Daughter Stops Talking To Mom After She Shows No Empathy For Her Being Left Out On Family Vacation
There’s this lovely children’s book where I come from that teaches kids numbers and has one of those number pads attached on the side that, when pressed, tells a story about that corresponding digit.
If you press #1, the voice in the box tells you that there are a lot of unique things that are the only ones out there. And number one is probably the only number that boasts about being the only one—there’s just one one.
By proxy, being single isn’t necessarily a bad or sad thing. The silver lining is that there’s just one one of you and that kinda sorta makes you unique. Take solace in that. Life’s too short to be grumpy about things. And don’t do whatever happened in this story…
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Being single’s not that bad. Think of all the money you can save and there’s nobody to ruin your sleep with immature pranks or loud farting
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But some would rather take that (minus the farts) just so they would feel like they belong. Even more so when everyone else in the family is in relationships
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A woman shared her struggle with a daughter who’s the only one who’s had bad luck in relationships, and just couldn’t handle her negativity any more
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A mother of 3 recently shared online her struggle with her 27-year-old daughter who doesn’t have the best of luck when it comes to romance. She’s gotten cheated on, she’s had toxic relationships, heck, even now the mom claims her partner is crummy.
This comes within the context of everyone else in the family, nephews and nieces included, having successful relationships and marriages and kids and everyone is happy. So, there’s this why me? sort of nuance unravelling here. This, in turn, manifests in the form of never-ending complaints that always somehow tie in with the fact that she’s single or unhappy with her romantic life.
And the family vacation was no different. While she does have a boyfriend and was allowed to take him with her, she didn’t. That ended in her being the only single person in the bunch. And for a vacation where there were a lot of things to do in pairs, she always felt like the third wheel, if not just one wheel. A monocycle? You get the point.
This inevitably led to a lot of complaining on her part. Complaining about how everyone is lovey-dovey and their affection is just out there and stuff. This irked her mother, OP, something fierce one day. It always happens during various social gatherings like this, but today it caught up to her and so she had to put an end to this.
The mom confronted the daughter and said that “just because her life isn’t going well doesn’t mean others will stop living theirs.” That was the end of that conversation. And the end of them talking, period. This continued for a week. OP became worried she might lose her daughter over this, but at the same time, was the daughter justified in her reaction or was she out of line?
During a family vacation, the mother told the daughter to essentially knock it off because the world doesn’t stop turning all because of her life isn’t going well
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This was the question that the AITA community now had to answer. And it wasn’t an easy question to tackle as verdicts were all over the place. Those who ruled OP’s not the jerk claimed that the daughter chose to go on vacation and chose against having fun regardless of the situation—she’s old enough to decide how she wants to vacation, right? If anything, what OP said was not cruel, but simply true—the fact that she’s single doesn’t mean the world now has to prance around to her tune. It’s just the way it goes.
However, there were folks who saw it as cruel. When a person is surrounded by everyone in a relationship, it can be hard for them to empathize with being single and hence she might not feel the emotional support and care from others in the same way another single person could in how they relate to the situation. OP herself said that her daughter’s life isn’t going well—maybe it was time to be a parent and be there for her?
And there were those who found middle ground and said that everyone sucks, plain and simple. The vacation could have been more accommodating for her. The daughter could’ve maybe not complained as much because being single isn’t the end of the world. There’s more gray here than meets the eye.
Soon enough the post was slapped with an Everyone Sucks Here flare. Nevertheless, it got 13,500 upvotes (90% upvoted) in a day, so that’s nice. You can check out the post here.
The two fell out of touch for a week and the mother started getting worried she might not see her daughter again
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To better understand the psychological intricacies of the situation, Bored Panda got in touch with Kyle Benson, a couples and sex therapist as well as relationship science nerd.
“People are hard-wired to seek out social connections as this has been a survival strategy for humans, but this doesn’t exclusively translate into a need for romantic relationships,” elaborates Benson. “Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and later extended by researchers, highlights that humans have an inherent need for attachment and connection.”
“However, these attachments can manifest in various forms, including friendships, family bonds, and romantic partnerships. While romantic relationships can be a significant aspect of one’s life, they are not the sole indicator of well-being or fulfillment. Some individuals may prioritize other forms of social connections or may find contentment in being single and the benefits that may offer.”
