wedding. He agreed. Then a two weeks before our wedding he asked if he could bring a date. We were puzzled as we didn't think he'd been dating anyone. So we inquired and were like "sure." Turns out it was one of our mutual friend's wife he was banging. We all hated her anyway, but him wanting to bring her as his date was the end for my husband. The friend said that not only would he not be the best man, but he wouldn't come to the wedding if he couldn't bring the friend's wife he was cheating with. Yep. That was a big nope. They haven't been friends since.
I had a friend that I ended things with because she said "Your problem is you have too much humanity. You care about people too much." I asked her if she cared at all about her fellow human beings and she said "Don't know them. F**k them. Why do you think I carry a gun?" We were in a heated discussion and I had to take a breather. The absolute look of triumph and joy on her face that she had because she "broke me" to the point that I to step away was enough for me. So it wasn't so much what she said, but the fact that she was so genuinely happy that she hurt me so badly. Her look was like "Gotcha b***h! I won the argument!" The fact that her winning was more important than our friendship and trying to see each other's point of view was it for me. She was no one I wanted to know. She admitted to me when we first became friends that she doesn't have empathy or compassion. I should have listened. I just thought she was being hard on herself. Nope.
#23
After convincing me to delete my accounts everywhere and make new ones. After promising me that they’ll protect me from my a*****e ex. After witnessing everything my ex done to me, and how it scarred me for life, I found out that my best friend was dating my ex behind my back for months, lying about it the whole time.
I didn’t know who my friend was dating, as they refused to introduce them in person. It turns out they’ve been dating behind my back a few weeks before my ex broke up with me. The whole thing scarred me to this day. It’s been a year and I haven’t heard from either of them since, though. Good riddance.
#24
"We hate how you became a mother all of a sudden and now spend no time with us at the bar anymore".
Because apparently the friendship was only real if we were in a bar, I guess.
Lost 5 friends on the spot.
Now that I think about it...... maybe they were not even friends to begin with.
Hated going to the bar anyway!
Nils Skirnir 1 month ago
Recovered alkie here. Happened to me and many other alkies when we stopped drinking. Most drinking buddies like the drink more than they like friends
#25
Best friend and ex coworker for 5 years. Confided in her and told her about my self harming, depression and stuff I went through as a child (you can imagine), two days later she not only told the whole of my old work place but told my family too. Absolutely heartbreaking.
#26
Yeah, I had a friend who I met clubbing and only really had a friendship with because we went to the same nightclubs. We went out for coffee once day and there was a noisy child screaming away at a nearby table. She made a derogatory comment about the child being mixed race and how she didn’t agree with mixed race relationships (up until this point I’d not seen anything like that from her at all) and I pointed out that my then boyfriend, now husband was mixed race and I wasn’t happy with her comment & she responded with “yeah but (husband) can pass for white so it’s fine!”.
I made my excuses and left and ignored her messages of “are you out tonight?” after that. She did pop up on social media a few years later when Facebook started and I had a nose on her profile out of morbid curiosity and wasn’t shocked to see she was an active member of the EDL.
#27
I have chronic health issues, and my best friend was trying to get me to drive 30 minutes to her house to go swimming when I had to pack to leave town the next day. She kept pushing and pushing, but when she finally realized I wasn't going to agree, she sat back and said, "You wouldn't be any fun even if you HAD your health."
I left and didn't speak to her again.
#28
My best friend accused me of “making him gay.”
No joke.
He was in the closet when I met him, and throughout our years of friendship I tried my best to show love and support to him during his gradual coming-out process. He came from a conservative family and really resisted coming out. When he finally came to terms with his sexual orientation, I guess he convinced himself somehow that I was the one who planted that seed of homosexuality in his mind and corrupted him. When he yelled at me, in tears, “you made me gay!” I couldn’t believe that he was serious. I was willing to forgive, because I knew it wasn’t really about me, but from that day on he began pushing me away and treating me like s**t. After putting up with the a*****e and toxic behavior for months, I eventually told him that I was done, moved out, and never spoke to him again.
Years later, he emailed me an apology. I have nothing but love for him, and part of me still grieves because he was like a brother to me, but I haven’t tried to rekindle the friendship.
