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Sexist Customer Demands Female Employee Get “One Of The Boys”, They Maliciously Comply
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Sexist Customer Demands Female Employee Get “One Of The Boys”, They Maliciously Comply

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While our society is becoming more inclusive in many different ways, being a woman in a male-dominated field is still no walk in the park. Take the automotive industry, for example, a typically male-driven domain. Time and again, women are still forced to combat harmful stereotypes, deal with sexist comments in the workplace, and second-guess their knowledge daily. It’s overwhelming. It’s exhausting. And it definitely takes a toll on their confidence.

The challenge becomes even greater when the existing prejudices from male (and female!) customers lead to perceiving women workers as technically incompetent. Something that stands at the center of a recent story shared on the ‘Malicious Compliance’ subreddit. As Redditor WoolliesMudcake detailed in his post, it all started when a customer asked his female coworker to “get one of the boys” to help him.

“She tried explaining to him that she is more than competent to help him but he insisted that a man needs to help him,” the user wrote. But instead of politely yielding to his unreasonable request, the employee decided to have some fun. Read on to find out how the story escalated, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below.

After this woman encountered a customer who refused to let her help with his automotive issue, she turned to her male coworkers for help

Image credits: Andrea Piacquadio (not the actual photo)

But instead of agreeing to his request, they dealt with the client in the best possible way


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Image credits: WoolliesMudcake

Image credits: Oxana Melis (not the actual photo)

It’s 2022, and somehow sexism is still a thing. From the deluge of comments this ‘Malicious Compliance’ story has received, one thing is clear — dealing with misogynistic customers, clients, and even coworkers is far more common than you’d think. In fact, Pew Research Center found that about four-in-ten working women (42%) in the United States — twice as likely as men — said they have faced discrimination on the job because of their gender.

While one of the biggest gender gaps regards income, the respondents also mentioned a range of personal experiences of encountering stubborn biases that affect their lives and careers. Women are roughly four times as likely as men to report being treated as incompetent. Moreover, 15% said they receive less support from senior leaders, and one in ten has been passed over for the most paramount assignments. Just because of their gender.

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From mansplaining to overtly misogynistic comments, women still face workplace challenges that men simply don’t need to chew over. Of course, these issues are especially magnified in male-dominated industries. But when it comes to some of the most frustrating aspects women face every day, few things are as annoying as women being taken less seriously than their male counterparts.

Mary Ann Sieghart, the author of The Authority Gap, told Forbes that society teaches us from a young age about the gender norms that create roles and expectations of how men and women should behave.

“The authority gap is a measure of how much more seriously we take men than we take women,” she explained. “We tend to assume that a man knows what he’s talking about until he proves otherwise. Whereas for women it’s all too often the other way round, and as a result, women tend to be underestimated more. They tend to be interrupted, more talked over. They have to prove their competence more and we often feel uncomfortable when they’re in positions of authority.”

Unfortunately, when women display stereotypically masculine traits to be taken more seriously, it tends to backfire. Researchers from George Washington University and the University of Pennsylvania found that analytically-talented, single professional women face barriers even early in their careers. The reason behind this is that they are often stereotyped as lacking leadership abilities and are often seen as too “masculine” for leadership — the same traits that benefit single men.

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“Women are in this real double bind. If they’re not confident enough, they’re not going to be respected. They’re not going to be taken seriously, but if they are confident enough, they’re often going to be disliked and it’s terribly hard for women to navigate this very narrow path between the two,” Sieghart said.

Bored Panda would love to hear your opinion on this matter down below. What do you think of the staff’s response to the rude customer? Have you ever experienced a similar situation yourself? Feel free to share your thoughts with us in the comments!

After reading the story, the readers applauded the staff and chimed in with similar experiences



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elijahsmorningwood avatar
Elijah Morningwood
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You want one of the boys? Okay. *Goes to back room* *puts on obviously fake mustache* *comes back out* *deep voice* Can I help you?

emilymrangel avatar
over it already
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm. Worked at Ace Hardware & one of my favorite customer interactions was an older (75ish?) gentleman who was the customer just after the dumb, sexist one. He just stepped up, smiled, and said "don't worry too much about it. The dinosaurs made a lot of noise, but they're all dead now."

electricmustang2 avatar
RaggedCowboy
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Working in the auto parts industry, I can verify this happens all the time and it just drives us men absolute bonkers! Our women are just as, if not more than capable of helping you with what you need. ANY man or woman that demands to "speak to one of the guys" has just loudly announced to the world "I'm a sexist dumbass"!! And we have NO problem treating you accordingly with a smile while rolling our eyes at how stupid you are! One of my colleagues had enough one fine day. Phone rings. She answers. Idiot guy demands to speak to a man. She pops off *VERY* loudly and quite sarcastically, "well I used to be one. Does that help??" I about broke my neck whipping my head around in total shock like: you did not just say that!! Then literally fell in the floor laughing hysterically!! All the girls used that line from then on.

maxwatson1991 avatar
Max
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing funnier would be if someone had brought their child-age son to work. "Yes, I got you one of the boys, he's our specialist in tonka and hot wheels."