Well, that explains how the need for social connections work, but, we’re talking about people, remember? The story alone is testament that nothing is as clear-cut when it comes to humans, and it’s evident from the daughter’s sensitivity to seeing other couples and complaining. Benson elaborated that feeling triggered by other couples and experiencing loneliness can be indicate of more than just a desire for a romantic relationship. And these emotions can stem from a slew of psychological nuances.
“It’s essential to consider factors such as view of self, past relationship experiences and possible emotional injuries, social comparison tendencies, and personal values,” added Benson. “Loneliness can result from a lack of meaningful connections in various areas of life, not exclusively romantic ones. Addressing these feelings may involve exploring one’s overall social and emotional well-being, seeking support, and exploring unmet needs for the individual.”
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While you’re here, wanna hear some single people stats? Here we go. Pew Research Center came out with some numeric knowledge stating that nearly 70% of Americans are partnered in one way or another—through marriage, common household or just dating, while the remaining 30% are single. But the singles are also split into two equal camps of those who are looking for a relationship, and those who are happy without it (maybe sometimes casually dating, but no more than that).
Looking at the demographics, the biggest group of singles by age is the 18-to-29-year-olds. Women in that group constitute 41%, whereas for guys it’s 51%. Most of them are in high school or college with 34% and 32% respectively. And 29% of them identify as straight, while 47%—as gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
So, why are folks single? The #1 reason among those under 50 is that they have other, higher priorities in life, like career or personal goals, while those over 50 indicate that they just like being single as their #1 reason. Other reasons include being too busy, having given up because of no luck in the past, not being ready to get back into it after losing a spouse, or health problems, which would make relationships difficult.
And, hey, being single ain’t all bad. Besides not having your mind cluttered with extra relationship worries, you can be free(r) to tackle life however you want and keep it flexible, which allows you to get in touch with yourself and figure out what you want in life. This is besides all the financial and self-confidence perks that come along with being single and unburdened with extra worry.
Incidentally, Kyle Benson also provides a couple of helpful ways to embrace and make singlehood work out: “Embracing singlehood can be a fulfilling choice for many individuals. One key tactic is to focus on self-discovery and personal growth. Encouraging self-reflection, setting meaningful goals, and nurturing one’s passions and interests can help individuals build a strong sense of self-worth and independence.”
He continues: “Additionally, fostering a supportive social network of friends and family can provide emotional stability and reduce feelings of loneliness. It’s also important to challenge societal stereotypes and expectations regarding relationships and singlehood, allowing individuals to make choices that align with their values and preferences, not necessarily follow the socially designed relationship escalator.”
Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research-based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgemental style and his capacity for seeing the root problem. You can download the Intimacy 5 Challenge to learn where you and your partner can improve your emotional connection and build lasting intimacy and you can also connect with Kyle on Twitter and Facebook. For more tools, be sure to visit his website at Kylebenson.net.
After presenting her case to the community, r/AITA had mixed feelings about this
Ah yes, a critical mother with obvious disdain for her female child that calls her own child a third wheel on a family vacation, provides no guidance or support when confided in. I cant imagine why the girl has relationship issues. Where is scooby doo when you need him
I don't see the disdain. She said her daughter felt like a third wheel. I've felt the same previously at times, but that's just going to happen when other relatives are all part of a couple. She let it overshadow the good experiences. That's her own fault. Therapy would be very helpful.
Load More Replies...I imagine the couples had rooms they shared with each other whilst the single daughter had her own room, alone. By default, she was going to be flying solo at least when it came to the privacy of the bedroom/hotel room. This was her choice for not bringing her bf or *friend*, which she had the option to do. “We two are one” is what couples will often be at any moment in any situation. Even in a crowded room at a gala event. It’s the nature of being in a relationship. So, by default she would have been flying solo even in the same room as the others. If being alone “occasionally” was so traumatic for her, she has bigger problems than just not bringing her partner or friend on the trip. The need for attention 24/7 kind of gives me the creeps. Even as half of a couple, the opportunity to occasionally do things on my own whilst on vacation is a gift. To see it as a de facto punishment is very foreign to me.
If you lived your entire life alone (no idea how much actual time she spends with bf) and you spent the money to go on a family vacation, to spend time with said family, and then spent the majority of that time by yourself anyway, imagine how much that would suck.