#29
I’m the dumped friend.
She posted a video from The Onion of a fake Senator reading a fake bill that was all redacted and you could tell with context clues it was basically saying in the event of Armageddon, the high powered people have bunkers to hide in. She made some comment about the redacting and our government is hiding stuff.
I commented that it was a satire video and not real. She got super mad and accused me of trying to make her look stupid. She said there was no way she could’ve known.
“The Onion” was in the bottom right hand corner of the video.
She blocked me and we have never spoken since.
We had known each other for at least five years. I (more accurately, my parents) took her in when she ran away from home for, like, a year when we were teens. When her husband beat her up (early 20s) I road tripped all night to pick her back and move her back in.
#30
An ex-friend of mine was pushing me for inappropriate images under the flimsy guise of "joking", seemingly out of nowhere. (I was in a three year relationship with my now husband and this ex-friend of mine also had a gf of his own during this whole ordeal. Real classy.)
Now, this wasn't really something he had done previously in all our years knowing one another, so with that in mind I foolishly tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and just made it unmistakably clear to him that if he didn't stop behaving like a mindless pervert I'd cut contact and end our friendship.
Then one day I got an image text; it was his b***r outlined in gym shorts and a sad and completely see through fish for compliments then the most pathetic backpedal of the century.
Friendship of 10+ years ended, but not before I f*****g laid into him first before blocking that toxic predator's a*s.
F**k you, Lyle.
#31
She told me to never speak to her again after she learned I was hearing voices. And we never spoke again.
#32
We had one friend that said he fell on bad times with money, so we paid everything for him during the next couple of months(drinks, cigars, travel), and after a few months we found out he was going out with new people all that time and was acting rich in front of them with all the money he was saving by scaming us. I hope it was as worth it for him as it was for us.
#33
Had a whole bunch do it at once. I used to have a group of people I thought were my friends. Because of this, I did a lot for them. I helped them out by working on their projects, supported them, let one stay in my home rent free when they were in danger of becoming homeless.
I did all that for these people, but two years in a row, they couldn't be bothered to do something as simple and easy as meet up with me for drinks to celebrate my birthday. Half of them didn't even bother responding to being invited. I've pretty much cut them all out my life now, I'm done being used by those who don't care about me.
#34
Yup. She said she was going to k**l herself because of me. All I did was plan an event her baby couldn't come to. I get she was dealing with postpartum depression but that's a hard no for me.
#35
Had a "friend", C, that constantly borrowed money from me in high school, and never once paid me back. She'd promise to pay me back each time, and give me like, whole stories about how she'd pay me back as soon as she got her allowance on Wednesday or whatever, and then if I asked for the money back later, she'd claim she'd already paid me back.
Her begging got so bad that I literally stopped carrying cash with me to school because if I stood up and she heard change jiggling in my pocket, she'd beg for an hour to borrow money until I lent her some. God forbid if she noticed I'd bought myself a snack or anything.
Anyways, the friendship had mostly ended by the next year, just because as it turns out she was a pretty s****y friend all around and we were fighting about something. But I guess I was still sorta holding out hope for it in some way or another. A mutual friend, R, asked me if I could talk to C because she'd borrowed a favourite belt and some money and R wanted it back (and my locker was right beside C's). I told R that it was probably gone but I'd ask anyways.
Asked about R's money and belt. I still remember C's response.
"I only repay friends."
Any thought I'd ever had that this might be a redeemable friendship went out the window. Told R what was said, offered to pay them back myself, but I was never speaking to C again. And never did. Four years of "friendship" over in that sentence, because it meant that she had never once considered me a friend, just a source of money.
#36
Yes. For some background, I was best friends with this girl (let's call her Alice) for several years, I had just ended a relationship with a guy that through the course of our five-year relationship developed an a*******n to opioids that ultimately resulted in our painful break up, and I'm bi.
Anyway, I started dating a woman I met through Alice. Alice was becoming increasingly territorial, even before I started hanging out with this woman. Eventually we became more serious and Alice called my girlfriend and told her that I'd said "she was just some lesbian that was obsessed with me" about my girlfriend. These words have never and would never leave my mouth, it was just Alice's attempt at sabotaging our relationship. Fortunately my girlfriend knew better and called me immediately and I was able to fix the situation and right the wrong. However, my friendship with Alice was absolutely done as soon as I knew this.