laurencaswell4 avatar
Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I (f35) had video evidence the city council had damaged my car, and they promised to get the repairs done. No action, so I ended up chasing them up several times as the car need a mandatory WoF (Warrant of fitness, safety standards) to be on the road, so the repairs needed done. Kept getting fobbed off, until the last guy I spoke to flatly refused to deal with it. No acknowledgement of my evidence, just telling me 'We aren't doing repairs". Sadly I had to ring my dad, explain the situation. I forwarded him the emails and video of damage. Dad called me back within 15 min to let me know my car is going to the mechanic that day, at the council's expense. Not an age thing either, my mother has had to get dad to step in several times over the years dealing with companies in what should be simple matters. TLDR: City denies car repairs despite evidence against them, until a brief 5 minute chat with a man. In other news, water is wet 🤦‍♀️

lordmysticlaw avatar
Lord Mysticlaw
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once I (30ish female) was in a store buying a light bulb (not exactly rocket science). An older male *customer* offered to help me because I guess apparently a light bulb is too difficult to deal with if you have boobs.

linbot1 avatar
Lily Mae Kitty
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm every single one of these. I have worked in several male dominated industries and it drove me mad. I sort of got the patriarchy back a bit when I worked at Sherwin Williams. Women have more rods and cones in their eyes so see color better than men. This made me an ace at color matching paint(this was back in the old days where it was all done by eye) and I was better than the managers at it within a couple of months. My line would always be so long compared to theirs and they'd always say, I can help you over here and the painters would say, no, I'll wait for Lily. My bosses did not appreciate it but it's biology.

kyrie24 avatar
VodkaInMySweetTea
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"So condescending when he praised me." YES! This! It is SO condescending when a man says things like "that was amazing!" "I am so impressed!" "I'm so proud of you!" for doing literally the basics of my job. Seriously, shut the f**k up. I've been doing this for 20 years. I know WAY more about it than you do. Stop talking.

summermason avatar
Summer Mason
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a butcher. I get this all the time. Like is "so and so here?" My Manger will be standing behind me. I'm 5"2 and he is 6"6. He will bark out, no but they trained her so talk to her. Always makes my day. Yeah....females can cut meat and suggest a prime cut and even trim it for you. Arseholes.

zeljkoklaric78_1 avatar
Bernd Herbert
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of the countless situations where the customer is obviously not right. He should have been given exactly two choices: Talk to the employee at hand, regardless of gender, or take his business elsewhere

billyevans35 avatar
Bill Evs
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got an example that's not the same but similar. Years ago I worked in a call centre in Wales but we dealt with customers all through the UK. A guy came through who was really aggressive to one of my staff. The staff member handled it really well but obviously this guy wasn't taking no for an answer so asked to speak to a manager. I'd been listening so I took over the call and told him the same as she had (he was 100% in the wrong). Getting frustrated he wasn't getting the answer he wanted from me either he said "look, can I speak to someone English". I politely informed him the answer would be the same but he demanded an English manager. I said "please hold on whilst I find one"....this was a call centre in Wales and I was the only manager working at that time of night so left him on hold for a few minutes then came back on attempting my best English accent (and I am rubbish at accents), told him exactly the same thing to which he just harrumphed and hung up.

bigmamabadger avatar
Penny Fan
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've actually got partially the opposite problem. Because I work in a totally male-dominated industry most men assume the fact that I'm there at all means I have far more technical knowledge than I do. My ability to b******t is to blame really... I just wing it until I can find out the answer. Some of the older dinosaurs still assume I'm just a little woman. The reality is that I'm somewhere between the two

bludragonfly63 avatar
Mika N
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love that "the boys" stood up for her and straightened the customer out a bit!

boredpanda_99 avatar
SirWriteALot
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like au-smurf's suggestion. Just turn to the colleague and ask the same question, listen to the answer, then give the answer to the customer. Can't make it any more obvious than that.

elaineelder avatar
Elaine Elder
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a customer who threatened to tell the owner how rude I was to him. I said don't worry. When he crawls in bed with me tonight I'll be sure to tell him you thought he was the boss.

amcgregor7419 avatar
Tams21
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like instead of walking out happy that he got the most competent person, he walked out annoyed that he didn't get a man. Sometimes I wonder if instead of maliciously complying, people should start simply not complying.

elijahsmorningwood avatar
Elijah Morningwood
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You want one of the boys? Okay. *Goes to back room* *puts on obviously fake mustache* *comes back out* *deep voice* Can I help you?

emilymrangel avatar
over it already
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm. Worked at Ace Hardware & one of my favorite customer interactions was an older (75ish?) gentleman who was the customer just after the dumb, sexist one. He just stepped up, smiled, and said "don't worry too much about it. The dinosaurs made a lot of noise, but they're all dead now."