Load More Replies...If you can’t have a moan yo your mum when you’re feeling a bit s****y who can you moan to? I may have pointed out to my daughter a similar but much kinder version of what this mum said, but if people were splitting up to do things I would’ve made sure to plan something just me and my daughter to have some time together and my husband would happily toddle back to the hotel for a nap (the man loves a nap). I barely know my own daughters boyfriend and they live together now, he doesn’t seem interested in getting to know us or joining in but i try not to hold that against him as there could be many reasons he does so, and I’m very aware that I hear the crappy side of their relationship more than the good because my daughter will vent to me when she’s having a fight with him or whatever, I’m do the same when my husband is pissing me off to my mum but she obviously knows he’s not really a complete jackass like I’m moaning about.
This is what I'm thinking, too. I wish I had that kind of relationship with my mom, but she's the kind of person you vent to and she takes it upon herself to try to "fix" everything for me or she won't want me to bother her with my "complaining", or she'll find a reason to blame me for my problems and list everything she doesn't like about me. It doesn't feel safe confiding in her at all. Just the fact that this mom went to Reddit to b***h and complain about her daughter says a lot.
Load More Replies...Makes me wonder if she really did have the option to bring her boyfriend... sounds like mom thinks they are toxic and doesnt let him around. She was extremely vague answering this question almost yes or no. Why would you choose not to bring your boyfriend and then complain? Doesn't make sense. All of the other couples were married so I'm guessing this would be the reason mom might say hers wasn't allowed. I just think she is leaving a LOT out. Also I can't imagine my parents splitting off into "couple" activities and excluding me alone on vacation. Hopefully she did at least have her own room... that would be the only perk to me on this vacation it sounds like...if she had to share a room with a couple *shudders*
I have a losely similar situation. My in-laws always speak a language among themselves that causes my total exclusion from conversation. This is instead of speaking my second language and their second native language when I'm with them. I no longer have any interest in spending time with them as a group, but I still respect their right to speak the home language they have always spoken to each other. Sometimes a situation sucks for you, but that doesn't obligate other people to change their own behaviour, even if it would be the nice thing to do.
It sounds to me- keeping in mind my opinion is worth about 2 cents on the open market- that you were both somewhat correct. Your daughters feelings aren't wrong. I don't think they are aimed at the proper thing, but she's cleary feeling frustrated and lonely, and it sounds to me like she's stuck in a bad relationship because she's afraid of being alone. Her own fault? Yes, but a valid fear that a /lot/ of people let make them miserable, so an understandable one. I don't think the way she expressed it was appropriate: She projected on the happiness around her. But she's telling you, as best she can, about a deep frustration and loneliness that needs to be taken seriously. She would probably do well with therapy...she sounds miserable. Her response is a cry for help: She can't find happiness in what should be a happy event. She needs the strength to leave her boyfriend and to find a way to be happy by herself, or she'll never find true happiness with someone else. One single to another.
I absolutely hate a family vacation where we are all expected to be together at all times, so I understand why people might break off into their partners for parts of it. Maybe daughter needs to be more involved with planning. Is there something a few people would like to do during unplanned Nights? What could she do on her own? No one should stop for her, but maybe a little foreknowledge would help her plan for herself?
I think daughter is sad because boyfriend refuses to attend. That is probably is the issue.
I have a sneaking suspicion he’s married, or otherwise affiliated.
Load More Replies...The common denominator in all of her problems is her. She invites them, creates them, or perpetuates them.
She needs to love herself first an be comfortable alone. So many things she could have done and enjoyed without being a third wheel. I've been there. The bf who the family nicknamed the ghost because he came once to a family thing then stopped so I would go alone. I didn't mind. The going out with my friend an her bf an sitting in another room while they snuggled. Trying to pretend I didn't know what was going on. But I realized in those events I could go off an read or explore or enjoy my family as u wanted without someone complaining next to me or starting a fight. She will be ok once she's out of that relationship she's in an sees herself as her own best friend. When you stop looking is when you find what you need.
Why pay to go on a family vacation to see them maybe an hour a day?
Load More Replies...I get a sense there's more underlying issues with the relationship between this mom and daughter than the mom is revealing. This is obviously not a one time thing, as she's stated, and due to her daughter constantly getting into bad relationships, seems there's been some turmoil there for a long time. Like, the daughter doesn't know, doesn't feel worthy nor knows how to find healthy relationships. I also get a sense the mom compares her kids, likely the 27 yr old to her siblings a lot. This isn't about some vacation. It's a much deeper issue.