Side note: Alice hase since completely ruined multiple other friendships within our friend group because of her deceit and mistreatment of people. It's the most vivid example of karma I can think of.
#37
Said I was being a bad friend for not wanting to game after my 6th 10 hour shift that week. I was beyond exhausted and desperately wanted to go to bed.
Said friend also called me a "little b***h" because i was worried that I got my then gf pregnant before this incident. That gf later left me for other reasons, so I decided to start making changes without her holding me back. New job, different living arrangement, started doing more outside of the house etc. I didn't mean for him to be one of the things left behind, but I've gotten out of that pit and have much better friends now.
Lila Allen 1 month ago
Sometimes getting away from one toxic relationship helps you see that you have other toxic relationships
#38
My best friend in college was a girl named *gina*. She and I got along really well and would get drunk and have awesome deep conversations, so everything together, explore etc. natural college s**t when you’re experiencing the world on your own for once.
She liked d***s and tripping and living in shared communities with people she felt were deep. I like drinking and partying and having my own apartment room/bathroom. I personally think nothing is wrong with either preference. She goes off to get a law degree in a city about 3 hours away, i begin working as a chemical engineer in our college town. We stay in touch but i know she’s busy with school no big deal. I visit her a few times but she never comes down to me. Didn’t really have a problem with it at the time but after the fact noticed.
She comes back for a summer internship. I text her and call her and go out of my way to take her to happy hour at high end cocktail bars she picks. To dinner at trendy restaurants. Etc. I pay for everything as I’m the one with the job, no problem i make plenty of money. But every time we meet up it’s her complaining for 2-3 hours about drama or school or whatever and i can’t get a word in. I’m always asking for her to hang out. She’s always prioritizing some boy one month, another boy the next. One time I’m out with other friends at the bar, it was a birthday and we got extra done up. I was feeling great, had some cute fake lashes on, cute dress, and ran into her. Overheard her telling my boyfriend/now husband that she didn’t want to hang around because i had fake lashes on so I must be blacked out drunk (was not. There is nothing wrong with putting a little more effort than normal and feeling beautiful ever so f**k her)
Finally i get tired of making all the effort. I step back and decide I’ll wait for her to ask me to hangout. She ends up moving back to finish her law degree at the college we went to together/in the town i live in. 6 months go by and i get a single text saying “hey are you mad at me? My sister was being crazy last time we hung out. Do you have any hot friends that might be interested in s*x with me? No strings attached”.
I never responded. Never spoke to her again. Been about 3-4 years now. Am still really sad about it. I thought we had a great friendship but I valued her much more than she valued me.
#39
I once told a lifelong friend that I wasn't voting for the same candidate he did in the 2016 election, and he told me I was committing a crime against the United States of America, unfriended me on social media, and has never spoken to me again.
And I can pretty much promise you, the person you think I voted for isn't who I voted for.
#40
It was during college and i was having a conversation with 2 of my friends. I don't know how we got to the topic but then 1 of the girls says something along the lines of 'I don't really like gay people, i think what they do is disgusting and i would never support them... But guy on guy stuff is kind of hot' and i honestly just walked a way right there and then. And we havent spoken since. I'm not gay myself, but i just hate that way of thinking and was honestly shocked at how proud she was of that statement.
#41
Not just *a* friendship, but multiple.
I was part of a decent-sized friend circle, everyone hung out and knew each-other. A couple of them decide to invite "a*****e" to hang out with us. A*****e started openly insulting one friend, to his face, for being a homosexual. My girlfriend (God bless her for this) was the first person to stand up for gay friend. A*****e gets all huffy, won't apologize, and leaves. "Friends" started getting rude with her, myself, and gay friend. They blame the three of us for creating drama (me for backing up both of them,). Gay friend stopped hanging out with everyone because it was clear they were siding with a*****e.