electricmustang2 avatar
RaggedCowboy
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Working in the auto parts industry, I can verify this happens all the time and it just drives us men absolute bonkers! Our women are just as, if not more than capable of helping you with what you need. ANY man or woman that demands to "speak to one of the guys" has just loudly announced to the world "I'm a sexist dumbass"!! And we have NO problem treating you accordingly with a smile while rolling our eyes at how stupid you are! One of my colleagues had enough one fine day. Phone rings. She answers. Idiot guy demands to speak to a man. She pops off *VERY* loudly and quite sarcastically, "well I used to be one. Does that help??" I about broke my neck whipping my head around in total shock like: you did not just say that!! Then literally fell in the floor laughing hysterically!! All the girls used that line from then on.

maxwatson1991 avatar
Max
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only thing funnier would be if someone had brought their child-age son to work. "Yes, I got you one of the boys, he's our specialist in tonka and hot wheels."

laurencaswell4 avatar
Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I (f35) had video evidence the city council had damaged my car, and they promised to get the repairs done. No action, so I ended up chasing them up several times as the car need a mandatory WoF (Warrant of fitness, safety standards) to be on the road, so the repairs needed done. Kept getting fobbed off, until the last guy I spoke to flatly refused to deal with it. No acknowledgement of my evidence, just telling me 'We aren't doing repairs". Sadly I had to ring my dad, explain the situation. I forwarded him the emails and video of damage. Dad called me back within 15 min to let me know my car is going to the mechanic that day, at the council's expense. Not an age thing either, my mother has had to get dad to step in several times over the years dealing with companies in what should be simple matters. TLDR: City denies car repairs despite evidence against them, until a brief 5 minute chat with a man. In other news, water is wet 🤦‍♀️

lordmysticlaw avatar
Lord Mysticlaw
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once I (30ish female) was in a store buying a light bulb (not exactly rocket science). An older male *customer* offered to help me because I guess apparently a light bulb is too difficult to deal with if you have boobs.

linbot1 avatar
Lily Mae Kitty
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm every single one of these. I have worked in several male dominated industries and it drove me mad. I sort of got the patriarchy back a bit when I worked at Sherwin Williams. Women have more rods and cones in their eyes so see color better than men. This made me an ace at color matching paint(this was back in the old days where it was all done by eye) and I was better than the managers at it within a couple of months. My line would always be so long compared to theirs and they'd always say, I can help you over here and the painters would say, no, I'll wait for Lily. My bosses did not appreciate it but it's biology.

kyrie24 avatar
VodkaInMySweetTea
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"So condescending when he praised me." YES! This! It is SO condescending when a man says things like "that was amazing!" "I am so impressed!" "I'm so proud of you!" for doing literally the basics of my job. Seriously, shut the f**k up. I've been doing this for 20 years. I know WAY more about it than you do. Stop talking.

summermason avatar
Summer Mason
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a butcher. I get this all the time. Like is "so and so here?" My Manger will be standing behind me. I'm 5"2 and he is 6"6. He will bark out, no but they trained her so talk to her. Always makes my day. Yeah....females can cut meat and suggest a prime cut and even trim it for you. Arseholes.

zeljkoklaric78_1 avatar
Bernd Herbert
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of the countless situations where the customer is obviously not right. He should have been given exactly two choices: Talk to the employee at hand, regardless of gender, or take his business elsewhere

billyevans35 avatar
Bill Evs
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got an example that's not the same but similar. Years ago I worked in a call centre in Wales but we dealt with customers all through the UK. A guy came through who was really aggressive to one of my staff. The staff member handled it really well but obviously this guy wasn't taking no for an answer so asked to speak to a manager. I'd been listening so I took over the call and told him the same as she had (he was 100% in the wrong). Getting frustrated he wasn't getting the answer he wanted from me either he said "look, can I speak to someone English". I politely informed him the answer would be the same but he demanded an English manager. I said "please hold on whilst I find one"....this was a call centre in Wales and I was the only manager working at that time of night so left him on hold for a few minutes then came back on attempting my best English accent (and I am rubbish at accents), told him exactly the same thing to which he just harrumphed and hung up.

bigmamabadger avatar
Penny Fan
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've actually got partially the opposite problem. Because I work in a totally male-dominated industry most men assume the fact that I'm there at all means I have far more technical knowledge than I do. My ability to b******t is to blame really... I just wing it until I can find out the answer. Some of the older dinosaurs still assume I'm just a little woman. The reality is that I'm somewhere between the two

bludragonfly63 avatar
Mika N
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love that "the boys" stood up for her and straightened the customer out a bit!

boredpanda_99 avatar
SirWriteALot
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like au-smurf's suggestion. Just turn to the colleague and ask the same question, listen to the answer, then give the answer to the customer. Can't make it any more obvious than that.

elaineelder avatar
Elaine Elder
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a customer who threatened to tell the owner how rude I was to him. I said don't worry. When he crawls in bed with me tonight I'll be sure to tell him you thought he was the boss.

amcgregor7419 avatar
Tams21
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like instead of walking out happy that he got the most competent person, he walked out annoyed that he didn't get a man. Sometimes I wonder if instead of maliciously complying, people should start simply not complying.

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