Guy Becomes Estranged From Son After Finding Out He’s An Affair Kid, Family Drama Ensues
Unfortunately, betrayal accompanies many spouses in their marriage, and very often it actually draws a line under married life, marking the end of the old story. Well, in any case, this is not an easy test for both spouses – regardless of who cheated on whom – but who has it the hardest here is the children.
For example, in the story that we’re going to tell you today, there was also a divorce of spouses due to infidelity – however, later the author of the post, the user u/Worried_papa_1762, didn’t behave decently towards one of his sons. More precisely, not biologically his son… However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The author of the post and his wife had been married for many years and had 3 children
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However, 3 years ago, the man found out his wife cheated on him and the youngest son wasn’t his biologically
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The man filed for divorce and moved to another town – but he kept paying child support and called his kids daily, with the exception of the youngest son
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When the guy returned to town, already with his new wife, the son wasn’t happy to visit their house
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So the man even threatened to cut off the teen’s college fund because of ‘his behavior towards him’ – and got called out literally by everyone around him
So, the Original Poster (OP) is 38 years old, he and his wife have three teen children, two sons and a daughter, and about three years ago, the man caught his wife cheating. Moreover, as it turned out, the youngest son wasn’t born from him. It all quite predictably ended in divorce, and the OP even left town because, as he himself states, ‘he needed time to heal.’
Well, over the past three years, the man has improved his personal life – he found another woman and subsequently married her. All these years, he regularly paid child support for all three kids and called them every day – but he never spoke to his youngest son, Alexander, feeling some kind of moral barrier.
It got to the point that during one of the conversations, the teen even burst into tears, accusing the OP of treating him less importantly. The author hastened to assure the boy that his feelings for him hadn’t changed – but the facts spoke for themselves. Moreover, when the OP and his fiancee returned to their hometown, Alexander was the only one of the children who didn’t come to their wedding.
The OP suspected that the boy wanted to mend fences with his biological father, but it turned out that this wasn’t the case – although they met several times, Alexander firmly rejected the guy’s attempts to continue communication, stating that he already had a father, there’s no need for another one. However, when the OP had a new daughter and the kids began to regularly spend time at his house, Alexander still didn’t show up.
It all ended with the fact that during one of their conversations, the man even threatened to cut off the teen’s college fund – simply because he allegedly disrespected him. Alexander lost it completely and told the OP to go to hell, and moreover, even the OP’s own mom said that he acted dishonestly. But the man didn’t think that he had done anything wrong – and decided to seek support online.
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Yes, children really suffer perhaps the most from parents’ affairs – and in fact, the older the child is at the time the infidelity is discovered, the worse it is. “In order to grow up well, adolescents desperately need their parents to be role models – particularly when it comes to demonstrating the values of integrity, honesty and sensitivity towards loved ones,” Kate Figes, Daily Mail relationships expert, writes in her dedicated article.
“They need a stable family from which they can gradually start to pull away in order to forge their own separate lives. The discovery of an affair explodes all that.” The situation with Alexander turned out to be even more complex, as his world suddenly collapsed from his mother’s betrayal, a break with the man whom he considered his dad all his life, and obvious preferential treatment of his brother and sister. Apparently the original poster didn’t think about this at all.
And if the man expected to receive support from netizens by telling his story, then he seriously miscalculated. ‘Criticism’ is perhaps the mildest definition for the words of many commenters addressed to him. “You abandoned your son who no doubt took this news as hard or harder than you did. You turned your back on him,” one of the commenters wrote angrily.
“Now you want him to dance like a trained monkey playing to your whims so he can have a future. A very selfish [jerk]. Your poor poor son,” the commenter concluded. “You neglected him for 2 years. You don’t take out your problems, whatever they are, on your child, Yes he is your child,” another person added reasonably.
