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Man Can’t Stay With Partner Who Wants Kids But Isn’t Willing To Give Birth, She Is Appalled This Is An Issue
Pregnancy is certainly magical, but it can also be the most grueling and demanding experience of a person’s life. That’s probably why many women are choosing not to take the traditional route to motherhood, but unfortunately, not all their partners are on board.
This is what a woman experienced when she told her boyfriend that she wanted to opt for surrogacy instead of dealing with pregnancy and childbirth. This led to a major conflict that completely changed their relationship in a way the woman never saw coming.
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The woman shared that since she didn’t want to be pregnant, she suggested adoption, which her partner refused, so she mentioned splitting the cost of surrogacy equally
The poster’s partner decided to end the relationship as he couldn’t come to terms with why she wanted to get a surrogate instead of having a baby herself
The comments section was divided, with some folks mentioning the ethical concerns of surrogacy, others siding with the woman, and a few explaining her ex’s point of view
In an update, the woman thanked netizens for giving her a new perspective on surrogacy, and explained that she might opt for adoption to join a blended family
Even though the poster got a new perspective on her ex’s concerns, she realized she’d have to figure out her own definition of motherhood
Not all women are comfortable with the idea of becoming a mom, and according to research by Women’s Health, some folks are worried about the complications that could arise after they get pregnant. From blood pressure and diabetes to mental health struggles like depression and anxiety, pregnant people can face a variety of struggles.
That’s why many women approach this life-changing decision with caution and may need to discuss it several times with their partner before moving forward. Even though motherhood is incredibly rewarding, they should also weigh the toll it takes so they can make the choice that’s best for them.
Some folks have terrible anxiety around the idea of pregnancy and childbirth
According to research, when someone goes to extremes to avoid having a child because they can’t stop worrying about getting knocked up and carrying the baby to term, it is called Tokophobia. This fear is strongly associated with anything related to natural childbirth, and also sometimes with the idea of pregnant bodies.
This kind of anxiety disorder is more common than we’d imagine, with almost 14% of people worldwide experiencing such severe worry. Even though most folks cope on their own and keep it a secret, it’s important to share it with loved ones and partners so it doesn’t hamper their life.
When it comes to having a child and starting a family together, couples often need to have many talks so they know where they stand. If one person is on the fence or staunchly childfree, experts say this can lead to problems, since there aren’t many compromises available.
People also need to decide whether their relationship matters more than having a kid, and whether they are willing to give up their partner over the issue; if so, they shouldn’t prolong the decision. Either person can decide how they want to live their life, as long as they don’t force the other person to give up what they want to make it happen.
It can be difficult to give up on a relationship with someone you love simply because your view on procreation is different
When loved ones break away because their view of life doesn’t match yours, it can feel daunting to face the prospect of being single all over again. In such cases, people should take the time to understand themselves better, process their emotions, and then consciously date folks whose values match theirs.
In this story, the woman was definitely confused about why her partner felt her decision to get a surrogate was a dealbreaker. Eventually, after hearing people’s input, she decided to focus on herself and figure out a new plan for having kids, maybe involving adoption or joining a blended family.
Do you think the man’s resistance to surrogacy made sense, or was the poster right in this situation? We’d love to hear your honest thoughts on the matter.
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Luke || Kira (he/she) 1 hour ago
I think it's pretty clear why the man reacted like that: he's one of those who don't want a child. They want a fuㅤck trophy. A testament of his dominance. A successor to carry his precious bloodline. When she said that DNA and blood relationships aren't that important to her, he certainly did NOT see it like that. The Manual of Male Fragility dictates that taking care of a child that's not biologically yours makes you a beta cuck.
CP 33 minutes ago (edited)
I think you missed on this one. It is odd to be able to physically have children, want to have them, but refuse to get pregnant because you know the risks, but have no problem putting another person though the risks. I do like the conversation she is sparking, though.
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Luke || Kira (he/she) 1 hour ago
I think it's pretty clear why the man reacted like that: he's one of those who don't want a child. They want a fuㅤck trophy. A testament of his dominance. A successor to carry his precious bloodline. When she said that DNA and blood relationships aren't that important to her, he certainly did NOT see it like that. The Manual of Male Fragility dictates that taking care of a child that's not biologically yours makes you a beta cuck.
CP 33 minutes ago (edited)
I think you missed on this one. It is odd to be able to physically have children, want to have them, but refuse to get pregnant because you know the risks, but have no problem putting another person though the risks. I do like the conversation she is sparking, though.
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