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Man Is Overly Appreciative Of Woman’s Kind Gesture, She Doesn’t Get What The Big Deal Is
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Man Is Overly Appreciative Of Woman’s Kind Gesture, She Doesn’t Get What The Big Deal Is

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Sometimes, it seems like everybody in today’s world is just rushing forward. There are so many things to do and places to be that we often forget to stop and look around us.

When we do eventually take a breather, we often realize just how many little things we miss that might really make life a little happier for us and those around us. For example, this TikToker shared how when she let someone with only a few items get ahead in the line at the store, that person was left baffled, which made her question where the niceness of people went. Scroll down to read the full story!

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Some people are not so used to receiving kindness from strangers that when they do, it really shocks them

Image credits: @theblondebackpacker

“Do people not do nice things anymore?”

“Like, I was just in Costco, and I had a car full of things, and I pull up to the register. It’s pretty busy, you know, every register has lines. And there’s a line next to me that has an older man at the end of the line. He’s probably like in his 60s or 70s, probably 70s. And he just has like three things in his cart. And he was there before me. But I get up to the register, like, and he’s still waiting in line, even though he had been waiting, like, before I even got up there. And I was like, ‘Hey, like, go ahead, you only have a couple of things. Go in front of me.’ And he was like, ‘Really?'”

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Image credits: Mike Mozart (not the actual image)

Image credits: @theblondebackpacker

“I was like, ‘Yeah,’ like, it wasn’t that. Like people do that [and] allow me to do that all the time”

“And I’m always very appreciative, you know, when you only have a couple of things in the grocery store, and you’re behind people with cartfuls. And he was like, ‘Wow.’ And I was like, I mean, that doesn’t really constitute a wow. But his reaction just made me think like, ‘Do people not do these kinds of things anymore?’ Like, is that not a normal action? To me, it is, you know, especially since he had been waiting there. Before I even got up to the registers, I had seen him waiting. I was like, that’s like, it’s not a big deal. But he was so appreciative. He’s like, ‘Wow, thank you so much.’ And I don’t know, I just, I don’t know. It just made me wonder, like, are people not nice anymore?”

Check out the full TikTok video:

@theblondebackpacker Genuinly wondering if people dont do nice things anymore ??? #costco #fiancelife #internationalcouple #virgolife ♬ original sound – Caroline

The woman in this video is a TikToker going by the username theblondebackpacker, also known as Caroline. In her posts, she usually shares her traveling experiences and daily life things, and she is currently followed by nearly 38,000 people, with her videos collectively holding more than 1.4 million likes.

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One of her more popular recent posts, which garnered over 43,500 views, is the video of our story. There, Caroline shared her shock when her simple gesture of letting an older man with only a few products in his shopping basket get in front of her in the line caused him to respond with an overly surprised reaction as if no one had ever done this for him. This situation led her to question whether people had stopped being nice, and the video started a huge discussion underneath it. 

People in the comments had mixed opinions and experiences on this matter. While some people said they do this all the time, others responded by saying that everyone gets to wait in the lane the same as others. But there was a major consensus that this type of behavior is rather scarce in most places and only really survived in the smaller towns, where people know each other better than in the big cities

Image credits: sq lim (not the actual image)

But surely there are still plenty of nice people in the world, right? Well, the answer here is it depends on how you look at it. Because, as it turns out, nice does not necessarily mean kind, even if these words might often be used interchangeably.

In his article on LinkedIn, Andrew W. wrote that the definition of nice is pleasant, agreeable, or satisfactory, while kind means having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature. In other words, people who are nice are usually like that to conform to others, while being kind comes from the person themselves, regardless of the things influencing them.

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According to Andrew, niceness usually comes from dishonesty and fear. It might even be considered a form of manipulation, as people who agree or do things someone else’s way do so because they want to be on their good side or want to pull them to theirs.

On the other hand, kindness comes from our empathy and wish to help others and be good to them, not because we expect something from them but because that’s what our human instinct tells us to do. So, while niceness is purely logical, kindness is quite the opposite. 

Image credits: kevin laminto (not the actual image)

But even if we don’t look at the differences between these two terms, there were a lot of people in the comments saying that they are actually nice or kind and do things confirming their statement often. So why do people still notice the lack of these acts in our society?