She had the option to bring her boyfriend and she didn’t. The mom is also condescending and judgy. I wouldn’t want to vacation with her at all.
It's a family vacation, not couple-date night, daughter's complain is pretty valid. However it's also true that people won't stop living their life for her.
I agree with what many were saying. In a large family group, there are always singles and couples. if she truly felt like a 3rd wheel, it could have been her sensitivities and not the truth. Mom may not have phrased things the best and might have been a bit blunt, but the daughter needs to suck it up and look at the reality of it all. She needs a dose of self love and quit blaming everyone else for her life.
How is this for a novel idea - if you feel like a 3rd wheel (and had the opportunity to take someone and didn't) then don't set yourself up by going. Climbing that tree of woe and falling out of it is your fault, not the Moms. As far as being afraid of losing the daughter because of this, don't beat yourself up HER behavior.
I'm the lone single (or at least, non-married and I don't bring partners 'home') in a large family of couples. I don't expect couples to stop being couples, but I would have left that NOT-a-family trip after the first day or so. Maybe she was a brat about it, but her family sucked for singling her out. I'm guessing they weren't too subtle about it either, and I'm also wondering if they expected her to babysit any kids so they could have couple time. I don't think it was maliciously meant, but ESH.
I mean great and all but whhhyyyy does everyone seem to spell it "payed" recently? it's never been spelled that way and it gets really grating to read it constantly. I realize people have different skill levels with the language but this misspelling is so common anymore it really grinds my gears 😂
I don’t understand. If you(her parents)were there, how could she feel like a third wheel? What kind of parents are you not to include your daughter? What kind of family doesn’t include everyone in a vacation? She may be correct in cutting ties with you.
I wonder if the daughter actually does have a BF. Sounds like the reason she's (according to Mom!) a "third wheel" is that Daughter claims that BF "didn't want to come" on family gatherings. My guess is that OP's pressuring Daughter to get married, and would happily do it in front of BF if he came along. So, either Daughter *does* have a BF, and he doesn't have enough of a spine to come along on trips and support her when OP starts pestering Daughter about marriage, or Daughter's either recently been dumped or never had a BF at all, and only claimed she did in a futile effort to get OP to stop meddling. If Daughter's genuinely unhappy being single, but equally unhappy about OP rubbing her face in it, OP shouldn't try to force Daughter to come on the trips. Let Daughter live her own, solitary life the way she wants to.
YTA - A family vacation where everyone splits into couples is weird by itself. A mother that is annoyed and fed up with listening to her daughter - wrong. You do realize that you just pushed her further into the arms of what you suspect is a “toxic relationship”. If you are right about the boyfriend, you just slammed a door in her face by telling her you don’t care about her feelings. Did you guys tell her that even though it’s a family vacation, everyone is going to do couples time? Maybe she didn’t bring a +1 because she didn’t think they would fit in. I wouldn’t be talking to you either
Glad u read thru all these replies and decided to reach out to ur daughter to talk. Remember too that LISTENING is a more important skill right now than u talking. And after u listen, take it all in and try to understand, then empathize - rephrase her feelings back to her. And then if she wants ur two cents she'll ask for it.
She sounds like a buzzkill. She'll need an ear to groan to eventually and all will be fine.
I find it hard to believe the people saying ESH or YTA. She had the option to bring her boyfriend (or just a friend) and chose not to. When the people split up to do stuff as couples (as you'd expect at least occasionally) she had the option to be with them but felt like a 3rd wheel. It's not like they said "SHAME! You must stay in your room alone!" There should be no blame on the family. You shouldn't be expected to cater to *one* person the whole time. Especially when they had the opportunity to bring someone else and didn't.
Ah yes, a critical mother with obvious disdain for her female child that calls her own child a third wheel on a family vacation, provides no guidance or support when confided in. I cant imagine why the girl has relationship issues. Where is scooby doo when you need him
I don't see the disdain. She said her daughter felt like a third wheel. I've felt the same previously at times, but that's just going to happen when other relatives are all part of a couple. She let it overshadow the good experiences. That's her own fault. Therapy would be very helpful.
