Woman Bursts Into Laughter After Cheating Ex And His Fiancée Ask Her To Carry Their Child
Sometimes, when looking at their partner’s behavior, one might assume they have seen everything only to get proven wrong later on. This is when a person has to find the strength to “take it easy” for the sake of their own well-being – not giving more of one’s attention than necessary to a person like this and thus avoiding the mistake “of paying attention to the wrong people”, which Henry Cloud called one of the most expensive things a person can do. This seems to have been the response of this Redditor, who tried to keep it civil with her ex until he asked her to be a surrogate mother of three children for him and the woman he cheated with.
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A mom seeks full custody of her child after her ex insists she carry the babies of the woman he cheated with
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The woman’s partner disappeared to his affair partner’s house just when she was giving birth to their daughter
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The woman moved in with her parents while her ex got engaged to the woman he cheated with and now has two kids
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The couple recently asked the woman to be a surrogate for another 3 children of theirs
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The woman laughed and asked whether they were joking, which made the man’s fiancée burst into tears
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The couple’s family accused the woman of being a jerk, in addition to his fiancée calling her “heartless” on social media
A woman brought it to Reddit when she was presented with an unexpected request and was asking if it was too harsh of her to laugh in the couple’s faces. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves and go back to the beginning.
The woman started dating her ex not long after she finished high school, moved in together after college, and fell pregnant with their daughter two years after moving in together.
While they were both excited about it and she was thrilled that they were going to become a little family, it all turned out differently than she had expected, as during labor her boyfriend was nowhere to be found and after she gave birth, she was notified by a mutual friend that the man was at his affair partner’s house.
She was shocked, but fortunately, her mother was there to calm her down. The woman packed her things and moved in with her parents.
She got over the past events and has been co-parenting her daughter with her ex, who got engaged to the woman he cheated with and had two children. However, the couple found out just recently that the fiancée wouldn’t be able to conceive more children, which made them crushed.
The couple then approached the woman, meeting at a café, and after saying they were “just going to come out and say it”, they presented their request for her to be their surrogate for three more children for them, as they wanted to have “at least five”.
The woman was shocked, she laughed and asked whether it was a joke, to which they confirmed they were “dead serious”. The woman couldn’t stop laughing at the audacity to ask such a thing from her, which made the fiancée burst into tears, call her names and eventually storm off, while her ex said this is why they “didn’t work”.
The woman blocked the couple’s family and has started the process of getting full custody of her daughter
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The woman also shared online every relevant message she got since being cheated on and tagged the couple
The woman replied that they “didn’t work” because he was a cheating scumbag. However, as soon as she got home, she was bombarded by the couple and their extended family with texts calling her a jerk, while the ex’s fiancée even made posts on social media calling her heartless.
The woman made an update, continuing that after taking her time to process the events and reading through feedback from people online, she came to a decision to seek full custody of her child, due to her daughter’s father being neglectful towards her. She added that she also posted every relevant text from since she got cheated on and tagged the couple.
In his article One of the Most Expensive Things You Can Do Is Pay Attention to the Wrong People, Yashar Kafi discussed the importance of choosing one’s peers right, noting that it is easy to underestimate how much impact friendships, romantic relationships, and even business partnerships have on a person’s life.
He listed three main characteristics in one’s partner that might help to determine whether a relationship is worth their investment and three main red flags that might suggest you “should run”.
The positive characteristics included empathy – the ability to understand and sympathize with someone else’s feelings, without which no real connection and warmth is possible; healthy communication, as there is no way of knowing what the other person needs or wants in a relationship without it being properly conveyed in a healthy way; and finally, commitment. Kafi noted that it is worth asking yourself whether a friend or partner is just biding their time in the relationship until something better comes along and is not really invested enough to not bail at the first sign of difficulties, noting that while trust is crucial for any relationship, trusting such a person is nearly impossible and also unwise!