As Rachel Hosie of the Independent wrote, a recent study conducted at the University of London showed that most people are not as nice as they think they are. In fact, out of all the participants, 98% said that they must be in the nicest 50% of the population.

When they were presented with the actual test and were tasked to answer which ‘nice’ behaviors they do, most participants said they do things like give directions, hold the doors open, and give up seats on public transport. However, when it came to something a little more demanding, like helping carry heavy shopping bags and move across the road, giving money to strangers, or donating blood, the numbers dropped below 33%.

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But, in the end, all of that is understandable. We all live our own lives in this fast-paced world, where it’s easy to forget about others. It is only natural to be a little selfish, as our survival instinct always makes us put ourselves first. 

However, we should also consciously try to raise the niceness or rather kindness levels around us because it creates a chain reaction and leads to a more pleasant world for everyone in it. So, if you don’t already do it, the next time you see someone with only a few products in a long shopping line, why not let them go ahead first? It may be more rewarding than you might think.

What did you think about this story? How often do you do kind things? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Some commenters agreed with the TikToker, saying they also do these things and wish more people joined them, while others argued that everyone should wait all the same

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MrsFettesVette
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The last comment from Bella "I dont let people go in front of me in line were all waiting they'll be fine" is such a rude, self-centered, and dismissive comment. Of course they'll be fine! But letting someone with one or two items ahead of you- or just being kind in general- is just a thing you do for it's own sake. You don't always be kind to someone else because THEY need kindness, you're kind to others because YOU need it.

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Jennik
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I've got a full trolley, and someone lines up behind me with just a few items, I would always offer them the chance to go ahead of me, regardless of their age. It feels like a basic courtesy, just like helping people with heavy bags, or assisting someone trying to get a stroller onto a bus or over a kerb etc.

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CP
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do the same thing and it has been done for me as well. I thought it was a normal thing.

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Sonja
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have lost the perspective on the whole. Letting people with a few items go first allows you more time and peace to unload your cart. Letting people leave the bus or a room before you enter makes more room for you. People have become more egoistical in a very strange way, where they don't realise how much their thoughtless behaviour harms themselves. They have also lost the knowledge what kindness even is. I once told another person that they were unkind, and they started to argue with me that not doing something they don't have to do isn't unkind, and that's of course nonsense. The definition of kindness is exactly doing something you're not required to do, just to ne nice. You don't have to be kind, but if you choose not to do something for someone, solely because you don't have to, then you are unkind. Especially when doing it would cost you nothing and wouldn't harm you in any way. And you are an outright AH is you choose not to help someone else although you would benefit.

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MrsFettesVette
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The last comment from Bella "I dont let people go in front of me in line were all waiting they'll be fine" is such a rude, self-centered, and dismissive comment. Of course they'll be fine! But letting someone with one or two items ahead of you- or just being kind in general- is just a thing you do for it's own sake. You don't always be kind to someone else because THEY need kindness, you're kind to others because YOU need it.

jennikeestra avatar
Jennik
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I've got a full trolley, and someone lines up behind me with just a few items, I would always offer them the chance to go ahead of me, regardless of their age. It feels like a basic courtesy, just like helping people with heavy bags, or assisting someone trying to get a stroller onto a bus or over a kerb etc.

coreypichler avatar
CP
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do the same thing and it has been done for me as well. I thought it was a normal thing.

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Sonja
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have lost the perspective on the whole. Letting people with a few items go first allows you more time and peace to unload your cart. Letting people leave the bus or a room before you enter makes more room for you. People have become more egoistical in a very strange way, where they don't realise how much their thoughtless behaviour harms themselves. They have also lost the knowledge what kindness even is. I once told another person that they were unkind, and they started to argue with me that not doing something they don't have to do isn't unkind, and that's of course nonsense. The definition of kindness is exactly doing something you're not required to do, just to ne nice. You don't have to be kind, but if you choose not to do something for someone, solely because you don't have to, then you are unkind. Especially when doing it would cost you nothing and wouldn't harm you in any way. And you are an outright AH is you choose not to help someone else although you would benefit.

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