Load More Replies...I imagine the couples had rooms they shared with each other whilst the single daughter had her own room, alone. By default, she was going to be flying solo at least when it came to the privacy of the bedroom/hotel room. This was her choice for not bringing her bf or *friend*, which she had the option to do. “We two are one” is what couples will often be at any moment in any situation. Even in a crowded room at a gala event. It’s the nature of being in a relationship. So, by default she would have been flying solo even in the same room as the others. If being alone “occasionally” was so traumatic for her, she has bigger problems than just not bringing her partner or friend on the trip. The need for attention 24/7 kind of gives me the creeps. Even as half of a couple, the opportunity to occasionally do things on my own whilst on vacation is a gift. To see it as a de facto punishment is very foreign to me.
If you lived your entire life alone (no idea how much actual time she spends with bf) and you spent the money to go on a family vacation, to spend time with said family, and then spent the majority of that time by yourself anyway, imagine how much that would suck.
Load More Replies...If you can’t have a moan yo your mum when you’re feeling a bit s****y who can you moan to? I may have pointed out to my daughter a similar but much kinder version of what this mum said, but if people were splitting up to do things I would’ve made sure to plan something just me and my daughter to have some time together and my husband would happily toddle back to the hotel for a nap (the man loves a nap). I barely know my own daughters boyfriend and they live together now, he doesn’t seem interested in getting to know us or joining in but i try not to hold that against him as there could be many reasons he does so, and I’m very aware that I hear the crappy side of their relationship more than the good because my daughter will vent to me when she’s having a fight with him or whatever, I’m do the same when my husband is pissing me off to my mum but she obviously knows he’s not really a complete jackass like I’m moaning about.
This is what I'm thinking, too. I wish I had that kind of relationship with my mom, but she's the kind of person you vent to and she takes it upon herself to try to "fix" everything for me or she won't want me to bother her with my "complaining", or she'll find a reason to blame me for my problems and list everything she doesn't like about me. It doesn't feel safe confiding in her at all. Just the fact that this mom went to Reddit to b***h and complain about her daughter says a lot.
Load More Replies...Makes me wonder if she really did have the option to bring her boyfriend... sounds like mom thinks they are toxic and doesnt let him around. She was extremely vague answering this question almost yes or no. Why would you choose not to bring your boyfriend and then complain? Doesn't make sense. All of the other couples were married so I'm guessing this would be the reason mom might say hers wasn't allowed. I just think she is leaving a LOT out. Also I can't imagine my parents splitting off into "couple" activities and excluding me alone on vacation. Hopefully she did at least have her own room... that would be the only perk to me on this vacation it sounds like...if she had to share a room with a couple *shudders*
I have a losely similar situation. My in-laws always speak a language among themselves that causes my total exclusion from conversation. This is instead of speaking my second language and their second native language when I'm with them. I no longer have any interest in spending time with them as a group, but I still respect their right to speak the home language they have always spoken to each other. Sometimes a situation sucks for you, but that doesn't obligate other people to change their own behaviour, even if it would be the nice thing to do.
It sounds to me- keeping in mind my opinion is worth about 2 cents on the open market- that you were both somewhat correct. Your daughters feelings aren't wrong. I don't think they are aimed at the proper thing, but she's cleary feeling frustrated and lonely, and it sounds to me like she's stuck in a bad relationship because she's afraid of being alone. Her own fault? Yes, but a valid fear that a /lot/ of people let make them miserable, so an understandable one. I don't think the way she expressed it was appropriate: She projected on the happiness around her. But she's telling you, as best she can, about a deep frustration and loneliness that needs to be taken seriously. She would probably do well with therapy...she sounds miserable. Her response is a cry for help: She can't find happiness in what should be a happy event. She needs the strength to leave her boyfriend and to find a way to be happy by herself, or she'll never find true happiness with someone else. One single to another.
I absolutely hate a family vacation where we are all expected to be together at all times, so I understand why people might break off into their partners for parts of it. Maybe daughter needs to be more involved with planning. Is there something a few people would like to do during unplanned Nights? What could she do on her own? No one should stop for her, but maybe a little foreknowledge would help her plan for herself?
I think daughter is sad because boyfriend refuses to attend. That is probably is the issue.
I have a sneaking suspicion he’s married, or otherwise affiliated.
Load More Replies...The common denominator in all of her problems is her. She invites them, creates them, or perpetuates them.
She needs to love herself first an be comfortable alone. So many things she could have done and enjoyed without being a third wheel. I've been there. The bf who the family nicknamed the ghost because he came once to a family thing then stopped so I would go alone. I didn't mind. The going out with my friend an her bf an sitting in another room while they snuggled. Trying to pretend I didn't know what was going on. But I realized in those events I could go off an read or explore or enjoy my family as u wanted without someone complaining next to me or starting a fight. She will be ok once she's out of that relationship she's in an sees herself as her own best friend. When you stop looking is when you find what you need.
