Woman Is Confused After Bridezilla Forbids Her From Getting Married During Her “Wedding Year”
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It is probably safe to say that there are many women who, since childhood, have been dreaming about their wedding day. Pinterest boards full of wedding theme ideas, wedding dresses, decorations, flowers, bouquets, etc. So it’s no surprise that when the day finally comes when they can finally create their real-life wedding fairytale, they want everything to be perfect.
However, sometimes it’s important to understand that it’s your special day, not your special year. About that, one Reddit user shared her story after being called a jerk by her sister-in-law for planning her wedding in the same year as her.
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It’s fair to want your wedding day to be your special day; however, for it to be only your special year may be quite unfair
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Woman shares that her brother and his fiance are getting married in August and she was invited to be a bridesmaid
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Now, the woman got engaged and they decided to get married in April in honor of her uncle who passed away
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After they told the family about their wedding date, her sister-in-law caused a lot of drama, insisting that they can’t get married in the same year because it’s ‘her wedding year’
One Reddit user posted her story online asking for one of the most judgmental community members’ opinions on whether she was in fact being a jerk for planning her wedding 4 months before her sister-in-law’s. The post caught quite a lot of folks’ attention and gathered 3.4K upvotes and almost 1K comments.
The original poster (OP) starts her story by explaining that her brother is getting married in August. Now, the woman added that she just got engaged and to celebrate her uncle’s birthday after his passing, they decided to get married in April, the same year as her brother’s wedding.
However, once they informed the family, SIL caused quite some drama – she insisted that they change their wedding date as that year is ‘her wedding year’. OP refused, to which she received texts saying that they are selfish and cruel for getting married the same year as her. The woman noted that she doesn’t get the issue and asked folks to share their opinions.
Well, the community members stood on OP’s side and gave her the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge. “Year? She’s being polite. The 2020s are taken. OP will have to wait until 2030, unless someone else gets married first,” one user joked. “NTA. There’s no such thing as a ‘wedding year,’ unless the person is an attention hog/narcissist. Go ahead with your plans,” another advised.
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“When it comes to etiquette and tradition, the concept of a ‘wedding year’ might sound like something out of a rom-com screenplay. It’s not a formal rule etched in stone, that’s for sure,” shared Jhona Yellin, editor-in-chief at Bespoke Bride, with Bored Panda.
“However, families and social circles might have expectations or unspoken norms about spacing out weddings,” she added. “Having said that, demanding a monopoly on the calendar is something else. That’s a bit like claiming dibs on all the roses in the garden—it’s just not cricket!”
Now, choosing a perfect wedding date may be as complicated, or at least close to, as actually planning the whole celebration, so in that case, we asked Jhona to share a few key factors that couples should consider. “Factors like season, venue availability, family/friends issues (Yes, don’t choose the same month of other close family or friends’ weddings!), and even sentimental significance,” she noted.
“After all, you wouldn’t want to say ‘I do’ during the rainy season if you’re dreaming of an outdoor garden ceremony!” Also, for more tips for choosing your wedding day, check out Bespoke Bride post.
Lastly, Jhona emphasizes that since your wedding date isn’t just a random day on the calendar – it’s the beginning of your own epic love story – why not make it memorable? She shared quite a few creative ways couples can incorporate their wedding date into the overall wedding theme: “From personalized hashtags to custom cocktails named after your anniversary date, the possibilities are really endless.”
“In one of our posts about unique DIY wedding items, we had a great idea of customizing your wedding shoes, painting them and adding your wedding date as well. So get crafty, get inventive, and most importantly, make it uniquely yours,” Jhona encouraged!
So, guys, don’t forget to check out Bespoke Bride for more various tips and ideas for your special day! And coming back to the story, what is your opinion about this? Who was right in this situation? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors stood by the woman and discussed that there is no such thing as a wedding year
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Am I the only one who thought it was weird that the BIL and SIL, who are 21 years old, have been 'together' for ten years? So they started dating at 11 years old.
and the have been "engaged for quite some time now"?
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Yeh wedding year is completely unhinged. So if you 2 siblings, 6 cousins and 10 friends, you have to co ordinate your wedding to not be in the same year as any of them? Make it make sense, you could potentially have to wait 18 years to get married, how freaking selfish is this girl?
Yes, but what about wedding-decade? Why just one year? 😅 /s
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the whole wedding industry and it is "THE BRIDE'S DAY" has gone out of control. my wife and i had a small weding in 89. i was in the navy at the time and did not have a lot of time. wedding was at base chapel near our home town and reception on the base as well. spent $1,000 because the day was about US TOGETHER. 35th anniversary next month.
Congratulations! My wedding was nice, but my memories are focused far more on our travels. What's "I ate cake" vs "The server in Iceland apologized for the delay and gave us puffin hors-d'oeuvres on the house"?
Load More Replies... I'm confused, her brother and his fiancee has been together for 10 years and both are 21 yo?
The fact that these people are 21 and seem to have been "dating" since they were 11 really creeps me out.
And don't be using our wedding city either. You'll have to go out of town.
So future SIL wants you to wait to be married to the love of your life WHICH IS HER OWN BROTHER simply because she's FINALLY marrying her fiancé of forever ago?! She's going to be just a horrible person during family gatherings...