“Why are you punishing him for your ex-wife’s actions? He clearly cares about you if he still considers you his father. Why push him away further with an ultimatum? Be the adult,” another person in the comments urged the author. So what would you, our dear readers, do in this situation? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below this post.
People in the comments slammed the man heavily as well, demanding that he behave like an adult and not worsen the situation even more
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I agree. You never abandon your kids. Whatever the reason! In my country it's even punishable by law. If you have a kid, even if you don't see them, even if you never met them, they are entitled to financial support! You don't "cut funds" na..nope ...not happening ñ
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What a despicable pig. His poor child... actually, I shouldn't say his child. In no way is Alexander his child after he abandoned him. Parents aren't parents anymore when they leave behind their children for no good reason. But that's just my opinion...
So for two years this clown punishes the kid for his wife’s crimes and is shocked, SHOCKED, that the kids doesn’t come running back to him with open arms. What a tool.
OP raised a kid for 13 years and suddenly loves him less due to DNA? Thank gods they divorcedd, he is a POS no question.
Had 4 friends go through similar. When dudes abandon their families they typically do the bare minimum, but if the new wife is "family oriented" (usually just wanting to look like a good person to outsiders and not for any genuine reason) or wants free child care via older siblings the threats of financials being pulled if you dont go coo and act like that baby is anything less than the best thing since Freddy Mercury. Bonus points if they do what they want because then is validated in their choices. If the teen kids DONT then they are just a monstrous brat, aren't they?
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Both you & the ex-wife are AH... hands down!! You abandoned all three of those kids so you can "heal" to be honest (no in-person visits for two years too) & she had an affair that caused all this mess. It's NOT the kids fault at all, didn't submit a request to be born into this world & deal with this s**t.
Ever read something so audacious, mean and pathetic you just laugh?
A far cry from the woman who accepted her husbands affair baby on the spot. This guy has no empathy
P***k you guy. Not only are you the AH, you are also a piece of s**t.
I am literally crying for this poor child. Through no fault of his own he has been continually rejected by the person he loves. The teenage years are hard enough. This rejection trauma will affect his whole life. I cannot believe how much of an AH you’ve been to this poor kid.
Hmm. I know I'm gonna get downvotes for this but I get it. He was upset because his son is literally the embodiment of his wifes cheating. I can't blame him for wanting distance for awhile. I think the amount of time was excessive, but it's understandable. As for the rest of it, his son is basically returning his serve. It's understandable that he's hurt and wants to inflict some pain back. If that was where it ended I'd say NAH, but the Dad jumped to a financial threat (one that's actually somewhat justified since it's not actually his kid) way too quickly. The kid is 16ish, so he has a couple years before university anyway. That's two years he could have tried to slowly rebuild the relationship. If he'd spent a couple years trying to rebuild it and his son still wanted nothing to do with him, then I'd say yeah don't pay for Uni. But to use it as a threat in an attempt to force him to interact? Yeah that's awful.
I absolutely get the feelings. I also think a decent father puts his feelings aside when an innocent kid is caught in the middle of what's making him feel those feelings. He's caused a scar on that kid that will last until the kid dies regardless of who pays for college. He deserves every ounce of disgust he's getting.
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Dude won't give his son the same courtesy that he expected a literal child to give him - time to heal.
He doesn't love his son. And given how he dropped him like a hot potato just because of DNA strands he can't see, I doubt he loves any of his children. WTF is it with genes? Why is it that so many men define an "own" child rather by what determines the shape of the nose than what shapes the kids' character? One wonders what the other two siblings think of their sperm donor, after all, now they know what he values in them: his own genes. Not their personality.
Your "son" named you as his father to the sperm Donater, You turn your back for 2 years and can't understand why he is so hurt that his siblings are loved and he is worth nothing to you? So you reject him, again, to what result? He finally accepts that you will NEVER be his dad. You are a gold-plated sorry excuse for a human being...
I can't believe all the comments dissing the father and their upvotes. What about the cheating woman? Or are we not allowed to say anything bad about a woman here?