Why pay to go on a family vacation to see them maybe an hour a day?
Load More Replies...I get a sense there's more underlying issues with the relationship between this mom and daughter than the mom is revealing. This is obviously not a one time thing, as she's stated, and due to her daughter constantly getting into bad relationships, seems there's been some turmoil there for a long time. Like, the daughter doesn't know, doesn't feel worthy nor knows how to find healthy relationships. I also get a sense the mom compares her kids, likely the 27 yr old to her siblings a lot. This isn't about some vacation. It's a much deeper issue.
She had the option to bring her boyfriend and she didn’t. The mom is also condescending and judgy. I wouldn’t want to vacation with her at all.
It's a family vacation, not couple-date night, daughter's complain is pretty valid. However it's also true that people won't stop living their life for her.
I agree with what many were saying. In a large family group, there are always singles and couples. if she truly felt like a 3rd wheel, it could have been her sensitivities and not the truth. Mom may not have phrased things the best and might have been a bit blunt, but the daughter needs to suck it up and look at the reality of it all. She needs a dose of self love and quit blaming everyone else for her life.
How is this for a novel idea - if you feel like a 3rd wheel (and had the opportunity to take someone and didn't) then don't set yourself up by going. Climbing that tree of woe and falling out of it is your fault, not the Moms. As far as being afraid of losing the daughter because of this, don't beat yourself up HER behavior.
I'm the lone single (or at least, non-married and I don't bring partners 'home') in a large family of couples. I don't expect couples to stop being couples, but I would have left that NOT-a-family trip after the first day or so. Maybe she was a brat about it, but her family sucked for singling her out. I'm guessing they weren't too subtle about it either, and I'm also wondering if they expected her to babysit any kids so they could have couple time. I don't think it was maliciously meant, but ESH.
I mean great and all but whhhyyyy does everyone seem to spell it "payed" recently? it's never been spelled that way and it gets really grating to read it constantly. I realize people have different skill levels with the language but this misspelling is so common anymore it really grinds my gears 😂
I don’t understand. If you(her parents)were there, how could she feel like a third wheel? What kind of parents are you not to include your daughter? What kind of family doesn’t include everyone in a vacation? She may be correct in cutting ties with you.
I wonder if the daughter actually does have a BF. Sounds like the reason she's (according to Mom!) a "third wheel" is that Daughter claims that BF "didn't want to come" on family gatherings. My guess is that OP's pressuring Daughter to get married, and would happily do it in front of BF if he came along. So, either Daughter *does* have a BF, and he doesn't have enough of a spine to come along on trips and support her when OP starts pestering Daughter about marriage, or Daughter's either recently been dumped or never had a BF at all, and only claimed she did in a futile effort to get OP to stop meddling. If Daughter's genuinely unhappy being single, but equally unhappy about OP rubbing her face in it, OP shouldn't try to force Daughter to come on the trips. Let Daughter live her own, solitary life the way she wants to.
YTA - A family vacation where everyone splits into couples is weird by itself. A mother that is annoyed and fed up with listening to her daughter - wrong. You do realize that you just pushed her further into the arms of what you suspect is a “toxic relationship”. If you are right about the boyfriend, you just slammed a door in her face by telling her you don’t care about her feelings. Did you guys tell her that even though it’s a family vacation, everyone is going to do couples time? Maybe she didn’t bring a +1 because she didn’t think they would fit in. I wouldn’t be talking to you either
Glad u read thru all these replies and decided to reach out to ur daughter to talk. Remember too that LISTENING is a more important skill right now than u talking. And after u listen, take it all in and try to understand, then empathize - rephrase her feelings back to her. And then if she wants ur two cents she'll ask for it.
She sounds like a buzzkill. She'll need an ear to groan to eventually and all will be fine.
I find it hard to believe the people saying ESH or YTA. She had the option to bring her boyfriend (or just a friend) and chose not to. When the people split up to do stuff as couples (as you'd expect at least occasionally) she had the option to be with them but felt like a 3rd wheel. It's not like they said "SHAME! You must stay in your room alone!" There should be no blame on the family. You shouldn't be expected to cater to *one* person the whole time. Especially when they had the opportunity to bring someone else and didn't.
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