After the wedding most people don't get excited when they see the newlyweds out and around, so I don't know what bridezilla expects to happen for an entire *wedding year* 😲
Yep, people are going to keep living their own lives the whole time, bride will probably throw a tantrum that everyone she knows isn't focused on her and her wedding before and after it happens.
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Just imagine when the bride realises that over 2 million couples get married every year in the USA alone, nvm the rest of the world, and then she'll realise she's really, really not special. :) (also this sounds fake af, dating since they were 11 and now getting married? no, that just does not happen)
This is an extremely unreliable narrator. OP makes lots of claims without backing them up. So SIL is a 'total' bridezilla and 'absolutely' controlling? So what exactly did she do? Without any examples this could range from absolutely outrageous stuff like demanding someone cuts and colours their hair to the simple request not to wear white. And the they're together for 11 years nonsense? Sounds more like she's marrying a childhood friend than a true statement. And since the rest gives such AmITheAngel vibes, together with the repeated insistence of having done 'absolutely nothing wrong' and again the claim that the date is important because it's the uncles birthday without any explanation why that uncle was so important that I doubt OP is so innocent as she pretends to be. I feel OP rushed to marry earlier than her SIL at all costs. And honestly the only thing that she can say that sounds negative is the claim that SIL called it her 'wedding year'. But that feels misconstrued.
No one gets a wedding "year", what is this nonsense? Does she really think everyone she knows will be focused exclusively on her wedding for the entire year?? What a narcissist.
Tell Bridezilla that you'll go even farther than her request. Promise not to get married as long as her marriage lasts. (You'll have a very short wait.)
Everything about this story sounds fake or simply creepy. The 21y olds that have been together since they were eleven, to the phrasing of: "To celebrate my uncle's birthday (as he has passed)" - sounds like they are celebrating his passing.
Just be there for your brother when he finally sees the light and dumps her. Hopefully he’ll see it before the wedding day because she sounds like a nightmare
This is EXACTLY how christians behave in December when anyone who isn't tries to do something that doesn't mention feces christ.
Am I the only one who thought it was weird that the BIL and SIL, who are 21 years old, have been 'together' for ten years? So they started dating at 11 years old.
and the have been "engaged for quite some time now"?
Load More Replies... Yeh wedding year is completely unhinged. So if you 2 siblings, 6 cousins and 10 friends, you have to co ordinate your wedding to not be in the same year as any of them? Make it make sense, you could potentially have to wait 18 years to get married, how freaking selfish is this girl?
Yes, but what about wedding-decade? Why just one year? 😅 /s
Load More Replies... the whole wedding industry and it is "THE BRIDE'S DAY" has gone out of control. my wife and i had a small weding in 89. i was in the navy at the time and did not have a lot of time. wedding was at base chapel near our home town and reception on the base as well. spent $1,000 because the day was about US TOGETHER. 35th anniversary next month.
Congratulations! My wedding was nice, but my memories are focused far more on our travels. What's "I ate cake" vs "The server in Iceland apologized for the delay and gave us puffin hors-d'oeuvres on the house"?
Load More Replies... I'm confused, her brother and his fiancee has been together for 10 years and both are 21 yo?
The fact that these people are 21 and seem to have been "dating" since they were 11 really creeps me out.
And don't be using our wedding city either. You'll have to go out of town.
So future SIL wants you to wait to be married to the love of your life WHICH IS HER OWN BROTHER simply because she's FINALLY marrying her fiancé of forever ago?! She's going to be just a horrible person during family gatherings...
After the wedding most people don't get excited when they see the newlyweds out and around, so I don't know what bridezilla expects to happen for an entire *wedding year* 😲
Yep, people are going to keep living their own lives the whole time, bride will probably throw a tantrum that everyone she knows isn't focused on her and her wedding before and after it happens.
Load More Replies... Just imagine when the bride realises that over 2 million couples get married every year in the USA alone, nvm the rest of the world, and then she'll realise she's really, really not special. :) (also this sounds fake af, dating since they were 11 and now getting married? no, that just does not happen)
This is an extremely unreliable narrator. OP makes lots of claims without backing them up. So SIL is a 'total' bridezilla and 'absolutely' controlling? So what exactly did she do? Without any examples this could range from absolutely outrageous stuff like demanding someone cuts and colours their hair to the simple request not to wear white. And the they're together for 11 years nonsense? Sounds more like she's marrying a childhood friend than a true statement. And since the rest gives such AmITheAngel vibes, together with the repeated insistence of having done 'absolutely nothing wrong' and again the claim that the date is important because it's the uncles birthday without any explanation why that uncle was so important that I doubt OP is so innocent as she pretends to be. I feel OP rushed to marry earlier than her SIL at all costs. And honestly the only thing that she can say that sounds negative is the claim that SIL called it her 'wedding year'. But that feels misconstrued.
No one gets a wedding "year", what is this nonsense? Does she really think everyone she knows will be focused exclusively on her wedding for the entire year?? What a narcissist.
Tell Bridezilla that you'll go even farther than her request. Promise not to get married as long as her marriage lasts. (You'll have a very short wait.)
Everything about this story sounds fake or simply creepy. The 21y olds that have been together since they were eleven, to the phrasing of: "To celebrate my uncle's birthday (as he has passed)" - sounds like they are celebrating his passing.
Just be there for your brother when he finally sees the light and dumps her. Hopefully he’ll see it before the wedding day because she sounds like a nightmare
This is EXACTLY how christians behave in December when anyone who isn't tries to do something that doesn't mention feces christ.
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