When we're all hanging out again, who should show up this time but a*****e, with his friend we'll call Pervert. Pervert keeps making disgusting remarks to girlfriend while giving me a look like he's challenging me. Girlfriend tells him to f**k off after he starts going on about what he'd do to her if he found her in a dark alley. We both leave. One "friend" texts me later telling both of us to never hang out with the group again. The rest of them start ghosting us.
Then the stalking started. They'd show up in groups to places they knew girlfriend and I would be at. A*****e, Pervert, and the whole crew. They wouldn't say anything to us, just barge in, sit nearby, and make themselves as loud and disruptive as possible. That behavior ended up getting them banned from most local places after too many people complained.
About a year later, one of the former friends contacted us when he was drunk, lonely, and feeling guilty. Friend group fell apart shortly after they got banned from local places we'd hang out at. People blamed each-other for escalating, everything was non-stop drama, people started picking sides and factionalizing, and it finally fell apart with all of them hating each-other. A*****e moved away, Pervert was in jail. Girlfriend and I pretty much told him to go pound sand.
#42
She spread a rumour that my girlfriend of the time didn't really exist (that social circle never met her due to the GF living in another town) and that I made this girlfriend up to cover for the fact that I was actually dating the her (the one spreading the rumour). I was furious and broke off all contact as soon as I heard about it.
#43
Had a good friend just suddenly get obsessed with “chemtrails”. To the point where he would disappear while we were working on something and I’d find him outside taking pictures of contrails in the sky. He tried to convince me and I was just like, “I don’t really believe in that. Not my thing.” He would not let it go. He would send me all these YouTube videos that were supposed to be evidence but they were just people explaining the chemtrail conspiracy. There was no evidence. He wouldn’t stop so I just told him bluntly I was done being his friend and blocked him from everything.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 1 month ago
Oh great, your former friend became an Alex Jones cult follower. Just what the world needs, another conspiracy muck fuppet.
#44
One of my best friends of several years set me up to get robbed for £390, my wallet and my jacket. The guy who robbed me pulled a machete on me and kept it against my neck. I don't really know why they decided they want to do it, but I know from enough people (and just the way it all happened gave me suspicions) telling me it was him that I found out.
So naturally I stopped being friends with him, because it was a bit of a d**k move and all.
#45
"Hey do you wanna be your own boss and retire by 25?".
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 month ago (edited)
Yes, but your essential oils/smoothies/ leggings/makeup/coffee/ BS isn’t gonna do the trick
#46
"I'm sorry, I was so drunk I can't remember how good it was." Referring to b***ing my girlfriend at the time. We were close friends for 6 years. His name? Why.. Kyle of course.
#47
There was this kid at my middle school who everyone liked and thought was really funny. Everyone in my large friend group was friends with him. Then one day, he called one of our teachers(not even a teacher people outright hated, she was more just kinda quirky and annoying) the n-word. Eventually everyone found out and we knew that nothing constituted that and I don’t know of anyone who genuinely liked him by the end of the year.
#48
My best mate's now ex girlfriend told everyone I had s*x with her while they were dating, when I definitely had not.
She was the most irritating person I'd ever met and I don't know if I've ever been attracted to someone less, than I was to her.
Ruined our friendship and destroyed her relationship with my mate.
She is one of those people that CRAVE drama and can't live without having something wrong to moan about. She's currently pretending to have multiple personality disorder and blaming that for every time she's a d******d so she can get away with it.
#49
You know what, recently, like late 2019 I started getting out of the house. I'm a single father of two girls and I've focused on them 1000% for a really long time. I finally got out of the house a few times, and I'm serious I went to this friends house a few times for game nights... basically drinking and cards. Till this dude hauled off and hit me for accidentally touching his f*****g hat of all things. What struck me most is that they were hosting and didn't even offer an apology to me. It was quite insane for me. It was like I was back in highschool. Unf**king real. I gave them ample time to f*****g realize what happened. It took the person 3 months to even realize we are no longer friends on social media and she's trying to add me back now.... and honestly, it f*****g broke something in me.
#50
A second best friend from college. I moved away for a year and my best friend and boyfriend lived in the same town while I was gone.
They came to visit, they drove up together, we all had a great time. I came down to visit, we had a great time.