On the flip side, Kafi listed three relationship red flags, which included dishonesty, lack of respect, and selfishness. When it comes to dishonesty, he suggested simply to face the fact that lies are toxic – while small untruths might seem harmless initially, they have a tendency to spread quickly and prevent the possibility to build anything firm on such a shifty foundation in addition to poisoning the relationship.
Lack of respect was another red flag pointed out by Kafi, as the person who is not being respected will always feel slighted, which leads to resentment and constant conflict in a person with healthy self-worth.
Finally, Kafi discussed selfishness, noting that when one’s partner is completely consumed with themselves, there simply isn’t room in the relationship for much else than their ego, therefore entering into such a relationship more often than not only leads to disappointment and giving far more than receiving.
Redditors shared their takes on the situation
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Harry clearly thinks he has some ownership over the OP. I think when he was with her he was manipulating her and his partner was OK with it, I think the cheating started possibly before she was even pregnant. They clearly believe she is a pushover and that can only have developed if they had successfully manipulated her historically. She likely remained cordial for the child's sake to ensure her baby had a relationship with their father. That maturity was seen as an opportunity by Harry and his partner to push her around at their convenience. I can't see this level of entitlement springing out of the blue. These two are much worse and uglier inside than the OP realises imo. I hope she gets full custody and completely gets them out of her life, they are seriously deranged at this point.
I think she handled that very well. Called them out on the deciet. The cheating and the never to expect someone to carry three kids with no compensation but treat his first born like a second thought. They should just adopt three kids that need Homes. He prob wanted to even get the babies in her w his penis an not a lab to top that off. Get full custody an say good bye to those entitled a holes.
I have an ex wife, we are lucky enough to share a daughter. We are good friends (at last, it’s been a rocky road), we both have new partners and new directions in life. I have ZERO entitlement to what she does with her body, or anything else for that matter. It’s beyond bizarre that the OP is being shamed for a problem that she didn’t cause. She is the innocent party, the ex and his partner have created a situation that they have no right to expect. They’ve built it up in their own minds, discussed it and believe that it’s their right. How utterly bizarre.
I honestly hope the story is made up because I find it hard to believe that not only he and his new partner are that delusional, but also that the rest of their family is. It's hard enough to believe one person is crazy enough to think it's a good idea, every extra person on their side just makes it harder and harder to believe.
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Harry clearly thinks he has some ownership over the OP. I think when he was with her he was manipulating her and his partner was OK with it, I think the cheating started possibly before she was even pregnant. They clearly believe she is a pushover and that can only have developed if they had successfully manipulated her historically. She likely remained cordial for the child's sake to ensure her baby had a relationship with their father. That maturity was seen as an opportunity by Harry and his partner to push her around at their convenience. I can't see this level of entitlement springing out of the blue. These two are much worse and uglier inside than the OP realises imo. I hope she gets full custody and completely gets them out of her life, they are seriously deranged at this point.
I think she handled that very well. Called them out on the deciet. The cheating and the never to expect someone to carry three kids with no compensation but treat his first born like a second thought. They should just adopt three kids that need Homes. He prob wanted to even get the babies in her w his penis an not a lab to top that off. Get full custody an say good bye to those entitled a holes.
I have an ex wife, we are lucky enough to share a daughter. We are good friends (at last, it’s been a rocky road), we both have new partners and new directions in life. I have ZERO entitlement to what she does with her body, or anything else for that matter. It’s beyond bizarre that the OP is being shamed for a problem that she didn’t cause. She is the innocent party, the ex and his partner have created a situation that they have no right to expect. They’ve built it up in their own minds, discussed it and believe that it’s their right. How utterly bizarre.
I honestly hope the story is made up because I find it hard to believe that not only he and his new partner are that delusional, but also that the rest of their family is. It's hard enough to believe one person is crazy enough to think it's a good idea, every extra person on their side just makes it harder and harder to believe.
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