Well...the post is about a s****y father. So, like, yeah.
Load More Replies... I agree. You never abandon your kids. Whatever the reason! In my country it's even punishable by law. If you have a kid, even if you don't see them, even if you never met them, they are entitled to financial support! You don't "cut funds" na..nope ...not happening ñ
Load More Replies... What a despicable pig. His poor child... actually, I shouldn't say his child. In no way is Alexander his child after he abandoned him. Parents aren't parents anymore when they leave behind their children for no good reason. But that's just my opinion...
So for two years this clown punishes the kid for his wife’s crimes and is shocked, SHOCKED, that the kids doesn’t come running back to him with open arms. What a tool.
OP raised a kid for 13 years and suddenly loves him less due to DNA? Thank gods they divorcedd, he is a POS no question.
Had 4 friends go through similar. When dudes abandon their families they typically do the bare minimum, but if the new wife is "family oriented" (usually just wanting to look like a good person to outsiders and not for any genuine reason) or wants free child care via older siblings the threats of financials being pulled if you dont go coo and act like that baby is anything less than the best thing since Freddy Mercury. Bonus points if they do what they want because then is validated in their choices. If the teen kids DONT then they are just a monstrous brat, aren't they?
Load More Replies... Both you & the ex-wife are AH... hands down!! You abandoned all three of those kids so you can "heal" to be honest (no in-person visits for two years too) & she had an affair that caused all this mess. It's NOT the kids fault at all, didn't submit a request to be born into this world & deal with this s**t.
Ever read something so audacious, mean and pathetic you just laugh?
A far cry from the woman who accepted her husbands affair baby on the spot. This guy has no empathy
P***k you guy. Not only are you the AH, you are also a piece of s**t.
I am literally crying for this poor child. Through no fault of his own he has been continually rejected by the person he loves. The teenage years are hard enough. This rejection trauma will affect his whole life. I cannot believe how much of an AH you’ve been to this poor kid.
Hmm. I know I'm gonna get downvotes for this but I get it. He was upset because his son is literally the embodiment of his wifes cheating. I can't blame him for wanting distance for awhile. I think the amount of time was excessive, but it's understandable. As for the rest of it, his son is basically returning his serve. It's understandable that he's hurt and wants to inflict some pain back. If that was where it ended I'd say NAH, but the Dad jumped to a financial threat (one that's actually somewhat justified since it's not actually his kid) way too quickly. The kid is 16ish, so he has a couple years before university anyway. That's two years he could have tried to slowly rebuild the relationship. If he'd spent a couple years trying to rebuild it and his son still wanted nothing to do with him, then I'd say yeah don't pay for Uni. But to use it as a threat in an attempt to force him to interact? Yeah that's awful.
I absolutely get the feelings. I also think a decent father puts his feelings aside when an innocent kid is caught in the middle of what's making him feel those feelings. He's caused a scar on that kid that will last until the kid dies regardless of who pays for college. He deserves every ounce of disgust he's getting.
Load More Replies... Dude won't give his son the same courtesy that he expected a literal child to give him - time to heal.
He doesn't love his son. And given how he dropped him like a hot potato just because of DNA strands he can't see, I doubt he loves any of his children. WTF is it with genes? Why is it that so many men define an "own" child rather by what determines the shape of the nose than what shapes the kids' character? One wonders what the other two siblings think of their sperm donor, after all, now they know what he values in them: his own genes. Not their personality.
Your "son" named you as his father to the sperm Donater, You turn your back for 2 years and can't understand why he is so hurt that his siblings are loved and he is worth nothing to you? So you reject him, again, to what result? He finally accepts that you will NEVER be his dad. You are a gold-plated sorry excuse for a human being...
I can't believe all the comments dissing the father and their upvotes. What about the cheating woman? Or are we not allowed to say anything bad about a woman here?
Well...the post is about a s****y father. So, like, yeah.
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