Then i move back, get a promotion, boyfriend proposes, buy a house, etc. all in about 3 months. And boom this girl never wants to speak to me again. She tells me she hopes I’m happy with him and refuses to sit down and talk to me about it. I reach out and try to explain I’m hurt and I miss her. Get pretty plain responses about no thanks hope your happy with your life.
I was pretty heartbroken. But looking back it was obvious she was jealous of other people’s happiness. She was always complaining about her work, how she can’t afford her apartment, always cycling through boyfriends And heartbroken she couldn’t find someone to love her, and always talking trash about any of our friends success. I realized this was just too much all at once and she hated me for it. She trash talked our mutual friend getting into a stanford masters program. She trash talked our mutual friend who got a great job in San Francisco. She trash talked HER friend who got up and moved across the world for a boy and a lavish life in Ireland (straight movie style no joke haha). She trash talked HER sisters fitness Instagram success (which became a crazy empire so go her her! She’s killin it!)
In the end it’s obvious she feels a lot of competition with those in her life and I’ll never understand that.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago
Best childhood friend of many years. He came out to me early on in our friendship and I went to a lot of pride events/marches with him as his mom and stepdad were completely unsupportive (this was in the mid 90s.) We did everything together. We played World of Warcraft in its ALPHA TESTING together XD I would have taken a bullet for him. Then when I was 18, I met a guy and we started dating. After a few months, I'm hanging out with my best friend, and he suddenly says, out of nowhere, "I can't believe you're dating a chínk!" (My then-bf was Chinese.) I was pretty floored and hurt. He had shown zero signs of racism in all our years of friendship. But he seemed to REALLY hate my bf. I stopped talking to him after that and we drifted apart. 24 years of controlling, abus!ve relationship later, turns out that he was right to hate my now-ex.. just not for his race XD
James016 1 month ago
When I was 18 I was dating someone but it wasn't working so we split up and it hurt badly. A couple of days after the split one of my "friends" asked me why I hadn't tried to sleep with anyone else. I just cut myself off from that friend group and have never spoken to them since. One good thing from that split was I found out who my real friends were and I still see them to this day.
Upstaged75 1 month ago
My best friend of 40 years and I haven't talked for over 2 years. I got tired of being the only one who was making an effort in the friendship. So I decided to see if she'd be the one to reach out. She waited over 2 years without a peep and then texted me on my 50th birthday in Jan. I never responded. Eventually I plan to write her an email letting her know that she really hurt my feelings. But I'm not going to hurry on that. She knows where I am if she has something else to say. Sad, as we've been friends since the 5th grade.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago
Best childhood friend of many years. He came out to me early on in our friendship and I went to a lot of pride events/marches with him as his mom and stepdad were completely unsupportive (this was in the mid 90s.) We did everything together. We played World of Warcraft in its ALPHA TESTING together XD I would have taken a bullet for him. Then when I was 18, I met a guy and we started dating. After a few months, I'm hanging out with my best friend, and he suddenly says, out of nowhere, "I can't believe you're dating a chínk!" (My then-bf was Chinese.) I was pretty floored and hurt. He had shown zero signs of racism in all our years of friendship. But he seemed to REALLY hate my bf. I stopped talking to him after that and we drifted apart. 24 years of controlling, abus!ve relationship later, turns out that he was right to hate my now-ex.. just not for his race XD
James016 1 month ago
When I was 18 I was dating someone but it wasn't working so we split up and it hurt badly. A couple of days after the split one of my "friends" asked me why I hadn't tried to sleep with anyone else. I just cut myself off from that friend group and have never spoken to them since. One good thing from that split was I found out who my real friends were and I still see them to this day.
Upstaged75 1 month ago
My best friend of 40 years and I haven't talked for over 2 years. I got tired of being the only one who was making an effort in the friendship. So I decided to see if she'd be the one to reach out. She waited over 2 years without a peep and then texted me on my 50th birthday in Jan. I never responded. Eventually I plan to write her an email letting her know that she really hurt my feelings. But I'm not going to hurry on that. She knows where I am if she has something else to say. Sad, as we've been friends since the 5th grade.
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